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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by bigiyaro(m): 5:49am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Ganjafama:such are the words of hateful single parental upbringing. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by phr0nesis(m): 5:49am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Acidosis:Best comment on this post 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by TheArchangel(f): 5:50am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Thunderblasts:lol. That's why there is a great difference. Mothers in good relationships, with stable jobs, sound state of minds and family supports doesn't abandon their children. Most women that do such are those that lack support from their families and friends, women with low self-esteem and confidence, who can no longer bear the societal scorn of being a single mom or married to deadbeat husbands. The society dictates the rules and women are no longer willing to be pressured or blackmailed by societal dictations. Men cannot eat their cakes and have it. So also women. It is not supposed to be so. People are feeling the heat and lambasting women for failing in their duties but nothing is being said about the men who chooses to be deadbeats dads waiting to reap where they did not sow in their old age. It takes two to tango. The game just started. With the way men are clamouring for baby mamas nowadays, I expect this type of behavior of women to continue to rise. Carrying a child for 9months doesn't mean a damn thing when you don't love or have feelings for the damn sperm donor. Or when you get abandoned during pregnancy trying to sort out your life. 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by bigiyaro(m): 5:50am On Feb 17, 2020 |
KevinDein:that is the spirit. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by emmaodet: 5:51am On Feb 17, 2020 |
oshaosha2014: To me the man is the one doing the woman a favour because he is the one to shoulder most of the responsibilities in the relationship. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Makavelli25: 5:58am On Feb 17, 2020 |
. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies.
This part touch me 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mobree: 5:58am On Feb 17, 2020 |
SBL28: Walk a mile in their shoes before you cast stones at them! 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 6:14am On Feb 17, 2020 |
taylor89: |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Juliearth(f): 6:17am On Feb 17, 2020 |
bigiyaro: While your school of thought is valid, it won't favour those with loyal wives/girlfriends/husbands/boyfriends... I believe in the law of attraction. Thus, my thoughts tend to come to fruition. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Hisduchess(f): 6:27am On Feb 17, 2020 |
BlongTrendies: It's well my dear,just be the very best of mother to your children, your mum will learn her lesson though I just pray it happens soonest. The very worst thing that can happen to a man is to marry a wayward wife cos the implications are often unending.i sincerely thank God for your dad cos he is simply awesome and I pray that God will continue to bless and keep him for you people.amen Good morning and do have a great week. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CHIGIM: 6:29am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Am suspecting u please madam if u left it kids or u are committing adultery please change BC most times it doesn't end well. elektra: 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by acorntree(m): 6:30am On Feb 17, 2020 |
abbey621: word of wisdom!!!!! |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by proclinician: 6:30am On Feb 17, 2020 |
larryking540: That elaktra made me very angry with that input. What does she mean that men should rise up and take care of their bloody kids? I do not support men abandoning their marital responsibilities because it creates chaos and damages. My life is beautiful today because I have a dad that gave me his all and saw me through 8 Years of training. It is important that both parents join hands together in raising their kids and biologically the roles of a mother in child upbringing outweighs that of a man and this is the trend in every mammalian species as most times the males are not their. I don't know what women are turning out to become in this world and it's scary that's why I don't even give them any chance to come feel special on my inbox. This elaktra your kids are your responsibility and you will give them all you can in raising it doesn't matter what you received or how it was when you were growing up if you were raised in a broken home or had to change step fathers like you're changing shoes it's pretty bad but inconsequential. Isaiah 49:15 says “Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Well God you can be the judge now it's all over. