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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by johnsnow2020(m): 8:57pm On Jun 20, 2020
I stand with you Op.





quote author=stanliwise post=90766492]
First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated [/quote]
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Roman7(m): 8:58pm On Jun 20, 2020
Tillatalk:
That's why I dont do girlfriend thing I hate the stress if I need puna I call my sex mate or olosho then pay her off

guyyy dating na stress big time
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by seyiowoseeni(m): 9:00pm On Jun 20, 2020
There are two kinds of people in this world:
Those who love to recommend things that make them happy to anybody who cares to listen, and those who hide good things because they don’t want anyone to “ruin it” for them. �
If you’re one of those who like to share, or you just want to make some extra money, the Kuda Partner Program is for you.

Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by poweredcom(m): 9:13pm On Jun 20, 2020
@womenareapes

Come and see this brother that is a mumu oo

He don go buy phone for gal and the girl is still misbehaving

That is why I hate giving or showing total love to a naija gal many of them are natural evil does and it's in their DNA

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Patoski7(m): 9:15pm On Jun 20, 2020
stanliwise:

First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated
Mehn you are a real nigarrr
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by famousboi(m): 9:16pm On Jun 20, 2020
Bro.... Try and collect that phone back, she may abuse you n maybe possibly tell her friends about the scenario, believe me they will all respect you.

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by stanliwise(m): 9:18pm On Jun 20, 2020
humilitypays:
I am sorry to say that you are writing theory and you don't have sense at all grin



The op should apply his style and collect the phone back from the stupid girl or even arrange boys to collect it from her, she cannot do any damn thing!!



My friend have collected a car he bought for a lady whose father is a lawyer and she too was a law school student and heavens didn't fall, this is Nigeria not sissy countries like UK!!



If I buy a girl a car and she starts to misbehave thinking she has chop me mugu, I will go any length to collect the car back from her and if she dares nonsense I can even mud her forever and she will be deleted from this earth, u dont play with every guy....she can cheat, she can break up with me but she cannot take my money or something worth cash and go free, oh yeah cool
Here is my theory, I advise you don’t give people thing unnecessarily. The moment I give someone something it means they have don what would make them earn it. I can’t buy my girlfriend a car because she is my girlfriend. Never!! Never!!! Never!!!

She must be a worthy person and must have done something’s worthy of me appreciating her for that. E.g I can buy my mom Anything on this planet. As far it is money and if I have it. I can do same for any person in the world if and only if the worth it. By following this ideology you will see a gift as a compensation and not a marker.

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by hahn(m): 9:25pm On Jun 20, 2020
IamDavids:
I am tired of seeing SIMPS tales angry

TF its exhausting

Long, boring tales

Jeez!

Lol.

Another episode of Simp Tales grin
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by johnsnow2020(m): 9:26pm On Jun 20, 2020
Well said.




BlackSheep10:
Guys, I always tell my friends and other guys around me that giving when it comes to ladies you have interest in should be willing. Giving to ladies ( even if you are a cheerful giver) should not be to impress or thinking you can win her heart with that because its set some tunes to ladies especially the materialistic ones.


Every guy seeking a relationship owes no lady any dime. The only lady a guy is responsible for is his wife not any girlfriend. Helping a girlfriend should be at the guys discretion and free will.

I as a person can never tolerate a girl with this ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, thinking once you show interest in them or keen on a relationship, they are now your responsibility, No! Until you are married, you and your parents/guardian should be responsible for yourself.

Its time guys wake up and stop promoting this mentality in majority of our ladies and stop polluting the society.

Asking a lady out is the expected norms in our society which I am against and of the opinion that since emotion does not choose gender before setting in place ( the guy can be attracted first or the lady first) both parties should be able to express freely without any discrimination from the society.

Since a relationship involves both parties benefiting, the ladies should please stop giving the impression of doing the guy a favour by dating him therefore manipulating his feelings by providing for their needs.

Ask a lady out and she is not interested, take a walk. Before you get down the road you will meet more ladies. Don't be desperate so as to avoid stories that touch or giving them an excuse for exploiting you.

Guys please stop. Once she is telling you there are guys out there willingly to do whatever she asks for, have a second thought because she is planing on manipulating you, getting control of the relationship and making you see her as a trophy. I once asked a lady of this thought " can you date yourself" she was quite dumb for a while and started saying nonsense.



Ladies you are not doing us a favour by dating us. We are both doing each other favours which should be mutual.

Mind you, most of this material girls offers nothing in the relationship except sex, nothing else and they expect you to show them you love them buy giving money and buying things they can't afford. Sex for money is an illegal profession which shouldn't be incorporated into our relationships.

Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by poweredcom(m): 9:29pm On Jun 20, 2020
harbeedaymee:


You are asking if you were played. Of course she played you! But it is YOUR fault not hers as you were the one who allowed yourself to be played.

When will you guys realise that you shouldn't be using money to entice a woman so as to have a relationship with her? A woman who cannot love you for who you are does not deserve a place in your life.

