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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Dididrumz(m): 10:29pm On Jun 10, 2020
You sef be scared of His D too

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Macon1212: 10:29pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Just move on your man is looking at another lady for marriage, don't waste your time again because if you fall for this, he can still have more baby mama .

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nobody: 10:29pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Muu-muu
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by joyandfaith: 10:29pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

you guy is a confused old man. any man who is considering having baby mama is not responsible. ladies should run from such a man. he is not mature. there are pro and con of being single or married. there are always problems in lives either single or married. neither marriage or being marriage is a key to happiness. being happy is your personal responsibility.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by davidadenrele: 10:29pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met,
the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me
understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.


Hmmn, my dear sister jejely move on with your life, as man thinketh in his heart so he his!! don't be deceived he's bot ready and if you refused to heed to sense reality you will regret leave him, before its too late!!!
Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by pansophist(m): 10:30pm On Jun 10, 2020
You do not love him. True love is not possessive, it doesn't cages the beloved, but let them exercise their right to freedom and choice, even if you do not feature in the picture. If you love him, you should be wishing him all the best and let him go, even if its painful. Its the right thing to do. Or be his baby mama.

I'm not sure how he understands babymamaism, but as far as I understand it, it is a commited relationship without the marriage certificate. What's wrong with that? Or what is so special about being married ? This is what many of guys these days do, men are having the believe that marriage is a institution that favours only women, and they try to create a leverage by not gettiny married in the first place. Sorry I didn't give you the advice you want. Baby mama or sign out. Your choice.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nobody: 10:30pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

It's obvious you are so deeply in love to d extent it's corrupting ur common sense.

Someone is saying he just wants you to be A BABY MAKING MACHINE & you are here thinking of accepting it. The nigga does not love you as much as you think. YOU ARE NOT A CUM DUMP TO SATISFY HIS DESIRES, if him no go marry you. Then move on. Stop wasting ur time on a man who is busy ogling at other women and looking for excuse to cheat forever

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by muffyt05: 10:31pm On Jun 10, 2020
Hello Op, I have been tempted to reason ur matter from the same angle as others, but looking at it from another dimension, personal though, I think you really need to know and understand your man better than before. Your man could be a product of a single parental upbringing,(most especially, badly treated by his mum) and is not looking for a repeat of that from whom ever(woman) he's commiting his future to. You're gonna get different answers to your questions here, but the real answer you're gonna get is with your guy. Meet him and ask for his reasons. Wish you well, girk

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Kenneth10110(m): 10:31pm On Jun 10, 2020
Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies cheesy hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97 undecided
Even your village people will pray for your soul embarassed


Add Onyi too

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Decimus: 10:31pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.
You are not confused, you just don't want to accept the truth.

He already told you what he wants and how he wants it, but unfortunately there's conflict of interest. The only thing left for you is to walk and find another man that's interested in marriage, and do that fast before you mistakenly get pregnant.

I'm sure you already know the truth and what to do, you are not just happy about it.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Babymamas(f): 10:32pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.
why do people like to mention my name

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by correctyourself(m): 10:32pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Please first of all stop having sex with him, he is not a serious person, and start giving others chance to talk to you and make them casual friends while you use the opportunity to search for the one that suite your needs and share same idea with you, maybe if he truly love you he would Chang his stance, if not so move oooooonnnn.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by ImpactNGR(m): 10:33pm On Jun 10, 2020
what a bad boyfriend, so he want as many baby mama as he can put to bed!

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Roon9(m): 10:33pm On Jun 10, 2020
Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies cheesy hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97 undecided
Even your village people will pray for your soul embarassed

Bro that would be really unfortunate

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by gbemishile: 10:34pm On Jun 10, 2020
It's been a real torture for me all these years psychologically
I realise at one point that marriage isn't for everyone,even though our society extremely demands it.
I am not psychologically matured for marriage even though am over ripe in age for it.
So many things to say but this is social media

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Abfinest007(m): 10:34pm On Jun 10, 2020
Boredasf:
So you want him to sacrifice his freedom by marrying you abi
Abeg shift!!!

That young man is wise for not wifeing you up.
Marriage benefits Women not men.

I sincerely hope more men adopt this philosophy.
You women don't deserve marriage.
Any man that decides to marry any woman in this 21st century should know that he is doing her a HUGE favor!
was ur mom a baby mama leave others with their decision
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by grandstar(m): 10:34pm On Jun 10, 2020
If you want to have children with someone, get married to the person. A marriage without telling you is protection.

Marriage is what the Bible advocates and it comes from the wisest personality in the universe (Read Isaiah 55:9). Trusting in Jehovah is like spitting on the ground- can you miss?

You will never feel secure as a baby mama. You'll always feel something is lacking and you'll feel some shame. Some morons will call your child a bastar.d and see you as Westerner wannabee. You'll also feel sad anytime a lady you know gets married. You'd wish that was you. Is that how you want to feel? (Read Proverbs 27:12)

Society in Nigeria hasn't gotten to the Western stage where partnerships are respected. Even there, people respect marriage more.

