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Wiinnd:
"There were times she will slept over and I kiss her and smooch her breasts and do all sort of things with her but I had this fear of God and I didn't sleep with her even though she presented me the opportunity and I was this close to doing it"

OBelz:
It was my birthday so I had a few friends around.

So I used the opportunity to introduce my best friend (she was my padi to the bone marrow) to my fiancé (now ex). She was so happy to meet him and I felt good because she had always wanted to meet with him. The party ended well and we all went home.

But after few days, kept getting calls and messages from this friend asking if I really want to settle down with this man. I wondered why she was really concerned and asking. So I asked her what is it that she isn’t telling me.

She said to me “Nothing was wrong”, I said, "are you sure?" She replied yes, she wants the best for me and she was just looking out for me. I didn’t bother asking again.

One very hot afternoon, my man(now ex) were together and he decided to tell and show me everything my supposed "best friend” said/wrote to him.

Firstly I was surprised how she got his number and I was so devastated.She told him I was no good for him because my family had issues and he would want that for him self.

Well I was flabbergasted to say the least now though �

The worst kind of hurt is betrayal, because it means that someone will willing to hurt you just to make themselves feel better.

Ever been betrayed? Tell us what happened and let's learn.

Ladies never introduce your friends to your man either ex, present or future.

jbravado:
And I've learnt !!!!
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Olamsoh:
This story reaffirms my principle when in a relationship. I don't want my friends to have a personal relationship with my woman.

And I don't want to have a personal relationship with my woman's friends. This is to avoid story that touch the heart.

Liftkid:
it was my own Brother who betrayed me, immediate elder brother at that.

I have nursed this ambition of traveling abroad for hustle, so last year, I saved 700k and contacted my immediate elder bro, I told him I would auction my bet9ja shop and he objected and asked me to give him 500k from the money to support his luggage business, that after some months he would give me 1m, that's additional 500k.

I told mom and other siblings and they all agreed, dude has been a talk and do since day one.

I gave him the money February 8 2019 and went to Lagos.

we had Indonesia in mind but my woman's mother called and told me she would prefer me going to Germany rather than Asian country.

I told her I have been a keen follower of German thread here on nairaland that I can't afford that block account money.

she told me her step son stays and work legally in Germany that it would ease things.

she contacted my brother and he agreed and promised to send the money but he never did. all he does is keep whining and whining.

in November I got married. when he came back for my trad, he gave me 30k and promised he would return my money and the 500k he pledged after Christmas season.

January came, no show. my woman's mother called him and asked him to send only the one I gave him that he shouldn't bother adding his and he agreed with all pleasure, he said on 20th of February, he would send the 500k.

on 20th I didn't get any alert, I asked momma to call him and even complained to my uncles and they did. he swore to pay me on 23rd unfailingly.


on 23rd Feb, I received 60k (60,000) alert from him. I almost smashed my phone outta anger, told momma and she was like " Nwee ndidi"


I called him and asked why he sent me 60k. dude was like " when you stayed with me after school, u stole my money, when I sent you money to build in the village you chop my money, even the 30k I gave you.

after subtractions na 60k I owe you. I want mad, I was dumbfounded, I asked him for real? and he said I shouldn't contact him again and hung up.

I told momma and she said " forgive him, He is your brother, no matter what. "

that feedback from momma even worsened my plight.

how could have a brother done this to a junior brother?

the same brother I dashed 180k at 22, after my dad's burial, when I sold an elephant tusk I bought from a nairaland guy.

the same brother that ceased my 50k because he borrowed elder sister 50k years back and pleaded him to forget about it when he was pressuring her to refund him?

the same brother I trusted and did business for years with honesty, the same brother I was very proud of.


I felt very betrayed and deleted his numbers.. since that feb 23, he never called nor even asked how i have been fairing.

just last week, wife gave birth with operation (c-section) and I was billed 140k.

sure momma or wify must have told him but he never cared, neither did the eldest brother, not even my elder sister whom for her sake same immediate elder brother debited 50k from 100k I once gave him, how the bill was paid amidst this pandemic.