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CHIGIM: 6:38am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Hahaha o meeen u dey fex Miarose: |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Chelseafan99: 6:42am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Listen guys. I have been insulted and mocked here on Nairaland each time i give out this warning : " If you like your self and want to live long please NEVER EVER, EVER, EVER EVER EVER GET MARRIED TO A NIGERIAN WOMAN" Listen.. laugh all you want. What happened in the days of NOAH is exactly what is happening now. %90 of Nigerian women out there have Marine spirit and spiritual husbands. The devil is tenaciously worked hard to destroy the institution called marraige In NIGERIA. It has been compromised and will never be the same. I myself discovered just last year that the man I thought was my father all along is actually not him. Apparently I am the offspring of an adulterous woman. It explains why my growing up was characterised by being called A BASTARD almost everyday and emotionally abused. When he is tired of calling me.a bastard or physically abusing me he switches to spitting on my face and uttering statements too vulgar to share here. I ran away from home when I was a12 years old. That was when I experienced the phenomenom called walking in circles. I couldn't even escape 48 hours before I was caught by my "dad's friend" and taken back to that HELL HOLE to suffer more abuse. I left home 2012 and will NEVER EVER go back to that torture chamber. Second Scenario (First Bank I cannot count how many times i have been propositioned by married women. Majority of them from banks. I go to a bank (FIRST BANK). Pick up a transaction slip that required me writing down my number. Around 5 pm i receive a text message stating: " Hello there. Would you mind hanging out with me tonight?" Me : Who is this ? Do i know you? Her: Hmmm..You may and you may not. Me: lol ok just tell me. Her: it's the lady at the bank. I liked your smile. Your smile tripped me. Cut long story short...I agree to hang out with her. I couldn't believe such a beautiful woman would so directly ask me out. We met at a bar when she closed from work. First thing sue ordered was small stout. I'm not much into beer but I had to rise to the occasion. One thinking me, when I flirt I make physical contact. Didn't take long before stroking her chin and remarking how beautiful she is. Then she drops the A-BOMB. She is married with two kids. Her husband works in an offshore oil company that requires him being away for two weeks every month. Cut long story short, she noticed my shock and laughed at my uneasiness. She flirted with me for months after that but I refused to be enslared by "PORTIPHERS WIFE". Scenario three (UBA) UBA. Another beautiful banker and almost exactly the same scenario. This time she lies she's not feeling well and take time off..drives to my house where she hangs her suit in my room so it doesn't get rumpled.and jump in bed with me. God intervened in my life by not letting me sleep with her. Without God's grace I would have fallen in kid ye not. Again her story is the same. Her husband works in an offshore oil company that requires long absence from home. This woman sends texts detailing her wet she is when thinking of me. Calls me when she gets home to let me know she's in the shower. Cries why issue so I love with me. This is no joke. Apparently her husband married her a virgin. She wrote me a note BEGGING me not to let her sleep with me no matter how hard she tried. She has no confident in her ability to resist and needed me to be strong for her. Again it took Gods grace to prevent that from happening. Without God I would certainly have fallen. Scenario four (Ex-Sterling Bank) Again exactly the same scenario. This time around we have been casual friends for a while. She stopped working becayse of an illness that required her to go for surgery in the U.K. she she came back she was bored..lonely. As friends I visit her from time to time. Then the red signs appear again. This time she's confessing she has never felt his way. She asks me to follow her go pick up her kids. We tool a keke napep in one incident and right there she begins stoking my back. Cut long story short, God intervened and saved me from adultery. Scenario 5 (Ex-girlfriend[b][/b] Ex girlfriend now married refuses to tell me she is married. All I noticed was she was away for a year or two and suddenly show up. She switches off her phone every night at 10 and switches it back on at 6. She comes to my house...First sign I saw were the stretch marks in her thigh she tried hiding. Was so suspicious but i couldn't really figure out why. It didn't take long for me to discover via Facebook she has been married for two years and have kids. There is scenario 4... So I'm looking to buy a car and ask my friend to help me with this endeavour. He was to travel to cotonou but called me one day to tell me he saw a car for sale. Long story short upon inspecting the car I was amazed such a car in obvious pristine condition is for sale at such a low price (N1.4 million). Whoever was using the car bought it brand new. I couldn't help but ask the guy why he is selling such a new SUV. What he said stunned me . He said he came back home hoping to suprise his wife only to walk into his wife fucking another man right there in his bed room. He just recently bought the car brand new for her as a birthday gift. There is scenario 4,6,7..... My theory. These events are not isolated events. It's happening. I'm the second scenario ive seem that same lady with one of her mail co-workers at a club. Women have been compromised. It's like there is a special operation to obliterate the institution called marraige.Women are now the one who do the flirting. I can tell you categorically this is not normal. %80 of Nigerian women who marry these days commit adultery. It's