frisky2good:


OP thinks he can always be there for his mum. One day he will discover that it is the village headmaster that is always in their house keeping his mother company. Not because they are having anything intimate but because he's the one that has her time.

He cannot imagine his mum betraying his dad and re-marrying. He is rather comfortable with the fact that his mum will live with the loneliness just so that he is comforted that his mum remains faithful to his dad even in death.

I wanted to blame your gf from the title but after reading your post, I've got to say, you are very childish and you need a lot of growing up to do

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Times have changed.

Your mom is from a different generation from your babe.

Your babe is trying to tell you that she thinks you are a mummy's boy and you should find someone else to do that full time because very soon (emphasis on VERY), She will no longer be able to share your time between herself and your mum.

DexterousOne:



Ground children

Hahahahaha


That gives him away actually

People from his kind of "background" are more inclined to think that way


And that's a lot of people in Nigeria

Well....I really tried not to be condescending in my reply to the op so he'd try to at least see reason. You're right tho, there's plenty like the op out there

Ginomel:



Don't you think she could have lived more if she was happier with a company.??

Yes companionship is a life giver.
but she has a choice

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

When you both finally get married, the main loneliness will come in.your mum will over intrude in your marriage life something no wife loves. Your gf understand women more than you do.
it has nothing to do with sex.
every woman loves attention. If her husband is not there to give her, she gets it from her children. if children are not there, wahala go dey

ImaIma1:


He cannot imagine his mum betraying his dad and re-marrying. He is rather comfortable with the fact that his mum will live with the loneliness just so that he is comforted that his mum remains faithful to his dad even in death.

Ridiculous!

makydebbie:


You're on this table, look at the rubbish you just spew. You must be the one who birth girls that spill rubbish because you're on some queenly shiit in this. Radarada oshi.

You are very stupid.
You are definitely one of those girls that have no brain.

Kriss216:
All these happened cos you always over-talk with your girl on phone.. When you have nothing to say, just drop the call.. Stop engaging with unnecessary talks on phone with all these Nigerian girls... Nothing dey their head aside fucck!

Am sure u will one day get married to one of those senseless Nigerian girls who knows nothing aside Ufck or u rather remain single

Seconded!

The guy is really stupid. It was a mere suggestion it's either you take it or leave it.

bluefilm:


Listen to me, son.

The only reason why you brought it here is to show the whole world how stupid you really are.

You've not even married her and you are already thinking of what she will do when you die.

Why don't you drag her with you to your grave so that you will be rest assured she wont be _fucking any other nigga when you are gone?

You kids of nowadays will never stop amazing me the stupid way you guys reason at times.

Na wa o!

Kenstufez:
Makes absolute no sense brother, bringing another man into a mother of 55years life will certainly end in family disgrace.

Every right thinking person knows and understands what you mean by companionship, everyone needs it but if certain situations happen, we take things as we see them.

No one is asking a widow not to make friends with ladies and men of their age group. They always meet at the church, market and as visitors. They have the right to do all those things for fun and their mental health. That is completely different from asking such a lady to remarry, it paints a very bad image of the family which is discouraged in Igbo land and various other tribes.

Any woman of that age must not be left all alone, get her a house warmer like a very young kid that she'd take care of so as not to be completely lonely, or even a pet.

Did you miss the part where I said they deal better with people their age group? This @ bold defeats the idea. Besides, in the same Igbo land, a widow of that age can remarry to keep. Usually pushed into effect by the in-laws. Ikuchi nwanyi, I believe.

Ikuchi nwanyi is for ladies there husband died so early and they have little kids. The relatives suggests she take one of the kingsmen so he can assist in bringing up the kids and also stay for the family( most important reason is for the man to continue impregnating her so as to produce more kids for the family). Ikuchi nwanyi sometimes are even forced on widows against their will. It doesn't work for ladies with adult children of over 30years, never!.

Any woman that has married for 30years and lost her husband doesn't need to mess around in the community. Its a family disgrace, period!

Sixfeetbelle:


Did you miss the part where I said they deal better with people their age group? This @ bold defeats the idea. Besides, in the same Igbo land, a widow of that age can remarry to keep. Usually pushed into effect by the in-laws. Ikuchi nwanyi, I believe.

so many babies on this forum parading as men,she gave an advice, you told your mum who didn't buy the idea,then you automatically lost confidence in her, do you even have confidence in yourself to start with?I know how lonely my mum is whenever I'm not home, we've all told her to remarry a couple years after dad's death but she wouldn't, so if my girlfriend gives me such a suggestion,I'll never ever use it against her,and to think some people here are spewing rubbish about it all is appalling, a saying goes "lucky is the spouse that dies first, who never gets to know what their partner endures" your choice,your mum,your girl but it's foolish bringing it up here as though the lady did or said anything wrong,when a man loses his wife it only takes a lil while before he remarries,but when it's a woman reverse is the case,Lord knows if I end up marrying,and go early I wouldn't want my wife to go through half of what my mum went through..... traditions or cultures me ass!

