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Saintmary:
Please start using condoms when you have sex.
Do DNA test on your kids
Then you will know what to do.

Yes you are right
First go and do DNA
Then do blood test
Then don’t Bleep her again
And don’t send her out now get your kids to somewhere safe and run

She's emotionally unsatisfied that's y she seeks it in those acquaintances but nevertheless she lacks discipline

whatdowomenwant:
Lesson 1 already in process. I have called the DNA guys.

No matter how you look at it, I need some wisdom to proceed in this

forget the fact that people here are insulting you, we are doing that because at this point you dont need subtle talks, you need slaps and strong words... you are drowning in your own foolishness... these are words to wake you up not spite you... dont take that woman back.. we have warned you, she will poison you soon

whatdowomenwant:
A weak man today can be strong tomorrow. Kindly give your two cents bro.

I am already learning a lot.

Lesson 1: I have called the DNA person.

DNA test is the first step in the right direction. Your wife will stop the madness when she sees that you are damn serious about her stopping it.
How can you keep flogging a dead horse with rubber stick when there are iron chains around.
Sit her down and warn her that this will be the last you'll ever tolerate her madness and if she starts her manipulative moves of shouting back at you, tell her to sit her ass down and listen to your rules here.
You can't keep asslicking and loving a woman who manipulates and disrespect you.

J111333:
DNA test is the first step in the right direction. Your wife will stop the madness when she sees that you are damn serious about her stopping it.
How can you keep flogging a dead horse with rubber stick when there are iron chains around.
Sit her down and warn her that this will be the last you'll ever tolerate her madness and if she starts her manipulative moves of shouting back at you, tell her to sit her ass down and listen to your rules here.
You can't keep asslicking and loving a woman who manipulates and disrespect you.

stop that last time shit bro... the marriage has been over long time ago

whatdowomenwant:
This is a true story sir.

K

Really?! The cheating men who do they cheat with? Isn’t it other men’s wives and girlfriends? Or do you think they manufacture women to cheat with.

If you see nothing wrong in a man cheating then you’ve no right to see a wrong in women cheating because nature will always balance itself.

Brandonx:
I don't see anything wrong when a man cheats. But a cheating wife won't give it a second thought before killing the husband.

Kennedyiheme:
forget the fact that people here are insulting you, we are doing that because at this point you dont need subtle talks, you need slaps and strong words... you are drowning in your own foolishness... these are words to wake you up not spite you... dont take that woman back.. we have warned you, she will poison you soon

Thanks for this. I'm shocked at what practical things I could have done in the past other than just forgiveness. The psychologist I called today also insists that forgiveness is okay, but practical steps must be taken.

She also agrees DNA is the first step. And I'm doing that asap.

Regret: Never knew I would come to this point in my life.

whatdowomenwant:
Please tell me what you would tell your brother. Isn't it right to leave people's past behind them. I've been stomaching everything, but I'm posting here now because I need to know what's wrong with me

Oga!! How many pasts are enough? If she cheated on you this afternoon and you just caught her this evening, shey you will forgive her cos it's in the past abi?

Can't you realize that the only cases she admits to are the ones you caught her with evidence? She is obviously a liar and a manipulator na. Don't let any religiousness fool you bruh. The only person you can vouch for is yourself.

Ask yourself if you can live with her SERIAL cheating ass cos according to Drake : "She a nympho not a church girl she can never stop".
If you know cheating is something you can't live with then kick her out. Collect all your ATMs and anything in her name before she do you iskanchi. Make sure she can't harm you in anyway before you let your intentions of splitting known. Let her think she still get your mumu button.

I can swear on my glans that you don't share at least one of her children with her. So don't forget undercover DNA test.

Sir one more thing. Do you have self respect? Cos I don't know how a human being you are married to is being sucked and fucckked by other men, some of whom even have the guts to ask if you are in your own house and all you can think of is how to avoid embarrassing her. Dafuq? She is embarrassing you and your father's names in deez streets. You are even arguing how far they went. Do you think she told you about the guy that impaled her anally? Bros, no man should even squeeze your wife's ass....

