Ladycewhy:
She came here to hear the truth ,I am just telling it as it is . If he has not married her all this while it will be foolish to think a pregnancy will make him do the needful. A whole decade wasted on a directionless relationship , people dey try sha. I am suspecting that guy has a live-in gf or even wife there sef. Fear all this disapora men

It's not not all dispora guys that does their things that way some are good and some are bad, but be that as it may be, many do marry for paper sake, and later quit, only to go back home and pick up a Nigerian lady.

Preshy561:
Any relationship of Morethan 2years without any direction shouldn't be continued and if you are someone that does know her direction and what she wants, you should ask questions and from his answers, you will know which direction the relationship is leading. You obviously wasted your youthful exuberance and looks on a dot, and now, the old man has rejected you.
I'm Sorry, but ask yourself if you are willing to do this or not.

this this local Nigerian girl u think every relationship that will lead to marriage abi travel out and see 4 ur self local tin

WildChild00:



It's not not all dispora guys that does their things that way some are good and some are bad, but be that as it may be, many do marry for paper sake, and later quit, only to go back home and pick up a Nigerian lady.

but this her case is very different,they were dating before he left ,one would have expected that when he came back it was to do the marriage ceremony that he came for ,infact that should have been the first sign to her that he doesn't have plans for her. A man that is serious would have made it his mission to come back and put a ring on it after being away for so long not to come back and chop kpekus and score goal. .

Let me advise you... don't abort that baby... I am a doctor I am know how women so women struggle to have children...tears, agony anxiety shame hmnn ... keep this baby God blessed you with before you start visiting prayer mountain in future... keep your baby... Forget that guy...time is not on your side ... don't waste your youthfulness waiting for abroad boyfriend (you waited enough 10yrs)....get a job to feed your baby.... package yourself well ...call upon God to give you a husband.... single mothers get married , don't let anyone deceive you.....get a husband now...that your abroad guy may never marry you..do you want to wait till you are 40 .... forget that abroad guy..... package yourself beautifully ...call upon God he will give you a husband

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

ALL you have at the moment is YOU. Focus on your self development with passion and make sure you have a stable source of income.

DO NOT ABORT. With God on your side, another man will come your way if he chooses to remain an a**hole.

All the best.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

First consideration...Give birth to your baby......sometimes children are difficult to get when you are married. It is better to not have married but have children than to marry and not have children. Your child will always be a source of joy to you.

nijabazaar:
Dear OP abort that foetus.

This will save you from a lot of financial hurdle and embarrassment. Having this child, eap if it turns to be a male will jeopardize your chances of getting another Man. Unless u are planning not to marry again.

Don't let others push you around like burnt turkey with hopeless sentiments.

Make away with the foetus and move on with your life

This is pure heartless and wickedness! If your parent had aborted you would you be here to type this thrash? Do you even have respect for life? Please, never you advice anyone to kill, because it might just get to you... Be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it...
Your advice is so crude and mean without thought! Yes, eeveryone is entitled to his opinion but be filtered at least.

Mstick:
OP I will tell you the gospel truth, if that pregnancy is not far along please abort it NOW!

Don’t listen to people that tell you “things will fall in place” it’s obvious he doesn’t want it and even if he comes around later what about YOU and YOUR future.

All this sentimental comments and all telling you about “working” and taking care of the baby shows you how wicked and hopeless some Nigerians are, the youths without kids can’t even get a job.

The one saying the child maybe a president, what about the millions of kids loitering Nigeria. Doesn’t presidency suit them?

Kids are freaking expensive! Diaper that used to be so cheap has increased over 200%

You see this Nigerian men encouraging you to give birth will still be the ones to insult you after you do.
They just want to eat their cake and have it, after you’ve given birth and taking care of the baby alone they would come and lay claim after all the courts in this part of our world is bullshît and our religious dolts around will ask you to forgive after all papa na papa, so he would never bear any consequences for his actions.

More women have died during childbirth than during abortions.

Go to a gynecologist and get a safe abortion.



SINGLE MOTHERS AND THEIR KIDS SUFFER A GREAT STIGMA IN NIGERIA.

Does anyone have right to life? Do you think what of she does it and can't have any again, what will become of that? When you think right, also think left....
#SayNoToAbortion

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake.
I need advice.

