ubunja:
it gives the man confirmation that you're equally desiring him when you initiate communications especially at the start out.

The man will lead when things have officially started. But at that crucial early stage, the woman's actions help the guy.

But not every girl will do this. Only a few. And the guy must only deal with these.

XhosaNostra:



And how did it go for you?

I can't. Never. Deep inside I'm a traditionalist, especially when it comes to relationships. If he doesn't take the 1st strike, I won't. It ends there for me.

XhosaNostra:



And how did it go for you?

I can't. Never. Deep inside I'm a traditionalist, especially when it comes to relationships. If he doesn't take the 1st strike, I won't. It ends there for me.

ubunja:
I have a feeling even if they do by chance apply what we teach (and it works) they'll come back and admit it. I dont see that happening.

XhosaNostra:


And here's what I think of your opinion.

Ladyhippolyta88:

He rejected me he wasn't interested he only saw me as a friend in his word "a younger sister" that was 3 years ago.Immediately he told me that I automatically went back to my senses.I am happy I did because after that I started thinking straight around him I was happy I got it off my chest. when I told him.
I have no problem approaching a man I like or love and making the first move.


I am not a traditionalist or believe in relationship stereotypes.I prefer the modern day kind of relationships.

Ariza:
You really tried.... I don't just know how to say it. Like last year I set up a meeting with a guy I've been into for years (2years) When he arrived, we talked asked him if he is in a relationship which he answered No to, then when it was time for me to let out the cat, I couldn't. Just went into mute mode, words didn't come ,after several attempt I decided to just enjoy his presence see me sulking in all of his perfume . If I were to draw him I would make an exact sketch of him with my eyes closed that day. like the sulking and focus wasn't from here. Lol. When he said he was leaving, I told him same here I didn't want to be left alone there. Honestly that thing isn't easy ooo I couldn't just pull it off.

XhosaNostra:


Gotcha.

HenryDion:

E pain am

Ladyhippolyta88:

He rejected me he wasn't interested he only saw me as a friend in his word "a younger sister" that was 3 years ago.Immediately he told me that I automatically went back to my senses.I am happy I did because after that I started thinking straight around him I was happy I got it off my chest. when I told him.
I have no problem approaching a man I like or love and making the first move.


I am not a traditionalist or believe in relationship stereotypes.I prefer the modern day kind of relationships.

ozodigboo:
My guy and I ran into two babes at a mall.
I told my own that I like her, that we need to hang out, and I gave her my card ( with my number on it of course). She wanted to give me her number but I smiled and declined. I wanted her to feel free to call.

My guy didn't buy the idea. He collected the his girls number, and lated called. But the girl hasn't yet agreed to any date and promised to call later, but hasn't.

Mine hasn't called either. Lol

Who between the both of us did the right thing? How long should we wait before giving up.?

czarr:
To each his own...
I just hope all this traditional talk is not just to mask your fear rejection?

just as you are not a coward for your traditional outlook on approach, so also he is not a sissy for his own approach.
you'll both find people who will bend to your rules.

Paxie55:

These guys are just under age. When reality hits them in their old age, they will regret listening to an old love lorn

Ladyhippolyta88:

Hmm not easy for some but quite easy for me.Maybe it was because I am not scared of rejection and I damned the consequences and had to let it out of my mind.I just felt happy that I made my intentions known because if I did not my mind would trouble me for seeing what I like and not going for it.After the rejection I felt better than feeling like a scaredy cat if I did not tell him

allandutch:
Alpha is a mindset, not some set of behaviors. The alpha mindset encompasses all aspect of your life, not just dating. You live your life on your own terms. It's your life, your rules.

As for you Mr OP... whether you collect the girl's number or not doesn't make you alpha. You giving her your card sure as hell doesn't.

"Who between the both of us did the right thing? How long should we wait before giving up.?"

There are no "right thing" in this case, shoot your shot however you see fit. If it turns out well... fine, if it doesn't, well... Fine!

The fact that you're even waiting for a response says a lot about your current mindset.

