Your girl is wicked!!!

She want you to raise another man's kid!!! Wow!!!

The only positive here is that , she is young!!

Only if the ex can be responsible for the upkeep of the boy, then you can go ahead...

I don't support single mum things. ... But considering that she is young, then I will say 'the decision is yours to take'!

Dande55:

After wasting all your youthful age in being an irresponsible baby daddy and losing so much energy in sex, and then andropause come knocking with nothing in your head or account to withstand frustrations of life.
Your mummy will surely be cursing the night she miscalculated her ovulation to birth you.

Wetin?

Sarang:


It’s cos it’s not his son
Humans truly are monsters we see
How can someone hate a kid!!

How can a woman abort a foetus and rob it of h chance to experience life?

WilliamsTheGrea:


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please I wish to learn graphic design can you teach me thanks in advance

if you hv d resources to father that child, plz do. all he need is your luv. tomorw you wil reap d fruit of your labour

i nor understand u oh...becos she is a woman she should'nt speak truth ba

LOGOBELT:


I can't believe this comment is from a woman

Just toss the stubborn boy and his quarrelsome mom away one time!

I cannot come and kii myself ontop another man pikin, biko.

RumeAlfred:
i nor understand u oh...becos she is a woman she should'nt speak truth ba

It's like you no sabi who ubunja be?

Who dash am woman?

Don't be deceived by his (f) moniker.

Ubunja na one kain old man with a shrunken penis.

sexylassie:


Mr Akinwole, where did you get your analysis from? i guess from the movies

Mr Akinwole??

sexylassie:


My first time hearing the Ndebele part, he claims he is Richard Ubunja Raycards but in reality he is a Nigerian living in Nigeria, a trace was done and all information was pointed to a Nigerian living in Nigeria even with a Nigerian phone number,

he is a Nigerian blogger looking to make a living from blogging and affiliate marketing, his tactics is to write on controversial topics to gain traffic to his site, he shouldnt be taken seriously

below is what he claims to be but funny enough that pic are all over the net

ubunja

FBI femme

bluefilm:


It's like you no sabi who ubunja be?

Who dash am woman?

Don't be deceived by his (f) moniker.

Ubunja na one kain old man with a shrunken penis.

and to think you used to like me....

bluefilm:


Hi there, Mr. Ubunja.

Hope you remembered me?

Of course, I know you do.

I've been going through some of your write-up which I must admit, I find very interesting.

I saw the comment you made on that REDLORDS blog concerning him plagiarizing your work here.

My advice/suggestion to you now is: why don't you move your work to a blog you own?

Putting your work here on nairaland is just like working for hawks and sharks.

I am a writer myself and I know the difficulty and pains involved in coming up with something thoughtful.

And I know how discouraging it can be seeing your own work being distributed and even sometimes, some idiot coming out to claim the work as his own.

So I believe running your own blog might help you in at least, establishing your ownership of the work and also in helping you to report and/or block the website of any useless and lazy blogger who only depends on copy and paste.

If you cannot run your own blog, maybe you should go the Hubpages way.

That's what I do.

At least, if you have an AdSense account, you could be earning a little something from Google from your writings by sharing those articles on Hubpages.

Think about it man.

Once again, may your ink never run dry.

Oh... lest I forget... why do you call your writings Miseducation?

Nigga, you really like "misleading" people for fun, huh?

Wow!

sexylassie:
Ubunja, wont come out to defend himself afterall he is a Nigerian Living in Ojota

Soon he will connive with the mod to delete this thread or ban me and also call me a troll.

he cant speak Ndebele language, he claim he is white, when does a white man becames Ndebele, or are you also from Bulawayo too

This is a face-less forum tho!!!
I don't know why you focus so much on his identity!!!
I think you are prying on his privacy!!

Ye

if u break up with her cause of her child dats means u dont love her be dat,if u love her u will love her wit her kid also

eni4real:
This is a face-less forum tho!!!
I don't know why you focus so much on his identity!!!
I think you are prying on his privacy!!

what privacy..... real men show their identity and do not decieve people

sexylassie:


what privacy..... real men show their identity and do not decieve people

People don't show their identity here..

Example: Your identity is not knows here.. Neither is mine!!!

It is a faceless forum
Try to respect people's privacy!!

WilliamsTheGrea:


Do you think it's easy to look a child who you didn't give birth to biologically and invest your money and time in that child?

I'm not impotent I can have my own child. I want to take care of my own child.

Then, get the b!tch pregnant and STOP the rant. The onus and pressure is on you to get her pregnant since she's already a mother which signifies she's healthy.