Then you need to change your moniker ? You are not strong ! If you have a source of income then go ahead and leave it . You women are funny sha... he is going about equilbrum mental change ! He stays far off, you pregnant, how sure he owns it? [He needs time to convince himself he owns it] [s] we wey dey here self need do DNA by age 1[/s] also you women carry baby for 9month, men we carry family [wife,kids,extended famz] for LIFE TIME, even in the grave 6feet still this "CRIES OF OUR NAMES,NOT TO SLEEP IN HEAVEN AND REMEMBER ONES WE LEFT BEHIND" WHEN MAN GO REST?
baby do this, baby do that..... you wan kill BABY?
softly ma sister: you are worried, he is worried. 2 wrongs at a time cant be right . If he is not strong at the moment, then be A STRONGMERCY.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

I’ll advice you as I’ll advice any of my four daughters.

You don’t have to be with a man to have a child.

Life’s too short to be miserable. If you’re not fulfilled by your current boyfriend then terminate the relationship and get into another one.

I’m very anti abortion (very pro responsible procreations) unless it’s for medical purposes.

Good luck.

Most girls are really foolish honestly. Do you think getting pregnant for him is prerequisite for marrying you? No. Always ask your guy questions in a clear language. Honey would you marry me? If he said yes then you ask again when. You don't own time to begin to be wasting it. Ask the guy to send his people to your place for wine carrying and if he said no then go on with abortion. He was just giving you excuses of not having money. How much will it cost him to establish marriage with your family? Maybe #50000 and he said he doesn't have money. Don't bring out any child you know you cannot raise properly especially given the harsh economic condition of the country. You entered into a relationship probably from your secondary school instead of thinking of a course to study at university. That shows you a wayward girl that lacks ambition and focus. Dating shouldn't exceed two years while the rest is marriage.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Look at the image , that's how your child looks in your stomach. Killing an innocent child never tells good of us. How beautiful is she in that stomach, protect her and give her the best of care.. Please, its true stigmatization shall be before you, but it's for a time. What will be will be. I don't support abortion.
#SayNo
#ProtectTheUnborn

God bless. I can't say much but let God guide your decisions

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

He is not an idiot,otherwise the pregnant lady is carrying an idiotic child.It takes two to tango.You don't know the current challenges the guy is facing abroad...you sound pained and personal by the way,hope you haven't been 'preyed' on by one 'idiot"

You havent told him that youre considering abortion. Youve said he doesnt have plans for you but what are your own plans for him or even yourself? No advice here can make any sense until you tell him what youre feeling and get his reaction.

Do you know any member of his family at all? Try to ask them whats up with your boyfriend before making your decision

What do your own parents think?

I mean has he ever made mention of marrying you at all? 5 years outside of the country should be enough time to let you know his plans already

Are you sure he doesnt have anybody else over there? Or even somebody here Hmm. 10 years! As in 2010. You really tried ha!

Well, normally I would tell you to save yourself, abort and LEAVE that unproductive relationship, however there is not enough information available here for us to advise you.

Good luck sis

We that we are here in Nigeria ..

We no get gf..


Abroad based dey get gf for 9ja..


Iru wahala wo leleyi oooo

Well, well, let's assume the story was fake and just attention grabbing, so what? We all got an opportunity to react one way or the other and learnt from other contributors. It will be a pointer also for any one(lady) that's about to fall into such situation. And guess what, it may be real- not many are able to arranged their thoughts like you would have-'"Eni ija oba. l'o npe ara e l'okunrin'". When situation arise, even the ghost of the wise will find his/her corpse at the backyard of a foolish man/woman!

luminouz:


Its so easy to get you riled up sha. Would have thought you would see the story is a fuqin fake. I mean,look a the red flags naaaah....
You dated a guy for 10 years and seemed so unsure of him or his ways of life? What did u do in the 5 years he left? Why would you wanna abort,do you not have a job,support from parents and all? Which 29 year old woman comes online to solicit for advice to remove her baby in such a manner? Does she even need to say a damn thing?

Finally,the title says 'why I want abortion'.. Pretty conclusive right? Does she need to come here and say anything again? But content says 'do I abort it,please advice me'

You wasted your emotions on the topic. I don't waste mine on such

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

Ogun ati Sango lo ma kpa iwo omo ale!

Why call the innocent man names already? You think all ladies date touts like you? How many years and counting you still dey NL and ranting feminism...no husband,no boyfriend. Op,Don't listen to this expired milk o,na seasoned akata.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Did he come to Nigeria to propose to you? Or just sex? is he still in contact with your family?
Has he been sending money? Is any plan already in motion for you to come and join him? After 5 years

If there’s nothing till now... sister move on.
You’ll just be a baby mama with abroad husband. If you don’t mind that.. then continue

Preshy561:

So, tomorrow, the useless old fool will come claim ownership of the child cos that's what most of these idiots do.

