TheArchangel:
How old is your brother?
Oga, stand your ground in that house.
Force your brother to rent a house for you by raising serious hell and at the same time appearing meek. Sleep in that room when you come back and if the wife and her sisters talk trash, raise hell. Do not budge one beat. Keep your bags in the shop but sleep in that room to avoid them messing up your things. Take the food from that pot and raise hell while doing it. When your brother comes or is around, pretend like they are accusing you falsely.
Remember self defense, beat the sh!t out of any of the sisters that touch you first. You can plead self-defense later. Do not touch the wife but remember to use your mouth to finish her. .
Do not relent. If they can be there, you can be also. It's either your brother chase you all away or peace or resemblance of it will rain in that house.

Surprised that this is coming from a woman certainly not all are stupid unlike the one talking trash. Tumb up sister

My advice to you OP
I know you will find a way through this with different people's advice... Pls take note of this; when you finally make it in life and decide to get married... PLEASE DONT BE A SIMP cuz you wudnt suffer the consequences alone but also people around you will be affected

You can see what your brother is going through now...Learn Life!

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Before reading this comment finished, I knew a lady typed this. I don't know which tribe you belong to and your age. But in western part of the country, the younger is to be respected as the husband not the other way round.

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I guess ur settlement is near and the devil too is near,
Just act wisely, nva leave the house bcus that is what the girls want.


I really dnt know why women are like that, they come into a happy family where brothers must have leaved from baby to adult and choose to cus pain or probably separate them.
I believe u don learn small, when u wan marry, make you know say na that same hand u give ur babe wen una dey date she go use wen u marry am..... Love her oooooo, but make u set boundaries.

Nigerian in-laws always want to dominate a home, if you don't assert your authority as the man of the house, they'll run u over.
I be warri boy and I dey quick vex

stormborn28:
i just read nonsense... Over stayed his welcome? Did you read the thread at all? Or you think he is just staying with his brother for nothing? Don't be lazy in reading

You should go find something else to do.

Quote me well, that boy had overstayed his well come. How?
His sister in-law doesn't need him in her matrimonial home again.


Learn to ask why folks say something before jumping hastily into conclusion out of emotions.

I'd not bother responding to you anymore since you speak with lack of wisdom.

[Best advice quote author=veave post=91804898]Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs. [/quote]

Be smart... Stylishly get the contact of their parent. Call them and explain the hell they are making you go through since their arrival here and plead with their parents to call them back home for peace sake or call them to order.

If this doesn't yield, let everything calm down, play along like everything is fine, then when it's December, tell your brother you want visit the village for Christmas. Once he allows you. Stay in the village and refuse to come back until those 2 girls had return to Abuja.

heendrix:


Ur wrong on this....infact all you wrote sef

You urself giving this advice can't bear up to quarterly of what he's faced so be realistic here madam

Her point 3 messed everything up. How on earth do they think that it is wrong to beat a lady up? You talk anyhow, you see anyhow.

Ladies should learn to be respectful if not, they should accept the reaction.

Championxxx:

Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

your brother just wanna waste your time leave that house and be a man for yourself if I were you I will go back to the village or wait for like 6 months save some money and get a small place even if it is one room and get a job..your brother will fail you and at that Age 28 you will regret

LadySarah:
Women!We come into a peaceful abode and create issues. What's in allowing a young man sleep peacefully before going out for his hustle. A woman so foolish as to take someone's mattress out in the rain to spite him.
Your brother should man up in his home. Such women maltreat househelps alot.

Why her 2 sisters are there is beyond me. Even the stupid 19 yr old doesn't know her mates are graduates and married too.

If you must remain to be settled, you have to overlook and avoid alot of things. Face what you came for, get it and move out.

Exactly.Some women are so wicked.They can't accommodate another as their own.Those kind of women can never go far in life.They get hated by many in their place of work and business abode.They don't give peace, they never have peace.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Very mature advice ma'am. I'll add this - you need to have a talk with your brother on his thoughts for the future concerning you. How many years do you both expect this arrangement of "service" to last?
Then, you can reasonably consider your own next move. Don't be confrontational or violent anymore please but remember to watch your back. Cheers.

