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Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Vega100: 10:03pm On Mar 16, 2020
Disclaimer This thread does not in anyway encourage promiscuity nor does it propergate indecency but rather it underscores some real facts for young ladies to be aware and more mindful of what's ahead.

So a very close friend of mine I happen to know very well married as a virgin, this was about 11 years ago. After about a year of blissful marriage, her marriage turned hell in the ensuing years that followed, she never opened up to me until last week when she did; she is blessed with kids, but her husband has been giving her hell in the marriage, abuses her, both physically, mentally and emotionally, carries various young girls and flaunts them to her face. She is about calling it quite. This is a girl I know very well as we grew up together, and I can vouch for her on many fronts, one thing I know about her is how genuine, cool headed and humble she is, she's someone meek at heart, I am sure she wouldn't create problems for her husband in a home, she was just unfortunate falling into the wrong hands

I also happen to come from a large family with 5 sisters (all married), from all my sisters, the one with the best marriage is the one that lived more of a party life style in school, attended many parties etc, and the one with the worse marriage was the one that married a virgin (actually, she has the kind of personality I wouldn't be surprised might cause problem for her , her husband and husband relatives, as she could be selfish).

My point is, for the Ladies, being chaste and maintaining high morals is something any parent will be proud about and will long for their child to uphold; but do not see that as all you need to portray yourself as suitable enough "wife material". Marriage is something very dynamic and complex, it entails a lot, and has to do with both you working on various facets of your life (of which sexuality is just one) as well as being able to choose an appropriate partner for yourself.

Do not see being a Virgin as the price you have to uphold for your husband, as it doesn't in anyway guarantee a good or perfect marriage (far from it), it is rather more dependent or perhaps a fine and infallible blend of various facets of your life viz a viz personality, charisma, behaviour, sensibility etc. as well as your keen sagaciousness in choosing an appropriate partner who is sensible and will be very well compatible with you..

Just a food for thought sageful minds can ruminate and mull over!!

Thank you very much for your time.

Yours truly

Vega100

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Korllami007: 10:19pm On Mar 16, 2020
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Vega100: 10:22pm On Mar 16, 2020
Funny guy!!!

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Akinbahm(m): 11:01pm On Mar 16, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women given their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.

Funny enough, Saying marrying a virgin should guarantee a successful marriage is like saying buying motor spirit into cars would guarantee the same car from not developing some fault...

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by samtinx(m): 11:07pm On Mar 16, 2020
grin lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by samtinx(m): 11:09pm On Mar 16, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.
Omo nothing cracks me up like the "community sperm Depot" part grin grin grin ,baba you bad gan

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Vega100: 11:40pm On Mar 16, 2020
samtinx:
grin lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin
no bro... far from it... u rarely hear parents discussing that with their son whether his bride is virgin or not, no one does that.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Lamanii22(f): 12:10am On Mar 17, 2020
Can we say that "virginity" is an added factor coupled with good character...

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by unmask: 4:48am On Mar 17, 2020
Vega100:
Disclaimer This thread does not in anyway encourage promiscuity nor does it propergate indecency but rather it underscores some real facts for young ladies to be aware and more mindful of what's ahead.


So a very close friend of mine I happen to know very well married a virgin, this was about 11 years ago, àfter about a year of blissful marriage, her marriage turned hell in the ensuing years that followed, she never opened up to me until last week when she did; she is blessed with kids, but her husband has been giving her hell in the marriage, abuses her, both physically, mentally and emotionally, carries various young girls and flaunt them to her face, she is about calling it quite. This is a girl I know very well as we grew up together, and I can vouch for her on many fronts, one thing I know about her is how genuine, cool headed and humble she is, she's someone meek at heart, I am sure wouldn't create problems for her husband in a home, she was just unfortunate falling into the wrong hands


I also happen to come from a large family with 5 sisters (all married), from all my sisters, the one with the best marriage is the one that lived more of a party life style in school, attended many parties etc, and the one with the worse marriage was the one that married a virgin (actually, she has the kind of personality I wouldn't be surprised might cause problem for her , her husband and husband relatives, as she could be selfish ).

My point is, for the Ladies, being chaste and maintaining high morals is something any parent will be proud about and will long for their child to uphold; but do not see that as all you need to portray yourself as suitable enough "wife material", Marriage is something very dynamic and complex, it entails a lot, and has to do with both you working on various facets of your life (of which sexuality is just one) as well as being able to choose an appropriate partner for yourself... Do not see being a Virgin as the price you have to uphold for your husband, as it doesn't in anyway guarantee a good or perfect marriage (far from it), it is rather more dependent or perhaps a fine and infallible blend of various facets of your life viz a viz personality, charisma, behaviour, sensibility etc. as well as your keen sagaciousness in choosing an appropriate partner who is sensible and will be very well compatible with you..

