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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by AgentGoat: 1:49pm On Apr 22, 2020
baralatie:

they are not married either by knocking of door,church wedding or in the court.so where did the vow come from?


You have comprehension problem undecided
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Duru009(m): 1:49pm On Apr 22, 2020
You stated that he has been nice to you and secondly you have more than enough beside he is your boyfriend.
Some ladies are wicked sha, Do you need a public opinion to help such a person....?

Give him something tangible NOT borrowing plz.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by tiswell(m): 1:50pm On Apr 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price undecided the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borr[color=#990000][/color]owers
You are always on the misguided side of events,especially on nairaland.

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Profmaojo: 1:51pm On Apr 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price undecided the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers
wrong advice, wrong advice..pls be careful of the kind of advice you listen and adhere to. Look it is in time of need that we really know who is ours. If you can't help him in his time of need, this shows that you are not worth getting Married to..the truth is the guy might actually use this as a reason to marry you or stay away from you unless he genuinely knows that you don't have.

Will you be able to convince him that you don't have??
What will be your excuses??
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Profmaojo: 1:53pm On Apr 22, 2020
Liliantalks:
Why will she spend for a man who’s her boyfriend without hving hope of marriage
are you saying that you can't assist your boyfriend??

What if it is your ordinary male friend??

Hmm. What a mentality

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Profmaojo: 1:56pm On Apr 22, 2020
okomile:
O.Y.O.

Don't ever try it..

hmmmm...I understood thst you must have been bitten before..but does it warrant you not helping when you have the wherewithal to do so
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by clemmonce(m): 1:57pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?
My humble advice to you as a guy, is to give him (but dont act as if you have enough) pretend as if you needed to forgo something in order for you to borrow him the money. Say it with care and love. Just like you said that he is a good guy.. Its okay. If you really love him do it.

Or you can do this, Dont borrow him, give him half of the money he is asking, tell him you will use half and he will use half. Dont act like you have plenty money.

Lastly, when next he asks you tell him you dont have (With love and respect ooo) just come up with a story of why you dont have money. Then watch his attitude... If he remains the same and acts the same. Then you got yourself a good guy.

And like you said he is a generous guy, then you good to go
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by EM123: 1:58pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trailblazer93:

If you're ready to support her cuz you have so much then you haven't learnt anything yet. After spending 1k for babe and she can't support you with #100 then what are we saying... It's a pity guys will not learn cuz of pus*y and validation.
i didn't say that am going to support her with money , what i mean is that if i have so much money i will just give her little just to make her pussy happy , pussy is there to eat , but don't use ur life savings to eat pussy , eat pussy with care , that guy has finish is money just to press a girl and he forgot that girls can never be impressed .
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Diamondcan: 1:58pm On Apr 22, 2020
since u said he is a nice guy

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Samuels90: 1:59pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trayceey:
Lol...y'all saying lend him, give him, dash him. Am I his mother? Doesn't he have family members? What if I wasn't in his life? The relationship ain't even up to a year. I have sorted him out with some food stuffs lately and also gave him some little cash and he still wants to borrow that sum from me. So easy for You guys to say. guys are not to be trusted.
lol, you just confirmed this is a cooked story. cool

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 1:59pm On Apr 22, 2020
Na wa o before girl borrow man money the whole world go hear about am,do you know how many girls I have DASH money without saying pim
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by mimee9(f): 2:01pm On Apr 22, 2020
Dash am 5k nothing more
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 2:02pm On Apr 22, 2020
dinachi:


My, dear, I wouldn't want to waste too much time arguing about what you have already made up your mind to do. That unfortunate guy is not your boyfriend, he is an unfortunate fellow who thinks he has a girlfriend. But the truth is that he doesnt. So please send me his account number and his phone number so that he can confirm when I send him the little that I have.
I really feel sorry for him. Imagine being in love with someone who is not in love with you and who puts you up to public ridicule because of 40K and all these during this time of lockdown, Haba!

Guys this is to you, that you sleep with a girl and tell her you love her doesn't make her your girl friend. Most girls are Bleep friends not girlfriends. The greatest friend a man can have is his fellow man. Please guys always have this at the back of your minds

The unfortunate guy deserves better!
Lol...y'all saying lend him, give him, dash him. Am I his mother? Doesn't he have family members? What if I wasn't in his life? The relationship ain't even up to a year. I have sorted him out with some food stuffs lately and also gave him some little cash and he still wants to borrow that sum from me. So easy for You guys to say. You guys are not to be trusted.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by UNRULY(m): 2:02pm On Apr 22, 2020
JOACHINpedro:
I swear that your boyfriend no dey spank you wella for you to ask this kinda question angry
I think we should start gender equality, many women will go into extinction for sure.
Nonsense and...
.... ingredients grin cheesy grin cheesy

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by lawani: 2:08pm On Apr 22, 2020
Support him with whatever you can during this lock down. People are hungry.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by dennisworld1(m): 2:08pm On Apr 22, 2020
But u fit collect from him free after him dun lash ur Ikebe grin
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by mechanics(m): 2:11pm On Apr 22, 2020
You can give me base on friendship and on the basis that he will pay you back, not lovers, since he's not yet married to you, he might change his mind tomorrow.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 2:12pm On Apr 22, 2020
@AgentGoat Since you are ambivalent about it. Give him an amount you would give if it were a stranger. This period requires sharing of our wealth with the less privileged. Please help a soul unconditionally this period we are to help save lives.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Trailblazer93: 2:13pm On Apr 22, 2020
EM123:
i didn't say that am going to support her with money , what i mean is that if i have so much money i will just give her little just to make her pussy happy , pussy is there to eat , but don't use ur life savings to eat pussy , eat pussy with care , that guy has finish is money just to press a girl and he forgot that girls can never be impressed .
Why are you given her the money in the first place; to eat pussy. You can get the pussy without given her a dime. Change ur ways broda... You mak dis girls have the feeling of entitlement. Even Naira marley said " why shld I pay for olosho when we are both enjoying each other".
My advice to the guys get as many girls as you wish... Its when you have one that you begin to worry about unnecessary tynz.. THEY NEED MHE MORE THAN I NEED THEM

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Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by korban3134(m): 2:13pm On Apr 22, 2020
Please give if you are able....on the flip side you sound like a generous soul(very rare)...if he were a mere friend not lover , with his track record, you would have loaned him the cash anyway...
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by verifiedlegacy: 2:13pm On Apr 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price undecided the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers

this comment is one of the things that has kept me single..
some women are wicked being...

