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Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by bigiyaro(m): 9:22am On Feb 07, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Thank God for ur family, obviously u r from a good home. But when u have experienced scenarios where wives murder their own husbands, divert dia husband's wealth to dia boyfriends, poison the kids minds against their father etc etc.....u can't but have a different viewing angle. Like they said, experience is the best teacher. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Chatbot1234: 9:24am On Feb 07, 2020 |
the people talking here cant do jack in life, double standard individuals, some of them grew up with other family people at one point or the other. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by ImaIma1(f): 9:24am On Feb 07, 2020 |
pocohantas: This is something I wasn't comfortable with. When my sister put to bed and she had to go back to work, I was the baby sitter but I rarely slept over. I would come in the morning and leave in the evening. Even her inlaws did same. We only slept over when it was absolutely necessary. We on both sides wanted to give them space because we are 6 kids from my family and they were 7 from the husband's side. Imagine the crowd. It's a mindset thing. You can't change it. Some people think they have a right in their brother's house and the wife is just an intruder. And the husband doesn't do anything to erase that idea. 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by AmTruth: 9:32am On Feb 07, 2020 |
This still lead to the feeling of Insecurity, the question is what was the man's relationship with his relations before the unfortunate incident. You have to understand the Root Cause of a matter before you can provide solutions. When you see families almost abandoning their child in time of challenges, the Root Cause in most cases is that he restricted or denied his relations access to himself or home. So most family do that as a payback. Inorder to avoid that, give relations Access to your home to visit or to stay, they would not stay forever. Women be Wise!!! pocohantas: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by tunize(m): 9:33am On Feb 07, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy:Meaning u are not accommodative. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 9:36am On Feb 07, 2020 |
The root cause is the whole love is AUDIO! Most men claim love from their families, yet most men are not taken care of by same family. AUDIO! It is not a coincidence that most kids rather go to their mother's side than father's. I don't need to be wise because I no fit marry man wey no WISE. Na man wey no get SENSE go turn a family home into chalet that people go in and out from. Thankfully I am not with such a man. ACCESS to my home? Home where my kids are? Tomorrow one ediot will start rubbing my kids vagina/penîs. God forbid I give every dick and harry ACCESS to my home. AmTruth: 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by tunize(m): 9:40am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Dem nvr born the girl wen go deprive my immediate relative by that i mean momsy, and younger ones from coming to visit me and her own go come visit. That is the more reason why as a guy before getting married set boundaries, let ur about to be wife know that u don't joke with ur family cos they are part of u. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Atolu01: 9:44am On Feb 07, 2020 |
The last one was some insecure person preventing another from getting car with their own money. Nigerian marriages shaaa. In-laws can visit, but they should behave themselves. Not so hard. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Ladycewhy(f): 9:47am On Feb 07, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:you know why, warn yourself, na new year be this. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 9:49am On Feb 07, 2020 |
pocohantas:I don't really think it's a poor people's problem. For instance,my mom is in her mid sixties with mostly grown up children scattered all over the place and no one to live full time with her at home. Do you think I will let her live alone when I know I have a functional family that can make sure she is well taken care of and be under my watch in case of any emergency? Does she living with me in this scenario mean she is poor? Also,about your dad coming to live in my house is almost impossible,unless of course we get along like buddies,if you think otherwise,maybe you should get your own house and stay with him there.Else you will be needing my permission to bring him over because;IT'S MY HOUSE It's just the way it works out here. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 9:51am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:.. Ok mah. Pele. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 9:51am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Adedayobusayo12:Every lady/new wife is innocent Every man is bed down select Na dem !!! You can avoid your dysfunctional family as much as you want , that doesn't mean other families have to be like you!!! Every dysfunctional family members should avoid one another!!! May be that is the stand of your husband too!!! But if he doesn't stand for that, you dare not change his stand on family unity!!! How about that?? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 9:53am On Feb 07, 2020 |
dominique:What is visiting without staying?? How do you expect them to visit this morning and must go that same day?? They will stay 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by AmTruth: 9:54am On Feb 07, 2020 |
There are exception to kind of home, that can't be disputed, but generally a man who shows disdain or paint his family black after all the sacrifices they contributed in making him who is he to you today is not a Wise Man. I can never paint my parents and siblings black after all that sacrificed for me. And for children going mostly to the wife's people depends on the information the woman feeds her children most times. And children work with that. No home can be called a Chalet and no person is absolutely an idiot. However if they are there are ways a Wise Man or his wife can Filter them out instead of saying no one visit or stay with us pocohantas: |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 9:55am On Feb 07, 2020 |
nwanneni: Maybe if your mum's husband was with her, she will most likely not leave him alone in the house to come stay with you. They will be busy enjoying their old age together. I am not married to you and would never marry a man with such mentality. I will marry a man that we will both contribute to the running of OUR house. That way, every major decision would be taken with respect for the other party. So, yes, it is a poor people's problem. Dangote is not planning to retire in Halima's house. Neither would Mo Abudu do same. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 9:56am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Simran94:Lie!! Never settle for less!! Cristiano did it and it worked for him!!! He sent Irina Shayk away when she was complaining about his mum!! See him enjoying Georgina now |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 9:57am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Misscongenialit:Forces to marry who?!! Someone that I personally bring to my Family after doing every necessaries?? She needs to mature!!! |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:05am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:How many kids does Georgina have for Ronaldo now? And she is still his girlfriend and not his wife. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:06am On Feb 07, 2020 |