His position is selfish. He should have told you he isn't the marriage type within 2 months of the relationship so you could have quickly moved on or chosen to stay. It was until you popped the question before he opened up. That isn't right, is it?

Move on with your life. You're only 26 years. If you don't look desperate, men will come. It is when you look and act desperate, that men are repulsed. They'll simply use you seeing you're desperate and doubting you're marrying out of love. There are women in their 30s who men are begging to marry.

Don't fret (Read Matthew 6:33). I'm sure your dream man is waiting by the corner.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by saxby(f): 10:35pm On Jun 10, 2020
Baby mama ko baby mama ni, if he's not ready for marriage make him dey where him dey, abeg make i go watch better videos with my camon 12 jare

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by RPG2020(m): 10:35pm On Jun 10, 2020
Mypeople2:
Babe you better delete his number now.and move on.You are still young and so many guys will want you as a wife.So forget the so called "perfect "man .There is always light at the end of the tunnel .

Them dey Chase thief he say he use head nack Wall

Tell your sister to FS
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Babymamas(f): 10:35pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.
the OP name is confusedgirl, which means she's a confused modafucker

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by victorian(f): 10:35pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.







My dear, use your brains


Don't end like other baby mama's with different kids from different dads.

With all the true life stories u hear around u. Increasing number of ladies in their 20s with kids Upandan without father or husband figure in their lives and kids lifes, do u still want to open. Your eyes wide and fall into that category?

Sho fe gbo!


Any child born without the parents married is labelled as ILLEGITIMATE CHILD!


is that what u want for. Your kids?

Your parents didn't get married, you remember what u faced growing up. So
Why do this sacrilege to your unborn kids.

Jeez!

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nobody: 10:36pm On Jun 10, 2020
Tbasicme:


Well you spoke truth in the bolden text. However it's not the fault of this generation to have been in such predicament. The emotional stress coupled with unemployment has made many youth scared of responsibility today. Only few are 'gainfully" employed and the few have more responsibility to cater for than even the married
The older generation also faced some kind of stress. Maybe not this exact kind. But they faced one unique to their generation and they persevered.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Ishilove: 10:38pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.
You do know that kids born outside wedlock are bastards? However, we live in an age of political correctness where such words are considered offensive; it isn't the innocent kids fault that their parents chose to be senseless.

You haven't met your man, when you do, your goals will align and you will have peace of mind. Right now you're more confused than a cockroach confronted by the dazzling beam of a flashlight. Take a break from this guy. He is not yours.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by freesoul12: 10:38pm On Jun 10, 2020
Marriage is not for everyone. We all have reasons for the path we are trailing. I won't blame d guy.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jun 10, 2020
Tadeknkeepcalm:
Lose your good man?

In all honesty, he's not as good as you make him out to be.


No responsible person will opt in for babymamaism.


So paddle your boat elsewhere.



Current generation are so scared of commitment. They want all the goodies of a thing but not the baggage that comes with it
Which goodies are you talking about? The goodies inside KPEKUS or what? Goodies my left side ball and badies my pen1s cap

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Mekanus(m): 10:39pm On Jun 10, 2020
KenBen217:

so I'm not the only one who doesn't want to marry and just want kids
Bros we plenty ooo. grin grin

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jun 10, 2020
Hmmm
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by MedicH: 10:40pm On Jun 10, 2020
Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies cheesy hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97 undecided
Even your village people will pray for your soul embarassed

The man that gets tied to these two must have committed a lot of atrocities and unimaginable sins that God would send him this kind of punishment of God. If the man was Holy like I'm trying to be, God won't send him HIS punishment.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Nickymichy(m): 10:40pm On Jun 10, 2020
He is your good.... Wait for your best...
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Confusedgirl869: 10:40pm On Jun 10, 2020
Ishilove:

You do know that kids born outside wedlock are bastards? However, we live in an age of political correctness where such words are considered offensive; it isn't the innocent kids fault that their parents chose to be senseless.
Thanks Ishi, I really appreciate.
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by freethinker01: 10:41pm On Jun 10, 2020
Goddys:
@OP your boyfriend position is well-founded. I have come across many girls that are seemingly angelic, calm, well-nurtured who turned out to be a torn in the life of the man years later after marriage.

I have already started rethinking and reorienting myself on the institution of marriage. It doesn't worth it for some guys. Women are unpredictable even to themselves.

My girlfriend said she would wait till I am ready which I know I may not be. She will be the one to advise herself to break up and move on at the right time. I won't do it myself.

Marriage is a favour to women which in most cases turn men to a working robot, not having time to advance themselves spiritually and otherwise.
Advise yourself and seek out men who consider marriage a priority in their list.

Any woman I may eventually go legal with must personally acknowledge I am doing her a favour if marriage is her priority
Gbam, no better word to describe marriage these days... You'll work like a robot for your wife and children.
My brother, tbh, it's not worth it.

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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Be A Baby Mama. Says He's Scared Of Marriage. by Ishilove: 10:41pm On Jun 10, 2020
Confusedgirl869:
Thanks Ishi, I really appreciate.
You're welcome sis. I've edited my comment.

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