spiralwedge:


True talk.

Religious people ruined it, especially Pentecostalism and Catholicism. Our grandfathers were very pious and yet managed their homes and careers successfully with many wives

Hypnotise:

What if she doesn't complp for 1 year +

InvertedHammer:
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I don't think there exists a happy woman in this world. They may seem happy but don't make the mistake of sitting them down to talk. You the listener will need counseling thereafter.

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ModestGal:
This is why I tell girls to have something good that brings in money, get well educated, do things you are passionate about that brings you happiness.
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J111333:
Some women actually find sex boring but after certain experiences, that can be reversed. Some of them are even bisexual without knowing it.
I've met quite a few, the man needs to spice up their bed sessions a bit and with time, na the woman go begin dey pull down his pants sef.

Visiting ashawo joint is an irresponsible thing to do as a man.

Roon9:


My wedding is Saturday. All these kind stories scares me

Jeferious:
"Marriage for a man is a time..." Like marriage is now a time Something that starts from late youth and continues into old age till death is now a time?

Reminds me of that part of the Bible that says that a hundred years is like a day in the sight of God. Na im be say God fit dey Nairaland and we no go know

ibkonekt:
all women are like that

ModestGal:
This is why I tell girls to have something good that brings in money, get well educated, do things you are passionate about that brings you happiness.
Don't ever rely all your HAPPINESS on a man and don't ever MARRY a ugly man (ugly here means features you wouldn't like to see in your children), infact, you can go check up his family to be sure they do not have traits you dislike too much, because at the end of the day, your children MATTERS MOST, and think of the joy that would come out of having pretty children, it would make you forget anything that their father would have done to hurt you and people would think you have a happy home since they will not hear you fight or shout, thats the secret of some happy women. People would be saying she doesn't fight, she's calm, she doesn't nag, even your relative go love you die because when they visit, you will be giving them original smile and some gifts. Dress well, look good, use nice perf, Your blood pressure would be normal, even your husband go love you, yes, they are not too reasonable specie, He would be saying my wife is beautiful, calm, quiet, infact I'm just blessed to marry her,she doesn't give me any problem

The truth is that what some men want is to keep women in sadness and for them to be happy about it. Its so obvious childbirth, pregnancy, is not an easy thing for women, but just for them to endure for 3months till you are very healthy after childbirth is a problem for them, meanwhile you endured for 9 months to bring child for both of you, and even endured labour pains.

Men are just too selfish, if you dont have a child and giving them nonstop sex, they will still complain, if you do they will complain, if you don't want to run into depression, please do what I have said.

Some husbands are so selfish that when they wrong you, you should happily still give them your body. Imagine after getting hurt so bad by a man, the man still want you to happily give sex in the night of that day, are women ROBOTS?
This thread is so full of rubbish talks picking on women, as a woman, you should please wise up.

I'm 100% against full housewifes, 100% against women not getting good education because some men could run you crazy, and if at that time you are nothing, its possible you run mad.
My friend who is a clinical psychologist once told me highest number of his patients are women and most of the problems are caused by their husbands treatment.
If you are empowered as a woman, you will easily heal from such hurts and redirect your energy to something else like your children, your work when men misbehave, by that, your depression would be minimal and you would be healthy enough to take care of your children. A word is enough for the wise.

Biodun1929:


I won't say all, but like 90%. I have a lot of married friends and 90% of them cheat cos their wives deprive them of sex for months on end. I don't even know why married women do this. Man and woman don't have the same type of wiring for sex, but women just judge things from their own point of view (how they feel), but understanding that man's sexual urge is 10 times that of woman. Anyway, there are some women out there who understand this...but just like 10%

Biodun1929:


I won't say all, but like 90%. I have a lot of married friends and 90% of them cheat cos their wives deprive them of sex for months on end. I don't even know why married women do this. Man and woman don't have the same type of wiring for sex, but women just judge things from their own point of view (how they feel), but understanding that man's sexual urge is 10 times that of woman. Anyway, there are some women out there who understand this...but just like 10%

4ckz:


Some people had this mindset, got married yet faced the same problem.
Don't you know that most women do not deprive their guys of sex during courtship, yet the same women change after marriage.

Roon9:


My wedding is Saturday. All these kind stories scares me

YelloweWest:

Your friends are lying cos they need an excuse to cheat!

