It is time to report your brother to the police or summon him to court before life is lost. There is a property involved and you know that the idle mind is the devil's workshop. Your brother just want that property.

Your mum is similar to my mum, he fights neighbors, families and I have two sisters that she does not in good time with. She only listens to me because I am in oversea sending her money.

NockMedia:
Rooster and bull story. If you know, you know.

Must you comment?

bezimo:


I think your family is under a very strong satanic spell..how can children be fighting each other and and not care about dad that is alive.
Like whether he die or not.You and your elder sister MUST as a matter of urgency take up responsibility to care for your dad including his immediate relocation from that toxic family house..to somewhere else.Discuss with your husband and solicit his support..

Satan wey Dy his own jeje .. everything na Satan fault always. Never Hunan's fault

atoleybaba:
....this is actually the time for her to pray for God guidance and ACT!!!!! Not study the word and bla bla bla.how will all what you said help her if she doesn't take taking actions. Everything is not religious rituals

It’s not a religious ritual, my dear.

The Lord gives wisdom. When a situation is beyond you, you go to Him for wisdom and direction...
She’s apparently at her wit’s end right now on what to do. I don’t see you proffering any foolproof solution to her right now.

So let her pray, the Holy Spirit will guide her on the very best course of action! Studying the Word is important, too, because when you search the scriptures with intent, you find the words that feed your faith, fuel to your prayers.

...

Your father is showing early signs of Alzheimer. This could manifest through memory lost, confusion and inability to do things that he would normally do. He might remember some things and not some.
Simple things like the time of the day and date are no longer easy for him to recollect.
He needs to see a doctor. They might recommend MRI of his brain and other tests.

But remember there is no cure yet, but the individual would surely benefit from help with personal care and assistance.

SweetCunt97:
It's well. May God give me a loving husband and make me a loving wife devoid of issues.

With this kind username and profile pic, timebomb

PrimadonnaO:


It’s not a religious ritual, my dear.

The Lord gives wisdom. When a situation is beyond you, you go to Him for wisdom and direction...
She’s apparently at her wit’s end right now on what to do. I don’t see you proffering any foolproof solution to her right now.

So let her pray, the Holy Spirit will guide her on the very best course of action!

obviously, many solution is right in front of her. I am not denying the importance of prayer but right now, what she need is to act. Like start taking actions for example, the advice people have given her.... that study God's word and all of what you are saying isn't going to cut it at the moment....the main important thing is to pray for God's holy spirit to help her make the right decision, and start doing what she can to solve the problem on ground. The time of studying God's word and praying and just waiting for miracle has pass, it is now time to give in your humaan best. Heaven helps only those that help themselves. You can't just sit and pray and do nothing hoping God will just help you like that. It doesn't work that way

Their parents home is toxic for their father.
One of the girls should keep the father in their home for sometime.

Kalma is real , your father once called his own mother witch .

GodPunishBiafra:
Ope88
You girls should take care of your father until his sanity is restored to a good state

After that, he should get a good lawyer and he should write his will.

Your brat brother has gone out of control.
If he doesn't kill him las las, he'll kill both of your parents...

They need a good lawyer so that their brother doesn't get any property at all, what nonsense. I hate spoilt brats

Juliusmomoh:
Respect village people o

this one is not village people. That woman destroyed his life.

Marrying rightly is very important in life

Ope88

From your story line, you must be a very courageous and strong woman. But then I tell you this, even though alot of errors have been made in your family in the past. This should be the time to start correcting some of does mistakes that were already made by your parents.

Continue being who you have always been to your family especially to your ageing parents regardless of your brother's radical character. I believe with your consistent advice on Avery good day he will regain his senses. Also you and your other sisters should continue to give every support you could to your dad. I think at this moment he needs you guys the most. Possible he should live with one you. The lord will continue to give you the strength you so desire.

GodPunishBiafra:
I just hate reading people apologizing for their so-called typos or wrong grammar and sentence.

Is English your mother tongue?

How may Oyinbo sabi speak and write Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa?

no mind Nigerians. Most of them carry English for head like cap.
Anytime dominique or anyone complains of my English grammar I just yinmu them. Who English epp?

frank41:




Or else He will beat Her again. Teach him alittle lesson. 9 Years no be here!

9 years no be 9 weeks or 9 months. The stupid boy get mind sha

cloud:

Must you comment?

LOL just stating the obvious, fam.

It's too bad that the woman destroyed your dad but it's not the right time to complain. Try as much as possible to get your dad to stay with either of you. Change of environment is what he needs and that is why he keep wandering out of the house. The Lord will restore him from the mental issue he is having now.

