₦airaland Forum

zed7:
Screwing for leisure is no crime. A lot of rich people do so also. What we should be wondering is why they don't do family planning.
Family planning is cheap and even free in some clinics. It still baffles me how people don't understand that they don't have to have kids just because they are having sex.

armyofone:
Who is going to do the family planning? Tell average Africans man about vasectomy and they act like the procedure cut off the whole pen..is.

dominique:
The high birth rate amongst the lower income earners is not as annoying as them urging others to have more kids. You that should be advising others on why they shouldn't be breeding like rats, instead you will be encouraging to overpopulate the already overpopulated country. Misery really do love company. Sometimes I wonder what people want to do with so many kids, do they get some thrills watching them grow up and turn into nuisances in the society? Middle/upper class people shouldn't have more than 3 kids while lower class should stop at 2. How I wish the government can put this into law.

frankmoney:
Nigeria of today is the worst , poverty capital of the world , huge debt , low life expectancy rate etc . And yes our inability to manage our population is one of the manor issues . 12k on data and dstv is not a waste ,that is less than $30... In a country with a sane economy , and employment rate , those are the basic things , Nigeria isn't yet that country hence we need to slow down our population growth . China did a one child policy from 1970 to 2016 and it prevented 400 million births which they claimed was good for this economy , even now they practice a two child policy , Nigeria isn't even close to china yet the Chinese are trying to curb the population problem .

Check the availability of recourses and do a ratio to the number of people , every single thing in this country is stretched , too many students , few Universities with adequate facilities , no good health care , electricity , or even jobs

Khaleell001:
That is why I don't take anyone serious who talks about child limitation or family planning as it were because these people are so myopic that they forget God gives and take.
You are planning life and you forget anything, anytime can happen under the will of the one who created life

Do you remember the woman whose Children were lost in the Sosoliso air clash in 2003 (I guess).
She was weeping so badly that she said if there was any way she could have babies again.
Imagine a woman with three kids in one the best schools in Abuja oh.

This is why I don't personally give a damn about whether economy is bad or good.
Have as much children you and be responsible for them.
And we forget that not everyone will be a graduate. Some will be good drivers, good businessmen and some will be good farmers.
And you don't know which will benefit you or forsake you.
Just be a good,caring father that's all

People should stop basing every success in life on education.
Dangote and Adenuga are not the most schooled yet they are making waves.
Even the late Alhaji Inu Umoru from Edo state the Co owner of Setraco construction company was not a graduate.

Life is so complex for one to see it from one lenses.

I know of many people who struggled initially with many children, but he was responsible and made sure they all did something with their lives and today this parents are being inundated with allsoet of gift everytime to the extent they now give out these goodies.

uninspired07:
Lol....this is funny. I will pass, thanks.

showafrica:
Mortality rate... I see old men get nervous just bc they have only one boy. They push this boy to early marriage bc they want the family name to be alive. Why subject a promising guy to early marriage bc were selfish during ur time. Why did nt the father have more boys so that no one would be under pressure. Technically, 2 boyz and 2 girls is just OK for 9ja or 4 boyz straight. Girls are becoming useless day by day.

showafrica:
Mortality rate... I see old men get nervous just bc they have only one boy. They push this boy to early marriage bc they want the family name to be alive. Why subject a promising guy to early marriage bc were selfish during ur time. Why did nt the father have more boys so that no one would be under pressure. Technically, 2 boyz and 2 girls is just OK for 9ja or 4 boyz straight. Girls are becoming useless day by day.

Trybes:
Uninspired don't you think this is too sensitive a topic. We are talking about bringing children to life. Be optimistic man, agreed Nigeria is tough but it could change to the better.
Now tell me what happens after giving birth to tha maximum two children you are advocating. Should the man go tie up his penis? Or are you also advocating for family planning. Look my brother I think we should allow natural process prevail. Family planning or whatever means to negate conception in my view may not be Biblical.
Simply my view.

uninspired07:
Again, you’re a northerner & you are not qualified to contribute to this discussion because it is against your religion & culture. You can see I directed my message to southerners?

uninspired07:
Why can’t you stop at 2? Nigeria has changed radically from the time of our parents?

