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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by greatbrian(m): 7:19am On Feb 17, 2020 |
proclinician: After reading her comment I became shocked and tired it came from a lady talking from the end points in it. I hope none of my families and well wishers end up with her or her type a real disgrace to womanhood 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Supersymetry: 7:23am On Feb 17, 2020 |
LadySarah:The women equivalent will be if he gets a new lover and stop giving affection to the woman and shift the love, care etc to the new woman, it will pain the woman the way it pains the man when a woman cheats. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by liveyourlife007(m): 7:24am On Feb 17, 2020 |
We4all:interesting, you a lady right? i can tell from your lame ass comment, i mean the kinda lady Fela sang bout. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OutharryHIV: 7:25am On Feb 17, 2020 |
taylor89: My story bro.. my story |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by greatbrian(m): 7:26am On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra: Plz let them have the kids. No child deserves you passing down this mentality to them. Especially the girls 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:27am On Feb 17, 2020 |
SoNature:she is a lesbian. that's the conclusion after I went Tru her profile meticulously 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:31am On Feb 17, 2020 |
doggedfighter:shut up there and go take ur bath. you stink. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:34am On Feb 17, 2020 |
dominique:[/s]Senseless comment 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by OgaBuhari: 7:36am On Feb 17, 2020 |
atoleybaba:abeg hope say that snake una catch am? don't tell me it went away Scot free |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by YorubaLord: 7:38am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Nooil: See the rubbish wey dis one type here for God's sake. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by noscarn91(m): 7:38am On Feb 17, 2020 |
taylor89: True talk brother, trust no woman 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by DesChyko: 7:39am On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra: Just some quick question.. How many cocks have you seen raising chicks? Or billy goats have you seen rearing kids? Or Lions have you seen weaning cubs? Man is very intelligent, so intelligent that he begins to turn things upside down just for the sake of doing that. But you know how they say in Igbo land, 'Aruruala gbaa afo, o buru zie omenala'. Be fashionable all you want, use the best gadgets as you like, you, like all others like you, remain animals subject to nature. 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by missimelda01(f): 7:43am On Feb 17, 2020 |
luvyaself95:I don't do old blood 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mstick: 7:50am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Ok so I’ve read EVERY comment on this thread and as expected it’s a women bashing thread and our “holy” men missed the damn point. Yes the women are bad, evil, dangerous and all that, and she abandoned her kids blah blah blah is that why he has to dump them at a bar filled with people of questionable character? In Nigeria all it takes to tag a woman bad 1) accuse her of abandoning her husband because of no money 2) accuse her of adultery. If this was a thread about a man abandoning his kids our “wise” men will bring up scenarios where she’s at fault and absolve the man of all blames but now no one of them is asking for the woman’s part of the story. No “man” here cares to know if she wanted to take them along but she refused. My cousin’s father abandoned 5 KIDS for his wife and went into the sunset, guess what? He was even the one telling people that his wife abandoned him and the kids and travelled abroad for prostitution. When my one of his daughter’s was about to get married that was when the truth came out. Still they wanted her to continue the marriage. For every Nigerian woman that leaves her marriage look very very well not with gender biased eye and you would see that she has tried but couldn’t take it no more. Men want to cheat but don’t want to be cheated on, is that not stupidity? You want to be hurting your wife but you don’t want her to hurt you. Till men change it would only get worst. LET WICKED MEN MARRY WICKED WOMEN! 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by patricknz(m): 7:51am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Deandean:THANK YOU MAN. And that one would think herself a wife material when all she has to offer is this her fish brain. Foolish girl. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by haaryobhami: 7:53am On Feb 17, 2020 |
bigiyaro:my uncle that's going through marriage palava need to see this quote |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by freenature: 7:53am On Feb 17, 2020 |
We4all: Its sad you speak without a proper understanding. Who says he did not understand parenting? If a man could handle everything by himself then why the existence of woman? You should know single parenting is never easy and if this guy is having financial and job crisis it should be understandable and for all didn't you even read that the woman left with an Alhaji when things went south for this guy? Where is the love she made a vow of concerning the guy when getting married to her? This shows that there are some women out there that are just in for the rosy period and not having it when things turn hard. We are speaking here of 2 kids 4 and 2yrs respectively and you are spewing garbbage. Please have a proper understanding before conclusions. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Oiza131(f): 7:54am On Feb 17, 2020 |