Once you start off by trying to win a woman's heart with gifts, she sees you as someone lacking in self esteem and will.subsequestly use that to her advantage. That was why she had the audacity to ask you for another 4k.

Don't collect back the phone from her or else you will look immature. Consider the phone as wasted investment and move on with your life but next time try to be smarter.


Truly bro but I got a gal dat does not ask me for anything she has an orientation that she must work for her own money

I fact because of that orientation I dash her money like twice I don't care if it's a waste self but I de try make she fall for me she already like me but it's all about time

She self know say banku must be eaten

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Westernlove: 9:30pm On Jun 20, 2020
BlackSheep10:
Guys, I always tell my friends and other guys around me that giving when it comes to ladies you have interest in should be willing. Giving to ladies ( even if you are a cheerful giver) should not be to impress or thinking you can win her heart with that because its set some tunes to ladies especially the materialistic ones.


Every guy seeking a relationship owes no lady any dime. The only lady a guy is responsible for is his wife not any girlfriend. Helping a girlfriend should be at the guys discretion and free will.

I as a person can never tolerate a girl with this ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, thinking once you show interest in them or keen on a relationship, they are now your responsibility, No! Until you are married, you and your parents/guardian should be responsible for yourself.

Its time guys wake up and stop promoting this mentality in majority of our ladies and stop polluting the society.

Asking a lady out is the expected norms in our society which I am against and of the opinion that since emotion does not choose gender before setting in place ( the guy can be attracted first or the lady first) both parties should be able to express freely without any discrimination from the society.

Since a relationship involves both parties benefiting, the ladies should please stop giving the impression of doing the guy a favour by dating him therefore manipulating his feelings by providing for their needs.

Ask a lady out and she is not interested, take a walk. Before you get down the road you will meet more ladies. Don't be desperate so as to avoid stories that touch or giving them an excuse for exploiting you.

Guys please stop. Once she is telling you there are guys out there willingly to do whatever she asks for, have a second thought because she is planing on manipulating you, getting control of the relationship and making you see her as a trophy. I once asked a lady of this thought " can you date yourself" she was quite dumb for a while and started saying nonsense.



Ladies you are not doing us a favour by dating us. We are both doing each other favours which should be mutual.

Mind you, most of this material girls offers nothing in the relationship except sex, nothing else and they expect you to show them you love them buy giving money and buying things they can't afford. Sex for money is an illegal profession which shouldn't be incorporated into our relationships.


Preach from now till when Jesus go come grin Those Muguns no go Hear or Understand this beautiful concept...... grin

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Westernlove: 9:33pm On Jun 20, 2020
poweredcom:


Truly bro but I got a gal dat does not ask me for anything she has an orientation that she must work for her own money

I fact because of that orientation I dash her money like twice I don't care if it's a waste self but I de try make she fall for me she already like me but it's all about time

She self know say banku must be eaten

Guy forget, Na Demo & Strategy. If you want to truly know she doesn't like money. I have a secret test I will unveil to you but not on here because It's sacred and filled with a lot of Wisdom......E sure me say She go fail the Test. Only few ladies/women In this world truly wouldn't solely ask you for money or material things. Only few Yes.....

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Revolva(m): 9:40pm On Jun 20, 2020
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

Na here you suppose know say na format the babe don throw to you from the onset

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by poweredcom(m): 9:44pm On Jun 20, 2020
Westernlove:


Guy forget, Na Demo & Strategy. If you want to truly know she doesn't like money. I have a secret test I will unveil to you but not on here because It's sacred and filled with a lot of Wisdom......E sure me say She go fail the Test. Only few ladies/women In this world truly wouldn't solely ask you for money or material things. Only few Yes.....

Guy I know she likes money oo , but she has a mentality not to be asking men

She have a sense of working by herself and getting anything she want with her skills

I have many test I will test her but I know she will fail but she is indeed the first gal that have never asked me for anything and she said that how her life is ..
In this life be contended wit what you have and manage the little you ha e and work hard

Oya tell me your scope lemme try on her
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by madgoat(m): 9:47pm On Jun 20, 2020
goodysb:


It's going to be in a public space... You have a point bro.

Do u have the receipt of the fone and is the receipt in ur name? If u have the receipt abeg collect ur fone sharply
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by VicM6: 9:50pm On Jun 20, 2020
this op is werey, would av gotten her an iphone wen ur sis/bro never use iPhone b4..... she never play u yet, she go soon score you 4 goal post.
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Westernlove: 9:51pm On Jun 20, 2020
poweredcom:


Guy I know she likes money oo , but she has a mentality not to be asking men

She have a sense of working by herself and getting anything she want with her skills

I have many test I will test her but I know she will fail but she is indeed the first gal that have never asked me for anything and she said that how her life is ..
In this life be contended wit what you have and manage the little you ha e and work hard

Oya tell me your scope lemme try on her

No worry, As per your narration. The girl Is quite a good girl most especially she has a handwork. Make we no shame her, She Is one of the few good ladies remaining out there. You can't get 100% package In both genders. Assist her more If you have the capacity. God no go shame us my guy.......