It's up to you to man up and spill ur damn seed!

She is not the right one for you. Why should she move in with her child when you're not married already. 'Can a man take fire in his bosom and his body is not consumed'?

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

You already know the solution. Just rent another house for them n jejeli move on with yr life n find another girl wey never born o

eni4real:
I am more interested in the online business part....

We will talk about the girl later!!!

Lolz

My brother, your peace of mind is very important. You dont have to accept things you are not ok with. If she can't give the child to the father, please leave the relationship to avoid regret afterwards.

kels2010:
She and the child is the complete package if you want the girl be ready to take the child too.. Beside what's there to take of an innocent child who only needs a good father figure in his life

Looks like you didn't see the part where he said the mother looks at him with hatred each time he disciplines the boy.

How can he be a good father figure if the mother doesn't even like it when he tries to discipline the boy?

Try using your brain now.

Check out the bolded statements bruh. If you cannot cope with those conditions highlighted in the bold statements, no advice on Nairaland can work for you. It is either you accept her and the child or you get out of her life. You are even lucky its only one child. I have seen guys who married a single mom of two, three or four children and they are all happy living together.

Be ready to accept the boy and start showing him love. This way, her mother will have trust that you have good intention for her and her child.

It is time we all started being truly human and let love prevail no matter the situation.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because[b] I can't love another man's child as my own [/b]

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland[b] I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother[/b] but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

This is the most foolish comment here.

Any man will be relatively at ease disciplining his own troublesome child than that of a foolish irresponsible father, when you add the mother hatred stare at you disciplining the child then you understand how foolish your comment is.

A man or any man does not have to lose his peace of mind over unruly child he contributed nothing to bring to the world. If I was the guy I don't need advice, I don't love foolish people.

Only a foolish ummarried girl get pregnant with an irresponsible man. I had multiple girlfriends b4 settling down n I know very well none should give birth to a child am not ready to father. His best option is doing away with the 2 of them or beta he hand them over to you.

daddytime:
Wow.....

I'm sitting here and just wondering how you'd handle your own blood if he or she turns out to be more hyper than your babe's son.

You mentioned how you hate noise of any sort, let's just say you definitely ain't prepared to have any kids of your own.

It is obvious you have zero love for this kid and I'm afraid to tell you that, you can't love a momma and hate her toddler kid. From the woman's side, that'd be a no-no.

It's best to "die" this relationship and bury whatever it is you feel for this woman because e no go work.

It's a good thing you are letting it out on how you truly feel instead of to go dey use shame chop winch.

Meat wey person dey forbid e no dey use teeth share am.

If you can't love a kid no matter the circumstance, you'd have same problems with yours for sure and you'd be venting out your frustrations on your spouse and before you'd say Buha....you don open another thread here say your one year marriage don get k-leg.

A child will always return the vibe given. In his innocence, he's able to pick up on your hatred for him which of course won't help him love you in return and the subtle tantrums is what you'll get as his way of protesting/rebelling. Show him some love and you'll be amazed how calm he'd become.

I pray you grow up fast and find a way to handle this pretty well.

Let her go bro....

Truthbites:



What age u take disvirgin? At 20 were u a virgin? I don't care if u are male or female ..just answer me. . People always quick to judge

read again and again. It’s not all about been a Virgin

You can't separate a mother from her child.
But I don't know why you weren't informed before proposal.
If you can't cope, let her go, don't give your life hbp, you are too young

The only reason you should get married to a single mother, is if you are ready, willing and able to take care of the child as your own. Short of this, the marriage is likely not to succeed. Unfortunately, not many men are able to that, and you seem to be one of those who can't imagine raising another person's child.

For that reason, I would advise to find your way. Don't make the life of the lady a hell, the life of the child a nightmare, and your own life full of regrets. Part ways amicably, because you are not the kind that can take the child as yours.

However, it is pitiful that we are so ego-centered that we fail to understand that it is an illusion that seperates us. Every child is yours, and everyone has a part of you. Ego is the illusion that makes us believe that we are different.

The day humanimals calling themselves humans will realize this, there will be no racism, tribalism, and similar issues.

Wow! Seven months in to the relationship before she told you she has a child?
And she's a good girl?
Don't worry you will wake up to see and hear more secrets as time goes by. Husband of good girl.


BTW why can't the mother take care of her grand child? Na wa o.

Sorry bro your cross to bear. You know where the shoe pinch the most cause you are the one wearing it.

SleekyPosh:


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DOD1:


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Imagine playing another guy's saved game. Nigga take yourself to a corner and whip yourself until you are OK