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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by gentlesmithugo(m): 4:27pm On May 25, 2020 |
Queenyprinxex:Easy sweetheart. u don vex.how r u 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kingkon(m): 4:27pm On May 25, 2020 |
My brother if after the flogging and balanced home training from a strict dad and a counselling mother to balance it.. you still decided to smoke weed , drink beer and explore life.. pls dont blame it on your dad, it was your choice. LIFE in the university is all about your choices in the end. The peer pressure and all are real. But what you choose is what you become. Even if your dad had taught you how to smoke, chase women and build confidence in you from birth, my brother pikin wey want do extra go do am. Prayers on your knees for your kids and continuous follow up is the only trusted weapon for parenting in this century. After blaming your parents remember you will have kids to tell you how far soon. they will mark your scripts too 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by agabaI23(m): 4:27pm On May 25, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:Your points are always on point 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by taiocol: 4:28pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland: Seriousness kee you der |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by SoNature(m): 4:29pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Keep destroying your life and blaming it on your parents Most of us have strict parents and attended high institutions, but we took the values we learned from home to school. Some joined the fellowship and became active in church just to wave off some useless kids on campus. Las las, all man 4 himself. Yes, everyone will answer for their idiocy and your parents won't be there to suffer the consequences and go through the pains with you. Be guided 7 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by alezzy13: 4:29pm On May 25, 2020 |
I think many of you are missing OP's point. You all claim choice, so why didnt her parents strictness influence her choice?? I dont by any means downplay the place of discipline in raising the child, but it must be done for the right reasons. For instance this: Reckyd123: is NOT my idea of parenting (With all due respect) |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by BuddhaPalm(m): 4:29pm On May 25, 2020 |
Yeah, blame your dad instead of taking responsibility. If your behaviour was inevitable because of how he treated you, then his was inevitable because of how his parents treated him... And so it continues...until Adam. So blame Adam, or God. Don't take any responsibility at all. Stay there and be looking for who to blame. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Chicastle: 4:29pm On May 25, 2020 |
Whenever it rains that's when you will see no electricity supply anywhere in Nigeria. Just dey watch now rain has come. They have full evidence of no electricity Anu 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Goodmorning2u: 4:30pm On May 25, 2020 |
One thing my Christian parents failed to teach me was about sex education. They don't always want me with the opposite sex and never explain the reason to that. Growing up as a young girl with no moral training on sex life and partner from my Parents. No relationship discussion with my Parents till I grew old and got married. I ended up with many broken relationships and sex partners. That is one thing I will never ever hide from my unborn kids. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by hadelany(m): 4:30pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland: God bless you for this.. Only a few knows that life and the way you live it is a matter of choice. The heart is desperately wicked 4 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Setanaisee54: 4:31pm On May 25, 2020 |
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by bizhop01: 4:31pm On May 25, 2020 |
When i was a kid i always like story book |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kolade560: 4:31pm On May 25, 2020 |
You kept bad company and unfolded your inherent immoral tendencies simple, nothing like dad was strict. Your mum encompassing nature should have prevented you but you were adamant and interested in dishing out your waywardness. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by MrSmithy: 4:32pm On May 25, 2020 |
Every child can be bad or good, it got nothing to do with being a pastor's kid cox its an individual decission so it all lies on the individual to choose which part of life is best for him/her... |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by lilbarracuda(m): 4:32pm On May 25, 2020 |
You just abused the freedom you had.
