To think I read that stuff without getting the message clear is enough to tell that the op was really confused.

Agba2020:
I've only told this to one person and I've been carrying this one for 9 years now.

This might turn out to be a little long, so bear with me. When I was 17, a few days to my first WAEC, I was reading in the living room when my mom walked in and falsely accused me of sleeping with my own Dad... Oh, I'm a guy btw. I'm not gay, neither am I effeminate.

She claimed she saw my Dad touching me and that he slept with me. I was stunned. I went through different ranges of emotions. At first, I wanted to curse her, then I wanted the ground to swallow me up for real, then I wanted to cry, and then I wanted to scream, tears just filled my eyes, and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "Why are you doing this?" and then she just walked out. I just sat there losing my mind, I knew it was untrue because there's no way you would penetrate a guy without him feeling it, right? Not to mention the fact that I have no memory of this ever happening. And yet she claimed she saw this happening, if that was true, why didn't she stop it?

Long story short, that was the day my life got turned upside down by my own Mom. The not so funny thing is, she never once brought up that issue again since then, and yet she never apologized for it (not that I'd ever forgive her anyway). Dad has no clue about this issue, by the way.

If this is true your Mom is a pycho

Ayodejewel:
This is sad! It's not possible for the poster to lie against his mom.
I think you should even tell your dad about it and let him understand how you feel, though it might want to cause trouble in the family. If your dad has been doing such to you and you didn't know, you'll definitely get to know from his expression and if not, he'll know how to explain it to your mom

Is it possible for a mother to lie against her son?! Following your line of reasoning.

In life there are some certain things you see or hear, and you just laugh over it because it's meaningless. She might dream it and thought it might come true. Are you in any relationship?

Note when your mum is on good mood, then as her" maami van u still remember your statement few years back,pls are u joking or what"


I even thought it's something serious shelf tuer!

Family matter go and solve it at home

Agba2020! Agba2020!! Agba2020!!! How many times did I call you?!

false accusations hurt especially if it comes from someone you trust, many people here will not even believe such or hatchet capacity to comprehend the fact that yes, your mother can hurt you to the extent that it's irreparable.

my experience was that I have a very close friend, and she decided to to turn her frustration on me one day by saying that she suspects the relationship between me and my friend, I was dumbfounded to the extent that I couldn't utter a single word, she probably has forgotten about it but it is something that I will certainly not forget for the rest of my life.

Shey you dey whyne me.

Dpharisee:

I hope he won't go and drink sniper, these indomites are so weak minded that you constantly fear for them

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Agba2020:
I've only told this to one person and I've been carrying this one for 9 years now.

This might turn out to be a little long, so bear with me. When I was 17, a few days to my first WAEC, I was reading in the living room when my mom walked in and falsely accused me of sleeping with my own Dad... Oh, I'm a guy btw. I'm not gay, neither am I effeminate.

She claimed she saw my Dad touching me and that he slept with me. I was stunned. I went through different ranges of emotions. At first, I wanted to curse her, then I wanted the ground to swallow me up for real, then I wanted to cry, and then I wanted to scream, tears just filled my eyes, and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "Why are you doing this?" and then she just walked out. I just sat there losing my mind, I knew it was untrue because there's no way you would penetrate a guy without him feeling it, right? Not to mention the fact that I have no memory of this ever happening. And yet she claimed she saw this happening, if that was true, why didn't she stop it?

Long story short, that was the day my life got turned upside down by my own Mom. The not so funny thing is, she never once brought up that issue again since then, and yet she never apologized for it (not that I'd ever forgive her anyway). Dad has no clue about this issue, by the way.

You should have handled the situation like a man. If my mum accused me of such, I will simply say "I never did such" and continue what I am doing. If she insists, that's her problem. If she demands for answers, I maintain my response and move on. I can even report to my dad if her unnecessary wahala is becoming too much. As simple as that. Life is not hard.

This is why I always encourage men to drill their children, especially boys, in having a tough skin. Just for an accusation, you are crying, upset and saying your life has been destroyed. You no try, you fall my hand. Words/opinions cannot hurt you except you want them to. So if a girl accuse you of rape, you will hang yourself or fall from third mainland bridge?

This is what you should have posted initially.