not like they set out to be adulterous upon marraige. That spirit of lust follows them from childhood. It happened to my close friend. Only the stupidly boy went ahead to Bleep her and was bragging about it. We were together when he shows me his BBM( This was when BlackBerry was the rave) showing his married ex saying she enjoyed the Bleep. Each time she sees her husband she feels like throwing up. Dude.. This post is lengthy because this phenomenon is without precedence in Nigeria. The lives of men are being destroyed. The same forces that compromised earthly women with fallen during Noah' s days are at again today. This time they don't have bodies. Whoever marries a Nigerian woman these days is playing with fire. Like i said earlier I as a child am the product of one. Stay away from Nigerian women if you like your life. If any of your child look so much like the mother please go do a DNA test. 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CHIGIM: 6:43am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Deandean:bro calm down |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CHIGIM: 6:46am On Feb 17, 2020 |
proclinician:my bro truly I feel pit for her kids both born and unborn BC she is a disaster to humanity |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Sewgon79(m): 6:48am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Kaycee54321: Bros I agree with you �. I once said this somewhere the ladies around start painting the issue like I am arrogant, proud, don't want to marry. Right now I don't care any more, you bring something to table as a lady, i bring something to table as a man. We work as a team. If not forget about marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by franchasng: 6:54am On Feb 17, 2020 |
My only observations and advice to single men: 1.) Marry only when you are financially prepared, don't listen to your girlfriend or fiancé telling you that you guys don't need much money to marry, in fact, you need to be a billionaire before u can marry If she wants you to marry her when u are not financially convinced that u are okay, make sure she has her own money and ready to give u like 5million to keep aside for family investment, if not don't marry, marriage now requires lots of money to sustain in this our time. Having a job is not enough financial security to jump into marriage like you have arrived, have a backup financial plan aside your job if not don't marry, it is not by force to marry or to born. Anybody forcing you to marry when you are not financially ready should and must give you enough financial support to back it up. Don't born pls the world is overpopulated already, it is not a crime if you didn't born, don't be fooled former UK Prime Minister Theresa May and her husband didn't have any child. Aliko Dangote did not marry but he is a billionaire, so it is not a crime if you didn't marry or give birth....just make financial investments that will take care of your needs at old age. Don't spend more than 0.1% of your total savings on wedding. If your wife to be want a state of the nation wedding, let her bring the money or don't marry her. Big wedding does not make you a rich guy. Did you hear about Billionaire Mark Zuckerberg's wedding Spend wisely on wedding, invest more than you spend on wedding ceremonies. Don't force any lady to marry you, there are millions of better ladies with better character, better shape, finer face, better family background and everything to replace her, all you need to do is open your eyes, broaden your search for better ladies using both your relatives, friends and Internet but make sure you are financially okay yourself or else it won't work. As a single guy, don't marry for love alone, consider other factors like what she herself does for a living, her family background, her career path, her spiritual stand and many more, don't be fooled, ladies consider all these things before they agree to marry any guy, guys stop marrying because your dick got erection or for love or for fine face, no lady will marry you just because you are a handsome guy with big dick, they consider plenty other factors and even go spiritual to find out more about you and your future, so marry like ladies do. 2.) Expect anything from your girlfriend, fiancé or wife, don't trust too much, always have room for doubt so that nothing will shake you when it happens. Always have in mind that your girlfriend or fiancé or wife maybe cheating or could cheat even if she is very faithful now, so that when it happens, you won't be surprised much, and if she doesn't cheat, good and fine 3.) As a man, until you have built 2 different rented-apartment properties (houses with blocks of flats) of your own in a viable city not in your village or in one dead town, you are still struggling don't think you are financially okay because you are not okay. Having a luxury car, good job and well furnished rented apartment does not make you a rich or financially free man. 4.) If you are a guy in Nigeria, please don't rely on your job and be feeling arrived even if it's Chevron oil job, start now to build a backup investment plan....it could be well researched and established viable business. You can invest in foreign shares, it's doable, I did it even when I was struggling in Nigeria...there are legitimate organisations that help you buy shares on NYSE, and other stable foreign stock markets not unpredictable unstable Nigerian