Bros u are a funny man oo,when a man apologized and explained clearly ,him done try now,u are very funny,lol,let me laugh again hahahaha,and again,hahahah,are u telling us that u went and show your wife too much love,when u know 50cent was even told ,love will get u killed,lol,u are funny there man,hey wake up,as a man if u dont have even 1% dicepline and let your no be no or yes yes,your wife will be doing any how to u now,show ur woman u aren't soft,she even took ur child ,lol,so u guys had kids self,bros go flex ,don't call her,act that I don't care attitude and drink with guys,have a nice time out,meet new ladies,stop picking her calls,(show no more care),i always tells all ladies that if u carry your baby and divorce a man,na the woman go suffer while the man go flex.stop action as if she is the world, Bro put this saying in mind,(i can't comma kill myself) stop picking let her do what she wants,stop valuing her ,na only her go sch for abroad nii,Bros u funny oo,just one kids she dey do u shakara,lol,i said this even after 100kids a woman that want to stay will stay fault or not,by the time u start moving on and bone her side,just watch soon she will start regretting.it's your fault Bros,u over pampam her a lot they don't pamper a woman ,if u do so she will give u 100 option which u will do even if u don't like,man show her now that u are the boss, stop picking calls and just act i don't care attitude and see what will happened,. Tel her u are bussy,a lady that may have seen that u are soft in the inside, that's y she dose anything, and u tolerte her too much.trust me do this take ur mind of your kid and her 4 a month and u will see what will happened.(remember when u show a woman care,even in excess she has the 101 chance of capitalizing on that to manipulate u)rule no 2 in get rich or die trying movie,show no love,cos love will get u killed.

Stop being a sisi. The comment has date on it so she can see when it was make so what's the big deal? Why are you begging a woman to love you? If she wants let her go, it's clear she's unhappy about something probably her unemployed state which you probably is not doing anything about.
Involve her parents but your main aim should be your child.

Platini7:
That was a bad error on my part. I retained just one. The rest i lost the passwords. Should've deleted

The story is somehow. But if that child was born here and you really want him, she can't take him out of the country without the father's consent.

Platini7:
hmmm

I got no advice for you rather I have something to say to all potential Platinis and Tiganas out there.

Your case should be a lesson to all trolls out there who invade public spaces to constitute nuisances everyday under the ‘anonymity of the internet.

You are a troll bro. Your trolling has found you out.

SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

Everything is not all about d*ck for goodness sake. We should learn how to be civilized.
What is the difference between you and the touts in Junctions? When you choose to spill dirty words online without thinking or offering solutions.[size=8pt][/size]

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

your story doesnt add up, you used to open new accounts to comment of few people's account right ?

now the wife saw those comment, how does she know it was you? since the accounts where anonymous ?

And how can it be used against you when there is a gab of you breaking up and both having new relationship

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

she was going to leave anyway regardless of what she read online. She's no longer interested in the marriage, but wants you to take the fall for it.
It's gonna be hard man, but you have to be a man and insist to keep your kid. Sue her if you must. You can't afford to be weak about this else you might as well dash your child to any other stranger

Very dumb excuse for leaving. I don't know why some lady want to do background check even after marriage. ..except you aren't saying the whole truth this is too pretty dumb a reason to leave.She should just say she is tired of 9ja then you both can relocate.

You are not smart at all, even with all his explanation from earlier comments, you're still asking silly questions as though you want him to be guilty at all cost!

Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.

If a woman wants to leave u,she findes one usless small unnecessary excus to do so,if na me b u Bros call her people and tell them the reason she came home,since her mouth is too heavy to tell them,trust me ,a good family of hers will shout at her to go back to husband ,they won't side her,if I were u tell her or u will kukuma blow the whole case.they she too will be afraid .after all u did not cheat, and if u did cheat,u guys were not married then,the broad she went to,did she not cheat ,with somebody u knew its 1/1 did u talk,yet u marry her,.