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jun 20, 2020
goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �
CLASSIC MUGU. SIMPS LIKE YOU KEEP ENABLING FEMALE ENTITLEMENT
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jun 20, 2020
Did you get her the phone at gun point? So why wanting to collect it back? You better have a rethink before she accuses you of rape in the process of trying to collect the phone. And you know, the society is not smiling now with the incessant rape crime that is ravaging the communities.

My 2 cents. Forget about her and the phone and move on. Though its painful but it will even be more painful and humiliating if you get yourself into a mess by forcefully going about retrieving the phone. Think on this.

Shalom.
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by FireKing: 10:10pm On Jun 20, 2020
Guy invite her by telling her that ur sister or someone close is celebrating his or birthday,i tell you she go come out cos girls like her are always available for things like this all to believe dem go get one or two maga catch..... I promise you she will come to see you.... But I'm advising in ur next relationship don't ever start with money to please a girl because you won't survive it just let the relationship go deep before u start buying things properly
goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by MrCanceller: 10:27pm On Jun 20, 2020
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xendra:
you don't have to rape to reap it, encouraging it is enough. you could have clearly stated what you want to, without saying it like that. now that he didn't reply you, he will never really know what you were going to say, and will assume exactly what it seems like you are suggesting. So next time, learn to comment correctly on a public forum so you don't attract curses.

Not everybody sees things the same.
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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by freethinker01: 10:40pm On Jun 20, 2020
olaoye15:


So if man can collect back a fridge he bough for his girl friend and carry it like a baby, what is then phone that you cant collect.
Help me ask am oo
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by charlie111(m): 10:41pm On Jun 20, 2020
goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... �

Here is what she is going to do to you if you don't count your losses and move on already!!

Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Besto(m): 10:51pm On Jun 20, 2020
MASTERCHIEF0847:
If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

Dude, you are badt and crazy
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Cheeryfeet: 10:59pm On Jun 20, 2020
stanliwise:

The worst thing anyone can do is to give people gift because you are in a relationship with them and not because they worth it, and if things goes sour you then want your gift back. undecided

First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated
. Had to check your name, truly you are a wise man.

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Nyamve1: 11:00pm On Jun 20, 2020
goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �
guy you are bigger than phone, live her with it and move on, that's how most of them behaves
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by tolguy(m): 11:03pm On Jun 20, 2020
stanliwise:

The worst thing anyone can do is to give people gift because you are in a relationship with them and not because they worth it, and if things goes sour you then want your gift back. undecided

First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated
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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by lastclaire4(f): 11:11pm On Jun 20, 2020
MASTERCHIEF0847:
If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

All these na because of phone that is not more than 50k. U see the level at which you are operating.
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by Pasiuba: 11:11pm On Jun 20, 2020
stanliwise:

The worst thing anyone can do is to give people gift because you are in a relationship with them and not because they worth it, and if things goes sour you then want your gift back. undecided

First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated





You are very articulated and matured
I love you advice

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by darediamond(m): 11:14pm On Jun 20, 2020
mutantninja:
bro forget what anyone tells you, as long as it's a phone above 10k, collect it back else you're a big f00l... you're not in America and she's not a classic girl.. if you see a classic girl you will know... collect back your phone or forever remain a big fool.

The sweetest feeling on earth is collecting back what you gave your cheater.... that way no one loses... i remember when i collected back x10 of a cheater girlfriend and all the good things I gave her... i felt very even... collect back your phone bro and reward any female friend you know that has been nice and hard working... don't be a f00l.. you haven't even gain anything from this girl yet you're buying her a phone Jesus! in fact falsely get accused of stealing that same phone you bought for her guys will burn you to death and she'll laugh at you because you are a fool....

To any guy reading this, collect back the phone, car, etc you gave to a cheater as long as the deal (relationship either sexual/not etc) does not favor you.. can you let your fellow nigga cheat you? you will carry gun but you let a female use your head..... collect it back... you can trick her the same way she tricked you to buy the phone.. just tell her the police is doing an investigation of the phone from where you bought it from that you need to use it to verify.. remove the sim and give her...

Quote me and tell me how it went when you finish collecting back your phone from the girl..
Sensible Reply!!!
Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by buddy221(m): 11:19pm On Jun 20, 2020
Charlie, go collect your phone back. I hate nonsense. This thing happened to me.i came back from Ghana. Meet a girl. The same week she lost her phone. Before loosing her phone. We dey talk wella both WhatsApp and facebook.... I was very happy I found a caring girl. Once I bought her the phone she changed. I booked appointment with her. Told her I wanted to transfer Xander from her phone to mine. Once she gave me the phone. I stood up and left.
Charlie no waste time abeg. Take your phone back. God go bless you.
goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

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Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by helpfindbolu: 11:20pm On Jun 20, 2020

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