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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Angelacruz: 6:37pm On Apr 08, 2020
Bros u fit dash me one nah...e no easy here
Iceyjayz:
Nokia X2 in this age? cheesy
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Angelacruz: 6:38pm On Apr 08, 2020
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24kmagic:

Hahahaha. Nairalanders
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Vikky014(f): 6:38pm On Apr 08, 2020
mehn the tears just keep flowing. i really learnt alot from this and i pray that God almighty will send your destiny helper . stop hurting bc of how shola ended it wasnt ur fault to me she didnt do well despite how you treated her. other guys would hv used her for ritual but u held urslf

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 6:54pm On Apr 08, 2020
Ishilove:

Do you believe in the power of prayer?
I do my lady i do
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 6:56pm On Apr 08, 2020
Style007:
I’m sincerely sorry for all you passed through brother. However, it’s only a fool that allows past mistakes to repeat itself.

Please ensure you get a paternity test on little Samuel before assuming the duty of his father unless you are just doing it for charity sake.

Again please work on your emotional intelligence. you don’t have to be wicked to reason logically. you have to toughen up to avoid a repetition of your past. Please learn how not to allow emotions cloud your reasoning.

You have a good heart brother.
thank you very much. I have learnt a lot sir that I won't br making such mistakes ever again

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 6:57pm On Apr 08, 2020
Vikky014:
mehn the tears just keep flowing. i really learnt alot from this and i pray that God almighty will send your destiny helper . stop hurting bc of how shola ended it wasnt ur fault to me she didnt do well despite how you treated her. other guys would hv used her for ritual but u held urslf
Amen and thanks for your prayers

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Ishilove: 7:13pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
I do my lady i do
Then go to the mountain. 3 days and pray for divine restoration. If you can make it longer it will better but before 7 days ends, you will be visited.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 7:19pm On Apr 08, 2020
chudez0147:

Person no fit play with you again...
you must be a very bad person for thinking of such thing
I remember your moniker Sir. You were one of those that accused me of been a scam. Chia bro that thing pain me ehh, I was hurting but you and that other guy was adding to it. But I understand Sha. Have a lovely night rest

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 7:20pm On Apr 08, 2020
Ishilove:

Then go to the mountain. 3 days and pray for divine restoration. If you can make it longer it will better but before 7 days ends, you will be visited.
thank you so much for this. The nearest mountain is in ibadan abi or osun State. Don't know of any in Lagos

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by hungryboy(m): 7:22pm On Apr 08, 2020
My guy, you have gone through a lot,many will say you were too emotional,but the only thing i see is a good man who fell in love with a girl and tried his best to treat her and her family right.
In this life we all make mistakes, but for some of us, our mistakes have grave consequences, while others have the luck of their mistakes not harming 'em.
Keep being you man, don't let the world change you.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by gfon(m): 7:24pm On Apr 08, 2020
Thanks bro for this piece,almost cried jst held the tears back. You really got me encouraged cuz life hasn't been fair on me but i still thank God. Haven't spoken or called my dad in a long while cuz of an issue,bt i did this evening. Thanks once again for this piece. God bless us all.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 7:29pm On Apr 08, 2020
2buffagain:
Losing job and girlfriend should not lead you to suicide. You exist as more than just these things.
Although with the way nigerian simps be thinking, if they cannot be an ATM to their spendy women they start questioning their existence.

That's not normal.
A good number of you naija guys need to take care of yourself mentally and practice self love.
This is why it is sad that mental health is not taken seriously in that country.

Simping is a mental illness.

- Find a better job. The next job will likely be better.
- Stretch and Enjoy your singleness for a time. Use it to focus on your self improvement. Losing a girlfriend means you have an opportunity to refine what you look for in others. No relationship experience is wasted.
thank you for this. I appreciate it

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Psalmy2cute(m): 7:30pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
After that experience on nairaland yes it was 9k that I got but the many ideas I was given and the encouragement to live on really pushed me to give life another chance.


I was crying while writing that epistle and putting it on nairaland and even having to comvince some guys to understand I was real and not a scammer was tough on it self but that night that depression left because of the calls and encouragement I got from nairaland and the next day I sold something at home and paid to learn how to fix CCTV camera instead of just been at home wallowing in self pity or doing jobs that was killing instead of bringing in money.