stock market that destroyed many souls around 2005/2006. Making money and more money legally should be your daily devotion after your normal prayer and worship because our world today is a capital market, no money no activity. Raising your kids as a man will never be an issue for you if you are doing well financially, so every man's major problem in life is good health and money, not women! NOTE: every piece of advice I gave above are things I applied in my life before I finally settled down and got married....and till today, I don't consider myself as financially okay...I am still struggling everyday to stabilize my financial life through devoted business engagements and with God being my helper all these years, its been good and I pray it continues to remain and even get better. Spend less on women no matter how much you have as a man! Even when I had money that I know if some guys had, they will be sleeping at popular night clubs blowing trumpet and siren, I never considered myself financially okay and I never spent more than a certain amount on any girl I was dating because I knew that spending on a girl never makes her completely loyal to you.....just have money for your own comfort and to give you confidence as a man not to be squandered on ladies to impress them, don't do it!! Before I married, I never liked the idea of marrying a housewife or marrying a lady that is unemployed and unproductive....I made that decision even as a student....and I made sure my wife is not financially unproductive.....even though I don't need her money to survive now, but I love the fact that she is financially productive and forging her own life and building her own career path. Any person that tells you that rich people's wife don't work is a POOR MAN! Tinubu's wife is a senator working and earning billions! And so many other rich men I cannot be mentioning here, so don't be fooled, any lady you want to marry or married that remains idle and refuse to work or do business is a disaster, don't marry her! 9 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 6:56am On Feb 17, 2020 |
OcVoice:time has evolved, generation has changed, modernity and upgrades in the society and also poor parenting and upbringing of our girls and they're so much used to comfort and wouldn't endure any hardship whatsoever. when I realized this I shed tears. my neighbor in his late 40's was very Rich due to his business and he got a beautiful wife and 3 kids, the youngest is a 3 year old girl. He was recently stricken with an ailment that crippled him, his business also crippled too, leading him to square one and he suffered a huge setback and guess what? the wife Usain bolt, leaving those poor innocent kids to the man, now life is so terrible to him and he's emaciating daily. The society has changed, just pray to God to give you a good wife like your mom that's all. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:01am On Feb 17, 2020 |
taylor89: bigiyaro:and after parents and siblings supported and put one dude through in the university and also helped him get a job and were the foundation behind his success, one useless woman who is a stranger from God knows where will now come and claim entitlement. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by luvyaself95(m): 7:03am On Feb 17, 2020 |
missimelda01: Shebi you too date him and get married. Doctor Love For that matter. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by bigiyaro(m): 7:05am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Juliearth:it is called hoping for the best but expecting the worst......if we get the best, thank God, if the worst comes, am prepared. That's the idea behind full living. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CHIGIM: 7:11am On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra:BC of this Ur mind set I pray God will keep you single for life. God please save us men from women like this may they never see any man that will take them serious for marriage. Their case should be just Bleep her and go in jesus name amen 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by nauto: 7:13am On Feb 17, 2020 |
i see |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by dotedote: 7:14am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Na Dem Soon they'd start the " I carried you in my womb for 9 months" anthem elektra: 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by TOPCRUISE(m): 7:14am On Feb 17, 2020 |
benratigan3:There is a difference between opinion and experience. Op shared his experience and you are here saying he is biased. You just wanted OP to say the man is lazy and irresponsible so as to remove the bias 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by revolt(m): 7:17am On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra:dont mind the big ediot. Disgracing men right and left. Some of us men are dying for the mothers of their kids to let them have custody of their kids so they can concentrate on raising them. Why will she carry her kids and with her parents who are old and tired instead of dropping with the dad.. only a mad person thinks any other individual can take care of a child more than the biological parents (both man and woman). Dysfuctional op 8 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:18am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Ganjafama:you nailed it bro. 1 Like |
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