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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Fathai(m): 5:01am On May 23, 2020
Most ladies are in business and not in love. I dated a lady that was dating me and her ex together, thank God I quickly get to know. She is currently with her ex now. That is how notorious a lady can be.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Abdulquadrimuha(m): 5:02am On May 23, 2020
So nairaland don turn relationship battle grin grin grin grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by larryking540: 5:05am On May 23, 2020
Snaagg:
Nobody's is forcing you into marriage in the first place.

Afterall it's your gender that cry yourselves to sleep every night, embarking on intense fasting and prayer for husbands + joining Facebook groups to encourage each other in your singleness/loneliness grin

Then you start giving boyfriends ultimatum on when they must propose to you. Hahahhaha!

Na only for Nairaland una get liver. Desperados.
I tire o

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by frugal(m): 5:05am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry

It's never a gender thing.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by JustforMen: 5:06am On May 23, 2020

Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by larryking540: 5:06am On May 23, 2020
Fathai:
Most ladies are in business and not in love. I dated a lady that was dating me and her ex together, thank God I quickly get to know. She is currently with her ex now. That is how notorious a lady can be.
Na God day save us from atomic bomb before we marry some ladies o

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by sucre: 5:06am On May 23, 2020
manontree:
Rubbish. Marriage is this, marriage is that yet week in week out thousands are getting married. Am I missing something here? If it's that bad why are thousands or even millions getting married. Social media has swamped the institution to the extent that the few bad cases are highlighted and scorned making people think marriage is hell

It is not. Simply marry with no intention to scam your spouse. It is a continuous work in progress for both and approach it with the spirit of give and take and NOT me me me

Also make sure you do not jump into marriage with anyone that catches your fancy. Avoid using looks, wealth and dress sense as a basis which a lot of ladies live and hang by. Character trumps all these. Marry someone with good character and every other would be added onto you

Finally what you expect from your spouse, be that character first

Same time. People say no job for graduate and a thousand and one still wanna go to school. Because why they believe no job is not there portion. My dear I'm married for 12 years. And you know what . Get married first then come back and comment . I dey wait.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by BruncleZuma: 5:07am On May 23, 2020
I'm underwhelmed

grin grin grin grin

How did this get to FP?!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Lexusgs430: 5:07am On May 23, 2020
Vulcan24:


writing rubbish unconfirmed and baseless opinion just because of ur bitter experience

you are adding fuel to d faya day will burn u

It's not me that caused your problems with ladies o.....

Try to be more responsible, updated and couth, they might start liking you again ........ grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by larryking540: 5:08am On May 23, 2020
igbowoman:
The worst of all is an insecure man especially a short ugly insecure man without money.

Last last last ,u think say u tall abi ......most girls like u na short guys una day end up with last last

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Americanboy35: 5:10am On May 23, 2020
;DThis counter thread is DOA [dead on arrival] joor,

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Igando666: 5:11am On May 23, 2020
[s]
post=89858595:

Nairaland : A house of comedy and surprises.
Person wey call himself King Satan (out of all the usenames/moniker in the world!) copy a d paste so tey, he even quote Pastor Sam Adeyemi! grin cheesy wink
Person wey dey abuse God his creator 24/7 shocked
Nairaland : Never a dull moment! cheesy



We concur!
One of us @[/b] (Sisi Yewande) absolutely concur with this.
Just look at her shaking her head in agreement at the moment! wink


[b]Anyone Wanna know the characteristics of an entitled man that Dyt is talking about?!




Hehehehe cheesy grin, igbowoman has spoken, she just break d table patapata.
And she is so apt!
But a quick question please, what about if he is short and ugly but come get money like Dangote?!