I began learning how to fix CCTV and by November because I took it so serious and with lot of determination to learn it i was done learning and someone told me to take my job to social media that I could get more clients and thanks to Joe Abah on Twitter he was so gracious enough to help me retweet my pinned tweet on my Twitter handle and I got lot of views that day and some potential clients, yes I haven't done a big job yet but there is now a reason to live and smile again and be a better man


January 1st my shola called me to wish me happy new year and I wished her as well and i asked about Samuel and she said he misses me and from her voice I could tell she wasn't feeling too fine because that wasn't her normal voice but I decided not to care again, how I wished I pushed to know what's was wrong with her


She told me she would like to see me for something inportant but I said we weren't gonna see until I get a car and make money again how foolish I was and she said no wahala and that she would always love me no matter what and I just waived it aside and moved on with life until the 25 of February i think when I got a call as early as 6am by her friend that knew we were dating and she asked me if I had heard, I asked her heard what and she said Shola is death.


I asked Esther if she was mad what kind of dirty joke is that and she swore it to me that it was true and immediately my heart sank again and those sleep in my.eyes vanished into thin air and I immediately dropped the call with Esther I called Shola's line and it was switched off, i went to her WhatsApp to chat hwr up but her last seen was January 8 and I called her Mom and the Mom confirmed it.


Oh goodness my heart was broken, I cried, I cried, i cried oh I cried that morning again. And i began to reminisce of how she helped me during those times I was still playing football, her laugh, our pictures together, those times we made love, those times we took our kids to the eatery together, those times we planned to get old together, those times she helped me press my hip with hot water, those times she would steal her mom's 1k or 2k to give to me to travel to play football, those times she was there when my mom died, those times i was sick and she would stay with me till I get better, those times she would fight anyone and everything for me and during this moment I didn't think about her hurting me again, I didn't think about her dumping me or cheating on me, I even blamed my self that if I hadn't rented that apartment she could still have been alive and while still mourning her a few days later her Mom called me and asked me those questions
I was moved to tears while reading this

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by AlphaGreenz: 7:38pm On Apr 08, 2020
Wow... This is quite a story, someone somewhere that thinks his life is a worse case will be inspired by this. Even though I've not had any ugly experience in life, I learn from people who have.

I won't way it's an ill fate most times, but most of the time people bite more than they can chew. I would say the OP was the cause of almost everything that befell him like.

He didn't have the financial intelligence to manage his money well, that was the start of his ordeal. And the last straw that broke the camels back was when he impulsively decided to shoulder responsibilities that were way bigger than him, I mean he was barely rooted financially and he went on to do things that outweighed his financial strength.

Well, I conclusively say the cause of all this was because he never had time for himself, according to his story his only concern was his strive to make money and feed his family, he gave little or no time to himself.

I have to say his problem is not making money, but rather how to control it. His inability in controlling on was the source of all his ordeal like I said he never gave time to thinking of the way forward, he lived like everything was automated. Every successful person always set out time for themselves that's why they barely have time for family or friends

And even as much as he thinks he has seen a ray of hope, if he does not still correct his mistakes he'll still fall a victim to his old negligence. Like I said making money wasn't your actual problem, learn to manage money. I know of a bricklayer that has built a house for himself and also has two kids he's training in the university.

And finally, certainly, another cause was that you are swayed by your emotions, you let it control you. As men, one of the traits that make us superior over women is our ability to control our emotions, yes men are human they cry but you should to be in charge of yourself and don't let it throw you off balance.

Thanks for being strong, you've in turn inspired even me and probably someone out there that has lost hope and given up on life.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by narit: 7:40pm On Apr 08, 2020
Seeing all romancelanders making a comment even the exiles, I just have to.

But seriously, that girl just use her own to set you back in life. Sadly, some things are just inevitable, but I absolutely have no doubt, you are going to pull a come back from this and even do well financially than you once were. The bitter experience of life are just there to make those who can pull through, become better than they once were. It is this defining moment of our life, we find our own meaning to life. Just when you think you have everything going well for you, life will humbled you, it will try and keep you on your knees but no matter what always get up.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 7:42pm On Apr 08, 2020
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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 7:54pm On Apr 08, 2020
gfon:
Thanks bro for this piece,almost cried jst held the tears back. You really got me encouraged cuz life hasn't been fair on me but i still thank God. Haven't spoken or called my dad in a long while cuz of an issue,bt i did this evening. Thanks once again for this piece. God bless us all.
aww so happy you called Dad and hope you and thr old mas has mended fence. God go bless us all amen and goodnight

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Jovi123(f): 7:56pm On Apr 08, 2020
Seriously this is sad

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 8:00pm On Apr 08, 2020
AlphaGreenz:
Wow... This is quite a story, someone somewhere that thinks his life is a worse case will be inspired by this. Even though I've not had any ugly experience in life, I learn from people who have.