Isn't that better than having an abortion that could lead to death or womb damage
Infact if the so called useless old fool comes back for the baby then he's mad
Though the child has the right to know who his/her father is but should love his mom for keeping him/her
Abortion is not the solution

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

abort it. Do you stay in Lagos?

simplepee:
He's not going through shit. Men can change in a twinkle of an eye, they are so confused .

Op please since you said you are independent, do keep the baby.

The fact that you keep meeting the chameleons does not make all men the same. Haba! Let's put an end to all these generalisation already!

Chingykay77:

Isn't that better than having an abortion that could lead to death or womb damage
Infact if the so called useless old fool comes back for the baby then he's mad
Though the child has the right to know who his/her father is but should love his mom for keeping him/her
Abortion is not the solution

story story, if she meets a gynaecologist for the abortion, chances of those side effects are greatly reduced.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

I was having a discussion closer to this with someone just yesterday

Madam,
A lot is expected of an average Nigerian youth, that if the foundation were not laid for them earlier in life it becomes very difficult to achieve close to half at the peak of their age.different people handle things differently same as the way we absorb pressure. try as much as possible not to make your self another battle he has to win rather forge ye an Armour and join him in the battle.

my point:
if he is not good at absorbing pressures dnt give him some.
Dnt put your self in pity position,show him how strong you can be always (every man needs that scenes from their lady when shit is going south).
i did not see a place you said you are working on your writ-up ,hope you are not heaping financial responsibilities on him too bcs i see you higlighted of him complaining of being broke (cos the way ladies task oversee boys is way different).
Get a job and have the baby,.give him time,.alot of time

but if your guts is telling you otherwise them who am i.. you should know him far better after 10years

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Your coming child is the only solid ground you got left , all other grounds seem to be sinking sand. Keep your baby by all means. May God sustain His mercy on you.

please give birth to your child, it will be very tough but u have to be strong, a relationship of ten years u just made him realize u do not have an option or u are not attractive enough for another man, no man adores a woman that is not wanted by other men it means she is unappealing, the guy may be broke as he claimed but i doubt if he is for real, he certainly has other women there while u slave urself here, ladies when una suppose get sense una no de get.....this may be the only child u will have or the destined child to fulfill all your dreams so plz do not offend God more by killing him, that child will more likely be a boy, boyz come out in such circumstances to make an unbelievable career like C. Ronaldo that was almost aborted!...repent of your sins and ask God for help and forgiveness...that child is a child of destiny do not kill him! one day you will remember this post, i pray it will be for a positive memory

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.




He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Abort it. Especially if you are not ready for a child.

Most women do get pregnant later, especially when done by a professional.
The real truth many Nigerians, especially the religious ones don't want you to know is that only 1% of women who commit abortion regret it.

Then if your abroad bf is not ready to marry you, pls dump him. You just wasted a decade on the man

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

To start with, don't go for abortion despite all odds. In addition to that, your so called boy friend is in a serious relationship that got him his papers where he's residing. That's if he's not legally married. He's only using excuse of not having money in order for you to abort the child. If truly, my above listed points are not valid, he would have seek for at least small traditional marriage with few family members.

It's a pity. However, keep the baby and work harder.

Villain7:


Look at the image , that's how your child looks in your stomach. Killing an innocent child never tells good of us. How beautiful is she in that stomach, protect her and give her the best of care.. Please, its true stigmatization shall be before you, but it's for a time. What will be will be. I don't support abortion.
#SayNo
#ProtectTheUnborn

God bless. I can't say much but let God guide your decisions

that's a lie especially Early in the pregnancy.

Stop all this sentimental emotional blackmail.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

He is trying to be sure the baby is his. So, you have your job cut out for you. If that baby is not his own, forget about him and move on with your life. If the baby is his own, make sure you have that baby no matter what.

why would I advice this kind of person when it obviously showing the guy doesn't care and she knows.Relationship for 10 gud years,no introduction, no nothing hmm just because is abroad?? aren't u seeing guys around if ur attitude is gud enough? u better wake from slumber befr it too late.

Enemyofpeace:
Some people go just dey deceive themselves with long distance relationship. This same guy the op is talking about is happily married with tree childrens here at iyana Liverpool in London. You are there waiting for him. Dont go and look for seun or lalasticlala and pin your pregnancy on them before it is two late. For your information i am in love with dominique.

I haven;t laughed so hard in a while like i did after readidng your post. lol you might be right though, you are 88% correct.. it happens to get kpali no be here oo