funmisticqueen:
that's tough...

I really don't know.

Maybe life will teach her. You can always use poverty to threaten her


Just watch out for her

Sure sis, I will.

dumo1:

There is a limit to what a human being can do, you have talked, counselled and even scolded and she remains defiant in her ways then allow her face the consequences of her choices the hard way like the adult she thinks she has become. It's painful to watch but experience is the best teacher. It will start from a heart break and then the rest will follow.

Okay then, I'll try.

smat101:
What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...
Its been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings.
I really lovey kid sister so much even more than my mum.
there is a lot to say but to cut the long story short,
when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14years.
just today I talked to her about sex,boyfriends, pornography relationship,sex, everything in that area...recently she was using my phone for Facebook,then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed as I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...
just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in...What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend,she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...
.
.
My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...
So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...
I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Show her pictures of STDS she's likely to get. Make sure you show her the scary ones lol. Tell her you can still get it if the condom burst. That ought to knock some senses into her.

omale88:
it seems sixteen is the new adult age for women now? I have this same problem over here, the thing is she alone is sixteen three other ladies living with us are all adults, so she heres them on the phone and listens to all the adult gist, the girl is now behaving like their mate, i have couselled this girl tire.the problem is they dont think of us in their choices, they only think of themselves, yet at worst they would still be our responsibility.

What even annoys me more is the silly attitude she gives when you're scolding her, if I show her my Nigerian upbringing I'll wound her God knows.

Mine is similar like yours because we're three adults also at home but we don't talk adult stuff in her presence sigh.

DavidEsq:

shey that's where she would now meet more virile men ready to test her at the back of some stadium building na. Na den trainer go turn nacker. I know wetin I dey talk o

It's seems there's no safe place in this world sef

Your sister needs counseling, if you beat her ehn, the LovePeddler in her go begin work...

Just leave the guy alone. If it wasn't him, it will be another guy. Talk to your sister

smat101:

Exactly what I planned, to keep chatting with him and lure him in one corner..then treat his fvck up but not with oshodi boys

But don't allow those guys beat him to stupor or death.

smat101:
What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...
Its been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings.
I really lovey kid sister so much even more than my mum.
there is a lot to say but to cut the long story short,
when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14years.
just today I talked to her about sex,boyfriends, pornography relationship,sex, everything in that area...recently she was using my phone for Facebook,then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed as I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...
just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in...What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend,she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...
.
.
My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...
So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...
I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Buy her the book Compleat Courtship by Nancy Van Pelt. Influence her to read it cover to cover. Let her explain each chapter to you after as she's through with each of them.... You guys now discuss it at length.

CAPITALIZE ON THE FACT THAT SHE ADORES YOU. LET HER BE ABLE TO OPEN UP TO YOU. USE INFLUENCE NOT AUTHORITY.

SenecaTheYonger:


Show her pictures of STDS she's likely to get. Make sure you show her the scary ones lol. Tell her you can still get it if the condom burst. That ought to knock some senses into her.

Condom don't need to burst.... Condoms are only about 70% protection. So she could still very well get preggy even with the condom on.

Papadoh:
You're so dark, are you sure you're not from the DC Universe?

Lol. Dark is an under-statement.

Replace #Dark with #Deep+

Delete kid sister's FB account and change her phone number for a start. Let mum/elder sister/auntie talk to her as well, I believe she will turn a new leaf in 2020. If u can, take her out of her present location, it will do her much good.

victor2fresh:

You r right buh I don't agree with u on the love part..14yo is too young, naive and wants to explore and someone is trying to take advantage of that...nothing like 'fallen in love pls.

Don't underestimate the power of social media. She is in love. She is a teenager. Its shameful to admit but you'd soon find out when she runs off.

Are you not shocked what she is doing? Teenagers are full of surprises.

Smartchoiice:

Condom don't need to burst.... Condoms are only about 70% protection. So she could still very well get preggy even with the condom on.

