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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Nobody: 4:10pm On May 25, 2020
hmm...
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Rich4god(m): 4:10pm On May 25, 2020
Leaving a pretence life has nothing to do with a parent been strict or not... Stop using that as an excuse for the negative things you do. If you are reasonable enough, no matter how u want to explore life, doing drugs and taking excess alcohol shouldn't be part of it cos when you do things that damage your health, that is not part of exploration.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by bluefilm: 4:11pm On May 25, 2020
DontBullshitMe:
Nonsense.

Absolute nonsense. sad

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Proffdada: 4:11pm On May 25, 2020
That's why the Yoruba adage goes: ti a ba fi ọwọ osi ba ọmọ wi, a fi ọwọ ọtun famọra
Be iron handed in discipline but gentle in reproach and make sure the lesson was learnt

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Queenyprinxex(f): 4:12pm On May 25, 2020
You were just a slutty junkie in the making, it has nothing to do with your Dad's strictness.
You aren't the only one who has been subjected to such strictness.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Exc2000: 4:12pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:

Ever wonder why pastor children turn out to be worse than their pastor parents?

pastors kids turn out badly because they no their parents are hypocrites that preach something on the pulpits and do the exact opposite at home

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by physise(m): 4:12pm On May 25, 2020
My parents were strict but I didn't indulge in any useless and life-destroying act. Change your mindset

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Royalfurnitures: 4:14pm On May 25, 2020
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Nobody: 4:14pm On May 25, 2020
My parents where strict too but I turned out okay and never got wayward, you been wan always spoil right from time.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Judolisco(m): 4:14pm On May 25, 2020
U chose your path... My dad was strict, it helped me a lot during my undergraduate days.... Blame yourself... Some parents are not strict yet they have children like you too so nothing new ma

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kiddkash(m): 4:14pm On May 25, 2020
crackland:

All of that happened ONLY because of your bad decisions and the wrong kind of company you kept, it wasn't due to the style of discipline you were given by your dad.

If you had been involved in more profitable things like hanging out with the brightest students who spent their time studying and sitting at the front of the lecture hall, or perhaps you joined a religious Christian group and made friends from there, you would not have had anyone to drink, smoke, party, or do drugs with.

Your mom who wasn't strict, why didn't her relaxed disciplinary style have any effect on you?

Learn to have some personal responsibility for your choices.
thank you. I thought I was the only one thinking like this
after behaving like a lil biitch, she now wants to blame the man that gave her a good life

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by CodeTemplar: 4:15pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..
Misbehaving willfully and blaming someone for it.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by obowunmi(m): 4:15pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..

Child Abuse is not okay. Your parents are morons.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by merits(m): 4:15pm On May 25, 2020
See your life outside,no excuse for your bad behavior, try and move with positive people and see your life going positive.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by taiocol: 4:15pm On May 25, 2020
crackland:

All of that happened ONLY because of your bad decisions and the wrong kind of company you kept, it wasn't due to the style of discipline you were given by your dad.

If you had been involved in more profitable things like hanging out with the brightest students who spent their time studying and sitting at the front of the lecture hall, or perhaps you joined a religious Christian group and made friends from there, you would not have had anyone to drink, smoke, party, or do drugs with.

Your mom who wasn't strict, why didn't her relaxed disciplinary style have any effect on you?

Learn to have some personal responsibility for your choices.



How many bright students do you know sef. You think because a student is bright he/she won't party, smoke or keep bad company? Or is it the same religious people that are specialist in pretence?
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by KelB(m): 4:16pm On May 25, 2020
Strict Parents seems to raise the most sneaky Children
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by hidhrhis(m): 4:16pm On May 25, 2020
I have a course mate whose parent were extremely strict
They are both teachers
They came to school to rent a house from him far away from where student are living so as not to be wayward and rented a place where the landlord and the landlord families will be monitoring his every move and report back to the parent
If he sleep outside or keep late night they will report back to the parent and when we have holidays his parent won't allow him go out
I was shocked when my friend told me he impregnated a girl the parent were shocked,the landlord was shocked cos they thought he was closely monitored unknown to them that my friend do sneak in girls to where they rented for him in school without the landlord knowing smashing more than 5 girls repeatedly under their nose without them knowing until one led to pregnancy

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Futuragetty: 4:16pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..
My dad was two men but I knew only one... those days, My mother wore her wrinkles the way an ocean wears a wave. although she watched while our dad melt out severe punishments on us. but she is the only body of water that refuses to let us drown.

were you ever locked up inside and out( say Police cell)
or enrolled in a boarding school you didn't want?
I understand maybe your parents get to choose who visits you and where you go.

in my time, I needed a pass to go outside, just like school exit cards. it was that bad.

with all this, I still love them . I didn't rebel against them. None of us did. But in your case, You did. its no fault of theirs that you for involved with drugs and became wild. it was your bad choices and decisions.Your parents did what they thought was best for you.

I tell you, If my parents had not handled us the way theithey, I might have been another school drop out. And same applies to you, YOU would be worse off if you had not been raised that way.

When i have my own kids, There will be raised well, prolly run their life, until there turn 18+.
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Deicide: 4:17pm On May 25, 2020
So you saying Yahweh is at fault for placing the tree where Adam and Eve was and asking them not to eat it?

I was also raised up be strict parents but I didn't turn out bad or spoilt because it get sense!

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Lexusgs430: 4:17pm On May 25, 2020
That was their style of control, but it was your personal decision to go wild......


Not all kids become waywards...... Once you attain the age of responsibility, you would have to live with the decisions you made.......

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by BlowYourMind: 4:17pm On May 25, 2020
Rubbish, you want to be bad you become bad, my mother was strick but I have my inbuilt nature, I didn't carouse around, I do not have friend, my friend were electronics.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by xreal: 4:17pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..


Strict or not.

You made your choice of actions/lifestyle.

I can prove that to you.

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Nobody: 4:17pm On May 25, 2020
stop blaming your foolishness on strictness.

all the spoilt children in the street are children of strict parents?


you made stupid choice so live with them

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by omaigala12(m): 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..
The major thing d miss for this list of wetin u do for school. Abi u no do am?
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by 12345baba(m): 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
Nonsense, u even had a mum to draw u closer yet u no useful. U were meant to spoil

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Hotice085: 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
the mod that made this frontpage is a goat

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by YorubaKing: 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
OP... You're avoiding responsibility for your actions. Olofo! angry

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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by cray91(m): 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
your story is same for over religious parent.
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..

Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Miarose: 4:18pm On May 25, 2020
You are doing yourself.
FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Missyajoke(f): 4:19pm On May 25, 2020
My parents were strict to me I was a very stubborn child and that beating shaped my life. Its not about your parents strictness but you. OP hope you know your future lies in your hands. There's no excuse for failing in life . Things like this cause regret at old age. OP it will pain you later in the future change

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