I won't way it's an ill fate most times, but most of the time people bite more than they can chew. I would say the OP was the cause of almost everything that befell him like.

He didn't have the financial intelligence to manage his money well, that was the start of his ordeal. And the last straw that broke the camels back was when he impulsively decided to shoulder responsibilities that were way bigger than him, I mean he was barely rooted financially and he went on to do things that outweighed his financial strength.

Well, I conclusively say the cause of all this was because he never had time for himself, according to his story his only concern was his strive to make money and feed his family, he gave little or no time to himself.

I have to say his problem is not making money, but rather how to control it. His inability in controlling on was the source of all his ordeal like I said he never gave time to thinking of the way forward, he lived like everything was automated. Every successful person always set out time for themselves that's why they barely have time for family or friends

And even as much as he thinks he has seen a ray of hope, if he does not still correct his mistakes he'll still fall a victim to his old negligence. Like I said making money wasn't your actual problem, learn to manage money. I know of a bricklayer that has built a house for himself and also has two kids he's training in the university.

And finally, certainly, another cause was that you are swayed by your emotions, you let it control you. As men, one of the traits that make us superior over women is our ability to control our emotions, yes men are human they cry but you should to be in charge of yourself and don't let it throw you off balance.

Thanks for being strong, you've in turn inspired even me and probably someone out there that has lost hope and given up on life.

wow. I just wanna say thank you for this advice. I would screenshot it and read it a lot till I understand and grasp everything you told me. Thank you and goodnight

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Elxandre(m): 8:03pm On Apr 08, 2020
From all you typed, you've learnt nothing and might still fall for same type of woman.
Not like I blame her though.
What did you expect from a teen who spent most of her formative years backing marital pressures?
From all you said, she would have been like 21 right now.

Also don't forget not to live above your means with the next money you get and never do giveaways till you can.
You have been very privileged to see the kind of money you've seen earlier but you blew it.

Stay strong. Opportunities will come knocking again I hope. And don't forget to keep improving yourself.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by enirock(m): 8:09pm On Apr 08, 2020
Thank God for you
Thank God for this fora and all the help that came through it both monetary and advices that you took.
May God grant Shola's soul a peaceful rest in eternity.
At every time God test our resolve with temptations and gives us those to help us through them.
Thanks for sharing your story for it is an inspiration to us growing and also an eye opener.
God will continually provide for you to take care of Samuel and yourself.
We tell death- Not today
May suicidal thoughts not be our portion

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by gfon(m): 8:13pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
aww so happy you called Dad and hope you and thr old mas has mended fence. God go bless us all amen and goodnight
would do so wen i go bk to lag thanks
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by noCAP(m): 8:17pm On Apr 08, 2020
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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by JackHoff: 8:27pm On Apr 08, 2020
sad

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Viking007(m): 8:39pm On Apr 08, 2020
Ishilove:

Then go to the mountain. 3 days and pray for divine restoration. If you can make it longer it will better but before 7 days ends, you will be visited.
Hmmm. smiley
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Adebowalay(m): 9:10pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
no I'm not Chief
this is me bro.. what a coincidence.. just two days ago...she came pleading...and I asked her to go... I'll get back to her..

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Npower: 9:17pm On Apr 08, 2020
Wow, I learnt a lot. Never marry an evening newspaper, if you know you know.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 9:25pm On Apr 08, 2020
Adebowalay:
this is me bro.. what a coincidence.. just two days ago...she came pleading...and I asked her to go... I'll get back to her..
wow many of we NIGERIANS havw gone through almost the same stuff. I don't even know what to advice you sir but follow your heart

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Aabheaven(m): 9:27pm On Apr 08, 2020
skymight:
Thanks bro this really touched me. I have been planning for a sucide now since January this year but I am having a rethink right now.
please stay strong brother, God gat you and please don't give up.. suicide is never an option

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by AlphaGreenz: 9:28pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
wow. I just wanna say thank you for this advice. I would screenshot it and read it a lot till I understand and grasp everything you told me. Thank you and goodnight
Thanks too, bro... Your tale really made see life from a very different perspective; indeed we're the master of our fate, and life is no bed of roses.
You made my night man.
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Makschinchin: 9:43pm On Apr 08, 2020
Viking007:



This is how some people use their own hands to curse themselves. You accuse someone of being a scammer with no evidence whatsoever, then you begin to wonder why you find it difficult getting help when you need one...You reap what you sow.

Your reason for quoting me being

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