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Chi59:
Whatever helps you sleep well at night

Go and sleep abeg, and i hope you are finally married to a man from your state Abia now?

Briller:
It is possible her people won't approve of her marriage to an Ebonyi man. I can relate with to that cause I am from Anambra and when my senior brother informed us he wants to settle down with an Ebonyi lady, we all kicked against it because of their primitive behaviour and violent attitude. This might be a stereotype but owing to our previous experiences with neighbors who were from Ebonyi, it wasn't easy for us to accept his marriage to the lady in question. And guess what, he is done for. This lady can fight naked on the street, she steals, is diabolical, goes around sowing seed of discord, etc. Plenty demonic characters in one person.

So if her parents have had such an experience, it can make them reject you.

Forget your excuses, anambra people are synonymous with discriminating against other ibos.

safarigirl:
I can't believe people are still making foolish decisions like this in life.

How can you let one useless relationship stop you from furthering your education abroad? How? You think this girl s the only one in Nigeria? The worst is that, you did not even mention any positive impact this girl has had in your life, so, why were you so enamored by her? Was she your first love?

Clean your wounds and move on. Do not allow this girl control your feelings and emotions, don't give her the power to determine how you interact with others in the future. Be cautious, but not closed off, don't become a hard guy, stay true to you. Finish school and go abroad, I assume you're still a young man and have your whole life ahead of you, there will be many more girls.

Best and Most Intelligent advise I have come across on nairaland in a while

medical student? tufia!!

Favourite001:
Forget dat tin Bros,igbos have d issue of compatibility,anambra can't marry imo especially.
And leadership,anmabra always claiming deir r better Dan d other igbos. Allowing one state to b president is going to b serious problem.
Well let's not deviate from d main post

Thank you. But don't expect that guy to believe you. When I stated that they don't like marrying we Imolites he said I'm from Abia. What do I know sef?

missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?
Did you notice at any point in the relationship that she was acting uninterested?
Marriage is a huge step, did you both have marriage in view while dating?
Parents have huge influence on some people, maybe she's one of them.

In conclusion, it's not advisable to convince someone to marry you.. move on with your life, you'd find someone else who'll feel the same way about you.

Lol...what can that hungry girl do other to have sex with him..

Chi59:
It is something ingrained in them from childhood. They are taught that they should choose a person from their place. I won't be shocked if that my ex finally married someone from his place. Doesn't mean anambra people are better than others, just the mindset that their own is better.

Exactly,that's their mentality.

Dear brother, I know it will be too hard to move on, but if u ask me I will insist u move on and let her be. I don't think she deserves ur type.
I once had a similar experience years back. I am an ebonyian who fell in love with one Imo babe...as a fresh graduate then, I had only little in my coffers, so she felt I may not make it but more importantly she succumbed to family pressure dat she can't marry an ebonyian. I was really pained, but had no oda option but to move on. In fact, d rejection gave me d big push I needed to hustle more! I became more focused driven and concentrated.

Years later, when d man is made. she came back pleading dat I accept her back but it was rather late cos another filled d vacuum she created.

Later we will say the whites are racist.
We are far worse

Chi59:
Thank you. But don't expect that guy to believe you. When I stated that they don't like marrying we Imolites he said I'm from Abia. What do I know sef?

I wanted to reply d guy ,but deres no need, d guy is really a MESS as his name implies.
He really lack manners and his level of relating with ppl without a dispute is low. he must b a temperamental being.
I know how to handle dose set of ppl.
JUST IGNORE

Bros na only Wisdom the your head. More wisdom
Na Man you be bros.

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If you're a guy from Ebonyi state dating a girl from Anambra, please and please, do not put your whole heart in the relationship no matter how much you love the girl especially those Anambra girls that had lived all their lives in Anambra State. They see Ebonyi people as less humans... As you the love, put one leg in and another out. Those people carry racism for head like Galla...

toolovely:
If you're a guy from Ebonyi state dating a girl from Anambra, please and please, do not put your whole heart in the relationship no matter how much you love the girl especially those Anambra girls that had lived all their lives in Anambra State. They see Ebonyi people as less humans... As you the love, put one leg in and another out. Those people carry racism for head like Galla...

Igbo can't marry igbo

Tribalism is the world major problem.

I will advice you to impregnate the lady and dump her ass , by so doing it will send her a signal that you are not a fool next time she will take her pills with caution.

luminouz:
I.still dont get...what makes them so haughty and selective?

They are ritualistic in nature, and it's only their kind that can cover them up.

I hate to read such stories

Giwoni:
mostly she tells that she doesn't have and cannot give me what she don't have. The highest she have done for me was to get me four pieces of boxers and three singlets plus one one belt.

