Take her alongside to wherever you stay so you can monitor her closely. She will eventually begin to have the experience, but it shouldn't be now. She needs serious reorientation because that pedophile has already corrupted her.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

She needs counseling

funmisticqueen:
this was in response to another matter, not op's story

Oh. My bad.

Flogging her isn't gonna change anything. Talk to her with wisdom and let her choose what she wants to do.

Pls as pole have said, don't beat her, if you do she may not do this one, but next one you won't even know anything about it because she will be so perfect to outsmart you.
Pls if your Daddy is available he will be the best person to do the talking.

Thanks.

jayloms:


Love you.. Can't stop laughing.. Iz lukin like u wee b harsh o

I'm not harsh. I just can't stand pedophilia

Honestly, it will be very difficult for you to prevent her from testing the "suger cane" even if you prevent the same guy trying to do it now.

The issue is that it is not about that guy. It is about her curiosity. She wants to know what sex feels like. She must have watched the act over and over as porn and now wants to taste it.

What you can do to help her is to take her for HIV counseling. If possible take her to see some carriers. Ask her to imagine herself in that condition.

But most importantly, tell her to wait till she becomes adult. She will make a better decision and will enjoy it without regret.

EjaikreTheViper:
you sure say dem never scatter ur sister opotopoto? children of nowadays.

Nowadays?
My sister, that is how it had always been, just that we are in an information age.
Nothing new

Sorry OP

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LilMissFavvy:
What kind of training do parents give their children for God's sake? Why is your 14yrs old sister on FB? . I can recall the first time a guy began disturbing my life, I was 13yrs, I used to run from a man if he is too stubborn to leave me alone. A 27yrs old who is after a 14yr old is a wicked soul, he should be arrested. How can your mum be giving your sister opportunity to leave the house? My parents never ever gave my sisters and I such freedom. Asides church, salon, home tutorials, going to market etc., Why should your sister be given opportunities to leave the house such that such a young girl can fix a date with a man. The places I listed above are places she definitely would go along with her mum, or siblings, just like how it used to happen in my family. I agree that you beat up that bastard, but if you beat him up, do not maim him o, if you maim him giving him a disability, he would definitely come for you in future. Screenshot all the FB messages as well.

Na church vigil I dey always claim to go but ends up in club. I know a family that locks up there three daughters. It’s from school to their flat ( their mom drives them). Once they are in, she locks their flat and return outside to her shop. Would you imagine there’s a particular guy that passes through the balcony to go meet the girls. God knows what play they are always playing so you see. Na bcox u choosed to be good on ur own.

Ps: before u slut shame. I’m a guy.
Find something else to say

Okoroawusa:
My brother just talk with her so that she can see her self worth. She is at an age where her hormones are running riots.So she needs direction. Just do your best but don't beat her. Pikin wey go hear word go hear word.

My grandma say,"Toto go tear young girl reach where e tear old woman na only a matter of time"

Just do your best.

are u sure ur grandma said that

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

abi na police you go report to. that's a minor for crying out loud!

smat101:

Hahaha...I can Never beat a grown up girl talk more of my wife. No Matter how stubborn she is...The reason I decided to discipline her was because I believe she is still a kid and needs some discipline...

Bro, no matter what, don't resort to violence.

Don't beat up that guy. You have to be certain that he knows that your sister is a minor before you conclude that he is a pedophile. Your sister might have lied about her age to the guy. Moreover, beating up the guy might create an unending cycle of violence. You might even be killed. That is how land cases get bloody. Reprisals. If you beat the guy today, he would look for you tommorow. Moreover, you don't know how bad he really is. If you feel you need to do something about the guy, you can report to the police. The police will have a better way of handling the issue than you. That is far better than thinking of beating him up. He might be a really bad guy who will kill two of you before he goes down himself. Violence escalates issues.

