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noisy45:
Guys who treat women as trash are the guys who fvck them better. They the ladies stalk these guys like super mario

How you know guy?

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luminouz:
U welcome mudafvcker!!!


Truth is,most humans never know the value of what they have until they lose it. Sand is everywhere but valueless unlike diamond which is scarce

Diamond and Graphite are both made of carbon. The former is scarce and thus invaluable while the latter is used for pencils and its everywhere,so valueless.

yeah that's true, I treated her like my younger sister,did d little I could to always make she was happy, she was very popular among my friends and siblings,I was really surprised cos I didn't know what more she wanted that I didn't give to her. I fear women honestly.

Most girls don't mind as long as the guy gives them money and make their p**y wet as in a previous comment in the name of times are hard

lovelyadeola:
Not all

All my dear

that's their nature I think

Some guys are wicked, they don't need good Ladies

Sometimes when you really fall in love, you won't mind how your guy treat you. Because that moment you don't want to listen to any body. Love! Love!! Love!!!

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

I totally disagree with you, you can't come on nairaland and be forming Jackie girl.. Probably you are the one the guy is referring to...

Cos most of them don’t really Knw what they want!

You have said it all. I am. No longer reading other comments.

Realmenlovetruly:
Back to the OP


Though am lazy to type but will try and give the original keypoint


When we are talking about being Nice, Please to be Nice Man is totally different from to be a Weak Man


Listen if you can not be real you when it comes to woman world then you are a weak man


A bad guy can be nice and also still wicked the wicked part is that the bad guy is always be real when it comes to ladies world


But the weak guy or over-nice guy always try to please the woman, even if what he is going to do is not that comfortable to him


He is always feel scared to says his opinion to the girl,scared of her leaving him


In which the real guy,popularly called Bad guy don't give a Bleep whether she leaves or she stays


He is always real and nice


We cant date for 2 seconds if you dont want me to be real with you


But i can still makes you pee in your pant with my jokes and attitudes

Just like one i've been helping financially& always being supportive with the little i can to assist her cz she really needs it that she now feels very entitled and hardly appreciative.It will take her hours to respond or acknowledge.I just laugh most times cz she doesn't know winter is coming.

philfearon:
This is a silly discourse!!!

Nobody loves anybody that treats them like trash, it's basic human psychology... Use the word Tolerate!

Baba i swear God bless u. You're smart. I'm just here reading comment about guys claiming alpha male, hard guy, bad guy, bla bla bla lol ...Your comment is apt, oya enjoy take this beer

Women hates men they can predict. They like weird experience.

I am looking for a good guy , know any? . Poeple seem to mistake corny guys for good guys,sigh.

And people seem to mistake blunt guys for assholes smh.

omoseth:
Just like one i've been helping financially& always being supportive with the little i can to assist her cz she really needs it that she now feels very entitled and hardly appreciative.It will take her hours to respond or acknowledge.I just laugh most times cz she doesn't know winter is coming.

Baba, don't mind her u're a good person. Oya give me 20k

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

hmm is that you on your dp?

J111333:
They don't love bad guys, they are simply loyal to them.
Just like dogs remain loyal and obedient to tough owners even when they are not fed but attack kind owners for not feeding them on time.

Women love good guys and that's why they hurt them. They believe they can get away with it.

You deserve one hot slap and 5 bottles of cold orijin. The slap is to continually making sound and the 5 cold orijin is for brilliant answer.

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

Great opinion! Incongruous with the display photo on your profile

kingvick09:
I'd be so grateful if justice could be served on my behalf , cause the nigeria police force is turning to something else.
i have a private bike which I use for my business , so this set of guys without Id or means of identification as police officer stopped me at palm avenue mushin and requested for my bike key which i refused cause i was scared they were thieves. before i knew it one of them already called the rest.when the rest came , they started harassing me. in the twinkle of an eye, i was handcuffed just for resisting arrest of my bike and the other guy brought out mini tear gas and pressed it to my face. I was bundled into one MARUWA and taken to olosan police station where they put me in a room and started beating cause people tried to help me at the spot of the illegal arrest...


I'm pleading ,if there's any lawyer here on nairaland who can help me get justice for the harassment and maltreatment i got today for being hand cuffed and tear gassed.
I'M BEING ASKED TO COME TOMORROW MORNING TO CLAIM MY BIKE AND THE GOODS ON THE BIKE.I HAVE TO BE THERE BY 8AM TOMORROW MORNING.