Guy reason am o, other men de fucckk your wife steady and you de here. You are responsible for her feeding, clothing, shelter and luxury. Then she goes out and bangs other men. Imagine her screaming their name(s). Do you still love her when you suck off other men's deposits from her puna? Imagine living a life where you can't leave your wife anywhere cos 2 seconds later she could be bent over. Is that life?

Hope you know that even one episode of cheating involves numerous decisions not to talk of her numerous affairs.

Except you don't be mind open marriage or cuckolding.

I have tire for this matter.

This can't be ordinary. Dem don jazz dis one

whatdowomenwant:
Thanks for this. I'm shocked at what practical things I could have done in the past other than just forgiveness. The psychologist I called today also insists that forgiveness is okay, but practical steps must be taken.

She also agrees DNA is the first step. And I'm doing that asap.

Regret: Never knew I would come to this point in my life.

forget the psychologist, if he's insisting you forgive her and start afresh, don't listen to that advice.. if he's saying forgive but dont continue the union, thats fine...

You see why we tell me to swallow the red pill?? these bitches need no mercy

J111333:
DNA test is the first step in the right direction. Your wife will stop the madness when she sees that you are damn serious about her stopping it.
How can you keep flogging a dead horse with rubber stick when there are iron chains around.
Sit her down and warn her that this will be the last you'll ever tolerate her madness and if she starts her manipulative moves of shouting back at you, tell her to sit her ass down and listen to your rules here.
You can't keep asslicking and loving a woman who manipulates and disrespect you.

Thanks. We've had this talk countless times. But something will always happen to wake up everything again.

I'm just wondering, is there a chance that she could be right after all that the chats were nothing other than chats. I've told her to open up if we're going to continue and she insists is only two men she ever slept with and that was 2015. The rest is just chats and just as I stated in the post.

Today, she also called to tell me a few more stories I would never have known, such as one of my neighbors in the street who use to woo her so much. She said she had gone to see the guy in a hotel but only ended up in the bar and never did anything with him.

I'm just trying to find some reasons for her. 10 years is not 10 days.

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2)

After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced.

My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe.

About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe.

About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here?

About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe?

About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more.

Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe.

In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office.

The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws.

She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now.

About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth.

She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that."

Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back.

Now my challenge is this:

Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative?

The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this?

I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers.

Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on.

Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying.

I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues

Please, everyone, counsel me.

the truth of the matter is that, you are mad, u must be sick upstairs...

whatdowomenwant:
Thanks. We've had this talk countless times. But something will always happen to wake up everything again.

I'm just wondering, is there a chance that she could be right after all that the chats were nothing other than chats. I've told her to open up if we're going to continue and she insists is only two men she ever slept with and that was 2015. The rest is just chats and just as I stated in the post.

Today, she also called to tell me a few more stories I would never have known, such as one of my neighbors in the street who use to woo her so much. She said she had gone to see the guy in a hotel but only ended up in the bar and never did anything with him.

I'm just trying to find some reasons for her. 10 years is not 10 days.

I am seriously suspecting your wife have use her washed vargina to cook for you, that is why you are no longer in control of your life

Asquare84:
I am seriously suspecting your wife have use her washed vargina to cook for you, that is why you are no longer in control of your life

Really? I'm not in control?

I'm getting my control no matter what. DNA going on this week. She even believes that DNA will prove her right. I'll be watching

Lord please help me

laughitall:
what's 10 years ... 20 years I catch u chat with another one kind that's the end ...

And u pack your things and start going lol ebee ka I Na eje

Kennedyiheme:
forget the psychologist, if he's insisting you forgive her and start afresh, don't listen to that advice.. if he's saying forgive but dont continue the union, thats fine...

The psychologist,a lady says:

Forgive then separate temporarily. Or

Forgive and start over on one condition

That she opens up. She believes that my wife is not telling me all the truth. The only men she has ever accepted and insists that she slept with are the ones I have evidences.

So the psychologist says she must open up if we must go ahead.

Oga it's unfortunate u paid no heed to Okafor's law before getting married. Your current situation is the product of ur choice so just be the man. In all u do, don't let her give u HIV. There is no woman on earth with 2 or more ex boyfriends that's more attached to the husband more than the boyfriends.

whatdowomenwant:
The psychologist,a lady says:

Forgive then separate temporarily. Or

Forgive and start over on one condition

That she opens up. She believes that my wife is not telling me all the truth. The only men she has ever accepted and insists that she slept with are the ones I have evidences.