How do you know that I am not among the 1st two children of my parents?

Nigeria is just too failed a country to burden with overpopulation. I observe that people who give birth to many Children are always illiterate & stark poor. And they are not afraid of poverty do they hug it with gusto by having many children they can’t cater for.

NB: 10 Childern? That’s fantastic. I am sure your pops was doing fine back in the days to have been able to shoulder the responsibility.

johnkey:
Poor people shouldn't even have kids, bringing innocent souls into the world to suffer them.

1Sharon:
You as a lady should know better. You have more to lose if you have unprotected sex.

armyofone:
Right, condom is cheap but African man say he wants to feel the skin.

zed7:
You can feel the skin and not bring forth children. Implant, IUD etc dey there. People are just silly.

Khaleell001:
That is why I don't take anyone serious who talks about child limitation or family planning as it were because these people are so myopic that they forget God gives and take.
You are planning life and you forget anything, anytime can happen under the will of the one who created life

Do you remember the woman whose Children were lost in the Sosoliso air clash in 2003 (I guess).
She was weeping so badly that she said if there was any way she could have babies again.
Imagine a woman with three kids in one the best schools in Abuja oh.

This is why I don't personally give a damn about whether economy is bad or good.
Have as much children you and be responsible for them.
And we forget that not everyone will be a graduate. Some will be good drivers, good businessmen and some will be good farmers.
And you don't know which will benefit you or forsake you.
Just be a good,caring father that's all

People should stop basing every success in life on education.
Dangote and Adenuga are not the most schooled yet they are making waves.
Even the late Alhaji Inu Umoru from Edo state the Co owner of Setraco construction company was not a graduate.

Life is so complex for one to see it from one lenses.

I know of many people who struggled initially with many children, but he was responsible and made sure they all did something with their lives and today this parents are being inundated with allsoet of gift everytime to the extent they now give out these goodies.

justnock:
@uninspired07 na your type wife go end up giving birth to quadruplets.

armyofone:
BC is not for everyone...side effects.
A good condom doesn't have side effects

zed7:
That's the excuse women give. Work with your healthcare practitioner to find one without side effects.
If you are married, you should know that condom as a means of family planning is unreliable. A married couple can choose to have sex anywhere and anytime without prior planning.
You could get carried away in the kitchen and not have time to go to the bedroom to get condoms.

1Sharon:
This is a nonsense excuse I always hear from black people. Twice?

Contraception if used effectively are 99% effective. If they were sooo bad, they'd be recalled.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

Izigha:
yes
if you can get hold of one okada you can zoom off with one wife and two kids

showafrica:
Mortality rate... I see old men get nervous just bc they have only one boy. They push this boy to early marriage bc they want the family name to be alive. Why subject a promising guy to early marriage bc were selfish during ur time. Why did nt the father have more boys so that no one would be under pressure. Technically, 2 boyz and 2 girls is just OK for 9ja or 4 boyz straight. Girls are becoming useless day by day.

ctleurocollege:
One of my cousins has 7 boys because they are looking for a female kid, my neighbor has 5 boys 1 girl, the woman is pregnant again. Reality is that if a male or female kid is absent some families will continue procreating. It's not only when boys are absent although Igbos make this an exception but what I've noticed is that most people want at least one of either gender. O boy just look around your community to confirm this

Deicide:
I think the op is forgetting something that the system is not made for the poor, people don't give birth to more children because they can, they do so because of security reasons. if you check most third world country, poor people mostly give birth to more children at least if one dies you wouldn't worry much, rich people have the money for security so they hardly give birth to more children, you could see this fact in first world country where the system works well, despite being rich would hardly give birth to more than three. Logically @Op your point might make sense Logically but economically it doesn't, if the system works for the poor, they wouldn't have to worry about security thereby giving birth to fewer children.

CorporateJay:
Death has nothing to with your pocket...

Blueelf:
Have 2 kids out of preference and not because of economy. Recession affects everyone; 2 kids or 10 kids. It doesn't factor the number of seed you have. Okay?

uninspired07:
Which verse of the Bible instructed you to bring/multiply into poverty? Show me, I will go read it.