pocohantas:


Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

Pocahantas my love lol @all this small boy sef why are you wicked like this you’re not even given the young gentleman any hope at all you just make his morale die finish with that line btw I found you something hun....maybe she’s your long lost sister?who knows

fatymore:
Leave her isn't until you cheat physically that you know she is cheating.

Right now she is emotionally divided between you people. Let her go and meet her crush.



I sell bedsheets oooo

I don't understand.. Bedsheet for the childhood frnd or for the real bf.. Who wan use the Bedsheet knack d babe

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

I know I'm commenting late but I really hope u read this, bcoz I'm not d type who comments Alot.

I understand y your sad, but u should look at d bright side. Call this babe, sit her down n let her know d plans u hv for her, also make it clear (assuming she doesn't know) that u don't hv d means to spend that much on her now. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT U TELL HER YOUR TRUE SITUATION, PLANS N HOPES (don't u dare lie).

Then tell her to follow her heart. Bro, when she leaves your presence, don't call, text or chat... ALLOW HER THINK.... U just watch.

This a true test of her luv for you. If she goes, trust me, a better girl awaits u in future. Remember one door must close for another to open.

I've been in your shoes where I couldn't even afford N4 SMS on her birthday, today I'm training her in university n paying all bills.. WE ENGAGED.

So Plz be honest with her, allow her decide. Most importantly, PUT YOUR TRUST IN GOD. CHEERS!

Rule of life, never combine been broke with been weak .....I chased medical doctor away from my baby even with 50k salary orente no dey complain.

pocohantas:


Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

lol see as you finish the guy

Nigerian women has no Mercy for poor guy

Pls hustle

YungMillionaire:
I don't understand. Your girlfriend asked you if she could go out with her crush and you said yes? Did I read that correctly OR did you type it wrong?

As funny as it sounds, I think the Op made the right decision. He trust his girl so much. My ex once said such. Asked her what if I told her "No", she said she didn't say it to seek my opinion, but as a "point of information".

They are both still waxing stronger now!!!

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

Let her know such men only want to use and
Dump her. Pls they can never respect her cos she wasn’t there when they made their money neither does she know how he made his money. It’s a huge risk of well packaged temptation.

If she has any sense in her head she will keep her distance and not rush into anything with that man. When u have smbody worth it only stupidity will make u leave them for smbody else because of fancy things.

Is she having challenges in her skoling and other things? Well she will have a decision hopefully she makes the right one. Not all that glitters is gold.

Tell her the truth and tell her ur plans and let her decide.

This thing is beyond your control.
And it rests squarely in the hands of the girl

It's her choice
Not yours
If she decides to follow him (very likely)
Just wish her well
And go your way

No need to expend emotions over Any thing

My brother hustle oh

fatymore:
check your dm

07036...whatsapp

Don't force her to love you or you will forever regret it. You guys need to sit down and talk on the way forward, girls Love material things a lot, especially Naija girls. You shouldn't have agreed to her going out with the guy in the first place. Let her tell you her mind period, so that you will not suffer kinetic heartbreak, am talking from experience.

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

There's nothing for you to do, the test is on your gf not you. A childhood friend I wont lie he has a stronger holding than you plus the fact he is also established and you guys have just 6 months. Just focus on your career, if she stays then you are lucky. It now depends on your baby's character but since she's in a dilemma already that's bad enough luck already. Welcome to the single club lol

DenreleDave:



I don't understand.. Bedsheet for the childhood frnd or for the real bf.. Who wan use the Bedsheet knack d babe

abeg leave me

praz001:






For those condemning the op' s action, he made no mistake on letting his gf go for outing..


We weren't there. In ladies the voice ( it's just an harmless outing, its been long I saw him) pleeeessssss!

Should he turn down the request of letting her go, she will secretly find a way or book another date..

What must happen must surely happen no matter how you prevent it. If she leaves, fine. If she stays, great.....

The best way to live life is to allow freedom of choice.
@ op, Occupy yourself the more and let's see how it turns out

yh freedom is important but allowing ur girl go out with our crush is absurd. Abeg don't confuse freedom with common sense. It's beta she finds a way and the guy shouldn't knw sef. Iru ere wo lomo aja bekun se

Pauladex:
Rule of life, never combine been broke with been weak .....I chased medical doctor away from my baby even with 50k salary orente no dey complain.