Championxxx:

Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

Send me a pm please.. I am waiting for you

I love the Anambra boy slap u landed her, Your Brother should use his head oo or they wrap in well. Dont mind them, am glad food is not your problem if they keep wetting your matras, u keep enjoying the sofa na. Dont let them chaee you, u can as well dont ask them for food. she go tire! May be she wants to get her brother in too to manage the shop. Nonsense

The man is at fault. He doesn't want to stand up for his younger brother and he doesn't want to offend his wife. The idiot de even fear to confront the spoilt brats

Pubichairs:


"I love my brother and want to serve him"

Why not try be ur own master...

Because to be a master u must Pass through APPRENTICESHIP

Championxxx:


Thanks ma I agree with you, I think the reason why his wife carry his sisters to the house is because she wanted me out that is why they had been treating me bad so I can leave the house for them

I understand this stuff cause I have friends who have been through same. You have served for long, obviously you have little time remaining to serve. Dont go anywhere, manage till your brother settles you. Once you are settled, move and never look back, except your brother is in serious need of help

do not be like everybody else. They have all lost it. You need to be the sane one.. I have had troubles in the past. And the only way to get out of it is by being silent.. endure, you know where you are going to, these are some of the holdups, do not go back, you have to get to your destination. Make sure you always respect your brother and his wife... And if they throw your foam or do anything like that to you again, do not even say a word, Ignore it like you own your world, that would break them. Just be free, and whenever it get to you neck, quietly with respect discuss with your brother ?, report to him once in a while and most time advise him. But do not lost it

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

In as much as you got a thousand likes... You are biased. How will you blame him for hitting a very disrespectful younger lady....?

If the brother truly cares, he would send the youngest gal back to their parents, since sh is the one cursing trouble... He has to put his foot down like a man and don't b a pussy.

Brothers back bone my ass..... If you value your sibling, you wouldn't allow strangers run dem like rag. Imagine asking the older guy to apologies to a small erring gal.

He telling you to sleep in the sitting room is OK. Cuz of ladies and privacy, but he must also send signals to those Gals that you don't run my younger bro as rags on the ground... ND trust me dey will abide by his signals....

You are wrong in ur advise, very wrong, he shldnt fight, yes, but if it's time to break away, it better b.............

NO one holds anyone's destiny, be it brother or parents.. Am a living example!

tomdon:
The man is at fault. He doesn't want to stand up for his younger brother and he doesn't want to offend his wife. The idiot de even fear to confront the spoilt brats

Only sensible comment so far!

Idiots everywhere!

okayode1:
Be smart... Stylishly get the contact of their parent. Call them and explain the hell they are making you go through since their arrival here and plead with their parents to call them back home for peace sake or call them to order.

If this doesn't yield, let everything calm down, play along like everything is fine, then when it's December, tell your brother you want visit the village for Christmas. Once he allows you. Stay in the village and refuse to come back until those 2 girls had return to Abuja.

Wrong advice.. The parent will tell the wife and the wife will twist every thing

GolDRoger:


Because to be a master u must Pass through APPRENTICESHIP

For 8years..? In this modern world..?

Georgekyrian:


OP this is a good points, show that wife love with gifts as small as anything with time her mindset go change towards you, she is a woman and they are easily manipulated with gift, remember Eve and Lucifer with the apple

Its not advisable here

my reason being that.. This woman MiGHT use it aqainst Him. She never wanted him in that house so, buying that kind of person a gift (edible) is a risk.. She may Pretend to to be sick after eating Them. And will acuse him of tryna kill her

Leaving the house is not the best option. Endure and pray too, very important. Use wisdom on them. Get gift for them once in awhile. Sorry about the inconveniences, they're stories to tell

bigpicture001:


For 8years..? In this modern world..?

yes sir, i served my Uncles for seven yrs. . And was settled last Year. So i understand perfectly what this dude is passing through coz i experience them too in a different way.

8yrs might seem too long .. Buh he is only 23yrs.
Assuming he has been working for the past 8yrs, what he will be getting is peanut coz that will never establish him.

