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ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

He still neva clear for your eyes bruhh cause you won't be asking this kinda question if e don clear

ken711:
Jesus!! my brother, I'm from awka ooo...wow...I know say I done Bleep up...this morning she is calling me asking for the bed and gas money...nawa oo.....even though it seems like I just threw my money away, in quieter moments in the relationship, we truly shared love...and understanding....I really needed someone to rely on, as I'm not a womaniser...I can only be with one woman at a time...I have a demanding job that requires total focus....I have never truly felt so much love for a woman before...even though I have dated girls from Lagos to London.....hmmm nawa

Hmmm..... different probs for different folks

horlarwereleh:
It changes things of course
If it comes down to it, he may finally develops the balls to chase her out of the house.
About the things he has bought, he can resell them na

Lol I pray for this guy to get sense and do what he needs to do but mehnn i doubt it,he is so scared to loose her cos he thinks she is a big catch cos of her looks,this guy hasnt realised he needs to end his toxic relationship yet o,he is only asking if he should buy the bed for her..bro this guy is gone,regardless of all we tell him here he wont have the balls to do any,he will still do what he wants to do cos he is puss.y whipped,maybe jarumatised too.

I was in his shoes too,and funny thing is my ex then would joke and tell me she will use Jarumas kayanmata to lock me down and i think she did cos even till now i still think about her but have to be strong and move on with my new relationship..but this O.P as i dey see am so e go hard am o..with all the stories we see online people still let women use them like this?smh..

This is another foolishness. If it is your guy that requested money from you, you would have told him there is no money. But if it is that useless girl, you can give her all your live savings. People like you are very stingy to their fellow friends, but are very generous to babes. Guy u know say u be father Christmas, so just complete the money 1million for her. In fact buy her car to ease her movement

This life ehnn na diff story everyday...

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

My brother, you no be mumu; Mumu be you! Don't ever stop giving her money else she'll tear all your shirts!
You need the above advice more than us.
Bye.

Things we do for love can be very unimaginable, I don't think you are a fool for taking care of a lady you genuinely love, love can make ur brain blank sometimes. Nevertheless what ever threatens ur peace of mind is not worth it, u can't rewind the hands of time but can control future occurrence. We learn everyday

torqque7:
Lol I pray for this guy to get sense and do what he needs to do but mehnn i doubt it,he is so scared to loose her cos he thinks she is a big catch cos of her looks,this guy hasnt realised he needs to end his toxic relationship yet o,he is only asking if he should buy the bed for her..bro this guy is gone,regardless of all we tell him here he wont have the balls to do any,he will still do what he wants to do cos he is puss.y whipped,maybe jarumatised too.

I was in his shoes too,and funny thing is my ex then would joke and tell me she will use Jarumas kayanmata to lock me down and i think she did cos even till now i still think about her but have to be strong and move on with my new relationship..but this O.P as i dey see am so e go hard am o..with all the stories we see online people still let women use them like this?smh..

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Lol
If he doesn't heed to advice now,he should continue then
His body go tell am

Theicecode:
You are a mumu man

in Asari dokubo's voice

bet me, u won't marry such as a wife. y r u even investing on her knowing fully that money u gave her can help the needy. rise up man & tk decision of ur life before your perish. can't you start investing on land properties & etc..maybe your mind is telling you that job u hv now will be there forever.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

The girl no try at all, she should kill you.

Bro you no try at all, spending 500k for a girl that is not ur wife is foolishness, only politicians and mds do that cus they earn large, but if ur family member or friends who is in need ask you of 5k now u will be ranting

The nonsense you fail to stop today will certainly stop you tomorrow. İt never too late to stop nonsense, so stop that nonsense feeling and move on.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

don't be surprised different guys will always camp her there for sex be wise brother you will eventually catch her red handed on sex with other people she has no good character no respect always punch you please leave her, people like you can help your fellow man with money but can stupidly give one omo alata bitch money for this lock down way o dey find small five thousand you dey fool around God is watching your stupidity, someone that can't add value to your life you are foolish and she is a witch too

excessmon:
Oga they are not all the same as not all men are fools

Who u de fans sef ?

