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tommyken:
Since I entered the dating world I have been in relationship with girls from both rich homes and poor homes and I have observe something that intrigue me not only in my relationship both also those of my friends.

The ladies I have dated from rich home tend to be very grateful when you get them even a little gift or help them with a little favour. They tends to appreciate such favour with a very sincere heart and are very grateful to you.

Now this seems the opposite with girls from poor or simply lower income homes, I observe that girls from such poor and average home tend to be very entilted, selfish, insatiable and very ungrateful when you do things for them and they are the first to dump you when you begin to experience financial difficulties.

If you have come across this observation feel free to say your opinion and discuss the reason why its so. As for me, with what I have gone through in the hands of girls from poor home I have decided to marry a lady from a rich or at least a high income well to do home.

tommyken:
Since I entered the dating world I have been in relationship with girls from both rich homes and poor homes and I have observe something that intrigue me not only in my relationship both also those of my friends.

The ladies I have dated from rich home tend to be very grateful when you get them even a little gift or help them with a little favour. They tends to appreciate such favour with a very sincere heart and are very grateful to you.

Now this seems the opposite with girls from poor or simply lower income homes, I observe that girls from such poor and average home tend to be very entilted, selfish, insatiable and very ungrateful when you do things for them and they are the first to dump you when you begin to experience financial difficulties.

If you have come across this observation feel free to say your opinion and discuss the reason why its so. As for me, with what I have gone through in the hands of girls from poor home I have decided to marry a lady from a rich or at least a high income well to do home.

purpinkx:
The problem most humans have is seeing things in extremities, black and white, no middle ground.

[Some] Rich people [I've met] are greedy.
[The] Women [I've met] are wh°res.
[The] men [ I allow into my life] are dogs.

Etc.

We don't like to use the words in the brackets because it exposes something about us, and it makes our argument invalid.

I saw a research on coaches and training facilities.

Edit. Thank you Yaronorthside.



According to the research, when a coach, for some reason, likes a player and ‘thinks’ that they can go far in life, the coach gives them more training opportunities, corrects them constructively, freely offers useful tips and tricks, as well as become interested in their progress.

The player feels encouraged and, most times, becomes successful.

However, if the coach, for some reason, doesn't like a player and ‘thinks’ they don't have what it takes to be successful, he doesn't invest( or ’waste’) his time on the player. After all, they'll be no good.

Subconsciously, the player picks up on this and behaves accordingly. A few see it for what it is, do all they can to prove the Coach wrong, and they succeed.

A real life scenario. There's this shop I usually Barb at. There are two barbers in the shop, but I like one more than the other.

Even if the barber I like makes a mistake in my hair, I still feel dope AF. But, the other barber could give me a clean hair cut, maybe even better than that of the barber I like, and I'll feel my confidence drop until the hair grows back. I even had to get the barber's number so I'll schedule a haircut with him before going to the shop.

It is what it is, we are humans and we all have biases.

Could it be that you are projecting your expectations of these people on them? Or that you're attracting what you think of?

Lanre6:
mad man

mad man

iLegendd:
You have a long way to go. I won't blame you anyway — English is not your first language. Both are correct. Kindly purchase and read my book below to improve and become wiser.

Thank you and kindly edit yours now to avoid embarrassing the person who paid for your education.

They are both adjectives and the usage are both correct.

Abeg, I no get strength to talk too much today.

MartinsD12:
Don't quote me if it's not sensible enough, that doesn't take away the fact that poor girls are gullible gluttons

AfroKnight:
Dating broke entitled girls is a chore. I have been lucky to avoid them. Well, any guy would spot them right from the beginning. You guys are still in the talking stage and she’s always running out of airtime. Well, she can either buy her own airtime or stay away and stop telling me about it. It won’t ever go beyond that stage for me.

A fairly comfortable working woman (or even a rich babe) is the goal especially if she takes pride in spoiling herself with her own money.

You see these brokeàss greedy babes here? There is nothing you can do rehabilitate them. It reminds me of those beggars on the road who would return to begging the next day, even if you gave them 100K cash at once. Why?

Cos they believe such fortune would come again soon.

That’s how these broke babes think. Once they land a guy who spends on them, they think their chances are getting better. They stay on the lookout for a richer, more generous guy to latch on to. Loyalty doesn’t exist in their dictionary. This is probably because poverty has affected them so bad, they never want to smell it even from afar. That’s cool. But a transactional relationship is not the only way out of poverty.

Guys, if you are not one who thinks to trap a woman with your money, then avoid broke and entitled women. They add no value. You’d check your life after 6 months and find out that all you enjoy in the relationship is sex which you have to pay for anyway. That’s a loss. No motivation. No support. You can’t even ask for her opinion on issues cos she’s not interested in anything that isn’t money or gifts.