Igbo kwenu! grin wink wink


Chai!
Ewoooo shocked
Madam kuku destroy the table finish! cheesy

Nwanne, ego di nma
......but 95% of ladies will disagree with you sha.
Na dat apparatus gangan dem want lipsrsealed
Apparatus of life!
Nothing fit replace am! tongue
[/s]

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 5:12am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Millenniumlady wake up and come and see something grin

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by zexy2030(m): 5:12am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry
then earn n take care of urself, u r not entitled to my hard worked earned money. 99.9% women are guilty of same. we are dating you we pay for everything about you, isn't it that sense of entitlement. pls women in this generation should learn to pay groom price. That man has no entitlement to form, at least it's done in India.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Edzy: 5:15am On May 23, 2020
an entitled man is a man you can not toy around with who refused to be exploited by a low life(woman)

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Runningwater(m): 5:15am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Wow!!! Such an insightful write up.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by jy2kbeyond(m): 5:16am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry

Entitled as in?
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Happyguy201: 5:18am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry


Your a bastard

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 5:19am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man
angry angry angry
Entitled women are the bigger problems in our society right now. Abi your okpolo eyes no dey see that wan?
Men have killed themselves because of women and bankruptcy, but women don't kill themselves over sex or family matters.

Most times, they even end up killing the man.

Entitled women are the bigger problems.
As someone posted, this thread is dead on arrival indeed

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by DonTobyM(m): 5:20am On May 23, 2020
This thread is pointless.. tueh

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Priest111(m): 5:20am On May 23, 2020
[color=#990000][/color]
Coborona:


I was expecting something better than this

Entitled man?

Come on... It's the other way round

I'm not disputing that there are entitled men..

But more women act entitled

Right from dating... Most Naija ladies to be specific start asking for money to fix hair, to buy phone...
Money that they can't ask their fathers
They were not there when he was hustling, just toasting a Naija babe alone. She starts feeling entitled... I need money for subscription....I want to fix this.... If you shut her down... She starts giving you attitude

I laff is this is the best counter thread y'all can come up with, this thread is a failure at best, like shooting yourself in the leg or scoring an own goal grin grin

Dead on arrival

Spits*
Louder
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 5:21am On May 23, 2020
[s]
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man
angry angry angry
[/s]Trash. First world problems. Dyt, you are so full of shite
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by dumininu01(m): 5:22am On May 23, 2020
Counter thread gone wrong grin grin
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by naijaschoolguru(m): 5:22am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry
Have you been there before?
Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Arcbox(m): 5:23am On May 23, 2020
when I read your post, i see that it's nothing but a total summary of the epistles of the average AFRICAN WOMEN. I thankGod that I got married to someone who I never had much before she join me in building the empire. Just to add alittle to your post. as someone who live in diaspora, I see the greatest percentage of young African women as a shame to the continent. God help you so you will not meet the girl from a poor village or home. Right in diaspora, the African girl have that mentality of entitlement that you have to pay rent for them, give money for hair, nails etc. I have witness were ladies from other continents will want to take you out and pay your bills but African girl will not. It's very bad when you are only thinking of receiving but not giving. I will use this to appeal to African girls to work hard and be nice. No man want a pest as a woman.
its natural that when good is done, good is reciprocated. African ladies please change your mentality of entitlement.
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Priest111(m): 5:24am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry

You are terribly misinformed infact you are bimbo-ish right now...

Many Nigerian ladies are entitled - they feel entitled right from the onset. I mean starting from the toasting session

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 5:26am On May 23, 2020
One female mod is viewing dis.

She would soon start her tyranny of banning and deleting people's comments, simply because she sabi the OP.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Juliearth(f): 5:27am On May 23, 2020
sisisioge:
Ohsey!


I would say never ever settle for an undiagnosed low esteemed unintelligent guy. It is much better to resolve low esteem issues when one is aware and willing to improve.

Also avoid narcist like a plague. These are way harder psychological issues to resolve compared to state of being broke.





Narcissists are the hardest nut to crack.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Nobody: 5:30am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Wow I really love your explanation sir.

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by frankwealth: 5:31am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
words on marble cool

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by jaxxy(m): 5:31am On May 23, 2020
Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

angry angry angry

What is an entitled man? U need to explain so Theres no misconception.

Do u know how entitled the average Nigerian gal is in relationships??

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Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by Remaboy(m): 5:34am On May 23, 2020
BruncleZuma:
I'm underwhelmed

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How did this get to FP?!
A mod sabi the OP wella

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