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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 12:51am On Feb 14, 2020 |
cococandy:They get so fvcking heated. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 1:29am On Feb 14, 2020 |
elektra: Why are you so upset? 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by haryomikun(m): 3:03am On Feb 14, 2020 |
We4all:Stewpid talk 9 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by mejai(m): 5:56am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:14am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Painment everywhere, a man and woman is cheating, its only the woman cheating that is paining them, a woman left her kids for the husband to take care of, they are loosing their mind cos of it, it is painful when being served the usual vomit they dish out, yeah, deal with it. 47 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Vicyace: 7:28am On Feb 14, 2020 |
elektra: You would do same thing right? |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Vicyace: 7:29am On Feb 14, 2020 |
haryomikun: Yeah. Absolutely irritating comment. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Uyi168: 7:39am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Arsenate:.. What about your personal experience with mum?? 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by ikennamadu1(m): 8:02am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth:You can type rubbish.... Shame no dey catch u 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by thorpido(m): 8:23am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Wetin una dey always gain with these gender wars? Anyway,I guess the adrenaline effect is exciting for una. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Acidosis(m): 8:55am On Feb 14, 2020 |
OcVoice: You get time sha. Why are you begging/pleading? You have to develop yourself enough to throw a party when someone walks out of your life. It's an avenue to expand your experience and grow. There are no regrets in my book and, more importantly, I don't suffer heartbreaks. The signs are always there for you to watch and prepare! So before you make the attempt to leave, I am already gone (in my mind). Also, men need to learn to set their rules. Society shouldn't always tell us what to do. Today is Val and the typical man is out there running helter skelter from one cinema to another restaurant all in the attempt to impress the woman with our society's meaning of love. Men stup!dly do this out of fear of neglect and heartbreak. Like Sango or Obatala, they fear their gods (women) will abandon them if they fail to perform the yearly ritual. We have turned women into smaller gods we must appease to avoid wrath and calamity. Real gods/God (like mothers and our heavenly father) do not unleash terror because we fail to praise them. Think of those times you failed to praise God. Think of those times you failed to celebrate your mother on "Mother's day". Did your mother abandon you? Men now act out of fear of abandonment and loneliness, and love of pleasure and other mundane things that can't stand the test of time or lack. Even if you love to spend or cherish your spouse's beautiful face more than your life, create a dummy scenario like these things don't matter to you sometimes. 57 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by SocialJustice: 9:03am On Feb 14, 2020 |
Lol, old gist. My first experience of this was way back in university, 2008. They didn't even mind I was there, maybe because I came to see their boss. It was like people in their teens talking who just started having sex. Jumping from one sex partner to the other but they were actually senior university officers in their 50s and 60s. 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by nahzyla: 9:08am On Feb 14, 2020 |
OcVoice: Hahahaha It's in this same Nairaland men were saying they don't owe women who suffered with them anything, and the post got so many likes. Their justification was that they didn't force the woman to suffer with them, she chose to do it so they don't owe her gratitude or loyalty. Another one said that men who become rich after suffering are free to leave their wives for better ones because the women didn't do anything to improve themselves. I really hope women don't fall for all these 'you must suffer with your man scam'. Ladies, do it because you want to, and bear in mind you are likely to get ungratefulness back. 51 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Acidosis(m): 9:24am On Feb 14, 2020 |
nahzyla: Technically, a man do not owe you anything because you suffered with him. You're meant to enjoy/suffer with your man. You're (assuming you're an ideal virtuous woman) to take both sides in good faith. No one is born to suffer but when suffering comes as a result of what you did or didn't do, you take it in good faith. I will personally dump any woman that tells me "I suffered with you" to make a point. If you don't suffer with me, who will? My ex? I blame men for this negative perception about relationship/marriage. I will celebrate my wife, spoil her with gifts for many reasons but not "because she suffered with me". That's a stup!d reason. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:30am On Feb 14, 2020 |
ikennamadu1: Don't be stupid, apply wisdom where necessary. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Luckysbab: 12:28pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
elektra: Why does the desire to abandon your kids excite you so much? 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by kitakoli(m): 1:47pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