OcVoice:My dad once told me that when he was courting my mum, she barely asked for money. In fact ehn, he loved her more for that reason. But now ehn... He said he begin to wonder if it's really the person he courted few years back. My mama scam my papa. Lol 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mstick: 7:55am On Feb 17, 2020 |
And this is the problem. So you compare a human to an animal?! How many hens have you seen having all her chicks with one cock? How many female goats have you seen having all her babies with same goats? How many lionesses have you seen having all her cubs with same lion? Since you want to compare a full grown human male to an animal with a lower IQ that it makes sense to do the same. So we can all be animals and live peaceful together. DesChyko: 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by patricknz(m): 7:57am On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra:So this is your deduction in all he has said? If you were in her shoes you,d do the same? You are leaving the struggling man for another man(Alhaji), which is of no concern to me, but the love for your kids isn’t enough to plant the “how do they cope with this man” in your brain? Now I’m scared. Kai! 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Supersymetry: 7:57am On Feb 17, 2020 |
nahzyla:The problem of this world is people that lack self awareness, metacognition (difficult to acquire because of genetic reasons, maybe it can be learned) and people that don't value the truth, rigidity cause by cognitive biases. If people develop this mental abilities or cognition there will be no need for religion. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mstick: 8:02am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Because OP said she abandoned her kids because of an alhaji that means it must be true right? The emotional blackmail you Nigerian men use is outdated. 1) my wife left me because of no money 2) my wife cheated, once you say this every body is ready to crucify the woman without even hearing her side of the story. You claim to have proper understanding of the situation, how? Did you ask the woman her own side of the story?! I am a woman and I don’t exist to please a man. Women of old that lived their lives for men end up with regrets. No gender is superior to another. So many Nigerian women have been abandoned with several kids for years and nobody bats an eye lid. Instead she’s told to shut up and bear it, freenature: 7 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Caseless: 8:04am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Ocvoice, that man's story really touched me. Which state is this happening? I need to come back to this thread again. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Caseless: 8:10am On Feb 17, 2020 |
. Mstick:'feminist-wannabe', bring the woman so we can ask her own side of the story. Those women who labored to please their men in the past had no regrets, those in constant contention to get equality they can't meet are the ones in constant regrets. Those women ended up raising those who helped the society than most of you the equality seekers. Society are without mothers now because of people like you. Until you have it happening to your brother or son, you won't believe the man's story. Your hypocrisy lays bare when you seek equality with the earnings of a man and not in the gutter job he does. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by freenature: 8:12am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Mstick: Lady let me spell this out clearly, i for one as a man would never ever support anyone abandoning their child, neither would i support infidelity and let me tell you i have seen the damage irresponsibility and infidelity could cause in a marriage. So if i see one at all i would speak against and fight it till my last strength by God to find a solution. Therefore don't think that there isn't an outcry against it if its vice-versa. The only problem is that in our socio-cultural society, there has been an imbalance in the reprimanding of who is at fault in marital issues and also who has to be forebearing. If peradventure the guy has been abusive and she leaves its fine by me cos i would never support battery of any kind or ill treatment. Nevertheless nothing of this kind was mentioned. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by lucky4west: 8:12am On Feb 17, 2020 |
wow what an experience u have had!...sad fr the young man that the wify left him...for the adulterers some people never change...its just sad |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by chubbyswit(m): 8:13am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Nooil:So you are now an observer, from afar most likely. Well done keep observing other people's lives and don't work on your self development. Maybe you are very young and also think that the world revolves around a woman's physical beauty. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Nobody: 8:21am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Mstick:I Guess you're one of those thinking there is a Gender War going on here.Better wake up to reality and Don't get ur Life messed up with all these Negativity from past events. Every Relationship or Marriage Starts on good terms until the Cracks Start to appear,If u Two Can't get along any more pls do well to show Some Care/Unity for the sake of ur kids!!Should it be any other way?? I must say,After reading through most Comments here.I see alot of HEADS without BRAINS.It's Remarkable. 1 Like |
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