Dreyton36:
stop being unintelligent, you misunderstood him,

I didn't quote him base on his comment. I quoted him base on his username. "God Punish Biafra".


Unless you are unapologetically a tribal bigot, you are the unintelligent one here

newdawn2017:
Y?? He is right. Is English uour mother tongue?? I work with British people here, do dey know how to speak Yoruba?? Or ibo?? Or even one native language here or write it??

It's obvious you didn't understand my comment.

I had nothing to do with his comment but his username "God Punish Biafra"

scoundrel:
These creative writers will soon chase someone out of this forum. If I see one more of their stories hit front page I’ll leave this forum for Seun and his moderators.

This irrelevant wannabes will just open her mouth to say trash all in the name of "i wanna" be noticed. You can as well leave now if your life is so bittered and won't allow people air their grief how it pains and affect them. Even if its just a write up can't other people learn a thing or two from people sharing opinions.

Do you think is always about the writers, there are some other people that go through issues and can't air it maybe because they ain't the outspoken type or so, they simply reads through and learn.

In case you have forgotten let me remind 'you are just 1 out of the 2.4m monickers here' do you think you will be missed?? To think that you are even new beats me hollow. Who You EPP

Ope88:


I'm a Christian and not a religious fanatics..

The only cause of this whole thing is over religiousness from both your parents... Yes your father is included from the way he treated his mother and siblings.

Sorry to say,I don't think this will end well in your father's part because he has destroyed his relationship with his family and he is reaping the fruit of his labour. Your brother on the other hand,you all have to be treated with iron hand because he will still beat either of you again if you people don't put a stop to it ... Your mother will also go your father's way cos it is inevitable,the only thing sustaining her sanity is the presence of your brother and the house she hope to inherit,but if she has no access to that house,she will be left with nobody.

Take note of this,don't handle your brother with kid's glove because he might do the same to you and don't even consider whether he is a cultist that van harm any of you... Besides, who dey go dey fear,who dey com dey fear.

When God blesses some people with only (3 ) three females instead of them stopping at that, They will be looking for a male at all cost.

This is what it leads to when you get more than you can bite. Females are also good children and anything more than 2 or 3 is already an issue and problem at future. It's a big lesson to be learnt be content with the ones God gave you.

Let the elder sister lock up the boy at any rehabilitation canter, get your daddy out of that place and report your mummy to her church for peace to reign.

I didn't read a single word in the story because write ups like this gets me personally angry for the day. I don't know why.

from comments I gathered your bro is bad guy and your 70yr old pops disappeared out of his home and is still missing.

1. go to psychiatric hospital and arrange for your brother to be admitted to their facility. this is from a scene I have experienced before how to handle a loose son. just leave him in the psychiatric hospital, he will receive treatment like others (injections, drugs, therapy), the more he claims he isn't mad, the more he will be attended to specially.

2. pray for your father, I fear for the worst.

bye.

Your dad probably had an undetected preexisting mental health condition that made it easy for your mum to manipulate him and isolate him from his family, and now that what seems like his only support system (his daughters) left, he got worse which was probably also exercibated by the behavior of your brother and mum.

If you guys can afford it then I would advice you and your sisters to get him professional psychiatric help.

As for your brother, calling soldiers on him is not going to do anything positive for the situation, he will only leave there angrier and hate you guys more.

When your father recovers, if you're able then try to convince to write a will if hasn't and he has then he should rewrite and exclude your brother from the will.

My maternal grandfather did the same thing to his nightmare of an only son, and nobody knew until he was dead, now it's his sisters that unanimously agreed to give him a share of the rents they collect and he's now calmer and courteous because he knows they can take it away if he misbehaves.

Your brother needs to understand that he is not entitled to anything, if at 26 he still behaves like a child then nobody can help him but himself.

LordKO:
Your mother's character perfectly typifies that of a brilliant but unintelligent narcissist who adheres to organized religion.

Meanwhile, your father is obviously a victim of his own failed leadership at home - servility is as bad as subjugation, conscientiousness is gold. He used servility to sustain his relationship with your mother from the inception, so he's reaping the rotten fruits of his servile actions and inactions. Once one allows and enables their partner to exercise their liberty on the periphery of decorum, they'll definitely become a victim of their crass and expedient actions some day.

Anyway, you and your sisters who care for him should make effort to find him, relocate him somewhere and rehabilitate him formally or informally. Once he regains his sanity, encourage him to take to carefreeness.

Quite an intelligent write up.
Woman get wahala woman get wahala, na so subjugation take start. If u marry such a woman don't give her breathing space at all. Bcus of u do u are gone. A man is a man no mata wat

Ope88:
Please don't read and pass, also Pardon all my typo, I'm typing out of duress.