Remember, I have not gone quarter of what I have done for her. I don't even want to mention they one I took the risk to represent her for an examinations which her classmates vindicated me but it was only God's grace that saved me from being expelled from medical school. Let me just stop here because if should have included everything as regards to both to each other, I would have been even insulted the more...

our mumu don do

Move on Bro, u don't need to regret it, u will see someone who is far better than her in everything. If u haven't married b4 going to Abroad for ur masters no problem, never can tell u might meet a better person there.

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

There is a saying that to train a girl in school with the hope of marrying her after is a far bigger risk than Nairabet..I don't know what your dumb ass was thinking...in most cases these girls find excuse to ditch their benefactors..your case is just one amongst many..I am angry on your behalf that you allowed yourself to be played odoryorized and mumurized now what next..count your loses and move on and hope other very idiotic and stupid idiot girls that have the potential to behave like you will learn and not fall into the same trap..

You see Nigeria girls..they are among the worst set of girls a guy can help..In almost 100% of cases they forget and are never grateful.Thats why it's advised to marry her before training her..or else you are in your own.

Briller:
It is possible her people won't approve of her marriage to an Ebonyi man. I can relate with to that cause I am from Anambra and when my senior brother informed us he wants to settle down with an Ebonyi lady, we all kicked against it because of their primitive behaviour and violent attitude. This might be a stereotype but owing to our previous experiences with neighbors who were from Ebonyi, it wasn't easy for us to accept his marriage to the lady in question. And guess what, he is done for. This lady can fight naked on the street, she steals, is diabolical, goes around sowing seed of discord, etc. Plenty demonic characters in one person.

So if her parents have had such an experience, it can make them reject you.

So all those things you listed there, you want to tell me no Anambra girl has ever exhibited those characters?

The whole thing is all stereotype. Even people who have never had any encounter with Ebonyi people will tell bla bla bla...

That relationship was for a purpose of which I think you have successfully perform your obligations, then she wants to dissolve everything. Is your state of origin novel to her before now?
The relationship was only for academic and financial purpose. Sorry Brother

Many atimes God is trying to block the route to our destructions while we get Moody and sorrowful about what we ought to shake off and thank God for. What if you had married her only for her to divorce or disappoint you . Better thank your star and move on as a man.. who knows whether the woman that will marry you has been weeping and crying to God to bring her man to her whether the devil likes it or not. Asking God that if he is about to miss the way do something that will change his focus. My brother every disappointment is a blessing .For every Vashti there is always an Esther waiting

OP open your eyes ,wake up.There are many elegant ,behaved and more educated Ladies out there ,run for your life.

I dated briefly an Anambra lady around 2015,when this story of my mother say cropped up.

I did not waste time,i found a more beautiful ,younger and educated Lady from Abia state same year.The next year we married now with our beautiful kids.

Am surprised she is still single.

Time wastes for no one.Discover your purpose quick enough and follow it.

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

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You guys never learn. You keep saying "not my portion" and continue to make the same mistakes.

Kindly forward to the guy that got an appointment letter in an oil company and wants to start training his 200L gf in school with the hope of marrying her later.

This stories never get old.

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Guy you be sure client o

luminouz:
I.still dont get...what makes them so haughty and selective?

There are many reasons why Anambra men like to get married/engaged to ladies from Anambra.
But ladies/women from Anambra are always supported to get married to any guy from any part of this country without any form of resentment.
OP's girlfriend clearly don't love him again and she is seeing someone else who she thought is better than OP, that her 'my mama say' na rubbish and useless reason. You can't tame a lady in love or dedicate to your female children who they will marry because if you do and it backfire, you will/accept the bride price(if the guy is willing to marry) when she gets pregnant.







PS: Men from Afikpo in Ebonyi, and Abiriba in Abia also marry only their women. So no be only Anambra thing.

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

Well since you knew you would be insulted for your undue emotion unintelligence(investing in a relationship that has no direction) I won't insult you anymore.
My advice is move on. Dont start calculating what you spent on her because they are spoils of war. Just as you know, Everything is fair in love and war.

bro

I haven't commented on this forum for almost 4years now, but because of u I will break my silence. What I'm about to tell u is for u to sit up.... I was once a medical student like u, that is to say I am a Medical Doctor. I did the same thing back then for lady, from her 1st year to final, even saw her through the expenses of her NYSC days. To the extent it affected me and i had a resit for her sake in my 2nd MBBS exams. She kept dodging to see my mum till my mum died then she left me. At that grieving point was when she left. I suffered two heart breaks in one.

Lemme tell u... U better sit up and repackage ya life before one daughter of Jezebel finishes your career. You know how tough it can be when u fail out of Med school. And don't u ever in your life sacrifice your future plans for the sake of a girl. U still have a long way to go and the sky is your starting point. Stay safe kid bro.

have you ever sleep with her, if you did, you are a 60% fool, but if you didn't you are a 100% fool, have you?