IT REALLY HURTS, IT WILL BE HARD TO FORGIVE THEM

rapid101:
well,
mine was wen I was in Benin
I ran laundry and to some extent it was successful. I had 3boys working for me . I had a keke which I use in delivering to my customer who re in far distance. then I had a friend who told me about a business which he ll like use to go into. the business was into phone accessories coupled with phone parts. I agreed, I rented the shop at oba market, did furnishing and other body works. during this time I borrowed money from lapo microfinance 300k, borrowed money from money lender about 580k. then I gave osas my friend to come to Lagos to buy the goods we re going to sell in our shop. osas come Lagos, osas no come back. I was so worried I had to go to his family house to know if his back but they said they didn't see him. I called his number and his number was switched off. call his gf and she said she doesn't know his were about. after a month I heard osas don go Malaysia. I ran back to his family house to ask his pple if it true. low and behold osas don travel and he knew I borrowed almost all those money for the business. I almost died. the pressure started coming in as to pay the loans I collected back. I had to sell my two washing machine, my dryer, and my keke and other tins from my shop and house to pay some of the debt. I had to let go of my two staff till I cud pay the money. but after every tin I found Benin uninteresting again cus I Ve lost every tin I Ve built over the years because of one person. I had to move from my room and palour selfcon to a one room, face me I face you, cus I cudnt afford it. my gf left me cus I too de complain money no de as b4. after the whole gbas gbos I relocated to Lagos for a fresh start as not kill my self cus of too much tinking and pressure. till today I pray for osas were ever he is, he ll find good in all he does. but I ll never trust any body again not even my family member. note trust is very expensive

Nigeriahomebiz:
Betrayal is part of life. There are four things I have found which can reduce betrayal from people;

1) Trust only yourself with your secrets (that means never confide with anyone and never tell anyone about your dark side)
2) Never depend on anyone for anything, never take people's promises seriously
3) Expect little or nothing from anyone even those you have helped before
4) Always repay evil deeds. Never forgive anyone that hurts you and let others know this. It will make them think deeply before crossing your path.

titsqueez:
bros how far ....send me ur account number

chrish:
I was in SS1 in a boarding school. I had a friend named Esther we were very close. We stayed in the Same room, eat together, gist, go to class, read together etc. Then I discovered I am related to one of our class mates named joy... I gradually became a friend to Joy and because of me Joy and Esther became friends too. With time I discovered they started avoiding me... When it is time to eat they will just eat together without calling me, when I'm around they won't talk to me... Then I gave them space though we were still staying in the same room. We gradually became strangers. They planned how they will stay together in the same room in ss2.

Fast forward to SS2... I met a new friend ( we are best friends till date). Esther didn't resume because she changed school... Joy my relation came to me and said she wants us to stay together with my new friend. I rejected it with immediate effect... She tried coming close again but I couldn't just let her be my friend again...

Any time Joy sees my picture with my bestie she will be like... "You guys are very close oh, I like your friendship"

Candoit:
My betrayal stories are mainly from childhood.

As a child, my parents promised to buy me a bicycle, they didn't.

I used to lend my mother money I saved. As a student, most times I skipped snacks or trekked home to save something and my mother would borrow it promising to pay back. Well, she didn't.

In Jss1, we had a class project to make any object with clay. Somehow someone accidentally smashed my clay pot cos it was still wet and I had nothing to present other than a funny looking pot I tried to fix. Everyone laughed at me including my best friend. It was even another classmate that tried helping me out while my so called best friend kept shining teeth. Well, that was the end of the friendship till SS3. Childish mentality though....

Well, these are the betrayals that mattered cos somehow they stuck. Betrayals after these didn't stick cos I never took university friends and colleagues as real friends.

Real friends ended in secondary school.

DonroxyII:
So deep .... God will replenish you. I'm moved !!

lilsharp007:
Sometimes in life you gotta fall so you won't fall later in the future and that might be bad than the first betrayal.

rapid101:
acct no. 0420980433
bank. Gtbank

thanks bro
I really appreciate
God bless you

titsqueez:
done!

mistarsam:
Read what you wrote again

Liftkid:
it was my own Brother who betrayed me, immediate elder brother at that.

I have nursed this ambition of traveling abroad for hustle, so last year, I saved 700k and contacted my immediate elder bro, I told him I would auction my bet9ja shop and he objected and asked me to give him 500k from the money to support his luggage business, that after some months he would give me 1m, that's additional 500k.

I told mom and other siblings and they all agreed, dude has been a talk and do since day one.

I gave him the money February 8 2019 and went to Lagos.

we had Indonesia in mind but my woman's mother called and told me she would prefer me going to Germany rather than Asian country.

I told her I have been a keen follower of German thread here on nairaland that I can't afford that block account money.

she told me her step son stays and work legally in Germany that it would ease things.

she contacted my brother and he agreed and promised to send the money but he never did. all he does is keep whining and whining.

in November I got married. when he came back for my trad, he gave me 30k and promised he would return my money and the 500k he pledged after Christmas season.

January came, no show. my woman's mother called him and asked him to send only the one I gave him that he shouldn't bother adding his and he agreed with all pleasure, he said on 20th of February, he would send the 500k.

on 20th I didn't get any alert, I asked momma to call him and even complained to my uncles and they did. he swore to pay me on 23rd unfailingly.


on 23rd Feb, I received 60k (60,000) alert from him. I almost smashed my phone outta anger, told momma and she was like " Nwee ndidi"


I called him and asked why he sent me 60k. dude was like " when you stayed with me after school, u stole my money, when I sent you money to build in the village you chop my money, even the 30k I gave you.

after subtractions na 60k I owe you. I want mad, I was dumbfounded, I asked him for real? and he said I shouldn't contact him again and hung up.