I am from a family of six, 3 girls, 1 boy including my parents.
I had a horrible childhood experience, My Mum (no thanks to her) was something I can't quantify, I can't start writing every of the things she did and I can't say If the religion she practiced contributed largely to the devilish attitude she put up while growing up.

My mum has no good record anywhere, in the church, with the neighbours, with her siblings, we the children, her in laws and even at work, She was always at war with people, if she dreams that someone was trying to attack her in the dream, if she sees the person the following day, she was ready to attack the person.

Also, she would curse her children at any slightest provocation and leave only my brother out(last born and spoilt), She doesn't have any good relationship with her siblings and won't allow my dad visit his family member, I remembered them (Mum and dad) always saying this (don't be unequally yoked together with unbelievers). To them anyone who isn't a Christian (deeper life) is not supposed to be associated with.. My dad on countless occasion will call his mum a witch just because she was a Muslim and one of the oloyes of allasalatu(Muslims will understand this) and had nothing to do with his family members.

This went on and on like this until my elder sister moved out of the house and in the process of trying to find her feet, she got pregnant and my mom practically tormented her life, she later got married to the man, and for that act alone, she's always at logger heads with my sister and her husband..

Later, I got married and then my younger sister followed suit, leaving my dad, herself and my younger brother (whom I have disowned).

Ever since the three of us got happily married, and left the home, my dad slipped into severe depression. Although he has been depressed given lots of things he encountered, job loss, no social interaction, unforgiveness amongst others, it became severe when all his female children left, then from severe depressgion, he started having mental issues, he would wake up and leave the house talking to himself, or start preaching and going out of point with anyone he finds on the street, sometimes he would leave and come home at night, my younger brother who is supposed to comfort and help him, treats him with disdain, my mum who is supposed to check mate his excesses would leave him to his folly and now he has started standing up to her and everyone else in the house..

At 26, he doesn't know his bearing and obviously we have been seeing signs of him wanting to inherit the houses my father built in the same compound.. (and we have noticed that my mum has been making him understand that every of the property belongs to him).

The last straw which broke the camel's back happened one week ago, my elder sister ( who is 9 year older than him) took advantage of the lockdown and visited my father, he is usually exited when we are around him whc helps his severe moodiness. There and then an argument broke out between my sister and my brother, she asked why my brother was insulting our mum for an action that happened in the compound, he beat my sister up and her three children and boasted that, the rest of us (my sister and I) dare not do anything and that by the way we must stop coming to the house, that if he sees any of us He will beat us up, My mum who was supposed to resolve the matter started blaming my sister, asking her why she always love to come visiting, that she's supposed to be in her husband's house or father in laws place and immediately called her hubby to come pick her.

Its been one week my sister left for her house, my daddy who enjoyed her company when she was present started misbehaving again at home. He started roaming, he started cursing everyone.

The reason I'm writing is this, my dad is no where to be found, he left the house yesterday Friday 15th May 2020 and was last seen in ITAMAGA IKORODU, we keep trying his number but he is not picking and now his number is switched off, I'm sure he is still wandering about.

My sisters and I have decided that even when he is found(by God's grace) we do not what him to go back living with my mum and brother.

What other alternatives do we have to care for him, as his own siblings are not happy with him either for abandoning them and their mum (his own mum),, when they needed him the most..


I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.. PLEASE HELP ME.



Modified..... My dad has been found today Sunday, 17th May 2020, my sweet mother (elder sister) found her, she has been on her feet since he went missing, luckily he was found but in a terrible state, I saw him via video calls and I wept, he can't recognize even my sister again, and just muttering some words we don't understand, he closes his eyes while saying this and asked everyone to go and leave him, he looks so faint and weak and would not leave where he his...My sister has called his siblings and she's waiting for the next line of ACTION from them.

I'll keep updating the house with reports from our end..

Don't be sorry for the long epistle, it's done already and it's on purpose.

So you actually expect me to spare time to read this nonsense about your family? Why are you people so inconsiderate?

As your mum, your real dad. Shikenna.

Kenturkey048:
say what you know brooooa....am a deeperlifer ... The way you live your life is a personal choice...

Sensible people allow nobody tell them how to live.... Her dad was a fucking weakling..he allowed her mum became the head...for what reason should a man call his own mum a witch,or even allows his wife dictate things for him,??only weak men does that ...

The position you place women matters a lot because most of them na witch.....i'm not married ooh,but from dating,I have learnt a lot...women na witch ,if you give them chance,them go ruin your life....You have to always be the man to keep on fit...

