FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict
does, it makes you live a life of
pretence, cos when I got into
University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t ve the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked
weed, hang out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my
Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they ve always known, My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would ve been a better kid.

LordKO:
Don't mistake strict parents for oppressive parents - offspring of the former always turns out well, especially when the offspring isn't innately insane.

Strict parents do train their offspring to exercise their liberty and live life within the confines of decorum. While oppressive parents do train their offspring to live life within the confine of their self-interest wish, thereby denying them liberty and, by extension, makes them disingenuous.

Pseudo/wannabe libertarian parents, on the other hand, usually turn out to breed crass and expedient offspring, because in the cause of forming woke they allow their offspring to live life on the periphery of decorum.

Strict parents are literally the true libertarians - strict parents are akin to conscientious parents.

crackland:

All of that happened ONLY because of your bad decisions and the wrong kind of company you kept, it wasn't due to the style of discipline you were given by your dad.

If you had been involved in more profitable things like hanging out with the brightest students who spent their time studying and sitting at the front of the lecture hall, or perhaps you joined a religious Christian group and made friends from there, you would not have had anyone to drink, smoke, party, or do drugs with.

Your mom who wasn't strict, why didn't her relaxed disciplinary style have any effect on you?

Learn to have some personal responsibility for your choices.

MrBrownJay1:


you certainly doesnt need to DESTROY your health/life in the name of rebellion, thats stupid and only hurting yourself.

bukatyne:
The above is something I have never understood.

The act of destroying yourself to punish someone else.

If she said she stole from her parents, blocked contracts, ridiculed them....

Maybe I would understand.

Kyom20:
I can totally relate to this. Nigerian parents often make the mistake of trying to force or suppress their kids to be a certain way so as to avoid them making "mistakes". What they fail to realise is making mistakes and learning is part of life.

This then leads to rebellion because often times these children want to have these experiences for themselves. Its just human nature. What i feel is important for children in this situation to understand is that everything should be done in moderation because at the end of the day its still your life, and you would suffer most the consequences of your actions.

@ op, you are normal and i hope you learn from your parents mistakes when training your own kids.

I Hope this article sheds more light
https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20120223/overly-strict-controlling-parents-risk-raising-delinquent-kids

MrBrownJay1:


IMHO you are only partly right as it has all to do with how you approach a child and make them understand why they shouldnt do something....instead of just locking them up and trying to shield them from the real world. thats the big issue here.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with a parent having certain rules that a child may not like, the important part is to make that child understand why such act aint right.

all kids will go through a rebellious period (some worse than others) but regardless, there are some things that i would NEVER accept a child to do, even in moderation... and its my duty as a parent to make that child understand that.

Kyom20:

There is no system that would work without rules, the issue as the op pointed out is strict parents.

I can totally relate to the damage that strict parenting has on kids. as the article I pasted shows moderation is key in parenting so as to avoid pushing kids too far.

kazyhm:


You spoke my mind.........I can say its the mom that is even responsible for all that.......her actions portrayed her dad as been outright wicked......training a child with divided approaches is more dangerous.