AfroKnight:


The ladies saw the signs but were blinded by the things they WANTED TO SEE.

Anyway, married men should free these babes for us single men.

ehmmy11:


It's a man's world after all.. See how easy it was for them to switch roles.. Share your own experience





The goodies are just too sweet for them to think straight ..funny how they usually agree to date the married men but will turn down a very single guy ..

IAMBlesssed:



What do you mean?

Innocent ladies were deceived by irresponsible family men and you turn around to blame the victim?
What can a married man give to a lady that a single guy can't give??

There's serious rot in the society. I'm scared for this generation..

AfroKnight:


Yes, be scared for your generation - a generation of women who routinely choose to believe lies in the face of truth.

Nonsense.

IAMBlesssed:


The discussion is not about runs girls who re hunting for irresponsible husbands to leech on.It's about randy he-goats deceiving innocent ladies that they re still single.

What can a married man give to a lady that a single guy can't give her?

Lamanii22:
Those married men eehn... They'd be looking so young and cute... They'd spoil you baje...

Pascopele:
Have you ever,almost dated a married man who acted single?
How did you discover?

ehmmy11:



Being a married man chances are that he is more settled has more patience and experience to manage her excesses ..tho all things being equal a straight answer is NOTHING


To your 1st comment most ladies can see the signs that something is not right but choose to ignore them cos they really want it to be true.

IAMBlesssed:


Yes.. Keep supporting evil and keep turning blind eyes to the truth simply because you feel it doesnt affect you.What goes around, comes around.
The topic is not about runs girls who re dating married men on purpose, it's about innocent ladies who were deceived by irresponsible family men but you chose to change the narrative to suit what you believe.

And I ask again.. What's so special about married men?What can a married man give to a lady that a single guy can't give? Common sense should tell you that no responsible single lady will INTENTIONALLY date a married man. Many of them re victims of circumstances just like most people that commented ve stated..

Oyindamolah:
It's actually happened to my friend. We were class mate back then in the higher institution. She was in Enugu and the guy stays in Lagos he comes to Enugu once in a month to see her.

She never knew he has been married for 2 years they dated with 3 kids. I told her to go visit this guy in Lagos to know where he stays or ask him to introduce her to any member of his family but love no gree my babe think but I still have my doubts about the man.

My babe was shattered when she found out herself that the man is married I also cried for her because she is a nice lady and doesn't deserve such deceitful act. He thought he has won but he forgot karma is a bitch. God of the innocent will fight for her.


My cousin dated one idiot for almost 4 months #never knew he even married earlier that same year and has a little daughter #OLORIBURUKU SOMEBODY


Hmmm, no be small matter oooo, even me I was at his wedding oooo 1 week after his wedding uncle started approaching me that he like my type, my slim and shape bla bla bla n I ask uncle are u married n he said no ooo God forbid n I ask him dat I usually saw him with a woman on ladies machine he denied it telling me dat it's his brother wife and I said ok dat I will think about it, since then uncle always come to our place with gift n money knocking in our gate, sometimes my mum will open d gate and ask him who he is looking for and he will say he is looking for me.

I keep thinking how some men can deny his wife just Bcox of sex, I told my mom n she said she will confront him when next he visit I told my mom not to dat I will talk to him n uncle came again I confront him n he swear to me dat he is not married even lick the sand on floor I became angry and told him that I will call the wife and told her everything and also let him know that I was at there wedsing, uncle was begging me dat he will do anything for me dat is d work of d devil coz I recorded all our conversations. Some men can lie for Africa n deny their wife.

@kemimarch16

As it was said in th salon
She haven't accepted but on that day Chelsea had match. FA cup final and they decided to go together, on their way one woman was following them well she didn't suspect anything.
She came to their front, looked at them and entered a shop.
She asked him, do you know that woman? And the he replied me "leave that mad woman wey dey live for our street...
The woman came again and she noticed that something was amiss plus hse was holding a red and white cloth dangling in her hand, she asked the woman madam please who are you.
Nah then she knew say that woman nah is guy wife ohhhh.
she begged her, madam he didn't tell me that he is married ohhhh, infact nah Chelsea match we dey go watch we are not dating ohhhh...
I mean dude has 5kids, 2 sets of twins and the last born....
Men I tire for una matter

Leezah:
Honestly ladies have seen hell, this is what girls must pass through before ending up been Mrs ?? But its well.

You will never notice they're married because there's nothing suspicious even in their home.

First one.... The wife was far from him where she's working, and his home looks so much like bachelor's home and I find out through my friend who saw his pictures on my phone one day. I confronted him,he denied it till date.