07057635533 ANYONE WHO CAN HELP ME PLEASE......

Search for segalink on twitter or segun awosanya

Youngjohnosas:
it's a misery, women r just too complex to understand.i dated my ex for 3 years and fell so much in love with her because she was so understanding and nice.i messed things up by becoming too nice to her.Each time we had a disagreement she would always play d victim even when it was obvious she was clearly at fault, sometimes she would boastfully say she doesn't know how to say sorry to a guy.

it started degenerating that most times she did something wrong and I yelled at her,she would block my lines for days that I had to resort to asking my friends and siblings to beg her on my behalf because I felt I was a nice guy.it got into her head and she started misbehaving badly and on some few occasions I broke up with her but I couldn't even stay for two hours without hearing her voice, so each time I felt she was using me and broke up she won't even bother to say sorry because she knew I couldn't stay without talking to her.

I stumbled on a post here on nairaland and a particular comment got hold of me,that the only way to earn a woman's respect is to make her feel worthless and undervalued.the following week she did something outrageous and didn't even bother to apologise she was waiting for me to do the needful by calling her,yeah I did call her but to inform her I wasn't interested in the relationship anymore, she laughed and said ok thank you.

that day I was restless and couldn't eat, the urge to call her was very high but I resisted it and held on for 7days, on the 7th she called and was like so u are this heartless,I posted that I was sick on my WhatsApp status and u didn't even bother to check on me ,I just laughed and she angrily ended d call thinking I was going to call her back but I didn't.

two days later she called again and was like are u like this now, I was just laughing and ever since she has been calling over and over again.the day I mistakenly called her number and quickly ended d call she called me back over 10 times pleading that she wasn't with her phone when I called.

last night she opened up and pleaded and pleaded that I should forgive her and I told her I wasn't interested anymore,at some point she would angrily end d call and later call back to start pleading, this morning her elder sister and brother called me trying to show concern although they didn't mention her name, Right now she has dropped a lot of messages on WhatsApp .I am really surprised although I am never going back to her again.thanks nairaland.

Oga.......u wasn't being a nice guy...u was just a "fool for love"

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

Na them type you be abeg....I know Una

GeneralPula:
Being gentle in a world full of Wolves and Tigers is absolute waste of life!

Correctien!

bigcee:
Baba i swear God bless u. You're smart. I'm just here reading comment about guys claiming alpha male, hard guy, bad guy, bla bla bla lol ...Your comment is apt, oya enjoy take this beer

Thanks bro.

boninho:
Good guys don't finish last.....they don't even start the race

I guess it’s really that bad sometimes

sassysure:
So who is loving all the good guys or are they single?

Mtcheeew.

Well, from the lesson so far. Ladies tired of the called 'bad guys' are the ones loving them.

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

Hmmmm hmmmm.

Youngjohnosas:
yeah that's true, I treated her like my younger sister,did d little I could to always make she was happy, she was very popular among my friends and siblings,I was really surprised cos I didn't know what more she wanted that I didn't give to her. I fear women honestly.

You were too nice,too available, too good and therefore BORING!!!


Creating some artificial scarcity makes women thirst for you. Thats just human fuqin nature.

It's more like saying "why do good gals love bad guys"
Anyway that's cheap, have you ever thought "how do guys treat bad gals bad and make them cry badly" lolz
Don't you think as we have good gals we have bad gals too!
Anyway when you are ready for that discussion, tag me, let me school y'all.

Low self esteem after being bullied and pushed around by there own parents for years now a fool takes over where the parents left off. All is well , because the sex and stability is what neutralizes everything.

Realmenlovetruly:
Back to the OP


Though am lazy to type but will try and give the original keypoint


When we are talking about being Nice, Please to be Nice Man is totally different from to be a Weak Man


Listen if you can not be real you when it comes to woman world then you are a weak man


A bad guy can be nice and also still wicked the wicked part is that the bad guy is always be real when it comes to ladies world


But the weak guy or over-nice guy always try to please the woman, even if what he is going to do is not that comfortable to him


He is always feel scared to says his opinion to the girl,scared of her leaving him


In which the real guy,popularly called Bad guy don't give a Bleep whether she leaves or she stays


He is always real and nice


We cant date for 2 seconds if you dont want me to be real with you


But i can still makes you pee in your pant with my jokes and attitudes

Na u get am. Most women are the same .... Me , I'm a nice, professional bad nigga .... When I'm with my lady , The whole world is free.

The first day she came my house, I mess for her (pass gas) ... she insult me and I insult her back na so we insult each other .... na who dey mess pass now (na she dey pass gas more) ....Always claiming payback time... if I had begged her that day ... na so she go feel dulled.

If you want your woman to be loyal to you be a Man (A figure she can curled up to) not like her firstborn or last born .....

Be Godly, nice , sane, intellectual, clean , cut, cute, Mulla and street .... Oza room must be A+ ..... Gbam .... See Loya milk and Fura everywhere!!

BTW not all women, just those with mental illness.