DXNNigeria:

She is well over 18 bro. In her 20s

still young. Women begin to get sense at age 28

If the mountain cannot go to the Prophet, the Prophet will surely take himself to the mountain!

martowskin1:


Phone is bigger than what it used to be few years ago. A phone can be ur private office and more. You can have clients and associates who you don't want to know anything about ur personal life.


If social media validation is what we need to prove genuine love then we really need to re-define love for this generation

I agree with the words in bold but some ladies will never reason along these lines.

Blackpearlous:
Talk to her about your boundaries.

She is still young at heart and is very excited about you, you probably thrill her and she has the love to give so she not too responsible because she is young at heart not cause she loves you.

Forgive her abeg, my kid sister did same thing to me, uploaded on my status how wonderful she is, I told had to remind her that as much as I love her she did invade my privacy.

Reassure her because it's a big deal if you are not public about her esp if she is public about you.

you are intelligent.


That girl is still naive and young, life experiences will teach her more lessons about the world

Hahahahaha
By fire by force

Juliearth:





I understand your point and I am in tune with it as well. What caught me off however, was the op's reaction. The anger and all. He clearly has something to hide. Yes, our mobile devices serve as work station, but no client or prospective client would take offense if I upload my boyfriend's/ fiance's photos. Let's call a spade a spade. I am putting myself in that girl's shoes and she must have had an incline before doing that. Op is not loyal.

Be honest, would you smile over it if your boyfriend suspects you for cheating and then uploads his photos on your what'sapp, facebook and Instagram? Without your *consent*.

techmo:
When I was still naive and not using a phone lock, a girl I was trying to chop sneaked downstairs with my phone and called my main chick, she called my mum and sisters too telling them she's my girl, she sneaked in back, kept my phone beside me and let me handle the giant mess she created for me

Oga, complete the story naw. We no wan imaging weytin happen

she play smart.. dat means you are not proud of her

Goldp5988:




Exactly my point.

genuine love to una now needs validation of social media show up interesting! how ppl reason.

OP has cockroach in his cupboard. You no wan upload your girlfriend pics so that you go continue to dey run your parole of am single and I don't have a girlfriend. If na be the girl eh that's the end of the relationship. I can't come and give myself heartache because of one yeye person

u are in for a long thing

Mine pulled that same stunt with me earlier this year. I'm a very private person, i felt betrayed fam. To top it all off she refused sleeping in the room and left to sit at the balcony, after I deleted the whole rubbish. My guys were like "na our wife be that?", Dem girls be like "hmmm" "who is she". Even Ma felt it was unlike me, and had to chat me up. See views.

Now, me that should be offended that my personal space and privacy got infringed upon, had to be the one pleading for her to come back inside. The spoilt, entitled bìtch kept yapping about how I didn't want my "other girls" to know I was spoken for, I don't like showing her off, didn't value her blah blah.. acting all crazy. I had to grab her by the hair, pin her against the wall and clear her on some few things before she could calm TF down.
With those big tits hanging out, I really wanted to fùck her senseless right there, but mahn I was way too pissed to bother. If she were to be any other chick, that would have been the last time she shares my bed. Drama queens.

You have every right to be angry, these girls are so annoying at times.



Wetin concern her with your phone? Even my wife can't mess with my phone not to talk of one over sabi girlfriend.

Bro there's status privacy settings on WhatsApp. The way I run my shit is change the privacy to only the babe and upload her pix even upload our intimacy pix. The funny part is that u can change the privacy as many times as you want and upload as many girls as you have. All will view theirs only.
Oya burst me recharge card if I saved ur arse

I can't upload any girlfriend picture on my status, I'm woke and too mature for that nonsense. That's how some guys turn themselves to laughing stock. Cuz d babe he's uploading as "LOML" "baby" "boo" and all that infatuation bs, is the same babe that is another guy's spare tire, and another guy's side chick, and another guy's weekend booty call, and another guy's vacation sl*t, and another guy's one night stand at the club. Those guys will see his status and just be laughing at him . 9ja dating social circle is really messed up. Yet to see any girl worth giving a flying f*** about. Just focus on making money. No time to allow someone be making a fool of u

punisha:


You want the poor boy to enter trouble? 1) main chic could see it 2) parents/uncles and aunties. 3) oga he works for. 4) landlord he is owing rent. Add the rest Biko.

