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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Nobody: 8:03pm On Dec 31, 2019

empirebosscrew:
Good day everybody. So I have lived with poliomelythis for more than two decades now. I have strived so much to achieve alot for myself because I never allowed my situation deter me from achieving my goals in life.

Everything has been going on smoothly: Education up to MSc level, a job, a car and things a man can acquire and say he has reached a level of comfort.

The one thing I'm yet to get is to be in a stable relationship. 99% of the girls I've dated never took me serious and we never lasted long. Some will even take advantage to chop my money and bail after a while. It got to a point I had a bitter negative stereotype thinking all women are mainly out there to exploit a man.

It wasnt until earlier this year when I met someone who changed the horoscope. Like she is so down to earth and actually loved me for me, without even looking at my paralysis. Things were going smoothly until she started becoming aggressive and emotional over little issues.

It took a while but she was able to open up to let me know how her family vehemently told her they dont want to see her with someone like me. They also threatened to disown her if she insisted on being with me.

Currently, we decided to stop seeing each other for the sake of peace to reign in her family. We do keep communication on a 100. We both love each other genuinely and we do not want us to split just like that.

What do we do?

Is your kini also paralyzed?

If not why you never plant your seed since and see whether her family no go calm down, instead you dey play romeo and juliet

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Originalsly: 8:05pm On Dec 31, 2019

Offpoint:
The world will never accept your indifferences, no matter how hard you'll try.

Your world is a small world.....you shouldn't be discouraging him based on your world. Franklin D. Roosevelt had poliomyelitis... and became the 32nd President of the United States.

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by empirebosscrew(op): 8:05pm On Dec 31, 2019

GidiWoodsMan:
Is your kini also paralyzed?

If not why you never plant your seed since and see whether her family no go calm down, instead you dey play romeo and juliet

My kini cant be paralyzed grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Nobody: 8:07pm On Dec 31, 2019

empirebosscrew:
My kini cant be paralyzed

Plant that seed bro!!! cool

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Trutherme: 8:07pm On Dec 31, 2019

empirebosscrew:
Good day everybody. So I have lived with poliomelythis for more than two decades now. I have strived so much to achieve alot for myself because I never allowed my situation deter me from achieving my goals in life.

Everything has been going on smoothly: Education up to MSc level, a job, a car and things a man can acquire and say he has reached a level of comfort.

The one thing I'm yet to get is to be in a stable relationship. 99% of the girls I've dated never took me serious and we never lasted long. Some will even take advantage to chop my money and bail after a while. It got to a point I had a bitter negative stereotype thinking all women are mainly out there to exploit a man.

It wasnt until earlier this year when I met someone who changed the horoscope. Like she is so down to earth and actually loved me for me, without even looking at my paralysis. Things were going smoothly until she started becoming aggressive and emotional over little issues.

It took a while but she was able to open up to let me know how her family vehemently told her they dont want to see her with someone like me. They also threatened to disown her if she insisted on being with me.

Currently, we decided to stop seeing each other for the sake of peace to reign in her family. We do keep communication on a 100. We both love each other genuinely and we do not want us to split just like that.

What do we do?

May your struggles make you a better person. You can't push people to accept you because of your condition or success. The best is for you to be happy first and other things like an accommodating partner will follow. I am not disabled, so I don't know how you feel but you should ask God to give you a right partner.

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by movement2020: 8:10pm On Dec 31, 2019

DonFreshmoney:
So what do you want us to do?? Give you our sisters or what?

My guy go sit down one side..

I don't insult people but since I was once in Op's shoes till I got a bone of my flesh,I would say, woe betide you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by goodnewscliff(m): 8:16pm On Dec 31, 2019

Crase people ti take over

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by frozen70(f): 8:19pm On Dec 31, 2019

empirebosscrew:
Good day everybody. So I have lived with poliomelythis for more than two decades now. I have strived so much to achieve alot for myself because I never allowed my situation deter me from achieving my goals in life.