elektra: Stupidity. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by emmaodet: 2:08pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Acidosis: Hmmmmmmm You are right sha. The way guys advice other guys and beg women not to leave a relationship, it looks as if they are doing us a Favour by just dating or marrying us. It is Capital NO. If they are tired, they can take a walk. Ti a ba gunyan ninu ewe, ti a se obe ninu epo epa, eni mayo mayo. - No matter the situation, those who will be contented will be and those who won't, will not 10 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by emmaodet: 2:16pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
bigiyaro: Hmmmmmmmmmm Hmmmmmmmmmmmm Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Oro Asiri !!!!!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by LadyJasper: 3:12pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Another women bashing thread. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by thelish(f): 5:04pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
bigiyaro: And our husbands are our only relative ooo Whether una take us as strangers coming to invade ur home, we go still accept una as our ONLY relative. 10 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by sisisioge: 5:10pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Chai! It is well...pls advise the guy to take the kids to his own mother or family members that can help lest they fall into wrong hands in the motel. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by bigiyaro(m): 6:09pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
thelish:LOL! na so. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by blank(f): 9:14pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
OcVoice: He should imagine that his wife is dead and marry again na. Mtshew. Imagine the mindset. I thought they said the children will look for their father? They are here now. No looking for. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by gerizzim: 9:39pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
Kaycee54321: true but today's ladies jst want to sit dwn,cross dia leg ND will leave everything to you to wrk it out all alone to make d marriage/relationship successful . Presenting themselves More like a spectator in d relationship. 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yeyeosoronga: 11:06pm On Feb 14, 2020 |
OcVoice: The kids should be with either their mom or dad. In this case, they're with their dad. She left them under a roof with their father, and she walked , but that was before they were thrown out. It was better for those children to be with their dad when she left with her rich Alhaji ( according to the OP). Alhaji cannot adopt those children while their father is alive. It's morally wrong to abandon your children and not look back. The man should sue her for child support. Every parent should be responsible towards their children. It may be advisable for the man to take his children back to his village to live with his parents if he still has any. At least till he is able to get a roof over their heads . A bar is unsafe for any child 10 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 2:27am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Kaycee54321: I like men who think like this and in my next world I would like to marry one. My husband and I are professionals though he makes way more than me as I only work 2days and he works 7 days. He believes he should carry all the financial responsibilities. He doesn't ask for my money. I just keep mine and we use his for everything. But I do everything for the family including buying his clothes, shoes, in a nut shell I run our home 100%, he only helps but the reality is that I am choking up with stress because going to work is easier but running of the house with kids is so demanding and it's never a shift. It carries on. If your wife is going to contribute equally financially, I hope you are also ready to equally share domestic chores? Some men will want to eat their cakes and still have it. Dont be doing 20% of house chores oo. Be ready to do it all. 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by bukatyne(f): 6:32am On Feb 15, 2020 |
Miarose: Until the average Nigerian man understands this, this is just the beginning. Let them keep wailing instead of bracing up to raise morally upright men and teach them how to choose good women. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Kaycee54321(m): 9:45am On Feb 15, 2020 |
jess2019: Although I hate chores, I'm the kinda guy that'll do anything just so my woman doesn't over stress and start aging prematurely. I value family a lot and I'll do anything to have a stable home in the midst of all this madness. I don't see marriage as something that'll stop me from doing what I was already doing as a bachelor. Cooking and cleaning are necessary survival skills every human must have regardless of whether you have a penis or vagina. Though, I hate cooking, I can always be there and help out here and there. Life is simple. 12 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by thelish(f): 4:24pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mobree: 7:56pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
Deandean: Wifebeater spotted... Better be careful who you "hit", so you don't find a knife in your neck in the middle of the night. Make you no reach heaven before you understand 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mobree: 7:58pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
proclinician: Seriously bro, was the insult necessary? We all are entitled to our opinions you know. It's not cool to try to force your own opinion down others' throat.. 15 Likes |
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