Go for a woman who works for her money and doesn’t bother you for mundane things like money for hair and shopping. Go for a woman whose financial plan doesn’t depend on the man she will date or marry.

Go for a woman whose lifestyle is supported by her own money. She will add value to your life.

ujluv:
God bless you.

djon78:
My elder cousin(son of my dad's elder brother) God so much blessed him in marriage.
In fact we were discussing concerning marriage recently and he told me that God saved him. He dated 3 girls not the same time. It was in the first one that my dad his uncle gave him clue on how to spot the right woman because his dad was then late.
The first two were entitled, no vision, not resourceful kind of women. But they were drop dead gorgeous. The advice guided him. He now met his wife not as gorgeous as the first two.

In his word he told me if he had married one of those first two ladies he would have been dead by now.

After marriage, he was comfortable. By the time his first child was coming, he lost everything, rock bottom, couldn't even afford house rent or feeding. But his woman was there for him, supported him.

Things began to turn small, today 4 kids, very rich, has a big factory that employs over 80 people. The guy is a huge multi millionaire. If you see how this woman runs her home and kids. Dude bought her a mad high range SUV last year.

He told me that he would have been dead if he was married to those entitled ones. During that his trying moment.
He doesn't play with his wife. Doesn't even womanize with all his money.

faithugo64:
If you have not been in a relationship with at least 100 women, then your assumption is wrong.

I do not mean you should date 100 women, I'm only trying to say that it is wrong to judge other women because of your bitter experience with very few women. Everyone is not the same

purpinkx:
The problem most humans have is seeing things in extremities, black and white, no middle ground.

[Some] Rich people [I've met] are greedy.
[The] Women [I've met] are wh°res.
[The] men [ I allow into my life] are dogs.

Etc.

We don't like to use the words in the brackets because it exposes something about us, and it makes our argument invalid.

I saw a research on coaches and training facilities.

Edit. Thank you Yaronorthside.



According to the research, when a coach, for some reason, likes a player and ‘thinks’ that they can go far in life, the coach gives them more training opportunities, corrects them constructively, freely offers useful tips and tricks, as well as become interested in their progress.

The player feels encouraged and, most times, becomes successful.

However, if the coach, for some reason, doesn't like a player and ‘thinks’ they don't have what it takes to be successful, he doesn't invest( or ’waste’) his time on the player. After all, they'll be no good.

Subconsciously, the player picks up on this and behaves accordingly. A few see it for what it is, do all they can to prove the Coach wrong, and they succeed.

A real life scenario. There's this shop I usually Barb at. There are two barbers in the shop, but I like one more than the other.

Even if the barber I like makes a mistake in my hair, I still feel dope AF. But, the other barber could give me a clean hair cut, maybe even better than that of the barber I like, and I'll feel my confidence drop until the hair grows back. I even had to get the barber's number so I'll schedule a haircut with him before going to the shop.

It is what it is, we are humans and we all have biases.

Could it be that you are projecting your expectations of these people on them? Or that you're attracting what you think of?

ebenezer95:
You cant trust the so call poor girls they re something else they have nothing to offer apart from sex and they will make their smelling puuussssy look like no other puuusssy else where if i have a chance with a rich babe Am done ,to hell with poor girl with their fake lifestyle they cant get enough of whatever you do to help them fools

Eberechi24:
I don quote you again

I dey my house come and beat me

Ryan03:
if you say "all guys are dogs", I will feel attacked cause I am a guy. Same way saying all poor girls are glutton is a direct attack on any poor girl who reads that comment. Let's be conscious of our statements

djon78:
My elder cousin(son of my dad's elder brother) God so much blessed him in marriage.
In fact we were discussing concerning marriage recently and he told me that God saved him. He dated 3 girls not the same time. It was in the first one that my dad his uncle gave him clue on how to spot the right woman because his dad was then late.
The first two were entitled, no vision, not resourceful kind of women. But they were drop dead gorgeous. The advice guided him. He now met his wife not as gorgeous as the first two.

In his word he told me if he had married one of those first two ladies he would have been dead by now.

After marriage, he was comfortable. By the time his first child was coming, he lost everything, rock bottom, couldn't even afford house rent or feeding. But his woman was there for him, supported him.

Things began to turn small, today 4 kids, very rich, has a big factory that employs over 80 people. The guy is a huge multi millionaire. If you see how this woman runs her home and kids. Dude bought her a mad high range SUV last year.

He told me that he would have been dead if he was married to those entitled ones. During that his trying moment.
He doesn't play with his wife. Doesn't even womanize with all his money.

yourstruly5:
Please what's the clue to find the right woman that your dad shared with him?

