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fieryy:
And where in my post did I say a woman is a cure for his loneliness? I'm simply calling him out for what also you think he is : "confident".

OP is everything, but confident. I already talked about this earlier. Loneliness is SOMETIMES attributed to a low-self esteem, which I believe applies to Op's case as well.

bukatyne:
If you are someone spiritual enough to be led to a lady, then you would chase her extra.

If you feel that there are plenty fishes in the sea and you can point and kill, no need wasting a lot of time.

I believe in soul mates and that one person perfect for you. Most people rely on God to lead them to the person. Picking your soul mate from 3 billion people is an herculean task.

Of course, you can marry others and the marriage will be OK.

uninspired07:
The bolded is the reason why you females are angry, correct?

How does it differ from my assertion that you just want to have the satisfaction to see men chase you & suffer?

Just like you feel it’s men’s obligation to face it, some of us feel we can boycott that problem by being getting sufficiently ready before facing it.

There was no need for the war of words we have had on the thread. I attribute the problem to the usual suspects who are resident trouble on this section.

crackhaus:
Well you have answered yourself, what you believe is invalid as you cannot make a diagnosis over the internet.

Bouts of/occasional loneliness can be cured just by engaging in activities that keep the mind occupied - it has absolutely nothing to do with self esteem. Long spans of loneliness are caused by depression which could be a self-esteem issue.

The OP however clearly characterized himself in the former.

fieryy:
Some like me called you put because we think you have a low self esteem, some did because you generalized (which is still what you are doing).

I already stated in the very beginning that I do get irritated very easily. My no is a no.
If I'm not interested in you, it's not because I want you to chase me. It's simply because I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.

Stop trying to guilt trip women in accepting all advances.

fieryy:
And what exactly are you doing? Aren't we all technically assuming and therefore diagnosing? Or are they 'invalid diagnoses' because they are assumptions op doesn't agree with.

I could be right, you could be right. I'm just stating my opinion, as well as you are stating yours.

uninspired07:
You’re assuming formlessness & slippery like an octopus or chameleon right? I never demanded that females accept all proposals!!!!

Why should I say that?

I think you have done your best on this thread. You should take a bow now. You’ve been noticed.

uninspired07:
A man’s convictions & strength of character in Nigeria?

I rather stick to believe that a man’a value is tied to his economic value.

cococandy:
Kunle I didn’t even know you’re the same account as the healthcare (or something) account. I wouldn’t have quoted that your post even though I agreed with it. I would have just read and moved on.

That’s what I usually do for accounts that I know for certain are bent on disrespect. Like you can’t even agree with them without them finding a way to turn around and give a low unnecessary blow. How much more when you disagree with them. Then it’s all ad hominem and personal attacks that’s usually not related to the topic.

Or trolling with multiple troll accounts.

So kunle is healthcare. Noted

kunleweb:
I dey my own jeje you quoted me

Before you continue with the emotional tirade, I've never been discreet about my identity to you and our enmity. I also didn't dismiss your opinion and accorded you with respect and great civility in our interactions. I only asked you one thing to point out one instance alone where I derided women, or bashed ladies or treated y'all with disrespect. If you can atleast be as rational and intelligent as you claim, we will have a more meaningful conversation. Don't you agree?

crackhaus:
Girl can't you read?
The OP already stated clearly that what he feels is occasional loneliness because he spends time working and reading, yet there are times he still just feels lonely.

It's no longer a matter of you could be right or I could be right, when the OP has already determined who is right.

crackhaus:
Girl can't you read?
The OP already stated clearly that what he feels is occasional loneliness because he spends time working and reading, yet there are times he still just feels lonely.

It's no longer a matter of you could be right or I could be right, when the OP has already determined who is right.

cococandy:
Quoted you because I didn’t know the two accounts are the same.

You my enemy? Lol

You take yourself too seriously

Omar09:
I like the way you put it. But I have stopped believing in soulmate stuff. I think it's teenagers who are still learning the strings of relationships.

sassysure:
Its not a teenage stuff.
I will boldly tell u that.
I never gave that a thought till like 3 yrs into my marriage.
Guy, when u marry whom u are very compatible with, no matter the storm, u two are indestructible.

Omar09:
So long as we are humans, no matter how strong we bond, we can never be indestructible. Still soulmate is for them teenagers.

Omar09:
So long as we are humans, no matter how strong we bond, we can never be indestructible. Still soulmate is for them teenagers.

sassysure:
Suit yourself dear
It's a free world

fieryy:
I want you to quote where exactly I stated that the loneliness op feels is not occasional.

I also want you to quote where exactly I stated having a female is the cure of his loneliness.

crackhaus:
Now tell me, have I left anything out, or what the bejesus are you running around in circles for?

Mindfulness:
They hope that menopause will make women settle for their useless existence but it won't. They will keep begging till death do us part. The aging process is not a privilege of women alone. Prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction, impotence are real.

uninspired07:
I find it hard exercising patience with, indulging or begging a woman. Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego. It’s been eons I last asked a woman out and I get lonely at times, but I am used to my single state.