Not everyone can handle freedom. It's just you growing up. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Martinez39s(m): 4:33pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:Don't pay him any attention. Your case is similar to the two sons of my father's friend. I had always known that the so-called strict parenting can backfire terribly. When you impose a lot of ridiculously tough measures on children, especially when the children don't know why they should uphold such rules, they will abandon it once they get to university or away from their parents. The children will want to explore and taste the life (a life for which they are ignorant of the pros and cons) that their parents denied them. This is even more dangerous as the children will explore the trending and high life all alone without guidance, and in the company of friends that are not good for them. The best way to discipline a child is not to impose a lot of ridiculous and unnecessary tough rules, but to ensure that they understand why they must embrace discipline in life. The most disciplined people in life are those who voluntarily embraced discipline instead of having it imposed on them especially when they don't see the need, and they don't like it. Don't get me wrong, parents must make reasonable rules, but they must be close to their children such that their children can confide in them about anything. Children who can confide anything in their parents hardly go amiss; this is where stone-cold, military styled parents are missing it. The stone-cold, military styled parenting only makes children evolve into great pretenders and liars. They grow up not sincerely embracing the harsh rules but only abide whenever the parents are around. Parents must learn to sometimes see things from the new generation's perspective, and realise that some of the things they do are not necessary and would only oppress their children. Now that you have seen where you have gone astray in life, start making the best of your life (what's left of it) now because the world out there don't care if your parents failed you in a way, and as you can see from the comments, people will hold you responsible for how your life turns out. Progress, be stagnant, or retrogress; the ball is in your court. Edit: the people blaming the OP is proof that most parenting in this part of the world is a bit dysfunctional. You can blame the OP all you want, but you must realise that the "default" mindsets of children in the OP's situation when getting away from their parents for the first time are naivety and the strain of oppressive rules. These mindsets make these children highly prone to taking the path that the OP took. OP isn't the first, and she won't be the last. If you like, make the same mistakes her parents made. You can't solve everything by just rules and beating. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by orgasm(m): 4:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
You were just a bad child that's all. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by RuddyFusion(m): 4:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
You did all that you did not because of any strictness if your dad....you did them because you wanted to.... It's s choice thing at the end of the day it's your choice.. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Meneking: 4:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:all dis post is just to justify your wrong doings in sch doesn’t count is what you choose to |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Originalsly: 4:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
LordKO: Sooo on point. @ FeliciaOja ... after all.... your parents were not strict! Your case is nothing new.... is like being caged all your life and suddenly released into the world.... some become free but mind remained caged.... while some .... like you... become free and wouldn't know how to act! Good sharing. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by hermesprogidy(m): 4:34pm On May 25, 2020 |
crackland:Well said. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by nonmonk(m): 4:35pm On May 25, 2020 |
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Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by frog12: 4:35pm On May 25, 2020 |
liar. your dad didnt flog you well FeliciaOja: |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by safarigirl(f): 4:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja:Stop blaming others for your bad life choices. Being strict did not make you do anything, you did all those things because you wanted to shalaye. Own your nonsense with your chest, and stop looking for who to put blame on. Nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Miarose: 4:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
They already trained you by not wanting you with opposite sex. You can't tell me you didn't know about pregnancy and STDs. What else do u need from them? Don't blame them for your many sexual partners. It is strictly your choice. Goodmorning2u: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by ELPROF(m): 4:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
forget parenting, You choosed to be bad kawai, nothing like ur parents were strict, in this life there is no excuse for failure. weh b say God dee 2 Likes |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by Adunnee: 4:36pm On May 25, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: You were irresponsible. You destroyed your parent's trust. It is your life, not your parent's. |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by openmine(m): 4:37pm On May 25, 2020 |
LordKO:bossman take it easy with your 'vocabs' nah.... You are absolutely right though! 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by CsRockefeller(m): 4:37pm On May 25, 2020 |
Joke is on you if you think you were fooling your parents, come back in 30 years time and ask how far. 1 Like |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by tpraiz(m): 4:37pm On May 25, 2020 |
Las Las Pikin wey go spoil go spoil. It's not by gra gra |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kingphilip(m): 4:37pm On May 25, 2020 |
Reckyd123:I go like read the full gist. Copy me when you write the full tori |
Re: Why Children Of Strict Parents Turn Out To Be Worse by kiddkash(m): 4:38pm On May 25, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:as harsh as it is,it works. kids don't think there are consequences to actions. its a notion that has to be corrected not pampered in their adolescence to deter the rest of the kids. someone has to be the bad guy in other to get things done. It may be harsh but necessary. fathers are willing to be that bad guy, which is why kids say they love their mothers more but they don't see what their father is doing for them. when they grow much older like 35 to 40, then they'll become appreciative 2 Likes |
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