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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by maasoap(m): 11:18pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
benratigan3: I read his post again and I'm yet to see where he blamed the woman alone! second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides, the second you didn't She left, didn't she? So, what is there to be heard from the other side? At least, the wife of the hotelier knew the story. Are you a feminist? 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by chubbyswit(m): 11:20pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth:hello young lady, may I ask why the female gender is always biased when it comes to the wrong doing of their own kind? Didn't you read the part were the so called wife ran away with an alhaji and left the children for the husband, that's what you should discussing. 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by 27Pushing30: 11:20pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Marry an Igbo woman at your own peril 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Kennedyiheme02: 11:21pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra:kill yourself, you are our slaves 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by mechanics(m): 11:21pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
It means they married based on love at first sight, a married man or woman should never cheat on their partners and there should not be divorce, all this should not get you scared about marriage, some marriages are still standing now with the grace of God, take for example our parents and other examples, that should console you that when you meet the right partner, she will surely be by your side during your trying times. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by maasoap(m): 11:22pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: Nothing finished in the story, he lost his job. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by dominique(f): 11:23pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Ganjafama: So basically, the only parent that should be making sacrifices for the kids is the mother. So what exactly should the father be responsible for apart from the finances? Even the financial responsibility sef is being shared by the mother these days. You call yourselves the head of the family yet it's your wives' efforts holding your family together. Once the wife is fed up, packs and leave, most of them become a mess. See the one taking little kids to a lewd hotel of all places. He's now concocting stories about how his wife left him to gain sympathy since we cannot hear the wife's side of the story. Women hardly leave because their husbands suddenly got broke, they leave after they've been frustrated by their broke husbands. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by membranus: 11:25pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
eyinjuege: Not in a polygamous settings as I made mentioned. In polygamy there is always "the loved wife and children and the hated wives and children" syndrome. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by chubbyswit(m): 11:25pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Nooil:are you saying that beautiful women are properties meant to be auctioned to the highest bidder? Are they not human beings created by God any longer? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by philadel22(m): 11:26pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
OcVoice: The marriage vow has been desecrated, God have mercy, endtime marriage. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Koralords: 11:27pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
dominique:Speak for yourself have a lot of experience where the woman left cos husband went broke , My aunt left her 5 kids here in naija to go marry another man in the USA 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by lloyds(m): 11:28pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
greenmonk: They normally result into prayer projects in a church. . Giving a pastor so much headache. Most of these ladies have little patience, so aggressive and mean. Shallow minded and so materialistic. The kind of women we used to see in our mothers are long gone now a days. Only God can help a man. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by delishpot: 11:28pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
bigiyaro: Exactly what I tell women too o. I tell them to not kill themselves over husbands cos in the end, its only their husbands that is not their relative among all their family members. @ Topic. I used to have a friend whose husband would always attack her. He stopped her from working, stopped her from socializing etc He is a big time womanizer too. Anyways, he was found of always reminding her how she was lazy, how looking after children is not a big deal bla bla bla. so one good day, she left him alone with his kid and went to her parents place. come and see him blackmailing her up and down, forming my wife left her kid and ran away. when she came back the next day he stopped his yeye talk. Did not want her to go for NYSC cos he said she doesnt need to et a job so no need to go serve. inshort, I dont listen to 1 sided story in this type of circumstance. Low key this post is trying to paint women bad. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by eyinjuege: 11:31pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
membranus: Hmmm, polygamous setting is another thing, but the head of the house should always ensure the safety of his children. It's his responsibility to ensure his children are safe with his other wives o, otherwise why dabble into polygamy? 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by lloyds(m): 11:32pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
kamnba: My mother stayed with my father for over 12years when they man was starkly broke. she even sponsored me to post graduate school becauae my father couldn't afford it. Yet she kneels down to greet him attimes, we can't see such virtues in our microwave ladies of now a days. . They are so materialistic and shallow. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by implementing: 11:33pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth:all these feminist, oya carry gun go fight bokoharm .feminism should only be practiced where women are oppressed, somehow this is why people convert to Islam because you idiots only know how to run your mouth so they have to oppress your gender 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by jaymorgan(m): 11:33pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