If the Facebook account wasnt there she will look for another excuse. It's not the Facebook that's the problem, it's the lack of love and happiness!

djon78:



This is what happens when you marry people without deep roots. Something that happened ten years ago and she wants to divorce you.

She doesn't have deep roots. Maybe you married looks, classy etc. Which doesn't sustain marriage.
Deed has already been done. You will have to device a strategy on how to deal with a woman like that. She has a western mindset.
Your only mistake was retaining that facebook account

Apologize for what?

seunmohmoh:
Go and apologize

She just found what she's been looking for..... An excuse

Guess she is tired of the marriage and was looking for an excuse to leave the marriage. If you beg her you will keep begging her for a very long time b4 she forgets if she will forget or find another thing she will hold on to. My advice is to talk to her, make her see it was long time it happened.

I don’t think that’s a big enough issue for her to leave.
Convincing her that you didn’t mean it and that you don’t still have feelings for her friend will be a Herculean task anyway

If anyone want to leave. Kindly open the door for her. Work on yourself and you can marry 3 wives in a year, you don't need to beg anyone to be in your life . good health, peace of mind and success are the key

DMerciful:
Apologize for what?

Nothing and everything of course. Best way to save the marriage.

When a woman threaten to leave a marriage for no just cause, saving it is actually postponing the evil day. He should be fighting for his son and let her go! Nobody is indispensable!

seunmohmoh:
Nothing and everything of course. Best way to save the marriage.

DMerciful:
When a woman threaten to leave a marriage for no just cause, saving it is actually postponing the evil day. He should be fighting for his son and let her go! Nobody is indispensable!

Ok

Why didn't you delete those fake accounts when you got married?

Oga, don't sit here and be reading comments, go to her Abia and collect your child back

Lol! Who seeks for marital advice on nairaland of all places! Shows you are still a man child.

seunmohmoh:
Try to travel out then you'll see the reason she wants to leave the marriage.


Na Nigeria situation cause am. She's aiming for the pali.

Silly excuse. She shouldn't have come back.

She never liked the guy, she sees herself way above her husband.

SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

as hard as the above may be, OP thats the final answer...

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So she wants to call it quits over a Facebook post? Well, you know as una take be go ask for her hand. Call them and tell them say she no do again.
A refund is in order.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

First of all, I hope your mistake will teach you some lessons. Now back to the matter, even if you had meant those words in 2010, you guys were both in separate relationship then and no serious commitment or promise to reconnect therefore you were as free as air in 2010 to express your feelings. granted she has the right to feel somehow because the lady in question is someone she know but that shouldn't be enough for separation. That said already, just keep mute and watch. In fact, from this moment, act like such issue never happen, don't ask when she is coming back, don't raise the issue again and if she does raise it, tell her you thought you guys have gone over it and don't engage her for long on the issue.
If she wants to stay she will and if she wants to leave, your continues apology will give her the energy she needs for her ill plan.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

You better confess your sins to her pare its so that they can settle the matter and if she still no gree, put a tag on her so that anytime she moves close to the airport just call immigration. Otherwise you are on a long ...

Nice evaluation. And by the time she gets angry childishly like this in her next 3 marriages, she will be alright.

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

Lawyer Abogun joko, though I do not support his act of creating multiple accounts as he mentioned but the case at hand is about his post in 2010, secondly, creating another account to seek advise on nairaland is not new and finally, if the wife has a serious case at hand, why is she pretending to her family about her reason for being in the village. When women who love their husband has issue of infidelity against their husband, with serious evidence, her tears in the one corner of her mothers room will expose her reason for being in the village to her mother in less than 24hours

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

She doesn't love you anymore . been looking for means to discharge you like semens since. Collect your son and carry go. Life moves on.

Another stupid story.

These stupid stories are all written to create mistrust and also destroy trust between the opposite gender

Stories with the insidious motives to destroy relationships and marriages, very very satanic.

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