Ope88:


We have, and they're still on the look out for Him. I'm typing with tears in my eyes.. I'm so broken.

But you didn’t answer my question about your relationship with God. Are you a practicing Christian?

PrimadonnaO:


But you didn’t answer my question about your relationship with God. Are you a practicing Christian?

I'm a Christian and not a religious fanatics..

Ope88:


I'm a Christian and not a religious fanatics..

Great. Now’s the time to pray... and commit your family in God’s hands. Study the word, praise Him, pray.

This is not the kind of situation to handle by yourself. God’s intervention is needed.

Amazing007:
Am sorry for your predicaments ma'am , Life brings with it the unexpected ,almost same thing happened to my uncle ,late now , he was highly educated , a professor & a retired D.VC in a prestigious Uni , he died sad , lonely & frustrated ,I pray you find your dad & immediately put back the house in order , time is not lost , forgive him & move on , if found eventually , there are homes for the old

In nigeria?

Deep foundational problems. If only your parents weren't so self righteous and practiced true Christianity.
Disowning your brother was the wrong step to take.Being spoilt and poorly trained, casting him away compounded the problem.
First things try find your father, nurse him back to health. Ignore those who say your should use soldiers on your brother.You push him farther away. Pursue reconciliation with all you've got. Speak to your mum, let her see the reality of things, that your brother will self destruct. I believe if you ladies and your parents were in one team, your brother might be forced/touched to come back. He is just a victim too.
Lastly, if need be don't drag property with the brat. Trust God, Pray to him for help.

Religion ruined the family. My grand dad would have lived longer if not for religion...Deeper Life in particular. They made him forfeit all he worked for. Told him all he made was via sin. OldMan didnt live long cos everything became sin to him. So, be practical and leave religion out of this. May you find your dad. Just take him in, you see that your brother eh.... Just ignore him. He will one day grow and if he doesn't, karma will visit him anyway. As for your mom, she needs help too. She's not fine. Report a case of missing person at the nearest station to his residence and post your dad's pics on online. Please keep us updated.

Amazing007:
Am sorry for your predicaments ma'am , Life brings with it the unexpected ,almost same thing happened to my uncle ,late now , he was highly educated , a professor & a retired D.VC in a prestigious Uni , he died sad , lonely & frustrated ,I pray you find your dad & immediately put back the house in order , time is not lost , forgive him & move on , if found eventually , there are homes for the old

Can you please share what happened? At list we can learn,
Thanks in Advance

Things are really happening in this life

look for your father, involve the police and get him medical help when found, have him spend a week at each of your housesduring the cause of his treatment, ignore your mother, some African women are like that and its not in our culture to argue with the mother

Amazing007:
Am sorry for your predicaments ma'am , Life brings with it the unexpected ,almost same thing happened to my uncle ,late now , he was highly educated , a professor & a retired D.VC in a prestigious Uni , he died sad , lonely & frustrated ,I pray you find your dad & immediately put back the house in order , time is not lost , forgive him & move on , if found eventually , there are homes for the old

Please where can we find one in Ogun state or Lagos?

Cosmic law fulfills.... Karma is gonna shock your brother and mom BIG time. For your dad...
Visualize that he is found always. It’s all gonna be good deArie.

Thanks for all your replys, we appreciate, I'm posting on behalf of my sisters..... We are still praying and hoping he is found, tomorrow is another day, we are keeping hope alive...

he shall be found alive by God's grace, pls once you guys finds him take him to the hospital,maybe yaba or luth they have psychiatric section.
i feel your pain sis it can really be frustrating, my mum is also a religion fanatic and I use to give it to her hot hot, she can't live a single day of her life without going to church to ask a prophet what do. she would leave home and go to church for days without going home, she always believe that people are diabolic, she has been down with arthritis for some months now non of the but non of the church members came to check on her oooo but she would leave home and spend days in the church. I just have to move her in with me to take care of her. the way our parents carry religion for head ehn walai I tire.

Yustash001:
If you are blessed with a good wife

You don't know what God has done for you...

It transcends beyond a good wife.

If you have a good mother too, you are blessed.

The making of a good family 80% rests on a woman. If she is a religious fanatic, or control freak, things will go south.

Churches like deeper life, chosen, trumpeters and the likes needs to be shut down.

Their members are always displaying serious level of irrationality. Not saying other churches are better but these churches are always taking things to the extreme.

Yustash001:
If you are blessed with a good wife
You don't know what God has done for you...

I swear.. God bless you.

Naughtysite:


It transcends beyond a good wife.

If you have a good mother too, you are blessed.

The making of a good family 80% rests on a woman. If she is mad, religious fanatic, or control freak, things will go south.

It begins with a good wife.....

A good wife will definitely make a good mother...

