Oga your own is that you were caught as you admitted meaning you are guilty so you shouldn't be blaming the woman or the system! You are also enjoying the good life and system there so stop sounding like women are better off in the bondage that Nigeria offers when men deliberately go a-cheating and still intimidate the woman into condoning and accepting bullshit because there is no support system or viable economic alternative plus general societal madness! If you had respected your vows ans kept your zipper closed, you would still be living happily with your wife and children! Will you say she was a bad or troublesome person? The fault is yours 100% so deal with it! If you like marry another woman, that is your headache!

princetaiwo:
I live in Canada, I married my wife in Nigeria, now she as the custody of our 3 children,
She determines when and if I can see our children.
I pay her child support every month which is not a problem to me because I will still spend the money on my children if we are all still living together.
She takes all the child benefit(money) the government gives our children.
She almost destroyed me here.
I don't know my children day care.
The truth is that she caught me..........and I apologized but the freedom, independence and money make most of Nigerian women to brake their Home and later live a lonely life.
I NEVER slap or abuse my wife, that is what God use to save me.
If I may ask, do you think I will ever think of marrying a Nigerian woman here in Canada or come to Nigeria to pick a woman? NEVER

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT, THERE ARE LOT OF HOOD WOMEN, NO MATTER WHAT; THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THEIR ROOT AND HOW THINGS ARE DONE

Not only canada,even in the US,go to northeastern US states and see for yourself,they full here in Florida

gargoylern:

You should grow beyond that thinking. It is part of what is causing all this kasala wey dey ground. You don't want to come down from your high horse to get a man without a visa. What's in a visa anyways?

This is also vice versa. Many men here are against getting a wife from Nigeria because they feel they are being used. Women too have that same sentiment and many have missed true love and partnership because of this. I don't doubt there are people that use others for Visa and relocating, but the truth of the matter is that because many of these people(especially the men)already feel that their potential Nigerian spouse might be marrying them for relocation purposes, many of them tend to treat them like trash and without dignity in order to 'put a leash' on them. This attitude ends up backfiring on them when the woman finally settles and finds her way.
There is risk in both ways, whether marrying from home or not. I personally encourage it. Marry someone that at least has a life while in Nigeria(especially someone working and has prospects). Marry someone that comes from a comparable social class as you at least in Nigeria....That way, you will minimize the error of someone marrying for the wrong reasons.
Take time to connect with the person before settling down... Above all treat each other nicely and without suspicion when married.

tossedbae:
Only introvert like me will have it interesting there, I would loved to be there also

introvert no go marry?

All these broke men crying judicial systems, funny enough they all live in Nigeria.

They want a woman that will permit their cheating ways

A good woman is the woman who allow men to cheat, and cheat, while they infect her with diseases from outside.

A bad woman is the woman who drives them out of the house and take custody of the children because of their cheating ways.

ednut1:
jf your occupation is in demand in the provinces that don't require job offer. Yes

Thanks. Where can one find more info about occupations in demand? Thanks!

egopersonified:
ok, I am thinking, can't they become lesbians?

loool you assume sexual preference is by choice? Why don't you screw a guy 10 years younger than you then.

lefulefu:
aghh like tiger wood's wife that collected all his money and property .dude became broke after the divorce proceedings.

No pity for tiger woods.

He was busy bleeping anything under skirt.

No be every rain weh fall, man suppose fetch......

Anybody with nothing going for them will be lonely... Man or woman!

truthsayer009:


If you are referring to loneliness due to no partner, the Men you want are in abundance in Nigeria if you really want them.

In Nigeria if you really want sex or relationship. You can just wink at any good looking guy in Church. His head will start turning, before you know it he has invited you over & the relationship starts. Arguably he may see you as cheap, but at least you have caught his attention.

In diaspora, you will hardly find Nigerian Men you may like. The ratio is 10 / 100. If you are open minded to White, Indians & Latino men, then no problem. Just be ready to accept their cultures & can be eating Garlic like a mad woman if he's Indian

I don't want a sex relationship.

This is the issue with most Nigerian men. A lot of you are wired to think relationships are about money and sex, the same applies to the women, and that probably contributes to why they can't find decent partners anywhere else

A lot of Nigerians have messed up ideas of a relationship

I don't want relationship for sex. I am open minded to anyone who has sense.

EVILFOREST:

[s]
I guess u are JEALOUS that a lady can be this Loyal.
It's Real.
MEN who reside ABROAD also do so because of the consequences of this THREAD that's being discussed now..
Take your TIME and ANALYZE Any DIASPORA MAN visiting Nigeria to Marry.
He's not interested in MONEY or Beauty.
Beauty no dey Naija naaaa.
How many Naija Babes they Spend 30k on only Cream..?
In Fact, most of them even go to the poorest Nigerian homes not knowing that DEVIL has finally relocated to such places.