I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth so I don’t even bother to chase the opposite sex as I tried to when I was younger. This has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue. Am I on the right path or do I try to temper my approach a bit?

Edit: What I am saying is that a man has to have some safeguards to cushion the effects of the chasing process. It’s not advisable to base your chase on just word of mouth. Going into battle with Nigerian women is better with a financial shield.

franchasng:
The more money you have, the more ladies of all age and class are attracted to you, it is not their fault, it is their nature....it is the same all over the world....in fact, in western countries, physically attractive white ladies believe they are entitled to date only entertainment stars....and if you are a black guy that want to date a young, physically attractive white girl in US or Europe, then you must be an entertainment star, or a successful surgeon....if not, you will only be getting fat, plump, old white ladies

franchasng:
Of course for every human action, there is a reason behind it, so everybody date or marry for a reason, and I will list some of the reasons people date or marry.

REASONS WHY GUYS DATE OR GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP

1.) To have a sex mate - this is number one reason guys date
2.) To study a lady they would love to marry - this is very rare though because reason number 1 is the commonest reason guys date
3.) To have someone that will be helping them do domestic chores like cooking, cleaning, washing, etc - common among lazy financially buoyant guys
4.) To have babymama - common among financially buoyant guys who don't want to be tied down by one lady in the name of marriage


REASONS WHY GIRLS OR LADIES DATE OR GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP
1.) To have a man that will be footing their bills - this is the major reason most girls agree to date a guy

2.) For emotional need - this includes sex, romance, partying, cuddling, someone to showoff to their friends, someone to share their burden with and someone to confide in and get support from emotionally....this is another major reason most girls agree to date a guy, especially girls between the age range of 16 - 24yrs, and you must be very handsome and well built to attract this class of girls or ladies

3.) Marriage hope and expectation - this is the major reason (not only though) ladies above 25yrs go into a relationship with a man, and they always consider number 1 reason above before agreeing

4.) For other selfish needs like academic assistance during exam, career, business, errands, etc - some girls and ladies agree to date a guy just because they need a guy that will be helping them during school exam, assignments, etc...or for career growth, for promotion, to have a guy they can call to come fix their home appliances, do manly chores and sometimes for business reasons.


Now, as a man, you must make sure you have any of the needs above to offer to women in order to attract them or else, you will end up chasing girls around with little or no success.....

So op, don't expect to spend nothing in a relationship, don't expect to give nothing, don't listen to people telling you lies that love don't cost anything, Jennifer Lopez was just deceiving her fans while she went to insure her buttocks for $1million so that broke guys won't come asking her out....but she told her fans that love don't cost anything.....

Human love; romantic love cost something; it could be your money, your beauty, your intelligence, your skill, your talent, your wisdom, your strength or even your spiritual powers/gift....you must come with something to attract women as a man, and same with ladies, they must come with something to get their desired man.....or you think ladies don't offer something too


And in summary, all over the world, women are attracted to successful and popular men, and in our world today, before you can be seen as successful, you must be doing well financially...and before you can be popular too, you must have some financial command....and it is the level of financial wealth you have as a man that determines your level of influence and confidence in today world, and women are attracted to you based on your level of confidence.

The more money you have, the more ladies of all age and class are attracted to you, it is not their fault, it is their nature....it is the same all over the world....in fact, in western countries, physically attractive white ladies believe they are entitled to date only entertainment stars....and if you are a black guy that want to date a young, physically attractive white girl in US or Europe, then you must be an entertainment star, or a successful surgeon....if not, you will only be getting fat, plump, old white ladies

What am I trying to say op If you are a guy and you don't want to be the one chasing ladies around for a date or fling or one night stand or relationship, etc, then you need to improve your influence and confidence, and how do you do that Work on your financial life, and watch ladies become naturally attracted to you....and who said digging gold is not allowed? Let the ladies come and dig your gold of course.....it is allowed so long as you get what you want from them in return and so long as you apply your manly wisdom and not go about falling foolishly in love.




Cc: kunleweb, pansophist,

bukatyne:
There is God's will in marriage.

Take it or leave it.

bukatyne:
If you are someone spiritual enough to be led to a lady, then you would chase her extra.

If you feel that there are plenty fishes in the sea and you can point and kill, no need wasting a lot of time.

I believe in soul mates and that one person perfect for you. Most people rely on God to lead them to the person. Picking your soul mate from 3 billion people is an herculean task.

Of course, you can marry others and the marriage will be OK.

fieryy:
What irritates me the most about this thread is the op. He claims he's lonely, asks if he should worried by his approach, agrees with everyone that says no, disagrees with everyone that calls him out, claims to be unbothered, but created TWO threads today in which he complains about his loneliness. His approach is already final, yet he seeks opinions and validations and as mentioned earlier, complains about loneliness.