Everything has been going on smoothly: Education up to MSc level, a job, a car and things a man can acquire and say he has reached a level of comfort.

The one thing I'm yet to get is to be in a stable relationship. 99% of the girls I've dated never took me serious and we never lasted long. Some will even take advantage to chop my money and bail after a while. It got to a point I had a bitter negative stereotype thinking all women are mainly out there to exploit a man.

It wasnt until earlier this year when I met someone who changed the horoscope. Like she is so down to earth and actually loved me for me, without even looking at my paralysis. Things were going smoothly until she started becoming aggressive and emotional over little issues.

It took a while but she was able to open up to let me know how her family vehemently told her they dont want to see her with someone like me. They also threatened to disown her if she insisted on being with me.

Currently, we decided to stop seeing each other for the sake of peace to reign in her family. We do keep communication on a 100. We both love each other genuinely and we do not want us to split just like that.

What do we do?

Am glad you didn't allow your status to debate you from achieving what full able body couldn't

Take the bull by the horn and go and visit her parents

You can get a crate of malt and bread while going, take her and her entire family unaware when going

Go alone incase it becomes an embarrassing situation

Just tell them you came to visit them to know who her family is and you will come again with your family to inform her about your interest in their daughter

Whatever they have for you, will be revealed to you by them, if they says that they don't want you to marry their daughter, ask them why, that she loves you too

They may have their own reasons if which you have to force them to speak it out

If they refuse vehemently, drop your gift of love and leave

It's now left for your woman to fight for you

Don't even make it an issue with your woman, if she brings it up, tell her that she is not for you, simple

There in an then, start searching for a replacement but this time around, bring down your taste so that your woman to be, his family won't put you in the edge again

There will be no need to keep spending on her as before, let her feel the heat

But you guys can still be good friends because of tomorrow

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by baby124: 8:20pm On Dec 31, 2019

Well Polio is not a genetic defect so she needs to communicate that to her family. Ultimately it’s her choice though. I think she’s looking for a cheap escape route. Polio is something that can catch anybody if the parents were not enlightened enough

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by GoldenJAT(m): 8:21pm On Dec 31, 2019

Jodha:
This is really sad....Have yhu met her parents one on one...? If No ..I think yhu should meet them and show them yhur "ability" that yhu can take care of their daughter...and that yhu love each other so much...

If they're still adamant ..then I'm afraid there's nothing much yhu can do ..other than pray....if she's truly yhur wife...God should preserve her for yhu...

On the other hand yhur gf is a grown ass woman and the ball is totally in her court....She has to decide if she's ready to take a bold step like an adult and stick with it...
Her parents are not the one to marry her...neither are they going to stay in the marriage with her..

She's the one wearing the shoe and she should know where it's itching her from...

Just talk to her...Asin heart to heart...pray about it...and leave everything in God's hands...

If she's not yhur wife let her go...yhull find someone better...

YOU.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by baby124: 8:22pm On Dec 31, 2019

frozen70:
Am glad you didn't allow your status to debate you from achieving what full able body couldn't

Take the bull by the horn and go and visit her parents

You can get a crate of malt and bread while going, take her and her entire family unaware when going

Go alone incase it becomes an embarrassing situation

Just tell them you came to visit them to know who her family is and you will come again with your family to inform her about your interest in their daughter

Whatever they have for you, will be revealed to you by them, if they says that they don't want you to marry their daughter, ask them why, that she loves you too

They may have their own reasons if which you have to force them to speak it out

If they refuse vehemently, drop your gift of love and leave

It's now left for your woman to fight for you

Don't even make it an issue with your woman, if she brings it up, tell her that she is not for you, simple

There in an then, start searching for a replacement but this time around, bring down your taste so that your woman to be, his family won't put you in the edge again

There will be no need to keep spending on her as before, let her feel the heat

But you guys can still be good friends because of tomorrow

When people say *take the bull by the horn* it cracks me up so much. What if the parents reject him and humiliate him? He’s already dealing with enough. He should not go to a house where he has not been introduced to them by their child... some wicked parents will use the opportunity to arrest him as a thief for entering their house uninvited.