Omoluabi16:
Deep foundational problems. If only your parents weren't so self righteous and practiced true Christianity.
Disowning your brother was the wrong step to take.Being spoilt and poorly trained, casting him away compounded the problem.
First things try find your father, nurse him back to health. Ignore those who say your should use soldiers on your brother.You push him farther away. Pursue reconciliation with all you've got. Speak to your mum, let her see the reality of things, that your brother will self destruct. I believe if you ladies and your parents were in one team, your brother might be forced/touched to come back. He is just a victim too.
Lastly, if need be don't drag property with the brat. Trust God, Pray to him for help.

It's too late for all of this.
The boy is a product of the OT of his mother.
Women like that will kill you slowly with their tongue.
That man has been hen pecked into loosing his sanity.

That boy needs to be hauled properly to a state of near-death and he will recover with a proper brain reset.. The man needs to be relocated . As for the mother she is a lost cause.

Your brother will continue to act the way he does because he knows there won’t be repercussions.

If you can’t get soldiers, get street thugs to do it, I’m sure you will be more relieved than sad if you hear of his death today, he’s a lost cause. The moment you show him that his actions carries big consequences he will begin to readjust.

Get him arrested and throw away the keys.

Tadeknkeepcalm:


Excuse me, do you know theraminestree

No.

GodPunishBiafra:
Ope88
You girls should take care of your father until his sanity is restored to a good state

After that, he should get a good lawyer and he should write his will.

Your brat brother has gone out of control.
If he doesn't kill him las las, he'll kill both of your parents...

Now wey d poor man dn dey missd they are now planning to move him away from d house..ishun...small pikin beat ur sister n u cudnt call olopa or civil defend to help u touch iz brain small

Take him to d hospital n wen he finally recovers,rent a house elsewhere for him.Cheers

You all ran away to marry when you were supposed to help train your brother. Everyone has his or her life to live. Find your father, keep him safe with any of you till he can go back to his home. Then, your mother at older age will see the folly of spoiling her only son. Be careful though, so that your brother won't be the cause of their end. Hypertension, heart attack is real.

Collegenews:

You brag a lot.
Pray make you no jam craze wey pass yours.

And what makes you think I'm not speaking from experience? You people just come to the internet and think everyone is your mate.

Spanishmilf:
I don't know how u may feel sha. If u can pay soldier #5000 to lock your brother up in guard room for just 3days
Believe me he will change. Don't allow your bros to know that those soldiers are from u ooooh.

Let him know you're behind it. And before they release him, he'd bring 3 elderly sureties that he would be of good behavior And he won't harm you or your other sisters. Then watch him change...
Ope88, I hope you find your dad.

Ope88:
Please don't read and pass, also Pardon all my typo, I'm typing out of duress.

I am from a family of six, 3 girls, 1 boy including my parents.
I had a horrible childhood experience, My Mum (no thanks to her) was something I can't quantify, I can't start writing every of the things she did and I can't say If the religion she practiced contributed largely to the devilish attitude she put up while growing up.

My mum has no good record anywhere, in the church, with the neighbours, with her siblings, we the children, her in laws and even at work, She was always at war with people, if she dreams that someone was trying to attack her in the dream, if she sees the person the following day, she was ready to attack the person.

Also, she would curse her children at any slightest provocation and leave only my brother out(last born and spoilt), She doesn't have any good relationship with her siblings and won't allow my dad visit his family member, I remembered them (Mum and dad) always saying this (don't be unequally yoked together with unbelievers). To them anyone who isn't a Christian (deeper life) is not supposed to be associated with.. My dad on countless occasion will call his mum a witch just because she was a Muslim and one of the oloyes of allasalatu(Muslims will understand this) and had nothing to do with his family members.

This went on and on like this until my elder sister moved out of the house and in the process of trying to find her feet, she got pregnant and my mom practically tormented her life, she later got married to the man, and for that act alone, she's always at logger heads with my sister and her husband..

Later, I got married and then my younger sister followed suit, leaving my dad, herself and my younger brother (whom I have disowned).

Ever since the three of us got happily married, and left the home, my dad slipped into severe depression. Although he has been depressed given lots of things he encountered, job loss, no social interaction, unforgiveness amongst others, it became severe when all his female children left, then from severe depressgion, he started having mental issues, he would wake up and leave the house talking to himself, or start preaching and going out of point with anyone he finds on the street, sometimes he would leave and come home at night, my younger brother who is supposed to comfort and help him, treats him with disdain, my mum who is supposed to check mate his excesses would leave him to his folly and now he has started standing up to her and everyone else in the house..

At 26, he doesn't know his bearing and obviously we have been seeing signs of him wanting to inherit the houses my father built in the same compound.. (and we have noticed that my mum has been making him understand that every of the property belongs to him).

The last straw which broke the camel's back happened one week ago, my elder sister ( who is 9 year older than him) took advantage of the lockdown and visited my father, he is usually exited when we are around him whc helps his severe moodiness. There and then an argument broke out between my sister and my brother, she asked why my brother was insulting our mum for an action that happened in the compound, he beat my sister up and her three children and boasted that, the rest of us (my sister and I) dare not do anything and that by the way we must stop coming to the house, that if he sees any of us He will beat us up, My mum who was supposed to resolve the matter started blaming my sister, asking her why she always love to come visiting, that she's supposed to be in her husband's house or father in laws place and immediately called her hubby to come pick her.

