Mrstoned:
He just left the world just like that,pathetic and my empathy goes to the family,let the woman enjoy what's left in the vain world.
My own de my body sef,I ve got a very toxic marriage presently, don't think the hate in here will abate anytime soon.Well,if any interested single mum,matured person is game for a jolly time,chats and sort.Hit me up,I need to unburden the soul

bukatyne:
If the deceased knew that the marriage/wife/relationship was so important to him, why didn't he seek a compromise rather than a divorce?

God be with his parents and everyone who would be affected by this loss.

MhizJoyce:

Read the story again and tell me how possible it is for a woman to pull a man out of a moving vehicle.

Hangulsaram:

What/which compromise, can please explain?

sisisioge:
Oh my goodness! What an unreasonable fellow!

1. He married a witch. Did he not court her before marriage? Surely , he saw the signs.

2. He borrowed money for a party...what an unwise fellow.

3. He allowed another human to run him out of life....what a weakling! Him and him God go dey talk am.

Hian!

sisisioge:
Oh my goodness! What an unreasonable fellow!

1. He married a witch. Did he not court her before marriage? Surely , he saw the signs.

2. He borrowed money for a party...what an unwise fellow.

3. He allowed another human to run him out of life....what a weakling! Him and him God go dey talk am.

Hian!

iamloyalty:


The 2 point u mention are my basic principles. They are = peace of mind+ Less stress +Adequate saving.

iamloyalty:


How I wish I was one of ur cousins.
I will flex ur money, open a business, make u my wedding sponsor and give you a grand child. Ur cousins are fortunate.

bukatyne:


What was his game plan before he got married?

And their situation would need to be analyzed critically before suggesting compromises for them.

Ozugbo:
Those blaming d guy should go soft.At times we fall to stand.I made a similar mistake by borrowing 60k to add to what I had to finance my wedding. But do u know d so called wife turned me to a boi which I endured for two good years?During dis period,she went through CS 2times n I paid through my nose.When things became tough for me ,she left n all entreaties from my side fell on deaf ears.I fell seriously sick to d point of death but she refused to come n attend to me.Today, am now far better than she left me.Pls don't kill urself for anybody.

murphyibiam15:

Not necessarily pulling him out physically, but ordering him down verbally makes no difference..

Cuddlebugie:

Nothing is impossible.
Going by the story, it's apparent the lady, the daughter of a rich man, did not respect her husband.
What can't a scornful woman do?

Punchline33:
You don't need too much to wed in Nigeria if you use your head and you don't need too much to enjoy the marriage too. In my house, once I provide money for food, I choose when to, how to and if I will do any other thing at home. My wife dare not ask unnecessary questions and yet, she is crazy all over me. With little money she will cook two sets of soup and serve me food and clears the plates when am done. She kneels down to greet me every morning (am still shock on this) and she tells me to pray for her. As a man, you can choose your wife carefully by not expecting anything from her. I mean material things. It is wrong to marry a woman because of what you stand to gain materially. If my wife later changes tomorrow when she starts making her own money, I won't care because I have enjoyed the marriage for some years atleast. Guys forget beauty and big nyash, marry humility and fear of God and other things will follow.

Hangulsaram:

Hm! Aunty, this does not sound like you of all people.
Game plan you say, so because he married from a rich family means that he has a game plan(an in he married her because of the money)? Ok! let’s assume that you are correct, for that he should submit his headship of the family to the wife, perhaps becomes a houseboy or slave to her? Would you suggest the same if it’s the other way round?

MhizJoyce:

The word "pulled" was used

udemzyudex:
Love is overrated.


Respect is the number one thing people should look at for when it comes to relationship or marriage.


When there is no respect, everything fall out of place..

Respect is underrated.

spinna:
He make big party..
Then him start to spray...
because him love him wife...
Mrs Wife come runaway...
Bank manager run come..
He say Mr pay me your debt..
Wetin he dey fiiiind?

Fela was a prophet. Las las a prophet is not recognized in his own land.

bukatyne:


By game plan, I don't mean he married her for her money.

Nobody changes so the dude saw her character before they hit married; how did he plan to cope?

For him to consider suicide means he was better off with wife (it could be financial, mental, physical, spiritual) etc.

For the above, he could have thought: how do I make this work? What is my leverage? What do I need to do to make this work? What do I have?

I would wager that your definition of headship and houseboy/slavery is different.

And I give advises to people depending on their unique situation.

You must be scarce in family section to ask me the bolded.

farem:


https://www.westafricareporters.com/banker-takes-n3-million-loan-for-wedding-commits-suicide-two-months-marriage-crashed/

fastseo:

Only in Africa u will see people borrowing money for parties... ( wedding) rather for investment that will yield returns.
Even though he pays 100k per month he would have used 2 years and 6 months to clear up the loan minus interest.

That's why I tell people to always do a simple wedding, you don't need to invite the world.

opera1:
Double wàhálà. A Failed relationship is 101% better than a failed/crashed marriage.

2ndly: Don't do beyond ur limit to impress others.

Why 3m loan jux for "unmatched wedding?"

Ending his life is the worst option.

gaby:
People wey dey live their lives to impress the world or seek their validation.

One would begin to ask if they ever dated at all, and how the woman come take see the poor guy finish within such a shortie.