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Brightgem(f): 8:25pm On Dec 31, 2019

empirebosscrew:
Good day everybody. So I have lived with poliomelythis for more than two decades now. I have strived so much to achieve alot for myself because I never allowed my situation deter me from achieving my goals in life.

Everything has been going on smoothly: Education up to MSc level, a job, a car and things a man can acquire and say he has reached a level of comfort.

The one thing I'm yet to get is to be in a stable relationship. 99% of the girls I've dated never took me serious and we never lasted long. Some will even take advantage to chop my money and bail after a while. It got to a point I had a bitter negative stereotype thinking all women are mainly out there to exploit a man.

It wasnt until earlier this year when I met someone who changed the horoscope. Like she is so down to earth and actually loved me for me, without even looking at my paralysis. Things were going smoothly until she started becoming aggressive and emotional over little issues.

It took a while but she was able to open up to let me know how her family vehemently told her they dont want to see her with someone like me. They also threatened to disown her if she insisted on being with me.

Currently, we decided to stop seeing each other for the sake of peace to reign in her family. We do keep communication on a 100. We both love each other genuinely and we do not want us to split just like that.

What do we do?

Really sorry about your ordeal. It's painful being stigmatized over a matter that was no fault of yours. Humans will be human. Right now, it's up to her. Sometimes when so called family don't have bases you as an individual consider relevant enough to keep off a good partner you have to stick to what u believe. Same family will still come around. Besides you yourself may not have the heart to allow her tear away from her family. It's a tough one.

Welldone with all the achievements.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by CuriousX: 8:33pm On Dec 31, 2019

DonFreshmoney:
So what do you want us to do?? Give you our sisters or what?

My guy go sit down one side..

You have mouth cancer. Do you know that tomorrow you can have accident and be disabled? Think with your brain before you type

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:35pm On Dec 31, 2019

Crazyblue:
So many homes in Nigeria, the father is the head of the house but the mothers call all the shot. Especially calm easy going fathers

Head of house! That shit is a ceremony title in most home. If you think you can win the father's heart and forget the mother. Heheh all the best.

The only hope here is if she can stand her ground to both parents. And it doesn't look like it.

You know whats up.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by dfrost: 8:37pm On Dec 31, 2019

Please the OP is not disabled oooh. He's physically challenged.

Haba.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by kingarizona1(m): 8:39pm On Dec 31, 2019

Offpoint:
Let the rich get married to the rich
let the poor get married to the poor
and let the disable get married to the disable...

Stigmatization has been part of humanity since God knows when.

The world will never accept your indifferences, no matter how hard you'll try.
You have to realize this else you'll constantly hurt yourself.

We live in a world where by:
Graduates believe they're of more important than non graduate.

Uni grad believe they're of more important than Poly grad.

Rich believe they're of more important than the poor.

The whites believe they're better than the blacks

The tall believe they have more advantages of getting laid than the shorts.

The fair skin believe they're more attractive than the brown skin.

The long dîcks believe they can please women than the short dîcks.

let me stop here, conclusion is we live in a fück up world.
I realized this long ago and I've stop giving a fück about people.

If they denied you their daughter, look else where... women ain't gold, they're everywhere like MTN network.

You can't never be accepted by all

What's your brand?? I feel like buying you a bottle of beer coz you just spoke like me

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Emekaossai(m): 8:41pm On Dec 31, 2019

DonFreshmoney:
People mentioning me cos I spoke my mind... I ain't a hypocrite,, not everything should be brought to Nairaland.. most times you have to be a man and face your problem headlong.... Most people quoting me wont let their family or friends marry a disabled (I can bet on this).. but they would be hypocritical to curry favour or seem sensitive to OP plight..

All this relationship/marriage/dating issues should end today.. nobody should bring their relationship madness from tomorrow

Your mind is full of trash!