I know u won't see where d op said the guy is food to her and generous
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by JayPeeOham: 2:19pm On Apr 22, 2020
tongue
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?

And you think his love for you is going to grow after seeing this thread??

I'm very sure he won't have asked you for that money if he knew you would go all over SM platforms to ask for permission

And besides if the money is chicken change to u as you claim, I wonder why anyone would need advice before giving out chicken change?...smh
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Strawberryg(f): 2:22pm On Apr 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Better don't try ruin your life cause if you borrow him now that you guys are dating you'll borrow him when you guys are married.....That's if he didn't ask you to borrow him to pay your bride price undecided the best thing you can do for him now is to use get some food stuff for him but don't try the mistake of giving him money cause he might use that money to invite a girl over....set awong borrowers

Continue bn bitter and senseless. If u have made so many mistakes in ur past relationships that is sparking up this bitterness please sort urself out n stop misleading young women. Why will I even need advice from nairalanders to determine if I'm to lend money to my man.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by bkool7(m): 2:23pm On Apr 22, 2020
Dash what you can afford to forget and if he pays back, that's a bonus
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by EM123: 2:24pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trailblazer93:

Why are you given her the money in the first place; to eat pussy. You can get the pussy without given her a dime. Change ur ways broda... You mak dis girls have the feeling of entitlement. Even Naira marley said " why shld I pay for olosho when we are both enjoying each other".
My advice to the guys get as many girls as you wish... Its when you have one that you begin to worry about unnecessary tynz.. THEY NEED MHE MORE THAN I NEED THEM
my brother am saying this because of the little experience i have from women , married or unmarried , if u meet a girl and u sleep with her without giving her anything i don't think she will come back tomorrow , don't forget that when u are sleeping with a girl, u are sleeping with all her friends , when she is coming to ur house her friends know , when u Bleep her without giving her anything her friends will laugh at her and she will never come back , unless she love u very much and cannot afford to loose u.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by gowonmaharajah(m): 2:25pm On Apr 22, 2020
people no get conscience and human feelings anymore.


your other half is there starving and you still had to come here seeking for advice on whether to give him what to feed on or not?





nawa o
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Strawberryg(f): 2:26pm On Apr 22, 2020
verifiedlegacy:


this comment is one of the things that has kept me single..
some women are wicked being...

I know u won't see where d op said the guy is food to her and generous

The person u quoted is simply bitter n senseless. I thank God that u know for a fact that everyone isn't same. Are u going to be single forever? Uncle please go n marry...
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Jidkidz(m): 2:29pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?
just imagine say ur bf dy follow this thread ehn au yhu wn make him feel..thou you can dash me..gba fun Muri ni gba fun gbada
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Mizwisdom(f): 2:29pm On Apr 22, 2020
Trayceey:
Fellow nairalanders,

I have a pressing issue on ground and I need your contribution. My boyfriend has been working for about 5 years now. We've been dating for a while now and he has been so nice and caring. The best ever.

In my past experience in relationships, I have been quite generous but the guys turned out to be ingrates so I vowed never to give any boy my penny again.

When I met my man, he melted my hardened heart with the love he showered on me. On one occasion, I have borrowed him money and he paid me back. Now he's asking me to borrow him another money. Because of this lockdown, he has gone so broke and he opened up to me. Initially, I did not believe him but when I noticed he has run out of food stuffs and the provisions he normally stock his house with, I believed him. I have more than enough money. The money he's asking for is like chicken change to me. But I don't want him to get used to borrowing from me and I have vowed never to give a guy my money again except if he's my husband.

Please I need advice. Fellow ladies like me, what do you think? Should I borrow him?





Are you prepared to continue borrowing him for the rest of your life? in the first place why did you allow him to know your financial worth? of course he will want to milk you dry. Be wise, invest your money instead, stop enabling his begging attitude. Many ladies have been hurt, their money gone forever because they borrowed their boyfriends money. Good luck
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by elsavado(m): 2:38pm On Apr 22, 2020
Please borrow/lend him since you even said that what he requested of you is a Chicken Change to you. That means it's a spare cash. Please go ahead and assist him because that guy might as well be looking out for the wife material in you. Thanks.
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Anonime1105(m): 2:39pm On Apr 22, 2020
JasonJidenna:
Dear Nairaland Guys;


"Ants will always be attracted to sugar, but they also leave when they have finished the sugar. Be wise, Don't marry a human ant. A person who will only stay married to you while you are sweetly buoyant, and will walkout when you are bitterly broke"

A message from Reno.


A word for the wise is enough.

Word!
Re: Should I Lend My Boyfriend Money? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Apr 22, 2020
Mizwisdom:






Are you prepared to continue borrowing him for the rest of your life? in the first place why did you allow him to know your financial worth? of course he will want to milk you dry. Be wise, invest your money instead, stop enabling his begging attitude. Many ladies have been hurt, their money gone forever because they borrowed their boyfriends money. Good luck
thanks

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