Bring her panties for me

Pat081:
We hv useless guys toö that his galfriend is doing everything for him to b happy but he will b doing everything to make her sad we hv them in both male and female

No guy is useless , except the girl don't give him his due respect. OK

ken711:
"That was one smart decision I made, I did it in my name"

How could you reduce yourself into a woman's puppet because of pretty face and still consider yourself smart?

Here is Jude, he is a "real man" (a woman's tool), he is just a boyfriend but he carries the financial responsibilities of his girlfriend even though he is not her father and she can go hustle since she has her own hands. Just like many simps, he even empties his pocket for his girlfriend. Jude does this because it's what a "real man" who loves his gf would do. Let's clap for jude.

#Don'tBeASimp #SimphoodIsAdisorder

Am just speechless

If you give your life to Christ, you will be free of all these troubles in the name of keeping a girlfriend (fornicating).

You better leave that toxic relationship for your own good. I'm sure you noticed she's the violent type tey tey but you decided to choose her beauty over character
There are still pretty good girls out there .

She's 100% using you and I can bet you that everything she told you about her family is all lies and I think that you should cut your loses and move on.

You are a mumu a man bros, no offence.

Omo your babe have jazzed you with sex You mumuly sent 400k this kin hard time to a girl that may dump you later.

Why wouldn't she tear your shirt after all the banging you've been banging her. That's why when dating it's good to abstain from sex at all cost becus women do use it to have some form of control over the man's senses.

davosea:
haha u wan finish ham b dat lol

since him wan buy bed na, come finish wetin him start...

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

hmmmm. if you like don't. run for your dear life. be playing with fire. such girl is possessed and can stab you to death..

My guy you're not the first to do something crazy for love. My story is quite similar to yours but just forget everything and let her go. Start your life over and be more cautious this time...

ken711:
"That was one smart decision I made, I did it in my name"

So what, by the time she decides to burn the house one day,the problem will land on ur head because its in ur name. U think u were smart to have done that.
That wicked cheat is smarter than u.
Better leave her and move on.
Does ur mother know a girl is now beating her son up?

Receive sence IJN.

If u say so but i knw what am sayin

Juliusmomoh:
No guy is useless , except the girl don't give him his due respect. OK

Pat081:
If u say so but i knw what am sayin

Hmmm may God help us sha

I disagree my guy, na Permanent Secretary level e dey(level 17).
Guys like these always wanna ruin my day with their BS. I have one around me now wey dey verge on something halfway to this shii and I'm already on my highest possible irritant level.
Girl still dey beat you until your money, wan break your work laptop. I don't know what I will do but I'm sure as hell it wouldn't be nice at all

Nairaboi:
This O.P mumu na grade level 15 step 2

Whew, I keep asking, where I was when babes meet guys like this.


If you need a girlfriend I can link you up with level headed ladies

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

ken711:
Jesus!! my brother, I'm from awka ooo...wow...I know say I done Bleep up...this morning she is calling me asking for the bed and gas money...nawa oo.....even though it seems like I just threw my money away, in quieter moments in the relationship, we truly shared love...and understanding....I really needed someone to rely on, as I'm not a womaniser...I can only be with one woman at a time...I have a demanding job that requires total focus....I have never truly felt so much love for a woman before...even though I have dated girls from Lagos to London.....hmmm nawa

Bro I now understand you very well now
But you can't rely on a girl like that
She will always cheat and use you (she can't change for you even if you sell your kidney and heart for her).
You just have to know you deserve better and she will never CHANGE.
I know you're scared of loosing her because she has become a very important part of your soul
But bro you have to let her go,though you will be hurt and in pain but few months or years from now when you're totally over her you will be glad you did.
Have been in a situation like that before and I'm glad I did.