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Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by sisisioge: 9:59am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Hmmmm... By the way, you do realize that only low esteemed people try to nurture their perceived ego, right? The real MVP dont struggle to be respected...it just falls on them like fresh air ni. Good luck. 5 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 9:59am On Dec 27, 2019 |
healthserve: Which is why I ALWAYS talk about the instigator and the perpetrator. I have seen women dump nice guys (he is too gentle, he is too nice) to meet jagudas and abusive men (emotionally & physically). I think the women are broken sha. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by cococandy(f): 10:00am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: And only happens to the women who let it happen. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 10:03am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: Which insults? @bold, it is. You would be proud of your accomplishments however, you must believe you are enough in yourself. That uninspired07 stripped bare is sufficient. Obviously, you would work to deck yourself with whatever you deem fit: (financial stability, academic qualifications, etc.) |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:03am On Dec 27, 2019 |
sisisioge: Luring me to the slaughter right? Naaaahhh, I won’t fall for that. If you respect me, it will show, if you don’t it will also show. I can then consider from there. But begging & working so hard without a defense is what I am averse to. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:07am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: Enough in myself like how? Are mad men or agberos on the street of Lagos not enough in themselves? Do we all accord them respect? The belief that undergirds your submissions is that a man must chase, give attention & be willing to face the vagaries unprotected whatsoever. You just like the feeling of having the power to treat men however you like while they are chasing you & some of us are not for that. We prefer to face the chase with some dignity. That’s where we differ in our beliefs 4 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by crackhaus: 10:07am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:Lol, Buka trust me, most men know what indifference really implies. Playing hard-to-get while maintaining a 'friendly' persona with a man interested in you, is not indifference. Indifference would be complete disregard for the guy. Spot the difference. 5 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:07am On Dec 27, 2019 |
sisisioge: Thanks for contributing all the same. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 10:08am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: @bold, no vex, na night school I go. Yes, I think men should do the chasing respectfully of course. And you might need to chase some girls harder than others. I however do not believe in chasing for eternity or trying to buy your way into the girl's heart through gifts. Even if you are mutually attracted, you will still chase her aka woo her aka ask her out. Maybe it is this generation of asking girls to come over on what'sapp that is spoiling things. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by healthserve(m): 10:09am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: How generous of you. Broken isn't the word but damaged. These conditions that brings them into such conditions includes bad upbringing/family values brought about by family's upbringing/society/media or complete negligence. Having been in many relationships where ladies despised good treatment, it took me a while to conduct critical examination to understand what was happening. One of such triggers that morphs these ladies to be the Narcissistic personality they transformed to is upbringing/negative expectations placed on relations that they would marry abusive partners so they tend to build and develop very toxic personalities even before relationships forms. So when these relationships develop they have toxic-expectancy and from an overly developed defense system they expect fight backs in their relationships and when it doesn't occurs, as a result of meeting good mannered men they become troubled and unsettled because they've conditioned themselves, albeit even unaware before the relationship came to being. I consider these ladies ( not bashing females o, its just the reality) to become bored with good treatment, case study Sampson and Delilah. Hence while these women will/can become attracted to good men because of their laurels or some other good attributes the sustainability of such relationships involves a change in psyche (that is if they become aware to their toxic mannerisms) or for such women to be the ones who choose their partners. My advice to men is not to choose women as women are fast becoming alpha/masculine thesedays, to go for the woman that chooses them, and not the one that chooses the woman. Because the longer term objective in relationships relies on the emotional stability, choice and resolve of the woman, as all these factors impacts massively on her emotional ( and other) investments in the companionship. Hence many woman will be doomed by their own fate to abusive partners I went through hell to realize its a woman that owns a relationship not the man. Cc Ubunja Harddon Martinez39 JonnySpute 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 10:09am On Dec 27, 2019 |
cococandy: Very true. Which is why I tell women to choose their men well. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by crackhaus: 10:14am On Dec 27, 2019 |