Just a food for thought sageful minds can ruminate and mull over!!

Thank you very much for your time.

Yours truly

Vega100
Well said and nicely put..... virginity is lost in one day......all the other factors you have to deal with for the rest of your life.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by unmask: 4:52am On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.
I am not interested in marrying a virgin.....most are usually not adventurous and socially awkward.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Korllami007: 7:34am On Mar 17, 2020
Akinbahm:


Funny enough, Saying marrying a virgin should guarantee a successful marriage is like saying buying motor spirit into cars would guarantee the same car from developing some fault...

Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself. grin grin
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ImaIma1(f): 7:48am On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.


What about the millions who married as virgins that want to try out something different...that have known only their husbands and are adventurous, wanting to explore.

Remaining a vigin till marriage is admirable. However, it takes more than that to keep a marriage. Some ladies go into marriage with only that to offer. That's where the issue is

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Paxie55: 7:50am On Mar 17, 2020
Male virgins and rich guys with sense are the best

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ImaIma1(f): 7:50am On Mar 17, 2020
samtinx:
grin lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin


In this day and age, do men discuss with their siblings and mothers about whether their babes are virgins. Even the mother will ask him if he's a virgin and why he thinks he deserves one

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ImaIma1(f): 7:53am On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:


Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself. grin grin
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.


Some ladies become oceans after that first week. After that you will go and look for another non-ocean. cheesy

The elasticity differs in different women.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Akinbahm(m): 9:00am On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:


Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself. grin grin
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.

Don't let them brainwash you negatively towards virgin...

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by obicoolnino: 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
Being virgin or not does not matter but being compatible with clear understanding of each other with fear of God is all u need for a successful marriage

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Dpharisee: 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
This is another sophisticated story from Koronu media grin

You can advise your in-law to do a DNA test on the kids of your partygoer sister with 'successful' marriage, I am sure he will return her the next day to your family with his findings wink
The spoilt girls will give less trouble sometimes to avoid raising eyebrows about their past

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Ayoswit(f): 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
Staying faithful to your partner is the real deal here. Some ladies who married as virgins are easy target for other men lustful sexual desire especially if their spouse isn't faithful to them. Virginity is a woman's pride no doubt but a lady with a great personality whether she is a virgin or not should be a better option for a man that wants to settle down maritally.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by seunmohmoh(f): 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
Ok

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by WisdomFlakes: 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
Before nko. No brainer.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by nanauju(f): 10:03pm On Mar 17, 2020
Hmmm
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Ekakamba: 10:04pm On Mar 17, 2020




It doesn't, but e beta make lady wey you married a VIRGIN give you headaches than the one wey don hit average MILEAGE.



No quotes pls, heat dey yonder. grin tongue

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Ernerstdavid55(m): 10:04pm On Mar 17, 2020
grin ask toolz
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by iCauseTrouble: 10:04pm On Mar 17, 2020
angry
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ufotty2001: 10:05pm On Mar 17, 2020
That is how one told me that I most marry her before I will have se.x with her..

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by vibre: 10:05pm On Mar 17, 2020
But it guarantees a tighter kitty for your husband grin. And before feminist warriors launch their attack let them know that all men are virgins simply because women can't disvirgin men cool

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by INTEGRITYA1(m): 10:06pm On Mar 17, 2020
Before nko

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Tagg: 10:06pm On Mar 17, 2020
Loud it please
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Remijuice: 10:06pm On Mar 17, 2020
Guy Your Post is Self Contradictory!
The first case you talked about, all I have to tell you is that girls don't marry for love. They marry the one that is ready for marriage.

About the Five Sisters :
The none virgin married a Simp man.
She's a whóre, so it's easier for her to discern a nice guy. You know, good guys finish last.

The virgin ones: You are a virgin shouldn't make you dumb. It's easier for a player to get a virgin girl than a dummy..

Lastly : A virgin won't be missing her ex dick or complaining that your penis is weeny.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by utenwuson: 10:06pm On Mar 17, 2020
Women who married as virgin shouldn't be shouting I was a virgin I was a virgin.... It's not only virginity that keeps the home, most people who marry as virgin don't date the man they married so they hardly understand him....

The day I off was the day one woman was disturbing her husband with I was a virgin before I married you bla bla bla... And the husband gave her a punchline.... Yes... You were a virgin before I met you simply because no sane man could indulge you, you even need to pay me by indulging you... I off....

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