Second one, The man even promised to marry me not knowing he's already engaged. I found out through his ex gf whom I suspected he was cheating on me with on Facebook. The good aunty revealed everything to me. The funny part is he never posted his so called wife on social media, nor have her pics on phone. He's also single on social media. The ex told me he married the lady because of her money and only go to visit her once in a while because he's still living in his bachelor's house.

Third one, His brother he introduced to me one day started developing feelings for me ooo. Even went to the extent of revealing his brother's secret of being married to one village girl with a kid so I should leave his brother and come to him. I confronted his brother and he didn't even deny it just and also told me that he wish he meet me before the girl and that he's ready to leave her for me. Mehnnnnn I gave up on men since those experience. It really hurts

All of this three are still looking fresh and young. U will never suspect them being engaged let alone married. May God help we ladies oooo

IyaTola:
Not almost.We met on facebook as usual.We have been speaking for about three months. I usually travel to go shop for my store.You will never see a trace of this man anywhere.

He even said he wanted us to relocate to another country, but I notice he hardly pick his calls late at night .But i will be wondering, he will give me one excuse or the other.

So I went to Lagos we were suppose to meet up.I lodge myself In a hotel,I got into lagos so late.This guy said he was coming,today tomorrow I have not seen him.

So I came on my Facebook,on my message request i saw a lady have been dropping messages to me.She even added me on Facebook .Come and see message,I read the message then went on her page. Oga is married with two kids and another one on the way.The woman started calling my Number. She told me how she is pregnant the guy will not respect her. How he gave her STD. I was so lost ,don't even know how to console her over the phone.She said she got my number from her husband phone.

After that call she said she want to be my friend that I'm a nice person.I just block her so called husband including her.She even added me with another Facebook again.That made me put up a bio on my Facebook. After that rubbish.


Second experience
I almost oo hmmmm, Mr man lied he wasn't married and he was seeking for a serious relationship. Myself i just came in to the states of recent b4 he approached me.
But my ex thought me something on how to check on someone via Facebook with their digits. So, that taught came to my mind and i decided to give it a trial.
Loo and behold Mr was with his so called wife on profile pics.
At first i was like..., why will this man lie for not being married� or is he a divorcee... But he never said so to me.
Next thing i did was to chat a lady who was always tagging him in her Post and this lady looks like the lady he was with on his Profile pix.
I chatted her, we got talking i asked her if she knows the man, shockingly to me she admitted being his wife and the MR man has 4 grown Kids. Iyameeee oo church dismissed that was how i sent him a message telling him to please go and take care of his family oo. Mr man Got shocked and AHAHHHH TOSIN TOSIN.... Till now he still claiming to be single, even after i saw his Facebook account, this guy still claim it was because of travelling he did the wedding, promising Heaven and Earth,he would come to place late hour claiming if he was married how would he be staying out late....... Men Men Men some of them Devil is just learning from them. Chai.

QuinModah:
It was back then in 2013 while I was still in school. I asked this guy if he was married, he said no but my spirit kept telling me he's married.

So one day, I used my lodge mate's phone number to put a call across to him telling him am mama Ada that I want to speak with his wife that her line isn't reachable and I really need to repay the loan she gave me before I squander the money, on hearing that he started screaming ''Mummy mummy bia onwere Onye na akpo gi'' (mummy mummy come someone is calling u). I quietly switched off the phone . I later asked him if it was worth denying your wife and kids because you want what you may never get, and he couldn't answer.

yazga:
I saw some signs but he denied and gave me a 100 reasons why he is not married.

My sis fear men! He would follow me to church and everywhere, we do prayers together sef, this guy can call me 10 times a day. He almost followed me to my elder sisters wedding then so he could use the opportunity to introduce himself to my family. It was his friend who was jealous of our relationship that revealed the truth to me. Fear men!

Many years after the damage, this guy still contacted me to tell me he loves me. I told him I don't know him and his name doesn't ring a bell. He sounded very sad and since then never contacted me again....this life!

AfroKnight:


First of all, would you lose money if you typed your words in full?

Okay. So you would not intentionally date them but somehow you find yourself dating them over again? That says something about your tendencies. There are telltale signs but a good number of you turn a blind eye, because it looks perfect.

What you refuse to acknowledge is that if something is too good to be true, then it most probably IS TOO GOOD to be true.

I would elaborate, but you want to play the victim so bad.

You want a pity party? This thread is here for you. Enjoy.

yazga:
I saw some signs but he denied and gave me a 100 reasons why he is not married.