Goodnigga:
O boyte author=Samakus post=88587497]If there's one thing I regret in life so far, it's missing out on Cynthia due to my complex issues then! Babe was a damsel from a stinkingly rich Anambra family and I, new employee in a federal school, was fidgeting about taking her on even when it was so clear that she was practically 'wetting for me'!

When I eventually mustered the courage to ask for a date. She smiled and said, ' I thought you're never gonna ask again! And on a date we went!

On that fateful day for our first date, she called me around 3pm and told me that she was at Chitis restaurant, that I should meet her up when I'm ready. Imagine your date choosing a venue for you (because you didn't tell her anyone you had in mind) and being there on time before you?

To cut it short, I wore my nice cloth, and went to Chitis. Babe was already giving herself a nice treat. Fried rice and salad with a big Chicken, plenty fried plantains and of course, a nice wine to complement! I had 2k in my pocket, and hell yes, my mind skipped when I saw what was on the table . I stepped in and she offered me a seat! I smiled sheepishly, but deep down, I was wondering where I will get extra money to complete the payment for what she ordered which obviously was more than 2k already. Need I remind that she got a big EVA bottle water too

Looking at her was difficult as this girl was a mermaid in human form! She has this cuteness about her and will make any man's heart skip a bit. Next thing I heard was, WHAT DO I GET FOR YOU? I knew that the question was for me but feigned deafness . She asked again with a smile, Hey Handsome, WHAT'S YOUR ORDER?

I looked at her in bewilderment but summoned courage to mutter, "Just rice and chicken! She asked me again: 'won't you like a drink or should I get you a wine? . I just said, no thanks, water will be good. Besides, she had a wine on the table already and i didn't see the need for another wine. She steeped to the counter, paid for my order and brought it to me.

We talked about so many things. But most of our discussions centered on our visions and plans for growth. Babe was giving me tips on businesses I can open within the campus when I get settled. For her, once she's done with school ( she's already in her finals), she will fly out to Canada for her Masters and then come back when she's done to head HR in her dad's company. I suggested to her to get her CIPM certification before doing her Masters since she had passion for Human Resources. Not ever hearing of CIPM, her likeness for me doubled.

We had a nice time and we left. She called her taxi guy to come drop her while I left for the shuttle park . She continued calling me after that and continued talking but I have already harboured the fear that her class was too high for me. Poor, naive me!! . I never took the next step with her. And she left after her graduation and became incommunicado as I never called her after our date

Looking back now, I feel like beating myself. She had everything I wanted in a woman physically. And had the right goals and penchant for success like I now do! I have seen a lot of ladies and can now appreciate what a gift, a lady with visions, plans and the right frame of mind, is for young man hustling to reach his dreams. Which girl will start discussing your visions and plans for a better life on your first date these days?

I missed Cynthia due to inferiority complex and naivity! I was young and stupid! I was 25 and just got a job in the school after finishing NYSC, when i met her. I pray I find a goal oriented Lady like Cynthia again! Because, they're very hard to come by these days!





O boy if you like your destiny, go and find your Cynthia. Find through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, friends, if you truly want Cynthia, you can get her back. This jet age, you can find anyone.That girl is so sweet to have man.

AfroKnight:
Dating broke entitled girls is a chore. I have been lucky to avoid them. Well, any guy would spot them right from the beginning. You guys are still in the talking stage and she’s always running out of airtime. Well, she can either buy her own airtime or stay away and stop telling me about it. It won’t ever go beyond that stage for me.

A fairly comfortable working woman (or even a rich babe) is the goal especially if she takes pride in spoiling herself with her own money.

You see these brokeàss greedy babes here? There is nothing you can do rehabilitate them[b]. It reminds me of those beggars on the road who would return to begging the next day, even if you gave them 100K cash at once. Why?

Cos they believe such fortune would come again soon.[/b]

That’s how these broke babes think. Once they land a guy who spends on them, they think their chances are getting better. They stay on the lookout for a richer, more generous guy to latch on to. Loyalty doesn’t exist in their dictionary. This is probably because poverty has affected them so bad, they never want to smell it even from afar. That’s cool. But a transactional relationship is not the only way out of poverty.

Guys, if you are not one who thinks to trap a woman with your money, then avoid broke and entitled women. They add no value. You’d check your life after 6 months and find out that all you enjoy in the relationship is sex which you have to pay for anyway. That’s a loss. No motivation. No support. You can’t even ask for her opinion on issues cos she’s not interested in anything that isn’t money or gifts.

Go for a woman who works for her money and doesn’t bother you for mundane things like money for hair and shopping. Go for a woman whose financial plan doesn’t depend on the man she will date or marry.

