LilMissFavvy:
Are you surprised of all the comments above? It only shows how wickeddd majority of men are. He said he is broke, but had money to pay in and out of the country. A good man should stand by his lady through thick and thin, if he doesn't, then he is a wickeddd coward. [b]As for you OP, give birth to the child, don't abort. You have to carry the pregnancy for 9months, nurture the child after birth, before you can even think of going into a new relationship. [/b]However, during this time frame, you may likely hear from your guy, all hopes aren't lost. If you still don't hear from him, then you will know you need to move on.

The bolded is the same thing we are all saying.

No one will support an act of irresponsibility.
He is wrong for going cold on her.

Dear OP abort that foetus.

This will save you from a lot of financial hurdle and embarrassment. Having this child, eap if it turns to be a male will jeopardize your chances of getting another Man. Unless u are planning not to marry again.

Don't let others push you around like burnt turkey with hopeless sentiments.

Make away with the foetus and move on with your life

Pls OP, I know what you are going/thinking now about your present condition today but please remember to comeback to this forum tomorrow and tell us how you were treated like a QUEEN by same man people are throwing stones to, I believe he is coming back for you in no distance time with a very surprised package, as for your baby keep your child because that will be the link/bond to glue you two tommorow.

The op truth is that guy maybe having difficulties u know lack of money, running from immigration police, begging for food etc.

He could be okay too but lying to you and is no longer interested in you .

Follow your mind

Tell him what you've decided to do about the preggy.

Follow your mind

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.
I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good. He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy. Recently he complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag. I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

don't abort that child it is same as commuting murder the child did not beg to be conceived God is watching you and I don't think he will be happy for whatsoever reason you choose to abort you ,you might this k you can do it and ask for forgiveness that will be foolishness on your path because you already knew that abortion is a sin on the contrary while will you open your leg for anyone who had not married you,sex does not guaranty that a man will marry in most cases the man loses interest because he has experienced you already so what's the need for marriage I am just saying u have to keep that baby and hope you boyfriend still loves u at the end ask yourself how God will feel abort you commuting murder so you will know the dire consequences of your action it is terrible because now you have defiled your hands with the blood of the innocent and that blood will speak against you in all ramification

Give birth to the baby. Don’t abort, with time everything will fall into places.

I'm not pro anything life or choice. So I can't tell you what to do.
All I can say is, call him, lay all your cards on the table, hear what he has to say, have a heart to heart talk with yourself,you should be able to know what to do.

Guys are saying "keep the baby". I have no problem with that.
Yet I see insults being heaped on ladies past the age of 28 and single mothers on this forum every fvcking day. Very nauseating. You don't want her to abort, you say it's sinful, fine.
Yet you call her likes "baby mama".OK, let her abort, you'd still say she's an "evening newspaper".
What!?

Is his family members aware of your relationship?

If they are, then talk to them about it especially his mother and sister's .

Should their response comes out positive then keep the pregnancy .

Note: dude may become hostile if u take this approach ..

Are your parents aware of your relationship with him? then talk to them about it starting with the easiest to pass the message to the other ..

They may encourage and support you to keeping the pregnancy

After all na only 9 months person dey shame for belle but when pikin land you go see celebration ..

Lastly ..

Please check with a fertility clinic to know your chances of getting pregnant again in case you decide to go for an abortion

Going straight to have abortions without prior visits to fertility experts have made some women childless in their marriages..

I wish u well.

Give birth to the baby. There. Will. Be joy in the morning time.

I guess you should speak to your other guardian and the young man's family if he has one.Do not abort, people are spending millions looking for children you want to abort simply because the guy said he is broke.Y don't you women take birth prevention drugs .He is obviously going through a phase,the idea of being a father.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.
I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good. He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy. Recently he complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag. I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

I don wait sotey....I don dey lose weight o

Too long a relationship has its negative side, unfortunately you are experiencing one

After 5 years he came to Nigeria with no future plan wth u and he ends up impregnating u, Naija gurls when una go get sense?

I feel the Op felt she could use pregnancy to tie the man down, now she is in a deep shit.

Carry your mata, I wasn't dere when dick dey enter pussy last December.

OP I will tell you the gospel truth, if that pregnancy is not far along please abort it NOW!

Don’t listen to people that tell you “things will fall in place” it’s obvious he doesn’t want it and even if he comes around later what about YOU and YOUR future.

