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goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

Miniso:
u have to be nice with her, cuz i think she see's u as a threat now, bt guy finally u have fallen mugu she neva loved you, she was just playing you to get a fone. and u fell for it.. bro go to her house and collect bck ur fone.. if u dont know where she stays call her out on social media consistently till she returns the fone she seem like a timid pesin....

Oyindamolah:
* A girl who is with you only for money is not your girlfriend.
* You don’t love her desperately but fear that you will never get someone as good as her, if not better.

Few other points

-There is no such thing as unconditional love. Every friendship or love has at least 20% selfishness to begin with. In Fact we start with almost 80% selfishness. You want to Bleep that beautiful girl and she want to enjoy your company, status, knowledge or maybe money.
-True love takes time. It takes lot of sincere small moments of tender love and care for anyone to become your soulmate. But yes if that girl is gold digger even after a long time (maybe six months), then you must also treat her like a LovePeddler.

Remedy

Just leave that girl for 30 days. Your time starts now. Be brave. Tell her that you think it not working and you want to rethink about relationship. Tell her that you want to be her friend always.

Watch her reaction. Analyse her social media activities, see whether she contacts you ever on her own (on any pretext). Try to find whether she has any grain of love for you.

If she become sa bit restless, a bit unorganised, a bit off balance, you got your answer. If not, you can convince yourself to leave her forever.

Most Important Rule : You are not going to contact her ever in this 1 month rule, neither directly nor indirectly. You are only allowed to respond briefly in a ‘friendly’ way.

Sometimes people do love us but don’t realise themselves. They only value us when they lose us completely. Tests are designed to check love. Don’t get obsessed and start using her emotions. Mind games are like games. They are not war. You never kill in a game, in a war, yes you do.

Everything is fair in love and war but war is not fair in love.

WeedSeller:
To hell with "maturity" being emphasized by some monikers above.

Maturity doesn't really count in this case. At some point in every man's life, you have to put maturity in confinement and act like a mad man. (mad man in the context of not accepting shits)

Be wise. Advices are the easiest to give on a faceless forum most esp from people who would definitely do worse and won't even bother to seek public approval before collecting back.

This is what practically happens when men allow love to becloud their brain too fast.
You and Emotional trauma would definitely be 5/6 for months everytime you remember you don fall mugu. Girl legit use you catch Cruise.






Whatever decision you take at the end kindly make sure it doesn't portend any physical harm.

davien:
So a lady you are asking out asked you to get her a phone and you somehow thought by testing how long she can wait to have that phone you'll know if she deserves to have the phone you're buying with your own money?

And when she was patient enough to collect the phone you bought for her you notice her character changed after getting what she wants? Ayaaaa.

And now she's refusing to go out with you? Ayaaaa.

But she calls you though, I guess she earned a new phone with all those calls she was calling you, don't you?

Better wise up, collect that phone and give your mama/sister/brother.

Mayng01:
You want to be in trouble. Are you deaf on what is trending about ladies here and there? ( rape! rape!! rape!!!) I don’t see you winning in this, cos you are dull, sluggish, not smart and in experience. Even with my observation, any good advice issued to you here cannot properly be executed by you. So my advice is back off and find your like or you continue being her puppet if love has clouded your sense of humor.

stanliwise:
[s]First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated[/s]

MASTERCHIEF0847:
If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

mutantninja:
bro forget what anyone tells you, as long as it's a phone above 10k, collect it back else you're a big f00l... you're not in America and she's not a classic girl.. if you see a classic girl you will know... collect back your phone or forever remain a big fool.

The sweetest feeling on earth is collecting back what you gave your cheater.... that way no one loses... i remember when i collected back x10 of a cheater girlfriend and all the good things I gave her... i felt very even... collect back your phone bro and reward any female friend you know that has been nice and hard working... don't be a f00l.. you haven't even gain anything from this girl yet you're buying her a phone Jesus! in fact falsely get accused of stealing that same phone you bought for her guys will burn you to death and she'll laugh at you because you are a fool....

To any guy reading this, collect back the phone, car, etc you gave to a cheater as long as the deal (relationship either sexual/not etc) does not favor you.. can you let your fellow nigga cheat you? you will carry gun but you let a female use your head..... collect it back... you can trick her the same way she tricked you to buy the phone.. just tell her the police is doing an investigation of the phone from where you bought it from that you need to use it to verify.. remove the sim and give her...

Quote me and tell me how it went when you finish collecting back your phone from the girl..

goodysb:
I know her house though.

Enugupikin:
I don't know why u guys waste your energy and time fuckingg gals hard as a punishment, something they end up enjoying better than u...he should just collect the damn phone and move on

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end... Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it(3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to... It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me... I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too... So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger(To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy(which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �

majamajic:
How much is the phone ? And u done chop her ?

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Who told you it's a waste of energy?