I'm not sure you read my post. My point is to scare her with pictures of what Sexually transmitted diseases look like in pictures.

makydebbie:


What even annoys me more is the silly attitude she gives when you're scolding her, if I show her my Nigerian upbringing I'll wound her God knows.

Mine is similar like yours because we're three adults also at home but we don't talk adult stuff in her presence sigh.

wow this is very sad, all i can say is for you not get tired, i no know as the thing dey do them for body, im not sure its the same thing, lol just dont unleash your naija side on her please she may need an ambulance after that, of which you would still have to pay, just try talking to her about it in a different way, try to find out why she think sex is important, any why she is obssessed about it maybe there could be a loophole, i think thats what im going to do,may the God help us all.

Vortex369:
She has fallen in love. That is the aspect that escapes you commentators.

When emotions fuel a decision, beatings dont cut it.

Arrange with a girl to privately call your sister claiming to be girlfriend of the pedo guy and saw their chat about sex and threaten to beat and disgrace her if she dares come close to her supposed man

Her fragile heart will crack. Then follow up by saying that a strange girl call you and warned to pour her acid cos she is sleeping with her guy. Then arrange some nice cains on her ass. Make it hurt that she can not lie down for sex.

Slap makes no sense and looks too mature for her. Use fresh cain and Arrange 12 strokes on same spot on her ass. That will be part of her memory. Cain the ass enough so she cant sit or lay down on it. Make see how she wants to lie down for Bleep.

Stop being too direct in age of AI. It don't work

you're smart, this is the best advice can you be my second wife pls?

Techcrunchng:
you're smart, this is the best advice can you be my second wife pls?

I love my solitude. Marriage is overrated.

makydebbie:


How?

forget it, there is nothing u can change. those girls are exposed to sex at their early age(13yrz) there is a secondary school in front of my house and I know what am talking about. in fact that now talk about sex among their peers(female). at 16, they are around the age they want to explore. the only solution u have is to always lock her in the house if u can do that. even if u succeed with that won't she still go school, just forget it. women are fragile, they are use to men lie. they will fall for it. its only her that can decide for her self. urs is to advice her.

Vortex369:


I love my solitude. Marriage is overrated.

forever?

This is serious ,seriously if na me if I catch that kind of guy near my daughter,I wld really deal with him.

Techcrunchng:
forever?

For ever is not as long as most people think. 100yrs is nothing in the Calender of Eternity, which I consciously live.

SenecaTheYonger:



I'm not sure you read my post. My point is to scare her with pictures of what Sexually transmitted diseases look like in pictures.

Here: share with the OP https://www.nairaland.com/3215839/say-no-casual-sex-warning

Take her to have a preplanned Vaginity test and let her know that it will be conducted every year . Let her know the stiff consequences she will face if she ever fail the test before a certain age.... Don't threaten her anyway. Just know how to convince her in a subtle way.

Came4amod:


You are shitty person.. and ur heart is dark .. how can beating someone in 2020 do any good to the person .. when the bible said spear the rod .. it was talking about the best means of correction in the medival times .. you are very very low and you have chosen not to grow in intelligence

Sorry to say this but you think you have sense but you don't at all...
pls don't quote me again. when you get your own daughter train her as you like...

Techcrunchng:
seems you enjoy playing pokemon go on the highway?

lolll... that's the best oo..I observed girls they did such to during childhood catch head afterwards.

First step is to report the idiot to law enforcement.

Secondly, give her one refactory setting slap. She will surely remember what you will tell her and will stick to her memory when ever she want to act satanical act.

Thirdly, keep eyes on her.

Fourly, consell her on the danger of it regularly.

prettysassygirl:
This is serious ,seriously if na me if I catch that kind of guy near my daughter,I wld really deal with him.

its a norm these days. If they start to monitor and restrict her. Shebi she will still go to uni in 3 years time. She will be wilder