They do so because they want a LOYAL WIFE that will see MONEY and still cherish them.
My UNCLES suffered in the hand of Poor LADIES and vowed never to touch poor homes again.. [/s]

Why would I be jealous of another woman.

Your refusal to answer my straightforward question shows you are guilty of cheating on your wife.

safarigirl:


I did not grow up in this manner you are describing. Not all of us knocked on neighbors doors or even have neighbors to knock on their doors.

I have always been a loner. I have acquaintances, not so much friends.

I don't ask strangers for things, in fact, I don't like to ask my own family for things.

Naija guys don't like me, I don't fit the profile of the kind of girls they prefer, I have given up on them. Dora Akunyili's daughter found a sound oyibo guy in this same Canada. You will tell me it is because she has name and a career or whatever, but she found someone. She could have waited for a Sound Naija guy, but maybe like me, Nigerian men did not fancy her because she did not fit the profile of what they wanted

People have different destinies, this doom and gloom some of you preach, there are so many others that will have a different story. My sister has planned two weddings within the last year, with Nigerian brides living in Canada, her ex recently got married in Canada, to a Nigerian woman based there.

I don't have a good story in Nigeria, it cannot get worse in Canada.

You are Correct.
If you are a LONE RANGER, you won't have issues at all.
Then WELCOME to DIASPORA.
CANADA is good so I learnt.
Population too small with so much COLD ooo.
So Prepare and Leave immediately after this useless COVID 19...

Different strokes for different folks. I hope u get your specs very soon . Men plenty for canada well well
....hmmm

safarigirl:


I did not grow up in this manner you are describing. Not all of us knocked on neighbors doors or even have neighbors to knock on their doors.

I have always been a loner. I have acquaintances, not so much friends.

I don't ask strangers for things, in fact, I don't like to ask my own family for things.

Naija guys don't like me, I don't fit the profile of the kind of girls they prefer, I have given up on them. Dora Akunyili's daughter found a sound oyibo guy in this same Canada. You will tell me it is because she has name and a career or whatever, but she found someone. She could have waited for a Sound Naija guy, but maybe like me, Nigerian men did not fancy her because she did not fit the profile of what they wanted

People have different destinies, this doom and gloom some of you preach, there are so many others that will have a different story. My sister has planned two weddings within the last year, with Nigerian brides living in Canada, her ex recently got married in Canada, to a Nigerian woman based there.

I don't have a good story in Nigeria, it cannot get worse in Canada.

kizwal:
...You got a lot of mature intelligence.. author=madridsta007 post=88253201]

It is the Diaspora at large but the case of Canada is particularly striking as the weather, distance between cities, etc make socialising very difficult.

We must say the truth as it is. Nigerian girls, who are not used to approaching a man, struggle in the area of a relationship if based in the Diaspora.
1. They are not used to approaching a male.
2. They are not the first of the pick when a responsible Nigerian man-and there are few of this category- is looking to marry. The Nigerian female in the diaspora competes with the white girls, black British/Canadian/American girls who are citizens, other black African girls who are argurably more submissive and, if they are from the Southern part of Africa, we know how their physical structure are . Also, the Nigerian guy would prefer to travel to Nigeria and find a bride based in Nigeria. We know this happens.
3. The Nigerian lady makes a lot of money and because of their hard work, do super well in their career. This is actually commendable. However for most humans, this sadly comes with arrogance, the inability to cook, near-zero respect, and too many illogical requirements in a man.
They become more sensible and rationale when they are 32, 33 years old and it becomes more difficult. I know some that actually move back to Nigeria to try get married.
In the end, they struggle. Hence you see them on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, you see them as feminists, etc. Loneliness and depression sets in and, because of pride and the fake strong personae they have built, they dont talk.

I feel for them but they should know that there is always a way out to amend wrongs. First of all, kill pride. Kill it, it wont help you. When you come off as arrogant to a Nigerian man, African man, his spirit leaves the conversation. You can mock it, call him weak, call him "incapable of handling a strong woman", but it is you that will end up lonely and seeking companionship from YouTube. Next, study the place you want to relocate to. Most people just move without checking. Join and participate in a church, not necessarily student groups as this ends after 1-2 years. Learn how to cook ooo! Make sure you keep and maintain strong contacts in Nigeria. And if you need to take a career break to move to Nigeria to sort out relationship issues, do so. Dont let the good life of the West fool you and make you hit mid-thirties while single.
Make a move. That is the point.

what abt UK?

fairfora:
I always notice that too. Guys are also scared of getting married over there, irrespective of their employment status, dunno why

HALF

thesmallgod:

Make I connect you with someone in new zealand but if you break her heart I swell na Ogun go kill you oo

Connect me if you can, she won't regret it

EVILFOREST:

This is the END

my ex classmate wey finish secondary school in 2015 don build house for Delta. he dey drive Lexus too. thanks to one Yankee white woman.