Its been one week my sister left for her house, my daddy who enjoyed her company when she was present started misbehaving again at home. He started roaming, he started cursing everyone.

The reason I'm writing is this, my dad is no where to be found, he left the house yesterday Friday 15th May 2020 and was last seen in ITAMAGA IKORODU, we keep trying his number but he is not picking and now his number is switched off, I'm sure he is still wandering about.

My sisters and I have decided that even when he is found(by God's grace) we do not what him to go back living with my mum and brother.

What other alternatives do we have to care for him, as his own siblings are not happy with him either for abandoning them and their mum (his own mum),, when they needed him the most..


I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.. PLEASE HELP ME.

When you found him, take him to his village where he can relate better with his peer. Don't leave him here in Lagos, he will be lonely, won't be able to cope

nautybride:
You all ran away to marry when you were supposed to help train your brother. Everyone has his or her life to live. Find your father, keep him safe with any of you till he can go back to his home. Then, your mother at older age will see the folly of spoiling her only son. Be careful though, so that your brother won't be the cause of their end. Hypertension, heart attack is real.

Are you okay?
Help how? Na dem born am?
All of them should have stayed home to raise the 26 year old last born?

Ishilove:

And what makes you think I'm not speaking from experience? You people just come to the internet and think everyone is your mate.

What is wrong?
Do you ever get tired of spending your entire life on Nairaland insulting people ishilove?
If a grown up finds delight in jumping from thread to threads trolling, then believe me she is a baby adult.
Pay attention to your family so that they won't beat you up as experienced.
No insult intended dear.

Modupetemmy1:
he shall be found alive by God's grace, pls once you guys finds him take him to the hospital,maybe yaba or luth they have psychiatric section.
i feel your pain sis it can really be frustrating, my mum is also a religion fanatic and I use to give it to her hot hot, she can't live a single day of her life without going to church to ask a prophet what do. she would leave home and go to church for days without going home, she always believe that people are diabolic, she has been down with arthritis for some months now non of the but non of the church members came to check on her oooo but she would leave home and spend days in the church. I just have to move her in with me to take care of her. the way our parents carry religion for head ehn walai I tire.

those who carry church for head need help. From there insanity sets in.

Bestinstinct:
Religion ruined the family. My grand dad would have lived longer if not for religion...Deeper Life in particular. They made him forfeit all he worked for. Told him all he made was via sin. OldMan didnt live long cos everything became sin to him. So, be practical and leave religion out of this. May you find your dad. Just take him in, you see that your brother eh.... Just ignore him. He will one day grow and if he doesn't, karma will visit him anyway. As for your mom, she needs help too. She's not fine. Report a case of missing person at the nearest station to his residence and post your dad's pics on online. Please keep us updated.

The negative effect of religion in homes these days far outweigh its positive aspect. I know of a family that worship with one of popular prayer church around. I don't want to mention any denomination for reasons best known.

Long and short of it, the supposed head of the family started seeing everyone on the street as either a witch or a wizard. Anyone who dare respond to him automatically becomes unfortunate for the week as he will sing the person's name, pray with it and ask that his god destroys the person by fire. He went nuts even was taken somewhere. He returned worse. His wife became his prime target and then the whole graduated into physical abuse. Luckily for the woman, her children, all grown now, joined forces, repelled father-prayer's attack and locked him in one of their rooms.

When he was let out, he called his kinsmen to a meeting and the woman was shamed, trust patriarchy.

Today, he has simmered and no longer attends the church but the home is never the same. His children treats him like a ghost in the house. He runs his own errands himself. His six children barely go to church these days, save one.

Sanchez01:

The negative effect of religion in homes these days far outweigh its positive aspect. I know of a family that worship with one of popular prayer church around. I don't want to mention any denomination for reasons best known.

Long and short of it, the supposed head of the family started seeing everyone on the street as either a witch or a wizard. Anyone who dare respond to him automatically becomes unfortunate for the week as he will sing the person's name, pray with it and ask that his god destroys the person by fire. He went nuts even was taken somewhere. He returned worse. His wife became his prime target and then the whole graduated into physical abuse. Luckily for the woman, her children, all grown now, joined forces, repelled father-prayer's attack and locked him in one of their rooms.

When he was let out, he called his kinsmen to a meeting and the woman was shamed, trust patriarchy.

Today, he has simmered and no longer attends the church but the home is never the same. His children treats him like a ghost in the house. He runs his own errands himself. His six children barely go to church these days, save one.

Bro... If we dwell on the negative effects of religion eh...awon spirikoko will come for us and the thread will be derailed. All of us go get sense laslas.