XhosaNostra:


Say you're joking! How is it "UNTHINKABLE"? She basically told you that she's done this to someone before, but you still went on & engaged this person. Same script from the same writer, different cast, it was inevitable. I don't know how you can sit there, listen to someone telling you all these stories about how they've cheated in the past & still envision a future with them. When people talk about who they are, put on your listening ears. No empathy from me, you put yourself in this situation by ignoring a billboard size red flag that was right in front of your face the entire time.

That's the problem with most guys, there is always a sign whether by action or by words but they don't always pay attention to details.

Just because she's beautiful,sexy and all that they will trade their peace of mind for something else.

If I have to into details,you will pay me for that ..here is the summary.You took her from her formal buddy, you spend money to gained her indoor movies.She will remember her past always except you formated her brain to factory reset She will cheated on you when the time comes..

udemzyudex:


That's the problem with most guys, there is always a sign whether by action or by words but they don't always pay attention to details.

Just because she's beautiful,sexy and all that they will trade their peace of mind for something else.

Right.

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

Marry her and travel for one week she go nack tya

There is actually no perfect person in any relationship, we all have our lapses.

If you feel you love her, I suggest you call her attention to this. Is not enough for you to just conclude.

Secondly, get to know if she has interest in the relationship.

Why? Because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know!

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

This part answer your question

Russi:
Agony
She offers sex to get what she wants even when in a committed relationship. She might not even use condoms!

One day you won't be able to provide everything she wants and so.....

the OP is at fault. You don't do serious relationships with such women...he knew what attracted him to her. Na all those clublike girls that fox eye lashes like peacock feather..

There are girls u just fork and move on and there are girls u stay true to. If you can't distinguish them, you should check urself

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

What u read is her real state of mind. U better not marry that serial cheating hoe, she will make u the most miserable man.

2ndly shes only with u cos of her bills. Don’t get it twisted bruh. Let me make it simple for u, she can pass another mans child To u. Tendency is quite high.

See them. Falling over themselves telling him to leave the girl. Blah blah blah and more blah
Theirs ain't near as good as this one.
In my BIL's voice 'no man dey gree for gathering say he dey give him woman money'

This is why most first child aren't kids of their husband.

You can continue the relationship, if you are ready to father bastard children in the future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4gXkpt6jPE







The ultimate cheating rap song.

Please don't blame the girl the fault is yours., you are a weak guy that's why. How can you be posting this here for advice? What kind of advice do you need? Confront her immediately and see her reaction and willingness to change and if there is non move on.

Dump her ....a cheat is always a cheat.....but be ready to meet the another cheat

It is evident you love her but thank you star, her true character is being revealed. You know what to do, most of these ladies you are dying for are not worth it.

Free that babe

Teejay13:
There is actually no perfect person in any relationship, we all have our lapses.

If you feel you love her, I suggest you call her attention to this. Is not enough for you to just conclude.

Secondly, get to know if she has interest in the relationship.

Why? Because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know!

One snake for you bro. La la please

Mymynd4u:
Op e never hard.. Two F's exist.. Flirt and fling/fvck.

Wait, I didn't read well, she said if she sees her ex, she will fvck him

My advise:
Find a way to poison the Ex and let him die. Then she wunt be able to sleep wit the dead again

3 ways to kill

Sniper
Baba lawo witch doctor
Hired killer


Or

Find a way to locate the guy and deactivate his prick for life. So when they meet, dick wunt be available to enter her honey pot


Nairalanders, wait Op tell me the lady name oo, I hope I am not the said EX sha..

Cox this one relates to me ooo, number 1 broke nairalander.


One reason I Dont fornicate, it's too cost

Enter inmessage, girls wey no fit work for 20k go dey bill u 30k for 2 rounds of sex. If u r the type that is a 0.00000005 Secs like me, 30k na waste


Enter michat, dos ones even dey fair, charge u 5k for 2 rounds.

That moment, I remember say hmmm. What if I send mama this 5k nko, and una no say I broke

B4 I see 5k gather, no be small thing and one witch will now want to spread leg like Y and after all my hard labour, I will still vomit money for her..

Ladies are like ground, men are like the digger

When digging a ground, u don't pay the ground, u pay the digger but it's the opposite in naija, the digger go pay

True.

My own worry is, "How do you open your partner's whatsapp account with all the fingerprint security everywhere"?
I really need o know cos I wan check mine

don't marry for honesty or love, you MIGHT not find either of it. Marry for the sake of raising family, having a partner to talk to after a long day , have kids, sex mate and a helper. This is more consoling. All our girls have join bad gang. Most of them won't die with knowing just one dyck, they want to taste different sizes but just like you want to sleep with different girls or what do you think feminism means to them.

My advice for you is, good girls her out there but what's the odds of you finding one before you 40. Apparently she only want to sleep with one ex, not many exes, so your own still better, confront her, she will cry over it and promise you it won't happen again, condition your mind that what she said is true and Marry her.