So the psychologist says she must open up if we must go ahead.

i suspected the physiologist is a woman, she's sympathetic to your wifes predicament and would only give you an advice that would see you both together.. separate permanently

Hed0nist:
Oga!! How many pasts are enough? If she cheated on you this afternoon and you just caught her this evening, shey you will forgive her cos it's in the past abi?

Can't you realize that the only cases she admits to are the ones you caught her with evidence? She is obviously a liar and a manipulator na. Don't let any religiousness fool you bruh. The only person you can vouch for is yourself.

Ask yourself if you can live with her SERIAL cheating ass cos according to Drake : "She a nympho not a church girl she can never stop".
If you know cheating is something you can't live with then kick her out. Collect all your ATMs and anything in her name before she do you iskanchi. Make sure she can't harm you in anyway before you let your intentions of splitting known. Let her think she still get your mumu button.

I can swear on my glans that you don't share at least one of her children with her. So don't forget undercover DNA test.

Sir one more thing. Do you have self respect? Cos I don't know how a human being you are married to is being sucked and fucckked by other men, some of whom even have the guts to ask if you are in your own house and all you can think of is how to avoid embarrassing her. Dafuq? She is embarrassing you and your father's names in deez streets. You are even arguing how far they went. Do you think she told you about the guy that impaled her anally? Bros, no man should even squeeze your wife's ass....

Guy reason am o, other men de fucckk your wife steady and you de here. You are responsible for her feeding, clothing, shelter and luxury. Then she goes out and bangs other men. Imagine her screaming their name(s). Do you still love her when you suck off other men's deposits from her puna? Imagine living a life where you can't leave your wife anywhere cos 2 seconds later she could be bent over. Is that life?

Hope you know that even one episode of cheating involves numerous decisions not to talk of her numerous affairs.

Except you don't be mind open marriage or cuckolding.

I have tire for this matter.

I'm getting my senses back. I'm just completely amazed that this is happening to us. You need to see us. You need to see my wife. She's an angel (Lord please). She's revered in my family.

This world is somehow sha

whatdowomenwant:
Really? I'm not in control?

I'm getting my control no matter what. DNA going on this week. She even believes that DNA will prove her right. I'll be watching

Lord please help me

Oga you are not talking like u are willing to do what is necessary...even if DNA proves her right still let her go...And if u dont wanna do that for whatever reason...do things differently this time


Firstly call her family and let them know clearly all she has done...let them knw that if it ever happens again it is the end

Tell her clearly no deleting of messages and clear access to all her phones and social media account...If she objects and says some "control" bullshit...let her go

Tell her no flirting in whatever way...not even a wink ...no association with any man she has had stuff with in the past...nothing join them

Everywhere whe needs to go ither than where u both knw ....then u must knw...else she is out that very day

Subject her to clear rules that help u monitor her ways...if she objects free her immediately...she's already garbage

Lastly.....start having it in your end and living like u are single...in case she fails and u have to leave...also do ur will and properly define who gets what...let family knw her ways in case she plans u


If u look at the stress involved in keeping tabs on this loose canon u will see that it is way easier to let her go.....

whatdowomenwant:
Thanks. We've had this talk countless times. But something will always happen to wake up everything again.

I'm just wondering, is there a chance that she could be right after all that the chats were nothing other than chats. I've told her to open up if we're going to continue and she insists is only two men she ever slept with and that was 2015. The rest is just chats and just as I stated in the post.

Today, she also called to tell me a few more stories I would never have known, such as one of my neighbors in the street who use to woo her so much. She said she had gone to see the guy in a hotel but only ended up in the bar and never did anything with him.

I'm just trying to find some reasons for her. 10 years is not 10 days.

Is life I should just come there and lap you bro
This woman is destroying your life
A woman that cheat is a pure Devil that can never be trusted
Open your eyes and stop saying 10years no be 10days
For good 10years she as been messing around I guess if you stay for 20years now ( this fucking woman will pray you die )
Get sense please

whatdowomenwant:
I'm getting my senses back. I'm just completely amazed that this is happening to us. You need to see us. You need to see my wife. She's an angel (Lord please). She's revered in my family.