What would you say about a 70years old that lost their over 50 years companion? Would you also suggest they get married to another man bc they need a companion? Most times we don't always get what we want, life happens and we take things as we see them.

Kids and pets are not there to replace the absence of a man but its a way of stopping them busy and avoiding unnecessary thinking to some extent.

Sixfeetbelle:


Did you miss the part where I said they deal better with people their age group? This @ bold defeats the idea. Besides, in the same Igbo land, a widow of that age can remarry to keep. Usually pushed into effect by the in-laws. Ikuchi nwanyi, I believe.

Look at this OP, Hahaha, how are you sure she is even planning or will agree to marry you. You are obviously a child

Temhellen:

Am sure u will one day get married to one of those senseless Nigerian girls who knows nothing aside Ufck or u rather remain single

I like your gown

Did no one notice the ,"if I wife her" part?
Where did that come from, OP?

Mvici:
I am a man and it is written that men are polygamous in nature and can marry as many as they like even in the old testament we see great men that marry more than one....but I tell u with the way I love that girl before, eventually had it been we later marry...and we had a son, we even spent 30yrs which I know by then i would be probably 60somthing.... seriously I won't really think much of another woman

Now I know you are a punk. Why is this post not in joke section

Foodqueen:


You are very stupid.
You are definitely one of those girls that have no brain.

Get the fvck out of my mentions dumb thing.

So these has become an issue mtchww, relationship and it's wahala sha

Na this one off me.

1992 “pikin”. You were 20 years old 8 years ago, and you still consider yourself a child.

My dear, face your book. You have no business with a mature girl.

When (hopefully) you get wise, you will realize she was telling you because she was planning for her marital home. No wife wants a mother in law who will be squatting 24/7 with her husband.

If you miss this, you could miss heaven. Because wisdom is the true heaven.

Mvici:
1992 pikin still be child maybe na the way I take reason the matter.

Thanks anyway.

I wish I could like this a million times.

streetzdreamz:
so many babies on this forum parading as men,she gave an advice, you told your mum who didn't buy the idea,then you automatically lost confidence in her, do you even have confidence in yourself to start with?I know how lonely my mum is whenever I'm not home, we've all told her to remarry a couple years after dad's death but she wouldn't, so if my girlfriend gives me such a suggestion,I'll never ever use it against her,and to think some people here are spewing rubbish about it all is appalling, a saying goes "lucky is the spouse that dies first, who never gets to know what their partner endures" your choice,your mum,your girl but it's foolish bringing it up here as though the lady did or said anything wrong,when a man loses his wife it only takes a lil while before he remarries,but when it's a woman reverse is the case,Lord knows if I end up marrying,and go early I wouldn't want my wife to go through half of what my mum went through..... traditions or cultures me ass!

She gave a good advise though that shouldn't be her concern but your mom entering another relationship is not just for the sex but companionship.

Very soon you will start your own family, reality will set in because certainly she will be left alone.

Bringing her into your home will depend on the kind of wife you will marry but for how long will she continue to live with you.

It's an honest advise. No need to pick offence. Final decision depends on her to make, not yours or your girlfriend

Grow up and stop reasoning like a child

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Chris2863:
Look at this OP, Hahaha, how are you sure she is even planning or will agree to marry you. You are obviously a child

why would she marry me when Christopher is here to snatch her old man.

Kenstufez:
Who's going to marry a 55yrs old woman? A young boy or older men? So you guys are indirectly advising his mom to start dating/sleeping around at 55 with other womens husbands. Stop supporting evil!

Any woman at 55 with grown up kids that remarries is an ashawo from day 1.

Who said anything about sex or sleeping around? I wasn't even thinking about sex when I sent my response.

As you grow older and get wiser, you will realize that people get married for so many reasons other than sex.

Companionship, Security, Love and sense of feeling complete are some reasons why people get married.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in what your girlfriend said. You have spoken to your mum about it and she has told you her stand on the matter.
The vow says, till death do us part. They are not bound together anymore. If she decides not to marry agian, its her choice and if she also decides to marry again, there's absolutely nothing wrong too

Shut up. Someone will marry her. What do you know?

phabulous88:


Who said anything about sex or sleeping around? I wasn't even thinking about sex when I sent my response.

As you grow older and get wiser, you will realize that people get married for so many reasons other than sex.

Companionship, Security, Love and sense of feeling complete are some reasons why people get married.

girl002:
Shut up. Someone will marry her. What do you know?

If you have taken time to read my previous post (quoted below), you would have seen that I am in support of his mum getting married.

Be careful with your words, take time to read, understand and don't be too quick to abuse people. If not, you will have serious problem in life, family and business.

phabulous88:


Oga there’s nothing bad in what your girlfriend suggested. At least it made your Mum smile.
I think she’s a good lady and understands that women need companionship, hence her suggestions.