Martinez39s:
People don't realise that female nature is universal. If you pick a wife in Nigeria and send her abroad to come live with you, she will most likely destroy you in the family courts at one point once she learns about the system and gets engrossed in feminism over there. At that point, she doesn't have to be loyal and submissive because the court system has given her all the power over you in the relationship. Those who live abroad and think picking a wife in Nigeria will guarantee a loving, well-cultured, traditional, and submissive wife are under a great misapprehension. Once these women learn the system and embrace radical feminism over there, the man is done for.

generationz:


Why would I be jealous of another woman.

Your refusal to answer my straightforward question shows you are guilty of cheating on your wife.

I cheat on my Wife with my WIFE.
U think every man sees sexxx as a milestone.

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Lies, I live in Netherlands oga, and a tourist can not work here. Even non EU students needs a special permission from IND before they even work up to ten hours a week. [/quot
Might be wrong though but I follow their update on IG and people who live there say that
Are you truly living in Netherlands.?

died off....I have tested both. The lady I am about pp loves me more, I can't marry someone I love more...don't make that mistake to avoid heart aches.[/quote]

U are right though not heart ache, u wont have time to go hustle for the daily bread.

died off....I have tested both. The lady I am about pp loves me more, I can't marry someone I love more...don't make that mistake to avoid heart aches.[/quote]



U are right though not heart ache, u wont have time to go hustle for the daily bread.

HappyCanadian:
Lol, its both ways if you don't have someone you fall to.. those of u shouting white babes sure pass.. una nogo understand as for me I'm going to marry a Nigerian girl I no fit shout... so I'm working towards that when I get home..

My uncle is 37 and he is on my neck to please hook him up with a "good" Nigerian lady, he has been there for 7 years now, I wondered why he didn't marry a white as he always dreamed of, he told me it isn't that easy and moreover if you use PR and get your papers you notice those white women have nothing much to offer you aside a clash of cultural values, subtle superiority and feminism, anyhow sha I have hooked him up to a fmr classmate, I pray it works for them...

Thank you

foleskay:


Are u a lesbian?? Would you advise your sister to be one if she's there??

Voy:
u’re thinking like a w.h.o.r.e

Pele mr w.h.o.r.e. thinker it's my life and not yours

byinks:


She always preferred naija man but none really stepped up.

I wonder why black women don't fancy white men.

EVILFOREST:


Don't ever consider MARRIAGE until you find a LADY that LOVES you more than she loves herself and also more than you Love her.
Don't WASTE your MARRIAGE oooo.
For US here, them many but NOBODY they near them again.
I don't match my relatives with NIGERIAN LADIES again. It's a Vow that I have made.
MY WIFE even detests such.
She always ask the MEN to go to NIGERIA themselves and pick their packages
My PEOPLE have suffered in their HANDS.
Some even escape right at the AIRPORT and elope with BF Men.
Some choose Social Gatherings to escape.

I am truly happy for you for having that virtuous woman in your life. Would you mind sharing how you met your wife?

How did she end up developing that strong love for you along the line?

iammiracle1:


My uncle is 37 and he is on my neck to please hook him up with a "good" Nigerian lady, he has been there for 7 years now, I wondered why he didn't marry a white as he always dreamed of, he told me it isn't that easy and moreover if you use PR and get your papers you notice those white women have nothing much to offer you aside a clash of cultural values, subtle superiority and feminism, anyhow sha I have hooked him up to a fmr classmate, I pray it works for them...

Those WHITE BABES dey carry GUN Waka ooo but Naija Babe for NIGERIA dey carry sniper wey dem go drink .

ogaontop:

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Before nko? For quick citizenship things, besides Canadian women are easy to follow and better trusted than our naija babes!

I beg to differ on the bolded.

Life has a dynamic formulae and I wish everyone will understand what he/she deserves at every given point.

There are two things in life that makes life exciting and worthy;
Self love & love for humanity
With these two attribute you can conquer the world.

To any serious Lady with a good character, I got two good friends (long time bachelor) whom I wishes to have the best of woman in their life.

DM if you are the special one.

ZINIBANKS:

Boss abeg please if you get any Canadian babe please just link me up with her
I go Email you my WhatsApp contact

Na wa oooooo

Naija girls don suffer and fall hands oooo.
See how naija guys they hustle abroad girls like agege bread.
This is a big slap on our ladies, meaning dem no dey try support guys at all.

ogaontop:

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Before nko? For quick citizenship things, besides Canadian women are easy to follow and better trusted than our naija babes!

OYIBO never do you something before.