Acidosis:

That's what you get when you marry your ancestor. A friend (mostly a partner in your age group) wouldn't cheat on you with a married woman of 4 kids.

It doesn't matter who he cheats with, even a 29 year old husband would cheat with the same single mother of four while her 37year old husband can cheat with a 22year old woman. Age does not determine the kind of person a man would cheat with.

Something is telling me that you caused your problem by nagging the poor man out to another woman's arm(a woman with kids). What do I know? Divorce is your best option. Thank you.

I don't really understand what some men want.
I bet he married a much younger woman because he wanted fresh blood with no baggage, now he cheats with an older woman with extra baggage, yuck!. Worst of all he had unprotected sex with her like he knows how many other men are fucking her, God have mercy.

Madam, sorry about what you are going through, it must be difficult.
It's better you zip up for now, relax your mind and give yourself peace, it is not your fault and you shouldn't feel bad. If you still love him and you have forgiven him, fine but i hope he won't bring home HIV next time.
Being HIV+ with fertility issue can make one consider suicide or murder weigh your options properly.

Randy100:
Something is telling me that you caused your problem by nagging the poor man out to another woman's arm(a woman with kids). What do I know? Divorce is your best option. Thank you.

The man has no excuse whatsoever to cheat.

Vyolet:
I don't really understand what some men want.
I bet he married a much younger woman because he wanted fresh blood with no baggage, now he cheats with an older woman with extra baggage, yuck!

Madam, sorry about what you are going through, it must be difficult.
It's better you zip up for now, relax your mind and give yourself peace, it is not your fault and you shouldn't feel bad. If you still love him and you have forgiven him, fine but i hope he won't bring home HIV next time.
Being HIV+ and fertility issue can make one co sister suicide, weigh your options properly.

I tell you, it's disheartening. I know of a man who gave his wife HIV, luckily for her she survived it, last time she was tested, wasn't found in her system anymore but the man died.

Vyolet:

It doesn't matter who he cheats with, even a 29 year old husband will cheat with the same single mother of four while her 37year old husband can cheat with a 22year old woman. Age does not determine the kind of person a man would cheat with.

Age does a lot my sister. There's no way a partner of same age group and life experiences will intentionally or unintentionally ruin his home by sleeping with an infected old auntie barely 3 years of marriage. With age comes experiences. The single mother has always been in the picture, long before madam "I love old men" finished secondary school.

Acidosis:


Age does a lot my sister. There's no way a partner of same age group and life experiences will intentionally or unintentionally ruin his home by sleeping with an infected old auntie barely 3 years of marriage. With age comes experiences. The single mother has always been in the picture, long before madam "I love old men" finished secondary school.

Nah, you can't be so sure, why did the man not go for his agemate or marry the single mother if he liked her that much.
Stop trying to look for a way to pass the blame to the lady, she is innocent in all these, by the way, love knows no age. For some, the older the better.

MANGAM:
Its the nature of men to cheat and sleep around. The only thing a man sees in every woman is sex. The man loves with is peniss and the woman with her heart. God created us this way.
It takes a lot of maturity and self control not to cheat as a man

speak for yourself and stop judging all men by your low standard.

faithfull18:

The man has no excuse whatsoever to cheat.

I agree with you 100% but a woman who wants her marriage to work will make it to work. Proverb 14 vs 1

faithfull18:

I tell you, it's disheartening. I know of a man who gave his wife HIV, luckily for her she survived it, last time she was tested, wasn't found in her system anymore but the man died.

She survived it, how?
She may be negative all along.

Vyolet:

She survived it, how?
She may be negative all along.

She did, She tested positive at the beginning and was on antiretroviral drugs, the man's family abandoned her despite knowing their son was the one who infected her.

But you know God is ever merciful, this is one of the cases I saw faith work, God did see her heart and innocence and He came through for her.

This is a true life story not hearsay.

Randy100:
I agree with you 100% but a woman who wants her marriage to work will make it to work. Proverb 14 vs 1

Marriage is a joint venture. Women have suffered in this life. If one party is arranging and the other is scattering, how will it work

God help singles not to marry their enemies.

faithfull18:

She did, She tested positive at the beginning and was on antiretroviral drugs, the man's family abandoned her despite knowing their son was the one who infected her.

But you know God is ever merciful, this is one of the cases I saw faith work, God did see her heart and innocence and He came through for her.

This is a true life story not hearsay.

I'm not disputing what God can do, he is that merciful and powerful but hope you know that prolong use of ARVs will make the virus undetectable and the victim would test negative as a matter of fact, the victim may not be able to infect another person during that period.

faithfull18:

Marriage is a joint venture. Women have suffered in this life. If one party is arranging and the other is scattering, how will it work

God help singles not to marry their enemies.

Amen

Vyolet:

I'm not disputing what God can do, he is that merciful and powerful but hope you know that prolong use of ARVs will make the virus undetectable and the victim would test negative as a matter of fact, the victim may not be able to infect another person during that period.

I don't think she takes the drugs anymore. This should be over 15years now.

If not for one thing I'd say God punish him.
I won't forget the Benue woman that died of Aids contracted by his womanizer of a spouse.

In future when you can't give birth he will blame you.
Tell him to marry the si gle mum now he will say God forbid!

What does the men want sef?