Agba2020:
Maybe "ruined my life" was a bit of an exagerration, that was mostly so people would check out the thread. It definitely ruined my relationship with not only her, but my Dad as well, because since she said what she said i just couldn't stand the sight of my own Dad anymore. There was a time not long after the accusation when he was talking to me and Dad tried touching me on my arm and i just freaked out, i almost jumped away. It might sound funny, but it really wasn't funny to him, he was just shocked and confused as hell, but i couldn't tell him coz i thought it would only destroy the family, so i just shouldered the burden. It didn't affect my sexuality, but it held me back academically and in life. I was isolated because i had no one to talk to.

Please work on your emotions as a man.
The world we are now, is not for emotionally weak people, because you won't go far.

godkiller:
You should have talked to her again about it. Forgive her anyways.

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Agba2020:
I appreciate your comment bro and while i do agree that moving on is the best course of action, it is really hard, extremely so. It's going on 10yrs now, and i still can't get it out of my head, and i'm tempted to just spill it out and maybe see if i might get unburdened. But it's like having a house with many doors, and there's that one door that you cannot dare open, because if you open it, one of two things could happen, things could somehow miraculously or magically get better (highly unlikely) or you could make things infinitely worse. And there's one thing i learned early in life, it's that no matter how bad things are, it could always get worse, much worse. Anyway, peace brother.

You are an adult now. Confront her privately with this issue so you can have closure

These kinda things are so weird. I especially understand you feeling repulsed by your dad after these allegations. But instead of keeping him in the dark, talk about it. Talk about it cuz if he didn't do it, your reactions to him will be unfair...

But i can understand feeling repulsed...

Karlifate:
Agba2020! Agba2020!! Agba2020!!!
How many times did I call you?!

7 times

OMG! Lmao

heendrix:
Indomie build up

so she accused you wrongly and ever since then your life spoilt? let it continue spoiling na. mtcheww

sha keep us update to the monthly level to which it's spoiling

Somebody help me do this math


17 + 9 = 26


My Guy, You're twenty six, as in 2 and 6. How far you? Abi iyam wrong? Lemme know.


Onto the matter, your life isn't ruined by any means. It's even stupid to think your life was ruined. I guess the reason you've not done much with your life is because you carried that burden of your life being ruined!. So what if you don't succeed in life, do you think anyone would believe your failure was based on what your mum said? Well, I'll assume those words were exaggerations cause I was expecting a more in depth story. However, your life isn't ruined. You need to therapist, no magician, no god (you do need God though) and no human to tell you what to do, you just have to make up your mind to get over that shitty ass excuse. I don't want to compare those words with the ones others must have been told, just know you need to change your mind to change your life. And for bleeps sake, your life isn't ruined. Those words dey vex me. It's not even a challenge. Don't be emotional about it, let it go boy! You can do it. You can even admit to her claims and still live life to the fullest, Bleep what she says and do you for your sake. You're 26 damn it!

heendrix:
Indomie build up

so she accused you wrongly and ever since then your life spoilt? let it continue spoiling na. mtcheww

sha keep us update to the monthly level to which it's spoiling

U are wicked

Is she displaying symptoms of mental imbalance? If she is, let it slide, forget what she said and get her help, but if she is sound and normal, bring up the issue again. Ask her why she said that, ask her what came over her, let her know how badly u re affected by that accusation. Be stern! Be angry with her. Gosh! I can't believe this

Agba2020:
I've only told this to one person and I've been carrying this one for 9 years now.

This might turn out to be a little long, so bear with me. When I was 17, a few days to my first WAEC, I was reading in the living room when my mom walked in and falsely accused me of sleeping with my own Dad... Oh, I'm a guy btw. I'm not gay, neither am I effeminate.

She claimed she saw my Dad touching me and that he slept with me. I was stunned. I went through different ranges of emotions. At first, I wanted to curse her, then I wanted the ground to swallow me up for real, then I wanted to cry, and then I wanted to scream, tears just filled my eyes, and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "Why are you doing this?" and then she just walked out. I just sat there losing my mind, I knew it was untrue because there's no way you would penetrate a guy without him feeling it, right? Not to mention the fact that I have no memory of this ever happening. And yet she claimed she saw this happening, if that was true, why didn't she stop it?

Long story short, that was the day my life got turned upside down by my own Mom. The not so funny thing is, she never once brought up that issue again since then, and yet she never apologized for it (not that I'd ever forgive her anyway). Dad has no clue about this issue, by the way.

