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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by SangoOlukosoOba(m): 10:27pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed: I disagree with you. You forgot the include the fact that the mentality will also change when money comes. Exposure will be at the peak that could drive the girl night being a first timer. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yusufu16: 10:27pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
If I tell you my own experience, this your story na mymy. In fact sometimes I tell myself, I will not marry till I die. 7 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Sensini123(m): 10:28pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra:my dad raised us all when my mother died. Though it was not that easy for us but he succeeded. He was a mother-father to us. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Juliearth(f): 10:28pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
bigiyaro: Such level of paranoia won't help you at all in marriage. If only intending couples can focus on knowing each other(strengths and weaknesses) during courting, maybe some of these sad tales won't come up. A beautiful wife is pleasing to the Eyes, pleasing to the soul also if she has a good heart/character...and vice versa. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Naijazure: 10:29pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
From the feminine comments so far... There's no going further to seek why we've got very short-lived marriages these days... I'm just imagining what kinda children the class of women should raise. OP next time please make sure you Blame the man, and insists that he should kill himself for a certain amount and give the wife to use it for herself and the kids, Afterall he was meant to sacrifice himself for the family. I just hope there are still sane women out there..I mean mother-like women. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by abdullkabar(m): 10:29pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Everyone need to brace up This thing called marriage is loosing its value gradually We are growing 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by abbey621(m): 10:29pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Ultimately the fault here lies with the man and no one else. No man should ever be without enough funds for raining days, no man should ever live beyond his means. When you start having children, think! What would happen to my children if one of us or both are no longer alive or capable? Are the people around me such as family, friends & peers able to take care of my kids? Questions like these would help motivate a man to save as if there's no tomorrow because truly tomorrow might be too late. In regrds to a woman leaving her kids, IT'S NOTHING NEW. Most women are shortsighted creatures hence when the going gets tough and they see no hope, they are able to bounce unto the next train; only a few women nowadays can truly exhibit the traits of our grandmothers. This is why a man must not plan his life around any woman, always plan your life around your children. Forget that expensive wedding, forget that 3 bedroom house for rent in Lekki, forget buying expensive jewelries or extravagant vehicles. Think more about trust funds, living will that makes sure your savings are there for your kids when they need it. Trust me, they'll pray for you everyday and you'll have peace of mind knowing you did your best! 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mistaicey2288: 10:32pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Juliearth:You're a female yet you speak with so much wisdom compared to some other dumb and heartless females who commented earlier.. I doff my hat for you. God bless you 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Juliearth(f): 10:32pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Native101: Life always has a way of offering us second chances, so things would get better if we play our parts when we become parents. Charity begins at home. Parents should focus on raising kids with stellar characters. Women should be taught the art of raising a home, the beauty of humble beginnings, the spirit of materialism can be curtailed at this stage.... Boys should be taught on how to be responsible husbands and parents, the roles they are expected to play.... Even the Bible supports this ( train up a child in the way that he should so...) 9 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by tricksters: 10:34pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
The only reason you have right to opinion such as this is simply because some foolish men find this your comment amusing. elektra: 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Lightsabers: 10:35pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Trex4(m): 10:36pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
We4all:I don't understand how this post got so much likes. Do you actually support the fact that the woman ran away with a rich alhajii and abandoned the kids who have been ejected along with their father from their house? Mehn NL is confusing ......... 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mistaicey2288: 10:37pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Emarex: Lol. What he's saying is, once a man realizes that only his family are his true blood that will stand by him through thick and thin, amd his wife is just an outsider who became his wife, he'll buckle up and be more wise to face whatever might want to unfold in his marriage in future and he'll be able to plan ahead too so as to survive in case of betrayal from the wife ... Example is what the OP describes in Scenario 2 about the man that was abandoned by his wife. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by IamPlato(m): 10:37pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra:why use the word bloody kids? you sound like an assh0le 11 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Russo35(m): 10:38pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
You owe it yourself and your own generation to bring up your children in a healthy environment The first step is choose your spouse wisely...Don't chose cuz of love alone use your "common sense " 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Ivebeenbanned(f): 10:39pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
We4all:I'll marry you. Whether you like it or not. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 10:41pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by adanny01(m): 10:43pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
OcVoice: Noted I have this neighbor who was retrenched from the privatization of PHCN. He got alot of money, I heard about N20m. He had already built a house and was comfortable. Now to the wife. He took her in when she was pregnant for him and in secondary school. She went further to nursing school under his care. She had 4 children including an slowpoke. I heard she spent twice the normal period for her nursing program due to her wayward ways. News around had it that both husband and wife are serial flirts. His retirement fund set him good but business wasn't well thought and things quickly went down. The woman got an opportunity for a nursing exchange work program or sort in Saudi Arabia. The man sold his car, landed properties to finance her trip of 2years. To cut it short, she has bought her own house, gave birth for someone in Saudi and has just returned after 3 years. Her children are already grown, drop outs and smoking weed with thugs. The husband is completely bankrupt. The only car the man has is a mismanaged Peugeot 806 he gave out which he uses to make food available. It pains me that a woman will leave her 4 children to pursue a good life for herself. Those children are irredeemable from the lack of parenting. The woman does not care and has not stepped into her husbands house and has filed for divorce. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Obynopositive: 10:44pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
My guy never ready..... Stop giving excuses 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by israelmao(m): 10:45pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Trust and faithfulness still exist in marriage even though it might be rare to come by just be faithful and God will lead you to a faithful partner. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Happyguy201: 10:45pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Even female monkeys care for their babies why can't Nigerian girls do the same . Marriage na scam sometimes I wonder how our mom and dad did it 7 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 10:45pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Nairaland n VERY UNNECESSARY GENDER WARS, I STILL DON'T GET WHAT U GUYS GAIN FROM IT SHA, but my all means CONTINUE coz I find it very entertaining. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 10:46pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: lol, Are you sure you ain't the mother of the kids in question ? on a serious note, I agree men should take care of their own kids in case of divorce or separation. But in situations like the op has mentioned, I don't support that. Am sorry to say, you are a very confused woman, the feminists you are trying to portray don't abandon their own kids for an adulterous adventures with "alhajis" who see them as nothing but outlets for sexual urges 9 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by silibaba: 10:47pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra: you must be from a broken home or raised by a single mother or father 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by hammerU: 10:47pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
MissGodOwn: The only gender war i appear to enjoy is pussy versus dick action. That one is raw and butt naked war. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by PureMind2: 10:48pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Woman are the problem of these society 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Korllami007: 10:48pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
"Women love their kids more than anything" is nothing but myth. Maybe the statement is only peculiar to women in previous centuries, not modern women. But going by the posts I'm reading here, some women won't mind selling their kids for 1500 naira and use it to buy suya without second thought. A woman will abandon her kids and moves to another man's house to take care of another man's kids. Should we call this mental illness or civilization? 7 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Evercurious(f): 10:49pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Acidosis: Well.said 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by shege45: 10:49pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
bigiyaro:word |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Btruth: 10:50pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra:i pity the man wey go marry you for future. 5 Likes |
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