Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake.

Your feeling is right.

If you have a source of income, give birth to your baby and take care of him/her.
Things will fall in place , at the right time.


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give birth to your baby. and next time be smart. dont trust any man with your body.pray to God to find a caring man for you

I guess he's going through a tough time there just like he complained about not having money. Most men don't really know how to handle difficult times. Just give him benefit of doubt and bear with him for a while and don't complain or nag then watch if he'll change. And please don't tamper with the pregnancy.

When a man of integrity is broke, he distances himself even from those he loves. Is your boyfriend a man of his word? Consider that.

Personally I wouldn't recommend abortion due to the likely complications, and your age. And the fact that it is for someone you truly love. And what if God doesn't bless you with another child later?

My advice is deliver the child and raise him by yourself. Even if he rejects the child, it is yours for you to love.

Any relationship of Morethan 2years without any direction shouldn't be continued and if you are someone that does know her direction and what she wants, you should ask questions and from his answers, you will know which direction the relationship is leading. You obviously wasted your youthful exuberance and looks on a dot, and now, the old man has rejected you.
I'm Sorry, but ask yourself if you are willing to do this or not.

thesicilian:
When a man is broke, he distances himself even from those he loves.

Don't make excuse for that man, cos he's broke, he's allowed to abandon his girlfriend of 10years and you didn't see the wickedness of that man?. He knows what he's doing.

I blame the lady sha.

You mean you have been faithful to a guy you aren't married to for 10 years?
Or he is just the best of your men.

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

That is not my point.

Some people make decisions in the early stage of life, and later regret it.
It could be that the man is scared became, according the the lady, he is broke , at the moment. He will appreciate the fact that she did not terminate the pregnancy, when the money finally starts flowing....

Do not also forget, that the man accepted the pregnancy.

I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Flexherbal:


Your feeling is right.

If you have a source of income, give birth to your baby and take care of him/her.

Things will fall in place , at the right time.

thank u for this advice. No need for me to drop mine.

Samyj247:
thank u for this advice. No need for me to drop mine.

You can still add, Sir.

you may do abortion and die
You may give birth and see him next in 2030. U no get sense getting pregnant

except if ur guy really really really loves you then he will make provision for you when he travels overseas.if na casual relationship just forget it he will meet other girls there.

Flexherbal:


You can still add, Sir.

no need bro because ur talk stand erect like a strong and long lasting Dk

Samyj247:
no need bro because ur talk stand erect like a strong and long lasting Dk

Hahahahhaahahhaha!

So because you’re broke, you’ll now ignore your lover of 10 years who is pregnant for you? Making the poor lady doubt herself and question the relationship? This same man has not talked about marriage or settling down.

To op, this man has wasted enough of your time please. He has probably found someone else abroad. As for your child, it is not the end of the world. Your child will bring blessings to you and you will find a man who will love and accept you wholeheartedly. Good luck.

TO ALL THE PEOPLE ADVOCATING ABORTION, JUST KNOW THAT THE FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS ARE VERY VERY SENSITIVE. ALL YOU YOUNG GIRLS DESTROYING YOUR UTERUS WITH PILLS, ABORTIONS ETC WILL FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONCEIVE LATER ON IN LIFE! GO TO A FERTILITY CLINIC AND SEE HOW MILLIONS OF WOMEN ARE SUFFERING AND CRYING. I PRAY NONE OF YOU WILL BE IN THAT POSITION.

thesicilian:
When a man of integrity is broke, he distances himself even from those he loves. Is your boyfriend a man of his word? Consider that.

Personally I wouldn't recommend abortion due to the likely complications, and your age. And the fact that it is for someone you truly love. And what if God doesn't bless you with another child later?

My advice is deliver the child and raise him by yourself. Even if he rejects the child, it is yours for you to love.

Flexherbal:


That is not my point.

Some people make decisions in the early stage of life, and later regret it.
It could be that the man is scared became, according the the lady, he is broke , at the moment. He will appreciate the fact that she did not terminate the pregnancy, when the money finally starts flowing....

Do not also forget, that the man accepted the pregnancy.

His tactics is well known. Why did he stop calling and picking calls? You didn't see that too?

olabrinks:
So because you’re broke, you’ll now ignore your lover of 10 years who is pregnant for you? Making the poor lady doubt herself and question the relationship? This same man has not talked about marriage or settling down.

To op, this man has wasted enough of your time please. He has probably found someone else abroad. As for your child, it is not the end of the world. Your child will bring blessings to you and you will find a man who will love and accept you wholeheartedly. Good luck.

Wasn't trying to justify his actions though, just that one can never really jump into concluding that the man has fully abandoned her.
At least we're on the same page about keeping the pregnancy.

Are you surprised of all the comments above? It only shows how wickeddd majority of men are. He said he is broke, but had money to pay in and out of the country. A good man should stand by his lady through thick and thin, if he doesn't, then he is a wickeddd coward. As for you OP, give birth to the child, don't abort. You have to carry the pregnancy for 9months, nurture the child after birth, before you can even think of going into a new relationship. However, during this time frame, you may likely hear from your guy, all hopes aren't lost. If you still don't hear from him, then you will know you need to move on.

Preshy561:

His tactics is well known. Why did he stop call in and picking calls? You didn't see that too?

May we not meet someone that would waste our time.. 10 effing years... He probably has given birth over there... I wouldn't advice that you abort the pregnancy.. Kindly give birth to the baby, he would come back to his sense(s)..

I'm sorry for your experiences but it's wrong of you to terminate the pregnancy you are probably wasting a future president, governor, inventor, engineer or whatever you want to call it. since he hasn't denied impregnating you I believe you are safe I will advise that you go to his people no matter how crazy a man will be his mother will be glad to accept the baby and that will be an impetus to play safe with you then those claiming that he will find another lady there are they not aware that many of these guys abroad always have their real kids here in naija please no mind them keep the pregnancy you are independent according to your write-up just look at that developing baby in your womb and think of the love and bond you feel now and don't about it please things will pick up again please don't

Don't even think of aborting that innocent child. Give birth to the baby. As for your Man, give it time, things might still work out as long as he hasn't moved on with another woman and probably gotten her pregnant already sef..

I believe with time he will make you know his stand and decisions and if he tells you he has moved on, just do the same. Get busy and raise your child

THOU SHALL NOT KILL

DO NOT KILL THAT FETUS

LilMissFavvy:
Are you surprised of all the comments above? It only shows how wickeddd majority of men are. He said he is broke, but had money to pay in and out of the country. A good man should stand by his lady through thick and thin, if he doesn't, then he is a wickeddd coward. As for you OP, give birth to the child, don't abort. You have to carry the pregnancy for 9months, nurture the child after birth, before you can even think of going into a new relationship. However, during this time frame, you may likely hear from your guy, all hopes aren't lost. If you still don't hear from him, then you will know you need to move on.

The way they always rush in to defend senselessness and cowardice isn't surprising, cos in reality, most of them are literally hopeless.
Some girls suppose deh get sense sha. As for the op, I won't tell her to keep or abort, she knows what's best for her.

Preshy561:

His tactics is well known. Why did he stop call in and picking calls? You didn't see that too?

From her tone, she does not want to terminate the pregnancy, we should not encourage her to.

There is always light , at the end of every tunnel.

Lamanii22:
I wouldn't advice that you abort the pregnancy.. Kindly give birth to the baby, he would come back to his sense(s)..

Same thing I suggested.

Flexherbal:


From her tone, she does not want to terminate the pregnancy, we should not encourage her to.

There is always light , at the end of every tunnel.

I will be the last person to choose a path for her. She knows what she wants though.