Some parents can be manipulative. Is your dad a faithful spouse to your mum? Mothers tend to get at their husbands on matters bordering on infidelity or welfare, through their children especially when the children are close to the father. I'm sure you were pretty close to your Dad before the incident; and I don't need to ask how your relationship with him is at the moment.

I no even understand how dat talk take ruin ur life ooh...shuooo...ajebor children evriwhere...abegii...kpako life for d strit na d best jor...ruin ko...penetrate ni

foolish story

heendrix:
Indomie build up

so she accused you wrongly and ever since then your life spoilt? let it continue spoiling na. mtcheww

sha keep us update to the monthly level to which it's spoiling

Anu mpama, what do you know. Shut da Bleep up fool

Agba2020:
Maybe "ruined my life" was a bit of an exagerration, that was mostly so people would check out the thread. It definitely ruined my relationship with not only her, but my Dad as well, because since she said what she said i just couldn't stand the sight of my own Dad anymore. There was a time not long after the accusation when he was talking to me and Dad tried touching me on my arm and i just freaked out, i almost jumped away. It might sound funny, but it really wasn't funny to him, he was just shocked and confused as hell, but i couldn't tell him coz i thought it would only destroy the family, so i just shouldered the burden. It didn't affect my sexuality, but it held me back academically and in life. I was isolated because i had no one to talk to.

You need to stop this nonsense. When next you see your father, give him a good handshake, and thank him for his efforts in providing for the family and seeing that you are alright. Don't let the foolishness of your mama put a psychological wall between you and your dad. Your dad doesn't deserve all this nonsense after all his labour. Sit up Jare!

You are too weak and fragile for a man.

Agba2020:
I've only told this to one person and I've been carrying this one for 9 years now.

This might turn out to be a little long, so bear with me. When I was 17, a few days to my first WAEC, I was reading in the living room when my mom walked in and falsely accused me of sleeping with my own Dad... Oh, I'm a guy btw. I'm not gay, neither am I effeminate.

She claimed she saw my Dad touching me and that he slept with me. I was stunned. I went through different ranges of emotions. At first, I wanted to curse her, then I wanted the ground to swallow me up for real, then I wanted to cry, and then I wanted to scream, tears just filled my eyes, and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "Why are you doing this?" and then she just walked out. I just sat there losing my mind, I knew it was untrue because there's no way you would penetrate a guy without him feeling it, right? Not to mention the fact that I have no memory of this ever happening. And yet she claimed she saw this happening, if that was true, why didn't she stop it?

Long story short, that was the day my life got turned upside down by my own Mom. The not so funny thing is, she never once brought up that issue again since then, and yet she never apologized for it (not that I'd ever forgive her anyway). Dad has no clue about this issue, by the way.

Why didn't you report to your Father?

Agba2020:
I didn't report to Dad back then for a few. The first reason being that i was afraid that Dad would throw her out or worse... my Dad has a temper. Secondly, i thought to myself "What if i report this and then she totally denies it?" I mean let's be honest, in Nigeria, when it comes to parents, we tend to put them on pedestals... they can do no wrong. Anyway, those were the reasons why i kept it to myself, but it still haunts me every single day. Oh, and i can't bring it up with them now because they are getting old and that kind of heavy shit could potentially make a person's heart give out.

You should still have told him. What sort of rubbish is that? How old were you when this happened?

Agba2020:
I appreciate your input, thanks.

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Same thing happened to me... But from different side....

I had this friend who play a lot like jumping on someone and so on.... One day, mum caught him on top of me,(we were just dragging something, you know that kind of dragging play you do with your close buddy) she sent the guy out and gave me hot slap. Was confused because didn't know how i went wrong. Then she reported me to family that am gay.. I hated her for that was too young to defend my self (14yrs old me) just kept quiet but we never in good terms since then, she is still my mum, i love her but i never come to her for help or advice till date...

My dear forgive and move on but it hurts mostly when you are innocent.

This is a very touching story. I understand how deeply hurt you are. Try discuss this with your siblings, share it and free your mind else it has the capacity to make you perpetually bitter and can hurt a lot of your future happiness.

It’s like cancer, cut it off now. Before it eats into other happy aspects of your life.

Good luck!

SWEETEIGHTEEN:


Is it possible for a mother to lie against her son?! Following your line of reasoning.

Well...I think it shouldn't have been that confrontational
There are better ways she could have passed her message

This is a very serious allegation that is unfortunately coming from a mother
I seriously doubt I'll ever forget and forgive her
OP, forge closer ties with your father and forget that b*itch