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by sunkomite(m): 8:41pm On Dec 31, 2019

[quote author=DonFreshmoney post=85385496]So what do you want us to do?? Give you our sisters or what?

My guy go sit down one side.. [/quote
Its not a must u comment bro if u have nothing tangible to advice on this issue, it's better u keep mute than spew thrashes!

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:42pm On Dec 31, 2019

Jodha:
If the mother is the only issue...there shouldn't be much problems nah... She should focus more on totally convincing her father..

He's obviously the head of the family...and if he's ready to make a stand... it's a done deal...

Exactly if yhu guys are meant to be together nothing will stop it...but that doesn't mean yhu won't fight for eachother...

It's just an obstacle... it'll pass

You are just looking at the traditional wedding forgetting the marriage. Even in some places you need to settle the mother and buy things for her if she is not in support how you want take do am what about her blessings abi that one nor dey important for tradition.Abi you nor go let her plan and spice up your wedding, Some fathers throway face after the wedding they don't even make preparations like the mothers and only an excited mother will do that for her child, but mothers are there during the marriage. If she is not in support the boys mother will come and do omugwo if she is still angry she will manipulate her daughter and make that marriage hell if she is not shunned.

You seem not to know the importance mothers play in their children's marriage they can shape and influence their children's decisions if given that opportunity. You are focused on the weddibg forgetting the marriage. If you think the mother can be sidelined you are joking? Will you be happy if your mother is angry on your wedding day or day of joy. If you are talking about traditional wedding every member especially the nuclear family support is important. Would you like your mum shut herself from you and your spouse if she is unhappy?

I am not supporting the OP's GF mother she is self centered and wicked and she should think of her daughter's happiness I am just pointing out some of the important roles mothers play in their children marriages even in the wedding their role is vital. Papa na just to handover in tradition and can throway face.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by supercase1(m): 8:44pm On Dec 31, 2019

Kalixx:
YOUR SURNAME MUST BE FOOOLISH!

IF THIS IS HOW YOUR FAMILY THINKS, THEN YOUR MOM AND DAD MUST BE ASSSHOLES.

YOUR SIBLINGS ARE ASSHOLES!

AND YOUR GENERATION UNBORN, IF CARE IS NOT TAKEN, WOULD BE ASSHOLES LIKE YOU ARE

WHAT AN ABSOLUTE MEDIEVAL ORANGUTAN!

Why insult his parents na!!!! if he chooses to be an orangutan there is nothing his parents can do to save him from the transformation process na grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by mrchineke: 8:49pm On Dec 31, 2019

Jodha:
If the mother is the only issue...there shouldn't be much problems nah... She should focus more on totally convincing her father..

He's obviously the head of the family...and if he's ready to make a stand... it's a done deal...

Exactly if yhu guys are meant to be together nothing will stop it...but that doesn't mean yhu won't fight for eachother...

It's just an obstacle... it'll pass

Total nonsense. The mother will cause havoc, bro just leave her.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Tnycee(m): 8:49pm On Dec 31, 2019

If I was to advise, call your girl and have heart to heart with her.....her response will determine if she will be able to stand up to her mother. (to me, it seems she's looking for a cheap way to abandon the relationship) Ask her what she wants you to do now seeing you have done your best so far.

If she says "leave everything to god", just know she really wanted to leave.

If she brings out suggestions on how you can go meet her family or how she can confront her mom, or maybe explain to her..., just know you both are in it together so you can keep pushing and by the mercies of the Great God, you'll over come this.

No good marriage comes easy, you need to work for it.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Nobody: 8:53pm On Dec 31, 2019

Elove1:
Bro i can feel your pains
Advice i will give you on this, is to pregnant the gal.
I believe this will end all the talks and argument.

Op if you can do this, I will be very happy for you. The mother will only be frustrated but she cant disown her daughter

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Sluacoast(m): 8:54pm On Dec 31, 2019

uninspired07:
No matter his level of disability, as long as he has money, he can marry 3 wives at the same time in this Nigeria.