Xristars:
That guy above they para!
This your story is somehow, she was calling all day now she don' stop as you buy am phone now you wan collect d phone.

Advice: Do your mind.

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Who told you it's a waste of energy?

goodysb:
I wasn't asking her out... I asked her out and she accepted....

xendra:
This is how rape are encouraged, I will not pray it for your mother, sisters or daughters, but I pray you yourself get raped so you will stop making useless comments online.

Oyindamolah:
One of my friends from college dated a girl for a few years. He was rich and he suspected the girlfriend was a gold digger. People believed that she had actually dumped her previous boyfriend when she found this current one - because the current boyfriend was richer.

So he tried a few things (not all of them were designed to test her but some were):

(1) He stopped taking her to expensive restaurants and took her to “dhabas” or just regular restaurants instead. This was in India, many years ago. A “dhaba” is a roadside restaurant with seats in the open. Not the most upscale place. The guy personally did not mind eating at regular places. He wasn't a typical show-off. He liked doing a lot of regular stuff. She had a major problem with this.

(2) He took her to a cheap circus show.

(3) He took her on a backpacking trip to Europe. Earlier he always made her stay at the best and most expensive hotels. This time, they stayed at inexpensive hostels. This wasn't really a test. The guy actually liked backpacking trips where he could stay at hostels and meet a lot of “real” people.

(4) She always demanded that he buy business class tickets for them. He started buying economy. He personally didn't mind flying economy so much. But the girl got very agitated with the idea of having to fly economy and not having lounge access.

(5) He used to give her very expensive presents earlier. He'd already bought her a car and the latest cell phone (this was in the era before smartphones). He gradually shifted to gifts that were more “personalized” and less expensive - collages of their photos together, poetry that he'd written for her etc. She didnt care for those things.

(6) She used him to further her career. She'd ask him to make a referral to all the companies where he had great contacts. She'd get in to these companies without much of an interview (the boy’s dad who was very well-connected usually pulled strings to make this happen….he was a super generous guy). The girl always left the jobs within a few months. She just wouldn't last anywhere. The guy stopped making those referrals. The girl threw a huge fit.

(7) The last thing he did was the truest test. He told her he doesn't want his father’s wealth and he wants to build his own career without his dad’s assistance. He won't accept anything from his father. The guy was actually pretty good at his studies and in my opinion, was capable of building a career of his own. But quite obviously, she didn't want to take that chance. She didn't have the patience to wait around till he built his career from scratch. She left him a few days after he told her this.

The guy is now very happy and is married to a very sensible and self-made young lady.

goodysb:
I know her house though.

majamajic:
Just look at your comment ? U moved completely out of topic , can't u see he didn't reply about price of the phone ? So how does this encourage rape ? If I never rape anyone before let curses be on u and your family , u should have allowed him answer my question and I give my advice , I never said anything u start talking about rape, curses will be on u for this, I simply said how much is the phone and if he has sex the girl ? Which he didn't answer , did u think why he didn't answer ? U didn't wait for his answer and my advice , u jump in , them will jump into your matter soon

Enugupikin:
Is a waste of time bro... a total waste of time..you're only a horse servicing her sexually at that point in time

xendra:
you don't have to rape to reap it, encouraging it is enough. you could have clearly stated what you want to, without saying it like that. now that he didn't reply you, he will never really know what you were going to say, and will assume exactly what it seems like you are suggesting. So next time, learn to comment correctly on a public forum so you don't attract curses.

Not everybody sees things the same.

Omojayejaye:
To hell with immaturity, please trick her and get that phone. Most girls are just manipulative and think they can eat their cake and have it. Baba, I dey overseas and still collected my i-phone back. Someone is trying to help me to sell it, a dude bidded 150k wish I'm yet to consider. Once I sell it I will buy stuffs for the motherless home,and also share the money as a palliative to friends and well wishers that I ignored in the past(ppl need assistance during this corona period), makes me feel better. Na God save me i nearly paid for this girl's tuition in a small Eu country, but the babe insisted on Canada. This is a girl I'm yet to meet physically, I have already wasted alot of funds on her, but I feel good that I was able to get the phone back. Please never buy phones � for girls so far she's not your wife, it's like you are trying to pay or bribe for sex, badt guys dey street wey no dey give nothing and f**k steady, please use your head and be ontop of your GAME. In my own case I was hoping to marry her and I'm glad I dodged a fast moving bullet to my damn head.
So try to trick her and get it back. Please do not date any girl with no business or job. Bless up bro

majamajic:
U don't use your senses , am here for over 10yrs over 10,000 comments , we are here before tsunami , who are u
What concern rape with my questions ? Can u point it out ?

xendra:
Oops thanks for reminding me you don't have a life outside NL

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end... Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it(3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to... It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me... I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too... So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger(To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy(which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