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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by bigl: 10:38am On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

Its very normal.

I used to be like that some years ago but i talked some senses into myself and today, i can kill a horse (just joking) but u get my point?

Nobody can help u overcome this shi.t but you & yourself only!

As per seeing a psychologist or something, it might be in order but i'll rather have u face the stuff head on!
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Nobody: 10:40am On May 15, 2020
Join a fight club and let some of the guys beat the shit out of you.

By the time you have taken enough beatings, you will learn to hit back.

That should sort you out.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Psoul(m): 10:55am On May 15, 2020
This is abnormal. If you can't slaughter a chicken or removed wall gecko from your house, then something is wrong with you.

In the same way, you can't defend your family in face of danger. If you're walking on the road with your 6yrs old child and something happens, you'll abandon the child there and run away.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by CuteYvonne777: 11:34am On May 15, 2020
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by teeteelahyor(f): 12:12pm On May 15, 2020
Mikelarteta:
Start smoking weed, you will be surprised at the kind of things you will start doing.
Bad advice
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by emmyN(m): 12:34pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I personally would not kill a chicken, much more a goat. I can kill roaches because their presence irks me, but I find the sight of a carcass disgusting and take every opportunity to avoid beholding such.

I can't stand death of any kind, not like I would be utterly devastated, but the sight disgusts me. I won't visit an hospital either, the smell of it is nauseating.

Does this make me any less of a man? I think not.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by medexico(m): 12:37pm On May 15, 2020
I enjoy slaughtering animals minus humans
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Mikelarteta(m): 1:00pm On May 15, 2020
teeteelahyor:

Bad advice

How naa? I don’t smoke cigarette or weed but I don’t think it’s as bad as people in Nigeria see it.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Papadoh(m): 1:20pm On May 15, 2020
MrBrownJay1:
let me guess: do you wear pink trousers and flowery shirts and/or scream like a woman when you see a needle before an injection... or better yet, do you drink coffee like the dude below?

[img]https://media1./images/a40657db5fa590afe3618ae571043d6f/tenor.gif[/img]
Lol madman

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by xavuv: 1:23pm On May 15, 2020
You have been living a calculated life devoid of risks, that's the reason why you are that way.

We all need to experience life in all its color and shades as much as possible. Dont shy away from risks. Taking Risks will toughen you up.


I bet you have never had an heart break from a woman grin

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Papadoh(m): 1:31pm On May 15, 2020
Psoul:
This is abnormal. If you can't slaughter a chicken or removed wall gecko from your house, then something is wrong with you.

In the same way, you can't defend your family in face of danger. If you're walking on the road with your 6yrs old child and something happens, you'll abandon the child there and run away.
You're wrong! I've never slaughter a chicken before, reason being that i find the killing of defenseless animals utterly cowardly, and yet i've far worse threats in my life(i'm talking guns, cultists, robbers, police & serious fights) and i've come out unscathed. Life is all about perspective, we all see things differently.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Exmilitant(m): 1:32pm On May 15, 2020
Op, do you know with this phobia if you stop fucking pussies and turn vegetarian you are automatically a saint?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by xavuv: 1:34pm On May 15, 2020
Life is meant to be experienced, enjoyed and learn from in all its shades and colors. Why dont you like the way hospital smells? At one point or another and for various reasons in our lives we must visit the hospital.

emmyN:


I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I personally would not kill a chicken, much more a goat. I can kill roaches because their presence irks me, but I find the sight of a carcass disgusting and take every opportunity to avoid beholding such.

I can't stand death of any kind, not like I would be utterly devastated, but the sight disgusts me. I won't visit an hospital either, the smell of it is nauseating.

Does this make me any less of a man? I think not.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by zona376: 1:52pm On May 15, 2020
Guy you need to be a man with a lion heart. Until the day wey rat go chop one of ur precious property, may be certificate, money or new fine cloth . Until the day wey u go cook better soup and the next day u see like 3 cockroaches for inside. I wonder what u will think when you see snake �, may be u go say oh' poor snake. Ur no 3 funny Sha.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by passionberry(f): 2:00pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

We are same shoes ..I have your same heart and I pity people a lot. But people tend to use my soft heart for granted. So I try to be hard but later I will still fall back with my soft heart cos hardened mind is not my kind of person .atimes sef if someone maltreat someone to the extent I see blood I will start crying evn some movies I watch I will be crying ..May God bless our soft heart and tender heart.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by laluski(m): 2:07pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:


lol...not at all. You may want to try me with your girlfriend. In fact I have no mercy when it comes to girls both in decisions and in bed. The issue with me is basically on violence whether against human or animals.

Good then nothing is wrong with you.dont waste your money in seeing anyone but if you still insist,3 crates of GOLDBERG per session of 3 hrs for 12 weeks will suffice grin
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by TheSourcerer: 2:18pm On May 15, 2020
bigl:


Its very normal.