MANGAM:
Its the nature of men to cheat and sleep around. The only thing a man sees in every woman is sex. The man loves with is peniss and the woman with her heart. God created us this way.
It takes a lot of maturity and self control not to cheat as a man

I hope you remember this when your daughters bring such complaints to you.

Madam...you need to pull yourself together and work on your mental health since the physical health as been taken care. You have decided to stay...then stay without making a jombee out of yourself... Hopefully, he won't toy with HIV next time.


I'm sorry...your life is in your hands.

Acidosis:

That's what you get when you marry your ancestor. A friend (mostly a partner in your age group) wouldn't cheat on you with a married woman of 4 kids.

This is funny.

Dominiondominio:
I’m a 26 years old woman married to a 37 years old man. We have been married for almost 3years. We don’t have kids yet and 6 months ago I ended up in hospital with sepsis. The doctors originally thought it was caused by a kidney infection but later found that it was caused by Pelvic Inflammatory disease. They repeatedly asked about my sexual history but I have only slept with one person in the past 3years- my husband.I ended up having to have emergency surgery as the infection would not respond to the IV antibiotics they were giving me. I was in hospital for 10 days and have potential long- term damage which will affect my ability to have children.
I recently found out that my husband has cheated on me a number of times throughout our marriage and that the Pelvic inflammation was caused by untreated Gonorrhoea.
When I was discharged from hospital, he admitted that he has been cheating on me with a single mother of 4(unprotected sex ) And he got the gonorrhea!How irresponsible! I am completely devastated and don't want to believe that the love of my life could be so callous. I very nearly died and if it were not for the brilliant doctors who quickly recognised my symptoms. Of course the woman my husband got the gonorrhea from denied everything and I bet she won’t go get treated and will continue to spread this nasty and dangerous disease! She is done with having kids so why would she care, right? Well, I do want to have kids and I won’t let my fertility and health taken away! the emotional damage caused by the infidelity itself is horrible. I feel angry, dirty, and ugly. All I want to do is cry all day. I can’t talk to anyone about it because I feel so ashamed. The person I trust the most is my mother but i don't want to break her heart. I know that to her my happiness matters the most and I think she would be angry at me the rest of her life if I told her that I still love my husband. My husband feels remorseful and said he would never cheat on me again. He said he would choose me over any lifestyle and that he would give up everything for me. I have a very hard time trusting him again and I still don't know what I want from this whole thing. I just can't understand why my husband would have sex with a disgusting, nasty woman and betray me on so many levels. My pride got hurt so badly. I feel so ugly and worthless. My libido is absolutely gone. I feel empty inside. Then all the sudden I feel horrible, horrible anger and I want to break everything in sight. On some nights I can't sleep and sometimes I want to sleep all day. Most days I'm not even hungry and I have to force myself to eat something. I feel like I will never be happy again. I used to be a happy, confident, bubbly person, now my zest for life is gone. Is this normal? Will these feelings ever go away?

Aunty,

If you can't have kids (according to the doctor), please start planning of adoption now. If you can with medical treatments, please start now.

Also decide if you still want the marriage.

Goodluck.

Acidosis:

That's what you get when you marry your ancestor. A friend (mostly a partner in your age group) wouldn't cheat on you with a married woman of 4 kids.

You know little about real life

What's happened, has happened
In my opinion, that marriage isn't worth its salt. Not only did he cheat, he also gave you a nasty infection with complications. He's definitely the enemy within, and you've been sleeping with the enemy
The cheating will continue. Facts. And possibly with same woman and others too.
Do you want children with such a man?
With regards to procreating, it's still very possible. If your tubes aren't both damaged, pregnancy may still occur naturally. Otherwise, you have the option of IVF.
Your risks of ectopic pregnancy has probably gone up too, if I may add.
He did you dirty, real dirty.

What's even more bewildering is the fact that this man knew he had gonorrhea, treated himself and kept mum to his wife .
He didnt even have the decency to get her treated, even if it's under the guise of lies such as it's an old infection which was discovered incidentally when he went for routine medicals or something. He treated himself and kept quiet about it.
That one can kill o

You are too young to go thro this, pls. No woman or man should be advised to remain with an unfaithful partner. First of all, forgive him, then, pray to God for direction if you are a Christian. Be strong, don’t let an undeserving man ruin u.

Nigeria, my con3. the cheating capital of the world.

The worst thing to do as a man is sex married woman..


And by the way, if he promised to have repent... Please always leave condoms in his pocket so that he won't bring terminal disease for you.

MANGAM:
[s]Its the nature of men to cheat and sleep around[/s]. The only thing a man sees in every woman is sex. The man loves with is peniss and the woman with her heart. God created us this way.
It takes a lot of maturity and self control not to cheat as a man

This is so wrong on every ground, a godly man doesn't think this way.

MANGAM:
Its the nature of men to cheat and sleep around. The only thing a man sees in every woman is sex. The man loves with is peniss and the woman with her heart. God created us this way.
It takes a lot of maturity and self control not to cheat as a man

I dont think the average Caucasian male will agree with this nature

There is love in sharing jo. That is why it is called for better for worse.

MANGAM:
Its the nature of men to cheat and sleep around. The only thing a man sees in every woman is sex. The man loves with is peniss and the woman with her heart. God created us this way.
It takes a lot of maturity and self control not to cheat as a man

Funny enough if the woman is your daughter you wont sit her down to tell her this horseshit

dis nearly brought me to tears...dis ar d things we want for Fp..not "hear d sound of tasha's fart in d kichen"