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princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

Do you put to bed for your father in-law or for yourself and and your husband? The less people you get involved in your family affairs the better your life. When they start pocnose now you will still come here to complain. The man is acting like he is not aware of your existence, your simply go a little ahead of him by acting like he is no more. When he start acting like he is alive you also change your thought of him.
This life is dynamic and you must follow it like that to be happy for yourself

Ningen:
Call him and congratulate him.
Whether he likes it or not, it's his grandchild.

Congratulate him for carrying the baby or for delivering the baby? Pls which part of the world are you?

After fucking his daughter, him go call you untop.

alizma:

Congratulate him for carrying the baby or for delivering the baby? Pls which part of the world are you?

Oga behave self ooh.
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After fucking his daughter, him go call you untop. Oga behave your self.

alizma:

Congratulate him for carrying the baby or for delivering the baby? Pls which part of the world are you?

Oga behave self ooh.
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you sure say he will not call you tomorrow to apologize? what are you're making things up by saying your in-laws are not happy

you sure say he will not call you tomorrow to apologize that he's been busy or out of airtime it something? what are you're making things up by saying your in-laws are not happy

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

focus on ur baby, maybe he doesn't have airtime: country hard

DominusPrime:
You cant just tell us this and expect us to know what you are to do. A lot must have happened for this to occur. Maybe you were rude to him, maybe he didn't like you, maybe he's a wicked man, maybe you are the wicked one etc...even if you tell your side, we still have to hear from both sides

Even if the relationship is frosty, the birth of a child can melt even the most hardened of men. He was once a father and knows the importance of meeting a newborn extremely early in life. How will it look like if the boy heard his grandfather did not see him until he was 2 years?

The man should have made watertight arrangements to see the newborn and then leave. His visit may be short.

With Whatsapp now, he can ask his son to send him regular videos of his grandchild. A self-respecting distance should be kept until the estrangement is resolved

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

Call him, tell him that u have put to bed, problem solved

Must everyone congratulate you Nah Jesus you born If they no call u then call them

MrBrownJay1:
focus on your new child and family, live your life the best you can and stop bothering yourself with what others think of you. you certainly cant force someone to love you.

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princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

In life, not everyone will congratulate you or be happy with and for you..

You take the ups with the downs and you move..

What matters is the gladness and happiness of your husband, to the arrival of the child.

It says in Gen 2:24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh..

JONNYSPUTE:
....@ Op, don't destroy your happy home because of insecurity on your path. Women should learn to do the first thing first and that is calling your father in-law to break the good news to him.
..Seem like this civilization is really making some of us to be disrespectful.

Modified.
Nairaland,the only place where singles give marriage advices to the married lol.

Men I tire o!

Why now? The man should be happy that he now has a ground sun.. what did you did to the man before you burned your sun?You must have did something to him

Few questions to ask:

1: have you officially called him for the newborn?

2: Are you sure you are not disrespecting or turning his son's eyes against him?

3: When last did you spoke with him on phone before the birth? Because onye kele sunny, sunny ekele ya.

4: Check yourself well, you may be the devil here. You might have wrong him one way or the other. Women of nowadays speak without biting.

#iprayforgoodlifepartner

My dear, I congratulate you on your Glorious delivery of your baby. I thank God for you and your family. Ma, I think it is inappropriate for your FIL not to have called you. But I think something is behind it. Baba could be Broke, or phone got bad. do not be too hasty to conclude that Baba hates u. Since he has been the one calling, why not reach out to the old man? Or better still, you n Oga should pay him a Visit. pls be of a sound mind this period, u don't need stress at all.





Cheers

mslilybeth:

Honestly that attitude has nothing to do with her character, especially in my tradition,even if the person is your mortal enemy, you must congratulate her, and besides isn't he the older person here or is he quarreling with is new born grandson too,people should learn not to transfer their aggression on innocent babies abeg, cos the baby automatically won't get granpa's gift like that, cos he dislikes the mum, terrible man quarreling with a daughter in law, if op where his daughter and she wronged him will he do the same
@Op just pray hard and be good, ignore that grandpa ok? Since he is not even feeding you how is he important.

Although i haven't assumed it has anything to done in her character, it is a possibility I considered. Did you also see that I considered th possbitly of the man being bad?