I used to be like that some years ago but i talked some senses into myself and today, i can kill a horse (just joking) but u get my point?

Nobody can help u overcome this shi.t but you & yourself only!

As per seeing a psychologist or something, it might be in order but i'll rather have u face the stuff head on!
how ? Do you know baby steps that could help?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by intruder15(m): 2:22pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I am the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cut.

I am like u from number 1 to 3. The difference between me and u is that am not shy nor embarrassed about it. Also, I kill cockroaches but not with my hand nor bear foot. If there is nothing I can use to hit it, I let it pass.

With respect to number 4, I don't look at death/bloody scene not because I can't look at it or feel nauseated. But because I dont like the memory that sticks to one''s head after looking. U are not alone bro. Don't be embarrassed about it. Who being a killer Epp?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by divineappo(m): 2:26pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?
some acclaimed soft hearted guys like you can easily break an innocent girls heart and yet can't kill cockroach
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Goodzinny: 3:15pm On May 15, 2020
Did you study Theatre arts in school or Music? You have their features.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Curry30: 4:19pm On May 15, 2020
You sound like a LEFTIST/LIBERAL. Just screw it all and LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Fisfrank(m): 4:20pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?




Bro I understand you very well, cause we are in the same shoe, I use to kill animals when I was younger, but as i started growing i noticed i stopped, it my elder sister that fo kill any animal we buy, they all know i dont kill animals anymore, I won't even be there when killing it but when it fully dead I can help in other things, I hate blood too especially accident scenes... you just have to let tour people understand cause mine does, if someone beg me to help kill anything my family will tell the person that I can many things but to take life I hate it. I'm around 30 too. So bro cheer up it normal you have a heart of gold
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Nobody: 4:43pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
This thing really disturbs me, Lalasticlala

Bro, don't let people like MrBrownJay1 throw you off. I was just like you when I was a kid, can't watch animals being killed. I still have some of those traits but I think the balance is I can do it if there is a necessity but will naturally avoid any form of cold-blood. I even feel for ants, can't kill them. But everyone knows I'm a really tough disciplinarian on any under my authority.

Now all these don't make you less of a man. Manliness should always be measured by your positive contributions to your world. Your ability to conquer the real challenges of life.
Even the brute men of force will end up calling you sir though you're soft inside because you make things work.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by phockallmods: 4:51pm On May 15, 2020
MrBrownJay1:
let me guess: do you wear pink trousers and flowery shirts and/or scream like a woman when you see a needle before an injection... or better yet, do you drink coffee like the dude below?

[img]https://media1./images/a40657db5fa590afe3618ae571043d6f/tenor.gif[/img]
You have spent all your years on nairaland gay trolling people. Not everyone Bleep men butthole like you, you sick faggotic element
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 5:27pm On May 15, 2020
placeofallure:


OP, please answer this question, I'm interested.

lol...not at all. I can pound hell out of that pvssy till you pass out. You want to give it a try?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Psoul(m): 5:33pm On May 15, 2020
Papadoh:
You're wrong! I've never slaughter a chicken before, reason being that i find the killing of defenseless animals utterly cowardly, and yet i've far worse threats in my life(i'm talking guns, cultists, robbers, police & serious fights) and i've come out unscathed. Life is all about perspective, we all see things differently.

Running away from such scene and standing against it or saving someone from such a scene are different things.

The scenario I gave earlier is when u face such a situation where u will need to inflict wound or stand face to face against someone ready to inflict wound to you and your household.

It's easy to run away when your the only one involved, but what if you must stand to save your family. With this kind of soft heart, can you still stand?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 5:34pm On May 15, 2020
Mizzpat:
Op, you're just like me.

but at least, you are a woman. so there should be no problem since women are wired to be soft.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by LeonMacJames(m): 6:04pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

Doing all these things you said you cant has absolutely nothing to do with being a Man, not everyone is supposed to have killer instinct.
You're fine.

We have all these things in common, I am still waiting for the person that think they can undercut my potential as a man just because I can't kill an animal in cold blood.
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by placeofallure(f): 7:19pm On May 15, 2020
evansjeff:


lol...not at all. I can pound hell out of that pvssy till you pass out. You want to give it a try?
I'll pass. I have a love interest here now and he's watching my every move. Maybe if you'd asked earlier....
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 8:18pm On May 15, 2020
placeofallure:

I'll pass. I have a love interest here now and he's watching my every move. Maybe if you'd asked earlier....

Hmm...we can make this private you know
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by teeteelahyor(f): 9:12pm On May 15, 2020
Mikelarteta:


How naa? I don’t smoke cigarette or weed but I don’t think it’s as bad as people in Nigeria see it.
Since you think it's not that bad,why aren't you partaking in it then

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