Yes even if he has money. But some family are not after money if this will be the case. Can you marry a midget, pygmy or a deaf and dumb person because of the love of money. Always reason before you type trash

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Nobody: 8:55pm On Dec 31, 2019

GidiWoodsMan:
Is your kini also paralyzed?

If not why you never plant your seed since and see whether her family no go calm down, instead you dey play romeo and juliet

The guy is not smart at all, his condition is not a standard one...he suppose to know he has to go tru a non conventional route....once u are disable.. and u are lucky enuf to get a lady that like you....na to knack am belle....he wants to go and pay bride price...the guy is funny I swear

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by frozen70(f): 8:55pm On Dec 31, 2019

baby124:
When people say *take the bull by the horn* it cracks me up so much. What if the parents reject him and humiliate him? He’s already dealing with enough. He should not go to a house where he has not been introduced to them by their child... some wicked parents will use the opportunity to arrest him as a thief for entering their house uninvited.

Is disgrace a new thing to him

Which family will insult a propose spouse of their daughter at first visit

Worst case scenario, they will reject his proposal, it's a 50/50 thing

How are you even sure, her family told her that, she may have arranged that audio report to keep benefiting from him and still blames her family for their rejection

Let him go and see things himself

When I say he should go without her notice but she will be at home, I want him to unravel things

Then how can her family arrest him as a thief for entering their house, in what manner abeg

Make you dey rehears wetin you want write before you post am

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Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by staga: 8:57pm On Dec 31, 2019

OP,

If you venture to buy her father a car as a New Year gift, all stories will come to an end. They will even be hurrying you to come and pay dowry India Mike Mike.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Emaprince: 9:00pm On Dec 31, 2019

BigSarah:
Your only option is a mail order bride , yes you read right.... Leave the young lady only, the argument you are having is not only borne out of her parents pressure, but the psychological impact of having to live with a paralyzed man.
There's no fun in paralysis, I pray God makes you whole since there's nothing he can't do.

With that your rotten teeth you still speak with so much mean tone.

There is no fun in kissing a woman with such disgusting teeth, you know undecided

GTFOH!!!

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by cybriz82(m): 9:01pm On Dec 31, 2019

pansophist:
You are stu.pid

Over ripe stupid.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by kenkel: 9:08pm On Dec 31, 2019

He just told you the truth, follow his advice

Jodha:
This is really sad....Have yhu met her parents one on one...? If No ..I think yhu should meet them and show them yhur "ability" that yhu can take care of their daughter...and that yhu love each other so much...

If they're still adamant ..then I'm afraid there's nothing much yhu can do ..other than pray....if she's truly yhur wife...God should preserve her for yhu...

On the other hand yhur gf is a grown ass woman and the ball is totally in her court....She has to decide if she's ready to take a bold step like an adult and stick with it...
Her parents are not the one to marry her...neither are they going to stay in the marriage with her..

She's the one wearing the shoe and she should know where it's itching her from...

Just talk to her...Asin heart to heart...pray about it...and leave everything in God's hands...

If she's not yhur wife let her go...yhull find someone better...

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by uninspired07: 9:08pm On Dec 31, 2019

Sluacoast:
Yes even if he has money. But some family are not after money if this will be the case. Can you marry a midget, pygmy or a deaf and dumb person because of the love of money. Always reason before you type trash

Bro, forget story. In 9ja, money rules & our women will marry anything if a man has money. The OP doesn’t have any problem. His family should get him a wife from his state.

As for your insults, I won’t respond in kind as I am in a good mood for New Year’s Eve. You can’t use your bitterness to small my mood.

Re: My Girlfriend Family Rejects Me Because I'm Disabled by Newmans: 9:14pm On Dec 31, 2019

Listen guy if she truly love you prayer or no prayer the two of you should go to court do court wedding first, and start leaving with your wife the parents will call u when they are ready to come and perform the traditional rite.

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