That doctor weak. If not,na from consulting room,ur babe for don evaporate

Pauladex:
Rule of life, never combine been broke with been weak .....I chased medical doctor away from my baby even with 50k salary orente no dey complain.

Plus broke na broke...there is no combination therapy anywhere. Your babe loves you finish,u no pursue anything.

YungMillionaire:
I don't understand. Your girlfriend asked you if she could go out with her crush and you said yes? Did I read that correctly OR did you type it wrong?

I was wowed with that line and you said YES!!

YungMillionaire:
I don't understand. Your girlfriend asked you if she could go out with her crush and you said yes? Did I read that correctly OR did you type it wrong?

lol, leave am na, he was forming liberal man with babe, him never see anything

joyandfaith:

what is dating ? dating is different from courtship. the guy allowed his girl to date a guy for a moment.

Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. Wikipedia

Lol. What are the chances you'd win this battle? How deep is your pocket? She loves you but how much? Are you are her first love?

You stood on the losing side the moment you gave her permission to go on a date with her childhood crush. Sorry man.

There is hope though. The fact that she told you about it means she wants you to try to convince to stay. You know her better than us, all the best.

If you fail to keep her, don't take it hard on yourself. Women are hypergamous by nature, they would likely leave for whoever they think is the best amongst her options. No kill yourself put, there would be other women.

I agree with those who opined that you talk work sense into her head and let her go and think about what she wants to do.

Bros don't risk your ☮️ peace and joy either now or in the future for love that is readily threatened o.
Have a frantic discussion with her, listen carefully to her response �, take a decision.
Conclusively, if quitting is best, don't be afraid to let her go. Infact don't waste time to break up with her first.

Brunosamel:
yes she is in her early twenties, we actually had a plan but I guess I have to face the reality and allow to follow her own path... thanks

That is the spirit

Op, let her go and marry the man that has promised to send her to school so that she can be independent. This is something you cannot give now and your full character has not popped up yet because you are cashless.

The girl has suffered enough with you. Abi she no try? As e be say the era of suffer head don end tey tey because una wey never get money like to betray person up and down the minute una get one kobo for pocket.

Go and find money first before you think of woman.

This society is finished

From the comment I read
It is evident

koyyess:
Op, let her go and marry the man that has promised to send her to school so that she can be independent. This is something you cannot give now and your full character has not popped up yet because you are cashless.

The girl has suffered enough with you. Abi she no try? As e be say the era of suffer head don end tey tey because una wey never get money like to betray person up and down the minute una get one kobo for pocket.

Go and find money first before you think of woman.

This mindset is very very wrong

AntiRiot:


Stop dating students. You will only have sleepless nights except you just want her as a side chick. Get a fellow working class lady like yourself who is ready to settle down.

Thanks

Another good suggestion

Just be successful and u gonna have dozens of shemales chase after u

pocohantas:


Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

Haba. . .only your post on NL can give guys heart attack!! You need to chill out with Naija guys oo.

@Op

Just focus on yourself. Love is a beautiful thing that can easily be destroyed with poverty!!

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Your story is sad and funny at the same time. My guy start looking for another girlfriend


A lady you're dating tell you someone is crushing and disturbing her, she asked for a permission to go out with him and you allowed her? What sort of dumbness is that. If I burst your brain that this lady have been chopping this guy dick nko! Will you believe it


A lady that truly love you will not grant any guy audience not to talk of bothered about the person disturbance. She's gone, she's just shy to breakup with you yet, so prepare for the worse


While you await the total dissolution, do send forth for her in the oza room because you might not have the privilege again in few weeks to come I can't settle with non virgin, I use to tell guys this [\quote]

Exactly

Tho I am not sure about the bolded

insperyadyou:
But somebody at the peak of his career as you said, should be buoyant financially. Why the complain?

Na wrong applications of English

The first mistake you made was when you allow her to visit the guy, but all the same if she love you really she should change her SIM, just to avoid the guy.