pocohantas: Yeah !! mum , my grandma, my sistas ... women are low thinkers,regardless of cert. women are just selfish cos they will neva look @ things from two sides of the table. You keep shoutin cuppy, are you her PA or do you av an upclose on her life to know where she goes or stays, if you don't know she is the 1st child, n she visit her grandmother alot ... by the way cuppy is nt appropriate enuf 4 a yardstick ..buh as a low thinker you keep undermining tinz now lemme give you a better example. the kardashians, do you know how many times khloe stayed with kourtney & her ex scott, kim stayed with khloe & lamar then ... these ones even av personal houses buh wil leave it just to be together. it called family bond When its comes to emotion, a woman with phd wil sound same & lame as a pepper seller. All naa visiting , a person that visit you n stay an hour n sum1 that stayed 2weeks are both visitors, any stay that as a time frame is called a visit, my mum broda n dad sista lived with us for 6yrs buh dey sha left even we the children don leave as well, so stop been unreasonable, marriage is not by force. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:09am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Simran94:She has 2!!! Cristiano mum has already endorsed her!!! Unlike Irina Shayk |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by alexola20(m): 10:10am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Haha..lol It wasn't me oo.I really never take anything personal,but just the truth about this issue. I don't care how anyone manages their skin or what kind of multiple-coloured skin they try to achieve.But I think it's a display of internally-built low self esteem that will make someone bleach their skin. pocohantas: |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Fadoria: 10:11am On Feb 07, 2020 |
i love this write up,i dont joke with them cos i know what they ve done for me through out the stages of my life .... |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:13am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:Can you see that Ronaldo doesn't know what he wants? How can you be in a relationship with someone that long and she already has two children for you but yet you haven't married her? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by ruffDiamond: 10:18am On Feb 07, 2020 |
dominique:for your mind now now you don give me advice..submissive my ass!even disrespecting our mom!why?becos one idiat carry am go London?so for that she should turn her own family?na that bastard hubby send am go school shey?even me,I know what i contributed to her in my own little way while she was in school! this is how she decided to pay us back,well I'm sure in my . mind u are probably very capable of doing something worse!who know yr background and orientation.. make. no mistake about this,I don't need nada from her cos I'm doing averagely OK even as abj expensive reach,,but NOTHING like family, they are first line of DEFENSE in case of anything ..like the hubby turning out to a wife batterer.. as the situation is now ,we don't know much about her situation since she allowed the idiat cut us off..see,the way and manner you treat your immediate family you come from IS EXACTLY how your hubby will treat them! simple! mark this word and never forget it,I..if u give they are a problem,then he will see as problem as well, nobody is talking about being a liability to any of them or their marriage,,no, as far as concerned, I've never asked from her..just that she met a wicked man for hubby who prolly threaten to divorce her and send back Nigerian.. anything,so she just agree and for years now she hardly come down home communicate with a home..what do you call that?still a good loving.,t sister ABI? ladies are the problem..no loyalty, whether married or not.. whether family or not.. Especially Nigerian kind ..they are mostly cursed with making wrong,unwise choices, misplaced priority most the time like that stupid sister of mine..she will regret her actions in the course of time, karma never forget |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Sterope(f): 10:20am On Feb 07, 2020 |
In one sentence: Your family is more important to your wife than her family and her family is nothing to you! nwanneni: 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:21am On Feb 07, 2020 |
pocohantas:You will be shocked to see mo abudu in her son's house if she doesn't have company at old age. Very common with women as they find it very difficult to cope when they don't have someone to gossip with at home. Not a money thing at all.Besides,why are you mentioning the elite class that have all the company they might need in this sort of scenario? You should talk mostly about the upper and lower middle class,as that is where your reach is IMO. Abi you be elite?What do you think is the probability of you marrying up into that 1% that you don't belong in,in the first place? What I defined up there is pure truth in the middle class,go out more and see and stop making off assumptions. Of course you can't marry someone like me as I would so bend you and make sure you sit in your place.Otherwise that house go better burn. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:23am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Simran94:So, you are qualified to Judge Cristiano?? His relationship, His Money, his life, his partner-consent, his career!!! You are not qualified to say anything about how how him and Georgina are enjoying their lives!! If Georgina is not happy, she won't buy that expensive car for him on his Birthday... She sees him as her husband already!!! Some wives has never bought any tangible gift for their husbands to celebrate them since dating phase till date!!! And that is your El Dorado?? Anyway, those 2kids are through surrogate mothers!!! Celebrity things!!! |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:25am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Sterope:It's like you don't know how father in laws like to look down on son in laws and feel they know better I am not bringing another captain in my house that will want to challenge some of my authorities na. Very natural phenomenon,not about me hating my partner's people. MILs to me can stay as long as they want but FIL?HELL NO! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by ImaIma1(f): 10:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
bigiyaro: If you keep dwelling on the bad ones, how will you experience the good ones? Because even if it comes, you will repel it with your already formed mindset and preconceived notions. I had bad experiences with guys...disappointing and terrible ones. But I didn't allow that experience be my teacher. I still believed that there were good ones. And that good one found me. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:40am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:lol, you were the one who brought Ronaldo into the issue. And besides it is all Ronaldo's money, he will still end up returning the money. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Sterope(f): 10:45am On Feb 07, 2020 |
And Mothers in law don't act that way abi? Who told you it easy to live with an adult anyways? The funny part is the wife will also be able to control her father and take actions to let him understand boundaries. Swap the gender, it is going to be how the wife should learn to live with her new family when her own family wouldn't dare. What stupid authority? You no get wife or are you planning on marrying an adult who has an IQ of a baby?Or do you stop being human because you have a penis? nwanneni: 2 Likes |
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