All this sentimental comments and all telling you about “working” and taking care of the baby shows you how wicked and hopeless some Nigerians are, the youths without kids can’t even get a job.

The one saying the child maybe a president, what about the millions of kids loitering Nigeria. Doesn’t presidency suit them?

Kids are freaking expensive! Diaper that used to be so cheap has increased over 200%

You see this Nigerian men encouraging you to give birth will still be the ones to insult you after you do.
They just want to eat their cake and have it, after you’ve given birth and taking care of the baby alone they would come and lay claim after all the courts in this part of our world is bullshît and our religious dolts around will ask you to forgive after all papa na papa, so he would never bear any consequences for his actions.

More women have died during childbirth than during abortions.

Go to a gynecologist and get a safe abortion.



SINGLE MOTHERS AND THEIR KIDS SUFFER A GREAT STIGMA IN NIGERIA.

You mean you went into unprotected sex before marriage? Keep the preg and have your baby.
But have in your mind that he'll not likely marry you. In his mind, he knows that you want to use preg to tie him down. ..ko le work

Flexherbal:
Your feeling is right.
If you have a source of income, give birth to your baby and take care of him/her.
Things will fall in place , at the right time.

At 29, she had better keep the baby and get a job if she has none to feed herself and the child.
Not too many options for a 29 year old woman in our country of surplus women.

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

U need to purge urself of so much hate.....its not healthy

Hmmm

Mstick:
OP I will tell you the gospel truth, if that pregnancy is not far along please abort it NOW!
Don’t listen to people that tell you “things will fall in place” it’s obvious he doesn’t want it and even if he comes around later what about YOU and YOUR future.
All this sentimental comments and all telling you about “working” and taking care of the baby shows you how wicked and hopeless some Nigerians are, the youths without kids can’t even get a job.
The one saying the child maybe a president, what about the millions of kids loitering Nigeria. Doesn’t presidency suit them?
Kids are freaking expensive! Diaper that used to be so cheap has increased over 200%
You see this Nigerian men encouraging you to give birth will still be the ones to insult you after you do.
They just want to eat their cake and have it, after you’ve given birth and taking care of the baby alone they would come and lay claim after all the courts in this part of our world is bullshît and our religious dolts around will ask you to forgive after all papa na papa, so he would never bear any consequences for his actions.
More women have died during childbirth than during abortions.
Go to a gynecologist and get a safe abortion.
SINGLE MOTHERS AND THEIR KIDS SUFFER A GREAT STIGMA IN NIGERIA.

Do childless spinsters suffer more or less stigma in our country compared with a single mother?

When a man suddenly changes his attitude is because of
1. He has met a new girl
2. He has met a new girl
3. He has met a new girl
4. He has met a new girl
5. He has met a new girl
6. He has met a new girl

PLS DONT DO ABORTION

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

babe things are hard everywhere
Dont abort the pregnancy and all that guy needs is time to hustle but the coming of this pregnancy Will distract him a lot, if u are financially Independent jus take care of the child

Call him and threaten that you going to abort the pregnancy and see what his reaction will be.
No matter his reaction, never you abort!!!

Do not abort the baby. Deliver the baby and take care of the baby. You dated him for 10 years. Where do you want to start from now. Who will you date now at this stage. You are 29 and very soon 30. Time is not on your side. Deliver the baby, Get a job and take care of the baby. God will help you your yankee boyfriend will see reason either come for you, for the baby or for both of you. Goodluck.

Has he take you to his parents? Keep that pregnancy. Visit his parents and let them know your conditions

...but will u like to be called human eater or murderer wen d “old-fool” finally comes to claim his child?
I think she shud bear with him, some men are babies

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

Treatment

If a care(prayerful) is not taken, you are already a baby mama,yes you’ve made a mistake but the greater mistake is to abort the preg..leave the preg and pray for the relationship, 10 years is not a joke I bet he has a feelings too... I can assure u ur guy is still yours, mark my word.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Most people will not like my advice to you, but, I will still give it.

Don't allow anyone to turn you to a single mummy, men find it hard settling down with single moms. Society are not nice to single mums.

That you dated someone for 10yrs doesn't mean they will marry you. "We will marry those we will marry, and we will date those we will date. "

Although, you can keep the baby if you know you are emotionally ready, financial ready, and matured to handle the stigimatization that comes from society For being a single mom.

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