Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.

Acidosis:


You get time sha. Why are you begging/pleading?

You have to develop yourself enough to throw a party when someone walks out of your life. It's an avenue to expand your experience and grow.

There are no regrets in my book and, more importantly, I don't suffer heartbreaks. The signs are always there for you to watch and prepare! So before you make the attempt to leave, I am already gone (in my mind).

Also, men need to learn to set their rules. Society shouldn't always tell us what to do. Today is Val and the typical man is out there running helter skelter from one cinema to another restaurant all in the attempt to impress the woman with our society's meaning of love.

Men stup!dly do this out of fear of neglect and heartbreak. Like Sango or Obatala, they fear their gods (women) will abandon them if they fail to perform the yearly ritual. We have turned women into smaller gods we must appease to avoid wrath and calamity. Real gods/God (like mothers and our heavenly father) do not unleash terror because we fail to praise them. Think of those times you failed to praise God. Think of those times you failed to celebrate your mother on "Mother's day". Did your mother abandon you?

Men now act out of fear of abandonment and loneliness, and love of pleasure and other mundane things that can't stand the test of time or lack. Even if you love to spend or cherish your spouse's beautiful face more than your life, create a dummy scenario like these things don't matter to you sometimes.

Thunderblasts:

When you get married, you can abandon your kids you hear?
It's safer to be irresponsible as a Dad than a mum.
Those kids will hate you beyond life as a mother when you abandon them.
You know why?
You as the woman should have been their last hope of survival. You carried them for 9 months and created a bond that shouldn't ever be broken.
They didn't suck their father's breasts looking into his eyes all day. They didn't bond that much with him.
Am talking from experience here via a relation.
Try it and see what those kids will do to you when you try coming back at old age.
The kids can forgive their Dad if he tries such but may never forgive their mum completely!

KevinDein:

Bruh....
I don't expect loyalty so I'm never gonna feel betrayed.

oshaosha2014:
Because you men over the years you men have made them believe they are doing you a favour by being with you. The prime of a woman starts by age 17/18 to age 25/26 and some are lucky to still look good at age 28. After that period they are not worth chasing anymore. On the other hand, the man’s prime begins at 31 to almost infinity because at age 31 he has something he is doing, has a goal he is chasing, taking good care of himself and all. It is this time up women find him attractive because he has means and matured. Unfortunately, men waste their young years chasing women up and down not knowing they still have a lot of time ahead when, it is even the women that will be chasing them all over the place. Who do you think is doing the other a favour??

SBL28:
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!

taylor89:
Such is life bro


After what I went through years back from a horrible ex I came to a conclusion that it's only ur parents and siblings that truly loves u genuinely that's why I can never trade their love for a pvssy I didn't know its next owner


Life is so unfair, these kind of adulterous women hardly contact HIV, but cool dude that has been celibate for years now will just hit one night stand now, Boom HIV go show himself

bigiyaro:
this is not paranoia of any kind, its the real actual fact, it does not keep you from loving your wife or treating her right, infact this mental knowledge keeps your focus clear and straight. When wify misbehaves it doesn't depress nor hurt you, like the guy that hanged himself over a babe he sponsored to school that later jilted him.

BlongTrendies:

Which lies o. Life happens and shit happens. Mine is an example. My mom left my dad when i was 2 years and she was 3 months. He singlehandedly took care of us without remarrying. We are in our 30's now and both married with kids. He is still single. I dont joke with the old man.

It was tough. My experience has taught me how to be a great mother and wife. At 18, i went looking for her. She is living her wayward life and not ready to be my mom. She doesnt want to get involved. She has 3 grandchildren. She still doesnt want to get involved.
It is well.

Many people think my mom is dead. My 3 kids dont know her. Each time i have babies, i always look for who to care for me and my babies in the first 3 weeks.
I wonder how a woman will go through pregnancy for 9 months, pass through labour or delivery and post natal stress and you end up dumping the kids. Just because you want to live a free life of adultery and prostitution.
.

It beats me really.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had topen a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

abbey621:
Ultimately the fault here lies with the man and no one else. No man should ever be without enough funds for raining days, no man should ever live beyond his means. When you start having children, think! What would happen to my children if one of us or both are no longer alive or capable? Are the people around me such as family, friends & peers able to take care of my kids? Questions like these would help motivate a man to save as if there's no tomorrow because truly tomorrow might be too late. In ragrds to a woman leaving her kids, IT'S NOTHING NEW. Most women are shortsighted creatures hence when the going gets tough and they see no hope, they are able to bounce unto the next train, only a few women nowadays can truly exhibit the traits of our grandmothers. This is why a man must not plan his life around any woman, always plan your life around your children. Forget that expensive wedding, forget that 3 bedroom house for rent in Lekki, forget buying expensive jewelries or extravagant vehicles. Think more about trust funds, living will that makes sure your savings are there for your kids when they need it. Trust me, they'll pray for you everyday and you'll have peace of mind knowing you did your best!

larryking540:


These are the type of ladies some kids have as mother ,and at old age they start avoiding them ,,,before u know it they will start laying courses on the kid's life ,,,,I kw day pity woman oooo,,,,fuvk them

Miarose:
Both genders have failed the society. The men are entitled to promiscuity but they don't sleep with themselves, do they, they sleep with women. Are these women imported from China?
When you fetch ant infested firewood into ur house, it will bite everyone including the children. They are the biggest casualties of this self entitled generation. Women today are more educated, more opinionated, more empowered... They will not stay and cower like our mothers. The men of today have no shame, they can't even open their mouth and speak against their flag bearer that die in hotels. Right now, anything we see, we take.

Deandean:

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...

proclinician:


Stupid woman. I wonder the sins your unborn kids must have committed or will commit that will make God send them a punishment like you as their mother. Nonsense

Men should raise their bloody kids becauee it is not you that bore them for 9 months.

Kaycee54321:
Second scenario is the reason why I will never marry if I don't have a certain level of cash flow and why I CAN NEVER marry a female who has nothing going on for herself... That crap about men taking care of a woman doesn't work on me

I earn, you earn, we care for each other, we raise a family together like a damn team...if e no work, na to kuku dey single... No be by force to born. Can't imagine bringing innocent babies to suffer.

OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:
The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?

taylor89:
Such is life bro


After what I went through years back from a horrible ex I came to a conclusion that it's only ur parents and siblings that truly loves u genuinely that's why I can never trade their love for a pvssy I don't know its next benefactor


Life is so unfair, these kind of adulterous women hardly contact HIV, but cool dude that has been celibate for years now will just hit one night stand now, Boom HIV go show himself

bigiyaro:
when you know that among all your family members, its only your wife that is not your relative, your guards will be up automatically and you are better equipped to deal with betrayals.

missimelda01:
Op why do you sound surprised? This world is corrupt, not a new thing. I once met a man who told me he's been married for 11years and he has dated 8 ladies so far, he was even bragging that all the ladies are married now and he attended their weddings.. in other words, he carries a good luck charm that helps ladies get married

Juliearth:





While your school of thought is valid, it won't favour those with loyal wives/girlfriends/husbands/boyfriends... I believe in the law of attraction. Thus, my thoughts tend to come to fruition.

elektra:


Don't worry. All of my future husbands will be informed. In the event of a divorce, they will get primary custody of the kids.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

benratigan3:
why blame the woman only?
first scenario, both are adults and you should blame both.you are bias in your conclusion
second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides ,the second you didn't

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.