Just imagine what you are spewing out regarding women and you are claiming you are a deeper lifer? So what have you learnt with all the bible studies and preachings? How can you generalise bad experiences with women/wives. You are not married, you have not shown that you personally had any bad experience with supposed women and you have that irrational conclusions?

Having a good life and marital bliss start with you, your believe and your thinking orientations. You attract who you deserve, young man.

Deeper life is a good church but seemed to lack teachings in some other important part of personal life and healthy relationships. Hence most members like you take things to the extreme as shown in your conclusion regarding women.

You showed a similar characteristics with the OPs father. He was a good man but he allowed religion extremism to becloud his sense of judgement. Hence his decision to disown his blood relations and brandishing his mother that birthed him a witch? Even the bible that we read and believe does not encourage that, hence the devil he was trying to fight on daily basis hoodwinked him indirectly.

The truth is, You also show a similar trait and the earlier you retrace your generalisation about women the better, if not you may miss it.

NB: I used to attend deeper life when I was in Secondary school so I know what I’m talking about? There are millions of believers enjoying there marital life but you don’t get to hear of it. Only bad news travel fast and this is what the devil is using to hood wink the gullible. A word is enough for the wise.

God bless you bro...

It makes me sick when I see people trying so hard to impress people with their fluent english... for crying our loud English is not our mother tongues.. countries that speak their mother tongues are doing far better than us..

I'm still waiting for someone to quote my typos if there's any at all and hear the word he/she has never heard before..in my mother tongues.

GodPunishBiafra:
I just hate reading people apologizing for their so-called typos or wrong grammar and sentence.

Is English your mother tongue?

How may Oyinbo sabi speak and write Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa?

geosegun:


Just imagine what you are spewing out regarding women and you are claiming you are a deeper lifer? So what have you learnt with all the bible studies and preachings? How can you generalise bad experiences with women/wives. You are not married, you have not shown that you personally had any bad experience with supposed women and you have that irrational conclusions?

Having a good life and marital bliss start with you, your believe and your thinking orientations. You attract who you deserve, young man.

Deeper life is a good church but seemed to lack teachings in some other important part of personal life and healthy relationships. Hence most members like you take things to the extreme as shown in your conclusion regarding women.

You showed a similar characteristics with the OPs father. He was a good man but he allowed religion extremism to becloud his sense of judgement. Hence his decision to disown his blood relations and brandishing his mother that birthed him a witch? Even the bible that we read and believe does not encourage that, hence the devil he was trying to fight on daily basis hoodwinked him indirectly.

The truth is, You also show a similar trait and the earlier you retrace your generalisation about women the better, if not you may miss it.

NB: I used to attend deeper life when I was in Secondary school so I know what I’m talking about? There are millions of believers enjoying there marital life but you don’t get to hear of it. Only bad news travel fast and this is what the devil is using to hood wink the gullible. A word is enough for the wise.

You are just writing an article for no reason,,meddling within same circle..

The way you design your life,its your personal choice and not related to any religious organisation you decide to hang around..

I showed a similar trait of what? Branding my mama wey suffer for me witch or what??

I can never be an extremist sir/ma..As a man if you act weak irrespective of your religious affiliation,you go surely end up where the OPs father ended up...I don't want to know the church you previously or presently attend..,,most women are witch ,if you give a woman the chance to make crucial and logical decisions for you,She is gonna ruin your world...I speak from proper reasoning and what I learn from environment to arrive at my conclusion .

My own be say always be the man,,Never allow a woman make important decisions for you.... Stupidity shouldn't be mistaken for gentility...I have seen so many highly principled gentle men..

And I've also seen so many gentle useless men without balls....Their wives remote them around like dundee. So me I don't know why you wrote those plenty things after I made my point clear..


If you give a woman a chance,she misuses it,hence my conclusion of most women being witch and so many balless men like the dude on a tread down there scolding his mum for a useless girlfriend.....

atoleybaba:
obviously, many solution is right in front of her. I am not denying the importance of prayer but right now, what she need is to act. Like start taking actions for example, the advice people have given her.... that study God's word and all of what you are saying isn't going to cut it at the moment....the main important thing is to pray for God's holy spirit to help her make the right decision, and start doing what she can to solve the problem on ground. The time of studying God's word and praying and just waiting for miracle has pass, it is now time to give in your humaan best. Heaven helps only those that help themselves. You can't just sit and pray and do nothing hoping God will just help you like that. It doesn't work that way

@Bolded. We're saying the same thing. You’re the one presupposing prayers result in miracles all the time!
Lots of times, it just opens your eyes of understanding in what you need to do. You’ll still be the one to put in the work.
Then if God wishes to make a miracle of the situation, so be it.