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

Hello dear, there is a Yoruba saying that interpretes to no should be angry of ‘you didn’t greet me’. There is no written rule that grandpa should congratulate you first afterall, he too has something to be congratulated for. If you had flown on the wings of your prior conversant relationship, it shouldn’t have mattered who called first.

Also about customs, I remember my dad calling to ask why I didn’t ask his brother for a name for my newly born. I ‘think’ I called and that was all. Some customs have a sequence for things and in this case hubby should have been the one to advice you. My dad knew I wasn’t Yoruba in attitude and gave me the guideline ahead.

Leaving greeting or no greeting aside, where does losing your mind come in? You have to learn to live happy without recourse to people’s decision or indecision else you will be at people’s mercy all your life. I won’t greet you congrats just to buttress this point.

For this current ish, ask hubby if he informed grandpa and if he has or not, together call and congratulate the old man.

Wishing you well - Teemy

adontcare:
Same with me but it was mother inlaw and children. They did not expect I will bear a son. They were already rooting for another wife. But as God may have it, he was a boy. They didn't care and I didn't bother. When we traveled home for father in-law burial, mother inlaw thought nobody was looking and hit my son( 1yr4month old) on d head. He cried and had fever. I saw her but I did not tell anyone to avoid another family issues. But God will fight for my son.

so she hit your son and you just let her get away with it?

Just like that
Learn to defend your child next time so they won't think they can do and undo with him

TrollPolice001:

Who ask you??
I know women like you because you feel you've given birth to a son the whole world should bow at your feet.
Who knows if the woman was reprimanding your son for being naughty you termed it another thing.
God help men

reprimand a one year old for being naughty?

You are a wicked person!

A devil is what you are

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

Hw re u sure say him fone neva spoilt

Gloriagee:
He definitely will and dont give anyone access to hurt your kid again. I'm literally boiling on your behalf.

aswear!

I wish I was there to give that woman a piece of mind and some serious warning

Nobody can hit my child like that when I'm alive and nothing will happen

I swear!

They have seen it, that ur child wuld be great so they are jealous, is it not dis village people? i knw dem well....

Is your father in law the father if your child. Why concern yourself with all these manners of worries. The sleepless night the baby should be giving you now should be your concern.

princessRachael:
No I have never been rude to him before now we have been very close friends. He even calls me more frequently than I do. The more reason I am bothered.
I don't knknow whether I should call to know why or I should tell my husband about this.

3 good weeks, you havent discussed with your husband.

Social Media got to hear of your emotional burden before your husband. Have you found out from your husband if he has informed his family that you have put to birth?

How old is your marriage sef?

If you put up there is true, did you call him to inform him that you have given birth?

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

They should have called but visitation is excused. Don't allow visitors in your house because you just gave birth,until this pandemic is drastically reduced.
My big brother's wife gave birth in March,I haven't visited them till now but I call often though.

DominusPrime:

Although i haven't assumed it has anything to done in her character, it is a possibility I considered. Did you also see that I considered th possbitly of the man being bad?

True and I quite understand you, you see this in-laws it's the crap they can take and swallow from their own children and overlook, is the same type of thing Op might have done and they get angry all because she is not their child,or just a daughter in law ,if truly they see her like their child they will love her unconditionally and settle their differences, you see those in-laws some actually hate wives for very absurd reasons, so I understand the Op.

Well since its a mother in law, na wisdom you go use follow am. Some women can be crazily manipulative but ill make sure no wicked relative is alone with my baby while being as polite and politically correct as can be. N then keep my distance from such people, proper social distancing tins.

tammie24:
aswear!

I wish I was there to give that woman a piece of mind and some serious warning

Nobody can hit my child like that when I'm alive and nothing will happen

I swear!

mslilybeth:

True and I quite understand you, you see this in-laws it's the crap they can take and swallow from their own children and overlook, is the same type of thing Op might have done and they get angry all because she is not their child,or just a daughter in law ,if truly they see her like their child they will love her unconditionally and settle their differences, you see those in-laws some actually hate wives for very absurd reasons, so I understand the Op.

You have a point...

princessRachael:
Help me am loosing my mind. I hhave put to bed for over 3 weeks and my father inlaw has not called me to even congratulate me. What should i do?

You are supposed to call him and tell him that you have delivered as your father in law that he is. I believe that you called and told some people that you have given birth.So calling him wouldn't be any big deal.But since you did not do that, he decided to ignore you. So call and tell him now!