5. guys that he bragged that he has Lilian Bach as his sugar aunty

punisha:


You want the poor boy to enter trouble? 1) main chic could see it 2) parents/uncles and aunties. 3) oga he works for. 4) landlord he is owing rent. Add the rest Biko.

5. guys that he bragged that he has Lilian Bach as his sugar aunty

Juliearth:




Have you ever being in a loveless relationship, where you are not even sure of your status, whether you are truly loved or being stringed along? I doubt, because if you were, you wouldnt say all these. My advise to men is to try as much a possible to reassure your women. Yes, we all have our love languages, but trust me, being strict and bottle-necked isn't one. If op had created a peaceful and reassuring atmosphere for that lady, she wouldn't have gone that far.

Okay, I get your point. Yes, men should reassure the women in their lives.

What are you wasting your precious life doing in a "loveless relationship"?
There's this natural instincts in a woman that tells her whether she's loved or not in a relationship. Sometimes women try to suppress it and hang around because the guy is rich, cute or for some insecurity purpose.

A man who just wants to lick your honeypot and clean mouth can do more than posting your pix on social media. So, it is not good enough proof either.

Follow your instincts and look for love elsewhere if you don't feel loved.

SweetCunt97:
No genuine love anymore. Social media has made almost everyone dishonest and disloyal. So y exactly did u delete if you are clean?

Ask me, if he really loved her he would have taken it as a joke and left it

Simply make a counter attack by uploading yourself and tagging it: my love, my sweetheart. Do the same for your favorite female celebrities and any female siblings or family member you like.
People will think you're are a lover of photography and on a photo spree.
Next put on your status I love every one, more pics of my loved ones loading or testing my camera

HandsomeBlack:


Okay, I get your point. Yes, men should reassure the women in their lives.

What are you wasting your precious life doing in a "loveless relationship"?
There's this natural instincts in a woman that tells her whether she's loved or not in a relationship. Sometimes women try to suppress it and hang around because the guy is rich, cute or for some insecurity purpose.

A man who just wants to lick your honeypot and clean mouth can do more than posting your pix on social media. So, it is not good enough proof either.

Follow your instincts and look for love elsewhere if you don't feel loved.

You asked a valid question in paragraph two. But not everyone is blessed with the willpower to break free form a loveless relationship and perhaps the hope that things would get better make these people hang around longer. Trust me, it is not always about the wealth or other ephemerals

Ahumanbeing:

Be honest, would you smile over it if your boyfriend suspects you for cheating and then uploads his photos on your what'sapp, facebook and Instagram? Without your *consent*.

I always do not look at actions but the rationale. Yes, I may be upset but I also would understand his plight and we most likely would have a dialogue where I would reassure him of how I feel about him

DXNNigeria:
Really, am really furious right now and I see it as her intruding into my personal space. My babe just took my phone and uploaded her pictures with different captions like my love, my babe, my heart etc.
I saw them on my status and deleted them and she is angry.
Really, I see it as her intruding into my personal life. Really am very furious at her and she doesn't see anything bad in what she did instead she is giving me attitude.
Really? Am I wrong?

If you're not proud of her why are you dating her?you wan chop clean mouth abi?She did nothing wrong,in fact you should be grateful that she is not cheating on you,if she was I don't think she will be bold enough to upload her picture on your status. Anyway,if you don't want her kindly let her go instead of wasting her time..

Remove it now

Am still confused now that you've said it
What do you want me to do

nelklyn:
Lol...your own na play “GF”. A FWB did that to me sometime last year while I was asleep...She did not stop with WhatsApp status she also shared it on my fb story with all the whole my love captions.