I can't believe what I'm reading here. I'm a married woman for over 15years. Women DON'T deprive their husbands!!! I have friends and associates. We discuss these things. I work as a marriage councillor too both in church and civil society. I've interviewed tons of women and couples together. Funny enough it is the men that deny their wives of sex because of cheating!

techmo:


Maslow's hierarchy of need, Food , Sex , Affection, fulfillment etc, out of all the human needs Sex and Food are involuntary, whether you like it or not you get hungry, whether you like it or not you get Hooorrrnny

Most rich men have concubines and oloshos that's why you see all those flashy girls on Instagram


See women have unstable hormones, coupled with stress , genital mutilation, and complexity of their orgasm , it's very hard for a man to be happy sexually with just a woman, and having a relationship would ruin your marriage, so do like politicians and carry disposable use and pay pvssy aka olosho


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Ogbuu101:

Sit her down and discuss all these things that scare you now oo.
Extract a promise,if possible, written from her.
Women pretend a lot b4 getting married and demand they say thing they claim doesn't matter immediately after tying the knot.

Gerrard59:


Well, polygamy doesn't reduce cheating. Or is there any study that shows the reduction of cheating amongst polygamous families compared to their monogamous counterparts? Regarding family members, they are not any different from pastors. Maybe the spiritual aspect, that's all.

Eulalia:



I concurr. Try to find out your sexual compatibility before you leap. Discuss it.

I remember discussing with a bro and he stylishly delved into that area and asked If I like it so much and can do it so so number of times. I told him point blank, hell no! So from further discussion, I deduced hes the type that likes it so much and would want it every now and then and I on the other hand dont have the strength for such. That was how we maturely ended the whole thing. I can't deal. He too can't endure. So its better we look for our type . Very key.

4ckz:


He spoke highly of her, in his words, the wife is a "good" woman. I don't think he ever wants to part ways with her.
He even said he will not keep a relationship with any lady again, reason he choose the ashawo life.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is as a result of polygamy being obsolete in the society.

It's the only responsible alternative and would surely correct all these nonsense.

bimtee2001:
I read a lot of the replies here with amusement and surprise. Most of the married men don't understand the psychological make up of a woman while most of the women either do not understand themselves or have made up their minds to endure marriage rather than enjoy it.
My understanding of a man from my study is that he gets turned on easily sometimes against his will; it's natural but for the woman to be turned on she has to be completely involved emotionally, physically, I mean it's not just a spontaneous reaction for her. That's why she'll not cooperate when she's worried,sad, angry,etc.
Most of our mothers did us no good by preparing us wrongly or not preparing us at all for the sexual aspect of marriage. That's some women view sex as a man thing. If your wife belongs to this group you are in trouble because she'll only be there while you do the work. I tell it'll be laborious to say the least.
Some or most women had been taught consciously or otherwise that men cannot be relied on thus your children are your husbands. Husbands to these women will definitely be abandoned as soon as children start coming into the union: the children have all the love their fathers should get then the man becomes miserable.
There are more reasons but it's of utmost importance to discuss sex in your courtship, learn as much as possible about sex. Learn more about women and marriage particularly if you are a Christian or you don't want to cheat your partner as a responsible man or woman.
I read the comment of someone who is considering leaving his virgin fiancee to that I want to say authorizatively that virginity has little or nothing to do with a woman's response to sex after marriage. Her mindset about sex and the way you introduce her to sex and sex to her is what will determine what happens to your sexual lives after marriage.
I am a christian and an advocate of no sex before marriage, married as a virgin having learnt a lot about sex in marriage and sexuality of both men and women, I'm enjoying my sex life giving and receiving as the need arises. I'm not just married; my kids are all grown up.
It's wrong I must say for women to use sex as a means of getting what you want as a woman,if you do, it's like you are reducing your own value.

OmoManU:


If person talk now dem go say one kain one kain, polygamy is indeed a solution to many of the marital ills in as far as it's done rightly

awumen:
i must confess that it is rampant this days, talk alot married men and the story is same over 70% of men are telling you same tales and this are men who are above average financially and takes very good care of their family.the woman was a beast In bed during courtship but suddenly the man is begging for sex now, [b]the same action they used in getting "hold" of you [/b]is the same action that has turn to a weapon to weaken you

sleemoon:



see dis 1... ve been without puna since February i no die and that doesn't also give me the basis to go cheat outside my marriage... This cheating of a tin no be for everyone