You left your kids because of materialism... even if marriage is no more for better for worse like they used to say, can't you stay with the man at least because of your kids? Has she foresaw that those kids won't be anything tomorrow? Was it the man's fault that he lost his job? When they got married, did she marry the man or his job? The Alhaji she went to meet, if the unforeseen occurrence happened, would she still leave him alone with the kid(s) she probably (would) bore there? When the kids grow up, what do you think their mental disposition will be about their mother? I pray the God help the man raise his kids and grant him the fruit of his labours. I feel for the kids. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by BRATISLAVA: 11:34pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra: Loooooooooooooollllllllllllllllll Your back to back comments for the male chauvinists in here have been so brutal. Looooolllllllllllll. In fact, where are the usual ones? The redpilled "they will look for their father", "I'm an alpha male" characters? 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by pacespot(m): 11:35pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Nothing surprises in this world again because even my life is full of surprises. People take fun in castigating women in Africa a lot, but for every act of infidelity committed by a women, there is at least one man involved. Nigerian men as terrible to one another, they should fix this problem first before talking about their women. 10 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by implementing: 11:35pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
benratigan3:you think it's easy to be a man baa...I blame the guy that bought phone for you 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Tsam96(m): 11:35pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
We4all: Most people only read/listen and respond for the sake of arguments...I didn't want to reply to this comment earlier cos I see a lot of people have jumped in to reply already... I'll just say this...you guys (and not just you in particular now) should learn to understand a person's point of view in every post first before turning everything to a "them" vs "us" argument... OP wasn't raising a patriarchy argument. But as usual I see y'all feminism geng jumping all over this thread like that's all it's about. He raised salient points about his fear of marriage and the family structure in general. It's interesting how gender all of a sudden became the Crux of the argument... Feminism/Gender equality isn't meant to be an attack on men or the traditional family institution (obviously that institution produced better people with strong moral values than what we see today. Throwing it away in the name of feminism/gender equality is just not sound). They don't have to be mutually exclusive. At this rate, Divorces and broken homes like the OP described will become an all too familiar trend in our society if we don't start thinking with our brains instead of our Instruments (and that goes for both male and female folks) 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Chukwurah003: 11:38pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra: Too many frustrated misandrists on Nairaland. Hehehehe 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by benratigan3(m): 11:39pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
implementing:you think is easy to be a woman, I blame who born you NB I'm a guy 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Ghostmode2two(m): 11:39pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Women are very funny creatures, even if a man is rich some women will still frustrate them be playing away games. As for the little kids I think that their father should try and get a room apartment in more decent places then move the kids out of that place as such environment where they are presently is not good for their up bringing. Old papa and mama that are cheating, I don't know what is left in life for them. I have seen a 68 years old woman having sex with 40 years old and both are married. Since then my perception about people and sex have changed. Don't be scared to get married you have it behind your mind that anything can happen in life so you won't be disappointed should shit happen. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Sirseedorf(m): 11:40pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
this life is full of wonders. mehnn now I know life is a teacher, the more we leave the more we learn, and the more you look the less you see. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by chronique(m): 11:41pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
I'm not even going to comment on the topic the OP has created. I'm actually more bothered about the thought processes of some men and women on this thread. No wonder marriages never work these days. Too many idiots around thinking they are woke. Shame on you lots. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by benratigan3(m): 11:41pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
maasoap: do you know what feminism is?define it if you know. NB I'm a guy,you just assumed I'm a lady 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by NonEthniCITY: 11:42pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
abbey621: If only we can predict how long our "rainy day" could last for in all instances, that would have been great. There are rain that falls for one day, there are some that continuously fall for several days at a time. Save for rainy day, yes, but don't be so quick to assume many who are suffering today did not save anything for their own rainy day. Life happens! 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by benratigan3(m): 11:42pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Starz825:did I exonerate her ? men who leave their kids as narrated on this platform, would you say same? 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by implementing: 11:42pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
benratigan3:woman wrapper, aren't you disgusted by what they said up there? this forum is just fvcked up, the woman left all the responsibility to the man instead of her to join him in finding a solution likes it's his fault shit happens baa, that's if you're not a woman using a mans moniker cos men will know this is bias and they're busy shouting gender equality 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Deepthoughts: 11:43pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
elektra:lady mind you when things were good the man was responsible but things just went bad beyond his control, it's not that he never cared about his wife when I things were fine with him, don't tell me you are a fare whether character. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 11:43pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
obatan: isn't it obvious? she's a pained old cucumber feminist. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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