fykes:Glad you could share your story for other men to learn from your experience instead of making the same mistake before learning. Seeking out relationships with the opposite sex is never a good substitute for loneliness, NEVER. 5 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 10:14am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: And how does uninspired07 respect or lack of affect the agbero at Oshodi? How does it affect MC Oluomo sending his kids abroad for educational tourism? Bros, if you continue to base your worth on what people think about you, you never start. Most people have bigger problems than yours and don't care about you. Conduct yoursdlf in a respectful manner and anyone who doesn't comply, shame on them. Treat men anyhow because I believe men should do the chase 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by sisisioge: 10:15am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: Hmmm...if you are naturally worthy of getting the attention of the best in a pack...you would. In fact, you would command the attention of your kind who would not bring your esteem down simply because they recognize the social etiquette too. Eg, why would a woman want you to beg for her attention when your attention too is premium? This has nothing to do with age or the size of your pocket...it's all about being better. Remember how we loved to flock around the smart people in class back in the days, or how we loved the best in sport, or how we loved the best in the choir and of course how we loved the young MD who's attained the top? Yeah...we love those who are BETTER... 3 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:15am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: Choose their men well? I won’t say what comes to mind first. It is well. I thank all those who’ve contributed to the thread. It’s been engaging & enlightening. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by healthserve(m): 10:16am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: Yes. It means go for women who come for you. I. E women who choose you over women you choose. It can be reversed to mean go to where you're celebrated and not where you're tolerated. Go for a woman who makes a move for you. Read threads by Harddon and Ubunja. 1 Like |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:16am On Dec 27, 2019 |
sisisioge: Ok, I have heard you. It’s not like I don’t have points to counter you but I defer to you. I can’t really argue. Thanks all the same. 1 Like |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:17am On Dec 27, 2019 |
healthserve: Of course, I know Ubunja, his teachings are fairly true. And I support being the chosen one. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by bukatyne(f): 10:17am On Dec 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: I agree the two scenarios are different. Friendliness is key. Well, I was wooed last about 14yrs back so I don't understand this new school things. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by sisisioge: 10:18am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: You welcome...not trying to wear you out. Was just saying strive to be better and your kind will be honoured to be spotted by you. Cheers. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:20am On Dec 27, 2019 |
sisisioge: I am trying to be better quite alright. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by crackhaus: 10:22am On Dec 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:And he chased you, begged you, and devoted his time just to make sure you fall in love with him? 6 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:23am On Dec 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: I am waiting for bukatyne’s response to this. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 10:26am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: I don't understand your problem. Is it that you don't know how to approach and win over a woman? Is it that you have a weak ego? Is it that you feel lonely and that you accepted it? Is it that you feel unworthy because you don't have enough money? Is it that you don't believe in having a relationship without more money? I feel you are very confused. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:28am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Mindfulness: Go read my original post again. I have edited it. Thanks for contributing. |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 10:32am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: Since you have made up your mind that you need more money to be safe and to protect your ego in your perceived battle, you will have to go out and make more money. I don't understand how Nairaland will help you in achieving it. 1 Like |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by healthserve(m): 10:32am On Dec 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: Haha. Crack my ribs. The modern women has gotten mad from too much knowledge and cant separate reality from illusion 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:34am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Mindfulness: I know you are a combative person from my observation of this section. I will rue any argument with you so I defer. Thanks for contributing. 3 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 10:34am On Dec 27, 2019 |
uninspired07: Truth hurts. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by healthserve(m): 10:41am On Dec 27, 2019 |
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Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 10:42am On Dec 27, 2019 |
OP, that is definitely not a healthy dose of self esteem. You actually have a low self esteem. You define your worth based on opinions and materialistic things. What made you think that could ever be addressed as a healthy dose of self esteem? 1 Like |
Re: Is This A Healthy Dose Of Self Esteem Or Should I Be Worried? by uninspired07: 10:43am On Dec 27, 2019 |
healthserve: Bro, I just ignored her. I know she’s a warrior here & me I can’t expend energy arguing with her back & forth. I appreciate everyone that contributed to the thread. 2 Likes |
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