I told momma and she said " forgive him, He is your brother, no matter what. "

that feedback from momma even worsened my plight.

how could have a brother done this to a junior brother?

the same brother I dashed 180k at 22, after my dad's burial, when I sold an elephant tusk I bought from a nairaland guy.

the same brother that ceased my 50k because he borrowed elder sister 50k years back and pleaded him to forget about it when he was pressuring her to refund him?

the same brother I trusted and did business for years with honesty, the same brother I was very proud of.


I felt very betrayed and deleted his numbers.. since that feb 23, he never called nor even asked how i have been fairing.

just last week, wife gave birth with operation (c-section) and I was billed 140k.

sure momma or wify must have told him but he never cared, neither did the eldest brother, not even my elder sister whom for her sake same immediate elder brother debited 50k from 100k I once gave him, how the bill was paid amidst this pandemic.

IT REALLY HURTS, IT WILL BE HARD TO FORGIVE THEM

danemenike:
I want to help you.
Please call me on 07037629947

Eulalia:
Wish I can stop going there but its not easy cos she's my twin . And you know that strong bond between twins.

jeph19:
... We were writing a carryover course way back 300 level, it was 4 questions to answer 3, of which I've answered 1 and 3, I asked my friend if he knew number 2, he affirmed that he knew the answer but didn't know number 3, of which I wrote the whole of number 3 on my question paper and threw the paper to him

After copying he gave me a thumbs up and I was like "how far the number 2"
Sam said "sorry I can't I'm a FELLOWSHIP PAPA"
I angrily got up to go submit

He got the course B, I ended up having C

DonroxyII:
Go there but just once in a while and never tell ur sis her hubby is crushing on you.... verily, ur own Mr right is also around d corner ....

tammyf:
his story is more pathetic than others .....was wondering how I can come in...if he will like to go back n start the laundry stuff

veave:
Betrayal is something I have suffered countless times. Imagine a coworker recording discussions you having and sending to the boss meanwhile she was the one that started the jist. I had issues with someone (a superior at work) and asked this girl what she thought about it and what I should do, this girl went to tell the man that I'm beefing him because of so so and so.

At my work place I give it to everyone back to back even the manager because I realized they're all snitches and liars, they'd tell the CEO lies about anyone just to gain favor. If I have issues or I'm not comfortable with the lackadaisical way towards your task I blast you very well so that even if you report me at least I don do my mind. I no get time for any ass licking and backbiting o.

One girl I took as my friend some years back reported me in the coven because of pot. Ordinary pot. I'm yet to recover completely, God is still healing and delivering me from that one.

I don't betray people, when you tell me something I can never ever tell another person even when you and I quarrel. I'd be the last person to cook up lies about anyone, I no dey jealous person because I've seen too much in this my young age to realize that almost everyone is packaging and there's more to what you see on the surface. It is well.

Eulalia:
Like I said, I hide away from him most times. And sometimes when he calls me to come close for a discussion, I just bone him.

He doesn't even have my active number. Gave him a fake one and warned my sis not to give him.
Though I was shocked when he called during this lock down and said the son wants to talk with me. Guess he collected number from her recently with excuse of this lockdown. ** yinmu*

Jaysleeves:
Yes work at height, but not on scaffolding. Task entails removal of monorails and external trusses with aid of a tower crane.

QuinModah:
People will betray you, you can't escape it. What is more important is that you come out Better

Have you being betrayed before? Share your story, you might heal

Use share so others can learn


While I was working for a company. I got diagnosed of a kidney infection and was admitted in the hospital for two weeks. I was staying with my father’s elder sister at the time because my parents were here in Abuja

Two weeks of constant drugs,drips and injections on my *you know* and guess what, my aunt and her family never came to visit for one day. My friends(even tho I didn’t have a lot of them) were to busy to come see me. No company representative to pay me a visit.

Everyday I would walk to the little store close to the hospital to buy biscuits and yoghurt because no one would bring them to me.


Betrayal hurts so bad because it never comes from strangers but those of your household.

This is why I recommend people live like they are alone on this planet. Have zero expectations. Any human can become anything at anytime.When u expect so much from people, betrayal is inevitable. Live ur life without expectations.

CoronaVirusPro:
Went to my favourite spot to spoil my self only for them to tell me they had ran out of Guinness stout and Marlboro. Knowing fully well I will always check-in at 2.00am. I felt pained, hurt and betrayed. Almost had an accident driving back home. It was like my world was crashing right in front of me.

I couldn't imagine drinking somewhere else.