Go for a woman whose lifestyle is supported by her own money. She will add value to your life.

Slimzzy00:
Thank you OP for posting this and those who took their time to comment on this thread. I'm 20 and I've really learned a lot that will influence my decision of choosing my future partner.

Samakus:
If there's one thing I regret in life so far, it's missing out on Cynthia due to my complex issues then! Babe was a damsel from a stinkingly rich Anambra family and I, new employee in a federal school, was fidgeting about taking her on even when it was so clear that she was practically 'wetting for me'!

When I eventually mustered the courage to ask for a date. She smiled and said, ' I thought you're never gonna ask again! And on a date we went!

On that fateful day for our first date, she called me around 3pm and told me that she was at Chitis restaurant, that I should meet her up when I'm ready. Imagine your date choosing a venue for you (because you didn't tell her anyone you had in mind) and being there on time before you?

To cut it short, I wore my nice cloth, and went to Chitis. Babe was already giving herself a nice treat. Fried rice and salad with a big Chicken, plenty fried plantains and of course, a nice wine to complement! I had 2k in my pocket, and hell yes, my mind skipped when I saw what was on the table . I stepped in and she offered me a seat! I smiled sheepishly, but deep down, I was wondering where I will get extra money to complete the payment for what she ordered which obviously was more than 2k already. Need I remind that she got a big EVA bottle water too

Looking at her was difficult as this girl was a mermaid in human form! She has this cuteness about her and will make any man's heart skip a bit. Next thing I heard was, WHAT DO I GET FOR YOU? I knew that the question was for me but feigned deafness . She asked again with a smile, Hey Handsome, WHAT'S YOUR ORDER?

I looked at her in bewilderment but summoned courage to mutter, "Just rice and chicken! She asked me again: 'won't you like a drink or should I get you a wine? . I just said, no thanks, water will be good. Besides, she had a wine on the table already and i didn't see the need for another wine. She steeped to the counter, paid for my order and brought it to me.

We talked about so many things. But most of our discussions centered on our visions and plans for growth. Babe was giving me tips on businesses I can open within the campus when I get settled. For her, once she's done with school ( she's already in her finals), she will fly out to Canada for her Masters and then come back when she's done to head HR in her dad's company. I suggested to her to get her CIPM certification before doing her Masters since she had passion for Human Resources. Not ever hearing of CIPM, her likeness for me doubled.

We had a nice time and we left. She called her taxi guy to come drop her while I left for the shuttle park . She continued calling me after that and continued talking but I have already harboured the fear that her class was too high for me. Poor, naive me!! . I never took the next step with her. And she left after her graduation and became incommunicado as I never called her after our date

Looking back now, I feel like beating myself. She had everything I wanted in a woman physically. And had the right goals and penchant for success like I now do! I have seen a lot of ladies and can now appreciate what a gift, a lady with visions, plans and the right frame of mind, is for young man hustling to reach his dreams. Which girl will start discussing your visions and plans for a better life on your first date these days?

I missed Cynthia due to inferiority complex and naivity! I was young and stupid! I was 25 and just got a job in the school after finishing NYSC, when i met her. I pray I find a goal oriented Lady like Cynthia again! Because, they're very hard to come by these days! Eeyah I feel you bro....but you know in life some things aren’t just meant to happen..say you weren’t meant to date just that one close encounter and I’m sure that encounter influenced and shaped your life in positive ways ever since and also you have learnt some lessons especially when it comes to rich girls or women that you have to show guts and be confident and separate your financial situation from your personality it’s all bout the psyche...I’m sure you know most of this things now but as a young and naive boy...still trying to find his footing in life you felt letting a girl from such a rich background go was the best decision then!its a materialistic world we live so that kinda decision was a logical one.

pansophist:
From experience, a male criminal can change, he can retract his steps, stop criminalizing and live a honorable life, but it doesnt work in the same way with women. A woman that has slipped into the cult of parasitism can never be satisfied, redeemed or retract her steps. She can only be satisfied as long as the money is there, and will be extremely bitter when it doesn't go her way. Her standards has been aimed so high that it can only go higher, not lower, using men as an utility.

Your relative is lucky, I stan him. In my uncle case, he is not. He is a good man, a genuinely noble man that is not only wealthy but handsome. With women chasing him even though he is married. He never lacks women, but he made the wrong mistake choosing one. Think of Ramson Noah, he looks just like that. He has specifically warned me and my brothers not to go for looks, and gladly, we never did. We both have partners and they have supported us when we are down. The current breed of naija women do not support men and if it happens that I become single tomorrow, I'll hardly go into a relationship with what I'm seeing.

Luminary1:
Are you implying we die single? What's the way forward for a single guy at this time where leeches in the form of women are the order of the day.