What your sister needs is counseling.

funmisticqueen:
tell her that her actions have consequences. She needs to learn responsibility. If she thinks she can be going out without being accountable or lying. Let her be the adult one,

Take all the clothes you bought for her, gadgets(except phone) and tell her to go and find work, pay a bill or something. Let her get money for data herself, get her own food since she is an adult. But do this in a calm manner. Also listen to what she has to say like an adult. let her earn her pocket money or money for WAEC or JAMB. She has too much time on her hands, thats why she's rebellious.

For my teenage days, the threat of pregnancy, poverty and AIDS was enough. Those were good times

wise comment

The remedy is simple: Tell her boys are wicked and will only spoil her life and follow another girl...since she's in her formative stage,the trick should work

Look for any pregnant teenager, beg her and tell her to share her experience with your kid sister afterwards look for a newly wed lady to help share her experience as well.
You can do these if you really care. The difference between bitter and sweet experience will format her emotions asap not beating and kicking. Thank you.

smat101:

I just finished talking to her like an hour ago, and she is still wanting to give in to sex...
I think if I beat her it will help her remember what I told her.

Things you have to do.

1. Report the 27 Year old to Facebook as soliciting sex with a minor.

2. Grab screenshot of the chat and formally report to @PoliceNG_CRU on Twitter and if you available, go to the nearest police station to you

3. Talk to you sister not to have sex until she's 18. And if she must, it must not be with someone older than her soo much because the person will go to jail. Be registered as a sex offender and never be able to travel out or get a good job.

4. Protective sex chat is important. STI's, STDs, Pregnancy. VVF...

She must use and insist on protection

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Bro, I support you, beat the living day light from both of them.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

please use sense of humor and scold her,say at least hundred of joking scolding Frank talk n second phase is to take a task of developing n mentoring her for future occurance most especially confronting such monster.Achieve out of her this year an #independentWOMAN that it's not sex freak but should have a choice of class.Thus looking forward in #marriagetinz.

makydebbie:
I'm going through this same thing with my 16 years old cousin. I really don't know what to do anymore because I've told her the dangers of her actions yet she's still going out without letting anyone know only return hours later and I don't want to resort to beatings because I'm sure it'll make her even more rebellious.

Arrh..urs have started going out. Nawa o...

If u can beat her please do but mind u it won't change her mind set. then thereafter have a career talk with her , ask her if she know any example of things that make people lost focus (jokingly sex education will fall in).

And please don't forget, if there are educational seminars where ladies are co speaker, take her along, let her see what women can do, She ll b inspired. and her decision will b from within

Ramanto:
Just leave the guy alone. If it wasn't him, it will be another guy. Talk to your sister

Out of all comments, I see more sense in yours. Very straight

See it's her hormones speaking. Hormones are all over the place. Even if u remove her vagina, she'd still try to have sex. What u can do as a big brother is to educate her about the dangers of casual sex, teenage pregnancy and stuff like dat. Ur mum may be in a better position to help out.

smat101:

Nah this Saturday the scattering for happen o...
She is still a virgin, she told him

The guy is a bastard paedophille. .

Keep counselling her . let her know the dangers of two powerful muscles in our body . the tongue and the pexnis, the tongue and the va*Gina..they are so powerful that it destroy one's destiny . . ........ Make the subject look scary to her and check her countenance later..

czarina:
Report the 27yr old idiot to the authorities. Your sister is a minor. You have evidence.


After that you can focus on talking properly to your sister. She needs counseling.

this is the smartest advice. Report the paedophile!

eduman365:
@smat101

When a girl reaches puberty and all her goodies begin to show, there are so many guys that will start approaching her, regardless of her age. One of my relative's child is like that too. I don't even bother checking her phone again cos she has passworded everything, but we know enough and have advised her well enough. She is gradually leaving her mid teens and I know that sometimes experience is the best teacher after one has advised them thoroughly and consistently.

The solution is to sit her down and let her know you saw the sexual discussion between her and the guy, seize her phone for the time being and report the case to the police so you can trap that guy. A 14 year old is underage by all means and that 27 year old is an irresponsible child molester.

Do not do more than slapping her once or twice, you don't wanna appear abusive cos its a normal stage of life for girls. Social media is not helping matters too cos children are being exposed to the wrong things and strangers too fast...

best advise