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my...
The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

The heading of your thread is misleading

Why look for what’s not looking for you . Stop checking her phone u are not married to her yet

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

This is not even about her ex alone.
If you go ahead with the leech na you sabi.
Why should a woman depend on you for her finances when she has a brain, two hands and two legs to function
Even if she is married to you and has children. Except she is a housewife to take care of the kids comprehensively and help in other ways to promote your business, career and profession.
I don't get that part please.


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don't worry you will find that thing you are looking for. you better stay on your lane and leave her phone alone

Stan999:
My own worry is, "How do you open your partner's whatsapp account with all the fingerprint security everywhere"?
I really need o know cos I wan check mine

For her, relationship is transactionary; the highest payer monopolizes the pussy momentarily.

So, a public unlimited liability company would cause heavy losses to a private owner who deludes himself thinking that he can privatize it.

Oga, you are a shareholder; keep quiet, collect your dividends and reduce your investment. That way, you divert risk.

Please, I hope you have no intention of wifing that Plc?

Stan999:
My own worry is, "How do you open your partner's whatsapp account with all the fingerprint security everywhere"?
I really need o know cos I wan check mine

daddytime:
It is becoming really worrisome what relationships have turned into in this age.

People have, or are gradually losing the true essence of the word (relationship).

It is now a fad to bring to the social media, the slightest misunderstanding in a relationship. Misunderstandings that a good old tete a tete or heart2heart could have resolved in the confines of our bedrooms.

Wetin come dey happen my people?

Must we make a topic out of every situation, or seek the opinion/validation of complete strangers?

The world and lifestyle just dey get k-leg every day.

To the op,

How about you confront her on your findings to hear her defense to help you form a decision on the way forward.

1. His personal phone and data
2. You can't expect everyone to think and act to your expectations.
3. Social solidarity in the modern worldis organic,thus depression and other neurosis abound.If you understand this,then you know that forums like this helps to reduce tension.
4. You don't have to respond to every post.

Bola146:


"also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him"

You be mumu ni? Or love is doing you gish gish Confront her now! She is in love with your money or your kini She might not want to marry you, she is just wasting your time.

Bola, be honest are you a man masquerading as a man?
Because 99% will leave the matter at hand to ask if the guy also will not cheat with his ex, or why he dared to check her phone, etc. Not honest like you are doing here.
We know why though. Women are thereby defending the game majority of them now play.

Honestly we have too many indomie boys these days.

OP, if you marry that girl, expect "your kids" to be fathered by other men. Like 30 to 35 % of kids are fathered by rogue sperms of lovers outside matrimonial home. Good luck.

It is straight forward:

You have money, ex is a broke ass.
Your bedmatics is very poor, ex is great in bed.

The lady needs both money and great bedmatics.
If you cannot in addition to your money provide great bedmatics to the lady then she needs to get it from a trusted and tested ex. Or maybe there are other things the ex does better.

With regards to what you should do, please figure that out by yourself. May the Lord help you to make the right decision.

dapo456:
don't marry for honesty or love, you MIGHT not find either of it. Marry for the sake of raising family, having a partner to talk to after a long day , have kids, sex mate and a helper. This is more consoling. All our girls have join bad gang. Most of them won't die with knowing just one dyck, they want to taste different sizes but just like you want to sleep with different girls or what do you think feminism means to them.

My advice for you is, good girls her out there but what's the odds of you finding one before you 40. Apparently she only want to sleep with one ex, not many exes, so your own still better, confront her, she will cry over it and promise you it won't happen again, condition your mind that what she said is true and Marry her.

Y would u say one shouldn't marry for love....can u marry someone u don't love?

GlorifiedTunde:
Honestly if you're here asking this question after what you've seen, then you don't have your priorities set straight. I'm a man who doesn't settle for less. And I believe there are still loyal ladies out there.

I prepared to be loyal for my marriage, that's why I'll never pick a lady who wouldn't reward my loyalty with hers.

Often times, ladies get overused by their exes and develop soul ties with them. No matter how much she claims to love you, she'll sleep with him if she has a chance to. And she'll find any flimsy excuse of disagreement between you both to fly back into her exe's bed.

She probably loves the guy more than you.

Or haven't you heard - "Most Nigerian ladies married the guy that was ready, not because they loved him"

Drop her and move on!

I really love your contributions but you messed it up by saying “there are loyal ladies”. There’s no loyal lady anywhere. The bitches only get committed to you when they as long as they can get the bar which brought them. Don’t ever trust a woman. I don’t wanna use abusive word for the OP and that’s more reason I didn’t comment directly. Get it straight. Ladies will always go for higher bidder in respect to her wants (money, dick size, housing etc). Trusting and loving any woman will be the last thing I’ll do.

This is why most times the children u think is urs are not
She is with u cos u can provide
Most Nigerian women only go for who can provide while they keep the good fucker on the side.

Ur relationship is based on materialism
She will have kids for him and give them to u to train