*****
If my answer to this post (me stating why I am irritated by this thread) is you intepretating it as me saying he needs a woman to cure his loneliness, then this discussion is over.

kunleweb:
Hahahaha, I'm cracked up and open

crackhaus:
Lol, Buka Buka..

As you don involve God for the matter, you must also know that the spirit of God is not partial. If God was indeed involved and spiritually led a man to choose a soulmate, then there would absolutely be no need for him to chase that lady in futility, or 'extra' as you put it.
Do you know why? Because God would have also ministered to the woman and made it known to her beforehand that the man is indeed her man, and she will as a matter of fact be 'easy' (for lack of a better word) to succumb.

The chase, extra chase, excessive chase is NOT the will of God, Allah, or Sango, or of a man, or even of Satan.
It is only in a woman's interest to be chased, begged, cajoled, and wooed excessively - It certainly provides some sense of worth and importance I imagine.

fieryy:
What? No, no you don't mean it

kunleweb:
I agree with your line of reasoning, but you're overly reading meanings that weren't conveyed. Never in any part of his posts did I see all these.


Rejection is normal. Trust me we men know. Until full financial stability is attained, a man is doomed to continous rejection. I only wondered how women like Mrs. Ameachi got married to a broke ordinary English graduate at this time, or Mrs Thorpido from here or Goodluck, who later became president. I wonder what those women saw to choose to settle for broker dudes

franchasng:
Of course for every human action, there is a reason behind it, so everybody date or marry for a reason, and I will list some of the reasons people date or marry.

REASONS WHY GUYS DATE OR GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP

1.) To have a sex mate - this is number one reason guys date
2.) To study a lady they would love to marry - this is very rare though because reason number 1 is the commonest reason guys date
3.) To have someone that will be helping them do domestic chores like cooking, cleaning, washing, etc - common among lazy financially buoyant guys
4.) To have babymama - common among financially buoyant guys who don't want to be tied down by one lady in the name of marriage


REASONS WHY GIRLS OR LADIES DATE OR GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP

1.) To have a man that will be footing their bills - this is the major reason most girls agree to date a guy

2.) For emotional need - this includes sex, romance, partying, cuddling, someone to showoff to their friends, someone to share their burden with and someone to confide in and get support from emotionally....this is another major reason most girls agree to date a guy, especially girls between the age range of 16 - 24yrs, and you must be very handsome and well built to attract this class of girls or ladies

3.) Marriage hope and expectation - this is the major reason (not only though) ladies above 25yrs go into a relationship with a man, and they always consider number 1 reason above before agreeing

4.) For other selfish needs like academic assistance during exam, career, business, errands, etc - some girls and ladies agree to date a guy just because they need a guy that will be helping them during school exam, assignments, etc...or for career growth, for promotion, to have a guy they can call to come fix their home appliances, do manly chores and sometimes for business reasons.


Now, as a man, you must make sure you have any of the needs above to offer to women in order to attract them or else, you will end up chasing girls around with little or no success.....

So op, don't expect to spend nothing in a relationship, don't expect to give nothing, don't listen to people telling you lies that love don't cost anything, Jennifer Lopez was just deceiving her fans while she went to insure her buttocks for $1million so that broke guys won't come asking her out....but she told her fans that love don't cost anything.....

Human love; romantic love cost something; it could be your money, your beauty, your intelligence, your skill, your talent, your wisdom, your strength or even your spiritual powers/gift....you must come with something to attract women as a man, and same with ladies, they must come with something to get their desired man.....or you think ladies don't offer something too


And in summary, all over the world, women are attracted to successful and popular men, and in our world today, before you can be seen as successful, you must be doing well financially...and before you can be popular too, you must have some financial command....and it is the level of financial wealth you have as a man that determines your level of influence and confidence in today world, and women are attracted to you based on your level of confidence.

The more money you have, the more ladies of all age and class are attracted to you, it is not their fault, it is their nature....it is the same all over the world....in fact, in western countries, physically attractive white ladies believe they are entitled to date only entertainment stars....and if you are a black guy that want to date a young, physically attractive white girl in US or Europe, then you must be an entertainment star, or a successful surgeon....if not, you will only be getting fat, plump, old white ladies

What am I trying to say op If you are a guy and you don't want to be the one chasing ladies around for a date or fling or one night stand or relationship, etc, then you need to improve your influence and confidence, and how do you do that Work on your financial life, and watch ladies become naturally attracted to you....and who said digging gold is not allowed? Let the ladies come and dig your gold of course.....it is allowed so long as you get what you want from them in return and so long as you apply your manly wisdom and not go about falling foolishly in love.




Cc: kunleweb, pansophist,

Omar09:
I like the way you put it. But I have stopped believing in soulmate stuff. I think it's teenagers who are still learning the strings of relationships.

sassysure:
And we continue having fake relationships tied to financial gains only.

Gives fake fulfilment and illusion.

Men still feel lonely after "buying" their women.
More adultery, more anger and lashing out.
Lots of void screaming to be filled.