Back then I was using an old android phone which I refused to change cos I’m of the opinion that the phone I use shouldn’t define me. Well the phone didn’t have a fingerprint sensor and I didn’t like the idea of having to type in a password or pin every time I needed to use my phone so I left it unlocked.

It was a friend of mine that sent me a message on WhatsApp “Na she?”...When I opened the message I was confused It wasn’t funny back then... I felt like slapping the girl up from sleep but then I was like “No Wahala”. I deleted the WhatsApp status and went back to sleep. In the morning I started getting fb notifications...omg! the notifications were from her pics on my fb story, I was like wtf!...you kidding right?

I immediately took down her pictures and had to put up a post on my timeline to serve as a disclaimer, stating that the pictures weren’t uploaded by me. Some of my friends on fb made jokes out of that incident.

No one advised me to get a new phone the next week...hence forth I locked my WhatsApp with fingerprint. She didn’t like that...

Note: I didn’t bother confronting her

U got fingerprint lock phone, u think she can't put Ur finger on it while asleep

Juliearth:





Did that lady know she is/was just a friend with benefit? Most guys are in the habbit of stringing women on. You want her for intimacy only, but then you profess love and what not to her. Is it safe to say that that was what happened, thus the reason why she had the balls to upload her pictures on your social media?

I’m way matured to string anyone on just because I want intimacy from them. I’ll rather pay a sex worker or an escort for those services. As at that time I had about 4 FWBs.

I’m not into dating and I explicitly made that clear to the girl in question before we had any form of intimacy.

We had a long conversation the very first time she spent the night at my place after she showered...she asked “if I had a gf” and I told her No which was the truth btw and I also told her that I wasn’t in anyway looking for a gf, just want a FWB. I asked her if she was cool with that and she replied yes. Asked her if she has a bf and she said yes. Only thing I can come up with as an excuse for her action was that at a point she wanted us to date and she told me she and her bf were not together anymore, I refused and I remember we had a quarrel because of that and out of anger she said “you feel you have everything and that you don’t need anyone in your life”.

Back to your question, it’s not safe to say the reason she had the balls to upload her pictures on my social media was because I professed love to her because I don’t use the word “Love” lightly, to be sincere it’s even difficult for me to say a thing like that.

Idiotmod:

U got fingerprint lock phone, u think she can't put Ur finger on it while asleep

I’m a light sleeper and have insomnia. So No, she wouldn’t be able to do that while I’m sleeping.

nelklyn:


I’m way matured to string anyone on just because I want intimacy from them. I’ll rather pay a sex worker or an escort for those services. As at that time I had about 4 FWBs.

I’m not into dating and I explicitly made that clear to the girl in question before we had any form of intimacy.

We had a long conversation the very first time she spent the night at my place after she showered...she asked “if I had a gf” and I told her No which was the truth btw and I also told her that I wasn’t in anyway looking for a gf, just want a FWB. I asked her if she was cool with that and she replied yes. Asked her if she has a bf and she said yes. Only thing I can come up with as an excuse for her action was that at a point she wanted us to date and she told me she and her bf were not together anymore, I refused and I remember we had a quarrel because of that and out of anger she said “you feel you have everything and that you don’t need anyone in your life”.

Back to your question, it’s not safe to say the reason she had the balls to upload her pictures on my social media was because I professed love to her because I don’t use the word “Love” lightly, to be sincere it’s even difficult for me to say a thing like that.

Judging by your narrative, you must pardon me for assuming wrongly and you have every right to be angry.

Juliearth:





Judging by your narrative, you must pardon me for assuming wrongly and you have every right to be angry.

Not angry though...

DXNNigeria:
Really, am really furious right now and I see it as her intruding into my personal space. My babe just took my phone and uploaded her pictures with different captions like my love, my babe, my heart etc.
I saw them on my status and deleted them and she is angry.
Really, I see it as her intruding into my personal life. Really am very furious at her and she doesn't see anything bad in what she did instead she is giving me attitude.
Really? Am I wrong?

but you men would want your babe to upload your pics on their whatsapp or Facebook. It seems she is more in love with you than you are with her.

nelklyn:


Not angry though...

Alright then!