Martinez39s:
If they apply your tips by chance and it works, they wouldn't admit it. They will use mental gymnastics and intellectual acrobatics to explain it away. They will live in denial.

XhosaNostra:


Oh, I see. Well, that's where the difference lies. I'm too much of a traditionalist. Also, early on in a relationship I'm not emotionally attached in any way, so there's no reason for me to approach a guy for anything. Liking someone is different from love & not enough motivation for me to start chasing. I can always brush that shìt off & move on to someone with similar views.
So yeah, it's interesting how we all differ in one way or another.

Ariza:
Lol it's not the fear of rejection as a matter of fact that would have given me a reality check and snapped me out of delusions. But It's because of my principles.In as much as I try to ignore, my inner voice will keep asking if it's the right thing to do. Lol. A friend of mine asked her guy out herself and it's working fine for her. I don't criticize those who do it, it's just something I may never do.

czarr:
To each his own...
I just hope all this traditional talk is not just to mask your fear rejection?

just as you are not a coward for your traditional outlook on approach, so also he is not a sissy for his own approach.
you'll both find people who will bend to your rules.

Shugavee:
lol Na better crazy Dey worry Una !! The way Una go single ehn !! Only a foolish ugly desperate girl will put herself so low

Ladyhippolyta88:

No problem.Thanks for sharing nice read.we are all principled in different ways.

ozodigboo:
My guy and I ran into two babes at a mall.
I told my own that I like her, that we need to hang out, and I gave her my card ( with my number on it of course). She wanted to give me her number but I smiled and declined. I wanted her to feel free to call.

My guy didn't buy the idea. He collected the his girls number, and lated called. But the girl hasn't yet agreed to any date and promised to call later, but hasn't.

Mine hasn't called either. Lol

Who between the both of us did the right thing? How long should we wait before giving up.?

Ariza:
You really tried.... I don't just know how to say it. Like last year I set up a meeting with a guy I've been into for years (2years) When he arrived, we talked asked him if he is in a relationship which he answered No to, then when it was time for me to let out the cat, I couldn't. Just went into mute mode, words didn't come ,after several attempt I decided to just enjoy his presence see me sulking in all of his perfume . If I were to draw him I would make an exact sketch of him with my eyes closed that day. like the sulking and focus wasn't from here. Lol. When he said he was leaving, I told him same here I didn't want to be left alone there. Honestly that thing isn't easy ooo I couldn't just pull it off.

kongolo:
If she was really interested in you,she would have called you but she isn't.Now you know and can stop wasting any time and energy on her.Women are an inexhaustible resource.Find another.They are everywhere.If wizkid for example had given her his number wouldn't she have called?This man-woman relationship thingy is a game women always play to win.Be like them

seanwilliam:
You are not that intelligent, you are just like an average naija girl ( abi na from southy u come from ?) with a little exposure... when I saw your comment up there, I said wow, this girl has really cornered ubunja and was about to clap for you before I read this your post..
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This honestly proves to me that girls have same brain no matter what.. no insult intended..

Reality11:


By giving his number he showed that he is interested in her.

If she threw away the number or refused calling that means she's not interested.

And probably if he was the one that collected the number she would still show him big time.

So by doing this, he has saved himself from chasing girls that won't be interested or willing to give him a try.

But seriously the op .bleeped up by not giving her his number when she asked. Only desperate girls would call such a guy.

Jaqenhghar:

What is so unintelligent or intelligent because a woman says she prefers to be wooed? Its just an opinion , a preference for something. I dont eat eggs, it doesnt feel right to me , so going by this logic people who eat eggs are suddenly dumb and unintelligent. SMH

XhosaNostra:


I agree with you & the thing is, some of us have no problem matching a guy effort for effort once he gets the ball rolling. All these games end up spoiling things & in contrary to what some of these people believe, they do kill attraction. If you're declining to take a girl's number, in other words, You're putting yourself above her. She'll call you if she agrees lol. I won't You come at me maturely or piss off.

Toseenlove:


Lol Your assertion Is Incoherent, Doesn't even correlate with the Initial argument. You are obviously a confused fellow....