My sis fear men! He would follow me to church and everywhere, we do prayers together sef, this guy can call me 10 times a day. He almost followed me to my elder sisters wedding then so he could use the opportunity to introduce himself to my family. It was his friend who was jealous of our relationship that revealed the truth to me. Fear men!

Many years after the damage, this guy still contacted me to tell me he loves me. I told him I don't know him and his name doesn't ring a bell. He sounded very sad and since then never contacted me again....this life!

Bola146:
Yes especially on this nairaland, I met a guy, he lied that he is a single father of one, until i found out that he has 4 daughters

extremelygolden:
We became friends as a result of working in the same area. Nothing serious. We unexpectedly lost contacts for about 3 years when I had a redeployment, and according to him, he resigned and travelled out. I doubt he travelled out sha, because I later found out he was a seasoned liar.

One day he called. Said he just stumbled on my phone number. But all na wash, I am sure of that.

1. He visited me twice and each time I mentioned that I will pay him a visit the next week, he'll form travelling out of Lagos.

2. I usually hear the laughter or cry of a baby in the background whenever he's on the phone with me. When I asked him, he lied that his neighbours children are always around him whenever he's at home.

3. He was always issuing directives to a certain Bimbo. My personal research on him made me discover that Bimbo is actually his wife. He told me she was a friend.

4. My intuition has never failed me. I knew something wasn't right but I couldn't place my finger on it. Then I asked for his Facebook account.

5. He told me he wasn't really into social media, especially Facebook. That was when I knew that he wasn't for real. It was very strange and that actually piqued my interest. I mean, how could a guy who builds inverter, etc say he doesn't do social media?

6. One day, I made up my mind to dig out whatever it was he was hiding, so I started with Facebook. It didn't take me up to 5 minutes to locate his account, filled with numerous wedding pictures of himself and his wife, family pictures of the couple and their two children. He looked very young, so you wouldn't suspect that he was married. He told me so himself that he wasn't married. Can you imagine that?

7. I kept on searching and I found out that he used his wife to open another account where majority of her contacts were white guys. But what shocked me most was that under relationship I saw SINGLE. Whereas that Facebook account was opened recently. A married woman with two children claiming Single!

She also has another FB account with details of her business and contacts.

I wanted to pay them a surprise visit one day with all the information I garnered, but later changed my mind. I mean, it wasn't worth my useful time.

Up till date, he doesn't know why I stopped picking his calls or responding to his messages. I never told him of my findings. I only thank God I never really got committed with him before my discovery. And the guy seems to know ladies from different sections of Lagos State. I mean, he's damned so promiscuous. Always on phone with them.

To me, any man who has the boldness to deny his wife and children for any reason is more than irresponsible! And that's who that guy is!

rockstarB:
Bros sent a picture and his wedding ring unknowingly to him showed in the picture
I had to zoom to see whether my eye dey deceive me sef. All the married women shouting up and down. Your husband is single outside the house you dont know.
I met two on nairaland too. Both didnt say they were married. We were only just chatting on WhatsApp.
It didnt take long before ones wife hijacked his phone and started insulting me. I told her I didnt know, she should ask her husband what he is doing on singles forum. The second one I knew from a picture he put in his status, I saw his ring and was like are you married? He said waoh! You get sharp eyes o
Another one, I just knew from his look. This advance looking man cannot be single!

Wetin eye don see, I don begin think say maybe I dey destined to be "second wife" lol

IAMBlesssed:



What do you mean?

Innocent ladies were deceived by irresponsible family men and you turn around to blame the victim?
What can a married man give to a lady that a single guy can't give??

There's serious rot in the society. I'm scared for this generation..

obyrich:


So you mean Regina Daniel did not know Ned Nwoko was married before accepting his proposal?

What about Dabota Lawson and Sunny Aku?

Many ladies deliberately seduce married men. It goes either way. Also many married women seduce young men. I have seen it happen several times.

Saintmary:
Ladies, please, don't let them shame you into silence, speak out so that the formats that these liars use can be exposed. Thanks
I see you.

luminouz:



Leave him alone and face me...

I'm.not married and I have no kids!!!

IAMBlesssed:


I disagree with ur first and second comment..A lot of single guys posses same qualities too..
Secondly, most ladies who fall victim to these are mostly naive/inexperienced ladies. Most of these married men are either not staying with their families or make sure the relationship is a long distance relationship.And in all sincerity, no one quits a relationship immediately he/she SUSPECTS a thing..
The normal thing is to do proper investigation before drawing conclusions.
My point is that these ladies are victims of circumstance and its easier for a predator to hide than it's for a prey..