GolDRoger:
yes sir, i served my Uncles for seven yrs. . And was settled last Year. So i understand perfectly what this dude is passing through coz i experience them too in a different way.

8yrs might seem too long .. Buh he is only 23yrs.
Assuming he has been working for the past 8yrs, what he will be getting is peanut coz that will never establish him.

Honestly it's not Tru... If he invested those times in education, though for him, no sponsorship, but if he had.. He mayb b working at access bank by now at 23...

Alot of ppl finish service by 22...

heendrix:


Ur wrong on this....infact all you wrote sef

You urself giving this advice can't bear up to quarterly of what he's faced so be realistic here madam

Bear it or not, we are imperfect. But that write up is the best reply the OP can get.

Of all the things that were written, this was the only one that you noticed.

What a shame.

In a two bedroom house with 5 people why would you imply that he sleeps in the parlour during the day?

Do the brother and wife spend 24hr in their bedroom?

Is it not obvious that he is referring to night time when the girls should be in their room?

Are you a woman? I hope so because any man reasoning like you is an error.

Ignoring all the clear injustice meted out to him to ask about what wasn't made clear.

What a shame!

Fhemmmy:


This was at what time of the day?

nemynely:


[s] Dear little man, I am 42yrs old man and will be celebrating my 14th wedding anniversary this year by God's grace.
Just take it from me when I give veave a passmark. She didn't just vomit the things she wrote spontaneously. She sat back, replayed championxxx story, captured vital angles and addressed them accordingly without mentioning God or Satan.
I envy the man who would ask for her hand in marriage (here's assuming she isn't) because her wisdom will guard her home as a mother hen does her chicks[/s] .

Trash upon trash.. If u like let it be u have stayed 100 years in marriage if u are not wise you won't be wise.. The old age of metusela has nothing to do with wisdom of solomon

You started off well but veered off midway and got lost.

Since the sis in law invited her two sisters to get rid of him how do you make peace with someone that has decided to get rid of you?

Most people who rush to comment have never stayed in such an environment.

He cannot win this fight for now because the forces arrayed against him are too many. His brother is actually on their side because by forming neutral he has denied OP the only support he needed. OP should return back to the village for now and pray for his brother. If he doesn't leave that house quickly he will eventually land in jail either through a frame up or by beating the stubborn sister. One day his brother will wake up and drive the two girls out and send for him.

PS. The wife will NEVER allow her husband to settle the OP. She knows what that empowerment will do in the young man's life.

Its either OP returns to the village or he looks for a new master and forgets about the wasted years. His brother's wife has her husband's remote control in her hands

Ariza:
Dear Op, whatever you do never leave that house. Yes don't leave yet... If you leave you will put yourself at a big disadvantage.

You have just as equal right to stay as those ladies do even more because you are contributing to the finance one way or the other so why give that up because some girl choose to be mannerless. If she is your wife or sister will you leave the house for her? See the truth is, there is a silent wcoup going on, they want to push you out so they can take over, Your Brother knows this but will never discuss it with you that's why he's hurt (no angry) that you his only relative he can trust wants to leave. Please stay. if you live, your brother may not disown you but he will never be happy with you.

Secondly, you are still Young, going to live on your own will limit or delay your progress. You will spend more that you have and will have only little left. Lol if you know the expenses of living alone you will rather stay for a while till you have something tangible before setting to live alone. Please just stay.

Make peace with your brother's wife, be friendly to the sister buy her small gift to win her heart, ignore the mannerless,she will feel pains when she sees the other one gets occasional gifts and will stop being a pain in the ass. In all seek peace, avoid fights,be the bigger one, focus on your PRIZE. Then move closer to your brother. When it's time to leave, it will happen.

If this story is true, then the only matured person in that house is your brother, and you need to learn fast from him b4 you even toast any lady let alone settle ddown for one.
1. You have a tendency to have temper tantrums & you may end up being a wife beater.
2. There's some degree of egocentrism in you. See you asking for Self contained. You no even ask for face me I slap you.

It doesn't matter discussing the inadequacies of ur sis-in-law & her siblings on this platform, since that ain't gonna change anything. Buh it takes 2 to tango. If you work on your own end of the misdemeanour, problem is 80-90% solved.