This world is somehow sha

Sir please stop using the word "us". And its: "She behaves like an angel when people are around". Not what you put up there. That is part of what led to this thing now. I pray you are a troll also. Cos nobody with such naivete should be put through this.

tunjilana:
Oga you are not talking like u are willing to do what is necessary...even if DNA proves her right still let her go...And if u dont wanna do that for whatever reason...do things differently this time


Firstly call her family and let them know clearly all she has done...let them knw that if it ever happens again it is the end

Tell her clearly no deleting of messages and clear access to all her phones and social media account...If she objects and says some "control" bullshit...let her go

Tell her no flirting in whatever way...not even a wink ...no association with any man she has had stuff with in the past...nothing join them

Everywhere whe needs to go ither than where u both knw ....then u must knw...else she is out that very day

Subject her to clear rules that help u monitor her ways...if she objects free her immediately...she's already garbage

Lastly.....start having it in your end and living like u are single...in case she fails and u have to leave...also do ur will and properly define who gets what...let family knw her ways in case she plans u


If u look at the stress involved in keeping tabs on this loose canon u will see that it is way easier to let her go.....

I think you're right. The cost is something else. I'm so distracted now as each time this happens. The monitoring camera, the emotion of fear of losing my family, name it.

Things must be done differently this time, I agree. 100/100

Now I realize why this lady cheat on you she knows you are very weak that is why she cheated on you
Na the one way she no agree she go tell you but the one way she do she no go tell you
Wake up

I don’t know how to explain this but are you guys sure this story is not write up

Me I no sabi mince words oh.. going by this your story, bros, na ASHAWO u marry!!! You can’t change this woman unless Hod decides to step in . If u want to be happy, I mean, if your happiness is what matters to u, that woman needs to pack out before she phucks your siblings. She will nack anything she finds attractive and there’s no way u can help that. If u like take her to Oyedepo, she will nack him too.

Na ashawo u marry oooooooo. Abeg run!!! Before u get infected and regret the rest of your stay on earth. Shey u be mumu ni

NaijaDonCast:
Who else did not read this nonesense to the end? So until you see your wife giving a guy mouthAction before you agree with your feeble mind tha she has not stop and will continue to cheat on you, bros ur wife dey knack another mens, if your kids dont look like you, ask her whose their Daddy or go for paternity test whether u go even get luck sef make one of those kids be ur own

I can't can ooo..... it's a long epistle...

elmagnifico411:
Me I no sabi mince words oh.. going by this your story, bros, na ASHAWO u marry!!! You can’t change this woman unless Hod decides to step in . If u want to be happy, I mean, if your happiness is what matters to u, that woman needs to pack out before she phucks your siblings. She will nack anything she finds attractive and there’s no way u can help that. If u like take her to Oyedepo, she will nack him too.

Na ashawo u marry oooooooo. Abeg run!!! Before u get infected and regret the rest of your stay on earth. Shey u be mumu ni

That man na mumu abeg.....she will never stop oooo

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2)

After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced.

My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe.

About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe.

About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here?

About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe?

About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more.

Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe.

In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office.

The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws.

She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now.

About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth.

She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that."

Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back.

Now my challenge is this:

Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative?

The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this?

I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers.

Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on.

Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying.

I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues

Please, everyone, counsel me.

If I should insult you they will say I don come again with my trashy insults....you are so dumb that you can't see that your wife is "animashaun" pussysharer..... She will soon fvck your siblings then jump to your dad and very soon she will head for your pastor.....God, I don't pray for this kinda woman ooo..... you better do DNA for your kids and pls send her packing ooooo. This one no be wife she can't change at all....ah!! I dey feel your pain ooooo.....if na me I won't sleep with that woman again.....her body counts go don plenty like mad....

whatdowomenwant:
Really? I'm not in control?

I'm getting my control no matter what. DNA going on this week. She even believes that DNA will prove her right. I'll be watching

Lord please help me

It will shock you that she will rig the DNA test if you act slow during the process....you don't know woman sha ....just dey look in 3D...

A. DNA test,